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BC&LM

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BC&LM

I am pretty sure this will be an unpopular opinion on here due to some comments I have seen before. I know a lot of people have posted that they couldn't wait to leave the hospital after giving birth.  However, I was the complete opposite.  I wish I could have stayed in the hospital longer.  (I gave birth Monday, and we left Thursday.)  I was still in so much pain, and I loved having other people there if I needed help and the elevated hospital bed.  I liked how organized and clean everything was; I had to be induced early due to preeclampsia, and our house at home was a bit disorganized/messy due to my not being allowed to clean (modified bedrest) and our going in for an induction even sooner than expected.  I would have loved a full week at the hospital.

peachnectarine

@BC&LM I agree as well. I had LO on a Tuesday night and we left Thursday. Just trying get dressed and walk around to leave the hospital was too much for me. I had third degree tears and it would have been a lot nicer and made things a lot easier if I could have stayed longer.

tttwalters

If I had a private room, the hospital stay would have been fine. However the girl that I roomed with, had a husband that snored loudly, she herself was very whiny and complained all day and night to the nurses and then would complain if my baby started crying. Also the food was BRUTAL! The nurses were great though, and that was the last time I got some sleep. 

dmlk413

BC&LM said:

I am pretty sure this will be an unpopular opinion on here due to some comments I have seen before. I know a lot of people have posted that they couldn't wait to leave the hospital after giving birth.  However, I was the complete opposite.  I wish I could have stayed in the hospital longer.  (I gave birth Monday, and we left Thursday.)  I was still in so much pain, and I loved having other people there if I needed help and the elevated hospital bed.  I liked how organized and clean everything was; I had to be induced early due to preeclampsia, and our house at home was a bit disorganized/messy due to my not being allowed to clean (modified bedrest) and our going in for an induction even sooner than expected.  I would have loved a full week at the hospital.

I also agree.  The only reason I really wanted to go home was because of all the unannounced visitors.  Otherwise, I was terrified to leave all the help because BFing was such a struggle in the beginning.

CoffeeBeanFiend91

The birthplace at our hospital
Was recently renovated and the rooms were all private and almost as nice as a hotel. I wouldn't have minded if I had to stay longer.

Lizzybizzy80

I think basketball > hockey as far as watching on TV. I can't keep track of the puck.

WasNotWas

@majwv8 said:

I think basketball is the worst sport to watch on TV.

But baseball tho

Murphie82

I like watching the "boring" sports like golf and baseball.  Baseball is better in person, but golf is better on tv.

RIngReady

majwv8 said:

I think basketball is the worst sport to watch on TV.

Have you watched golf?

megaroo64

Sympkin said:

I hate front load washers.

I 100% agree!!  I am so mad that we have a front loader and every laundry day I wish it would break so I could justify getting a new one. 

Mufflerlove

I didn't realize until a few months ago that not all birthing suites were private. My hospital is small and they were all private.

My UO is I stayed an extra day by choice. My doctor told me I could leave Sunday night but I chose to stay until Monday. I was not confident I would be able to breastfeed and I feel the extra night made all the difference! I felt much better about it by the next morning

momofcatan

DH ate most of the food they had for me and I ate the stuff I packed for myself. Considering the kosher meals are like airplane food, they weren't that bad.

My UO(and zipping up flame suit) I hate when SAHMs reply to posts about daycare problems with "that is totally unacceptable" (I I remember seeing this a while ago, not as much recently). I feel like If you don't have experience sending kids to daycare, wait for the moms who do to reply.  Obviously the OP is upset and I feel like the working moms can give more helpful/expanded advice than just saying "that is aweful you better speak to them".

LaBellaVida

I wanted to leave the hospital. I hated all the checks, and the little bit of sleep I did get I was woken up by the nurses. It was annoying. I got more sleep when I got home.

My uo: I prefer rainy weather over any other type of weather. I do enjoy an occasional sunny day here or there though.
I'm sure this has to be attributed by the fact I spent over 4 years in Texas where is sunny and hot all damn year....and I'm native to Washington state. :P

RIngReady

Mufflerlove said:

I didn't realize until a few months ago that not all birthing suites were private. My hospital is small and they were all private. My UO is I stayed an extra day by choice. My doctor told me I could leave Sunday night but I chose to stay until Monday. I was not confident I would be able to breastfeed and I feel the extra night made all the difference! I felt much better about it by the next morning

I didn't realize they all weren't private until this morning. No wonder some people can't wait to get out of the hospital! 

amie444

stargazer763 said:

I have never seen an Easter Bunny costume that didn't creep me out. LO can totally sit on Santa's lap this year, but no Easter Bunny ever unless he really wants it.

This is mine!  I will NEVER take N to see the Easter Bunny.  (we don't celebrate)   But still it is pretty easy to see that their is a person inside that suit.  

