MD Muchness--Day 1

Maybe Joleisa

Thank you again @LyndseyTS‌ for posting about the challenge this week!

Today's challenge was to find a way to acknowledge yourself as a mother. Anyone care to share if you did/did not participated and how?

lexusolsen

chickinNH said:

Sorry I am late in seeing this post.  I am also doing the Muchness Challenge and have been able to post an intro and do today's challenge (reframing triggers) and yesterday's (celebrating your body) but I was NOT able to participate in the first day.

One of my sticking points since my loss has been whether I have the "right" to call myself a mother or not.  I've blogged about it a few times and people always comment saying I AM a mother because I carried my baby and loved him etc. but I haven't truly been able to feel that way yet. That is a very sore subject with me for some reason. My hope is that maybe by the end of this week's challenge I'll be able to truly recognize myself as a mother.

I'm so sorry that you feel you aren't a mother but I agree with what you are hearing from everyone else- you most definitely are. Hugs.

ikrystal

chickinNH said:

Sorry I am late in seeing this post.  I am also doing the Muchness Challenge and have been able to post an intro and do today's challenge (reframing triggers) and yesterday's (celebrating your body) but I was NOT able to participate in the first day.

One of my sticking points since my loss has been whether I have the "right" to call myself a mother or not.  I've blogged about it a few times and people always comment saying I AM a mother because I carried my baby and loved him etc. but I haven't truly been able to feel that way yet. That is a very sore subject with me for some reason. My hope is that maybe by the end of this week's challenge I'll be able to truly recognize myself as a mother.

I understand how you feel.  I call myself a mother, but there are times I catch myself slipping and say things like "when I have children" or "when I am a mom."  We were robbed of the opportunity to raise our babies, which makes it so hard for us to connect to the title of mother.  Everyday though, I think that I am a mom because if I were not, that would be calling Conner and Benjamin motherless and they certainly are not without their parents.  I hope you are able to feel the same way as well. 

LyndseyTS

Sorry ladies...I've been super absent here for the last week (and not as up on the Muchness challenge on Facebook as I'd like to be either...) It's been one stupid busy and emotional week (for no reason, just hit me hard this week, I guess). I shared my necklace for this chalenge. It reminds me that I have a child, even if she's not here with us. It's hard to feel like you're a mother when you're stripped of all of the typical "mothering duties".

Maybe Joleisa

I sorta posted this and then left for vacation--so sorry about that!

@chickinNH‌ : You most definitely are a mother. ((Hugs))

@ikrystal‌ : I catch myself saying those things, as well. We went out to eat Sunday night and the waitress said "I'm not sure if you are a mother, but..." I'm not even sure she finished her sentence because I cut her off and said, "I am." (She gave me a rose on my way out, which made me happy & sad.)

@LyndseyTS‌ : I love your necklace.

I'm a pretty private person and am not a big poster on FB. I rarely change pics, but for this challenge I changed my cover photo. I guess it didn't show up on my feed last week, because I only started getting comments on it on Sunday when people were visiting my homepage to write on my wall.

ikrystal

Maybe Joleisa I'm sorry receiving that flower was bittersweet.  But I am glad that you said that you were a mom, because you are!

LyndseyTS

I like your cover photo @Maybe Joleisa‌ Thanks for the kind words about my necklace

hsabyan

I'm late to the show- what is the Muchness Challenge?

Maybe Joleisa

Here is Lyndsey's post about it: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12331015/finding-your-mother-s-day-muchness-after-babyloss#latest