BC&LM

tttwalters said:

If I had a private room, the hospital stay would have been fine. However the girl that I roomed with, had a husband that snored loudly, she herself was very whiny and complained all day and night to the nurses and then would complain if my baby started crying. Also the food was BRUTAL! The nurses were great though, and that was the last time I got some sleep. 

Ugh, I probably would have wanted to go home too if it had been like that.  We somehow lucked out and got a suite, which was like a hospital regular room but with an additional sitting room with a pull-out couch.  I think they felt bad for me because I had been in L&D for four days already at that point!

Murphie82

@Araziza

Meh - I don't think it takes a working mom to know that leaving a child alone, crying in the dark, without any toys is an unacceptable practice.  Nor does it take a working mom to realize that a daycare worker who doesn't pick up kids "so she won't ruin her hips" probably isn't doing their job or at the very least isn't doing their job well.

ETA:  I know you may not be referencing that situation specifically but working moms and sahm's can both have input as to whether they think something is ok when it comes to daycare.

Lizzybizzy80

Donnie Darko ruined bunny costumes for me, almost as bad as It and clowns.

WasNotWas

kari5186 said:

I absolutely hated Donnie Darko.

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Murphie82

@Steamboat1679 said:

@Araziza

Meh - I don't think it takes a working mom to know that leaving a child alone, crying in the dark, without any toys is an unacceptable practice.  Nor does it take a working mom to realize that a daycare worker who doesn't pick up kids "so she won't ruin her hips" probably isn't doing their job or at the very least isn't doing their job well.

ETA:  I know you may not be referencing that situation specifically but working moms and sahm's can both have input as to whether they think something is ok when it comes to daycare.

No but it is easier to say pull them immediately. "They" might not fully understand that it can be hard to find a daycare with an opening, in budget, that works with the needed schedule, and is better than what you have today.

I think my point is that a person's current reality doesn't define their understanding of a topic.  A SAHM might have worked and had a kid in daycare before becoming a SAHM.  A SAHM may have been a daycare provider before having a kid and becoming a SAHM.

Unless someone is tracking everyone's previous experience on the topic, deciding that a SAHM doesn't know what she is talking about when it comes to daycare simply because she is currently a SAHM is a little shortsighted IMO.

ETA:  That's probably how I should have said it the first time around.

momofcatan

@murphie82 I do think that a SAHM who previously sent a kid to daycare or who worked at daycare would probably have good advice. I was honestly thinking this as I typed my first post, but was trying not to make my post very long. For the most part I still see a lot of less than useful responses to daycare posts.

Murphie82

@araziza I'm with you and I re-read your original post and you did say "I feel like If you don't have experience sending kids to daycare, wait for the moms who do to reply," which renders my opinion obsolete.  The scenarios I mentioned both have SAHM's with daycare experience of some sort.

I agree though that a lot of responses tend not to be terribly helpful when it comes to daycare probably because we only get one side of the story (not that the one side is wrong but details are always missing from this sort of thing and often the details are unknown to the poster), and it tends to sound pretty awful.

But I will say that it didn't look like it was only SAHM's saying to pull the kid out of daycare so...

No longer the best

@tttwalters I left 6 hours after having M because my hospital is kinda hurtin (didn't have central air) and I would have had to share a room, I would have been woken up a lot and I wouldn't even try the food.  I think this is a bit of a difference between American hospitals and Canadian.  Perhaps with the odd exception like @Mufflerlove! 

momofcatan

I liked our hospital, but we paid for a private room (DH's insurance covered semi private so it was only another $65). Only problem was not enough nurses, they had a crazy number of women in labour so the people in recovery got shafted. I was happy to leave after 1 day, but was not in a rush.

riansmommie

Not really an UO but the first time I saw @subliminalrabbit‌ on here I thought her SN was a reference to Donnie Darko

amie444

Since my first was already taken.  I am another one.  I hate Training Wheels on bikes.  I never had them.  N is getting a strider bike from my sister for her Birthday(too soon, but she wanted to)  Anyway I think that they don't teach balance and delay the process of actually learning how to ride.

ASmallWonder

@amie444 I don't think training wheels teach balance but they let the kid learn about riding a bike in stages.  They have to learn to steer and pedal at the same time.  I can't imagine adding in "balance so you don't tip the hell over" all at the same time lol

Lizzybizzy80

I think my dream job would be to help people get rid of/sell/donate their extra crap and clutter. I'm not sure about working with extreme hoarders though, that stuff gets nasty.

Lizzybizzy80

My last post probably wasn't unpopular. I agree with most of y'all most of the time.

momofcatan

I hate the gif party to get the spam thread to 1000 posts. I feel like I'm constantly scrolling through gifs looking for the real posts. I don't have enough bump time to appreciate 200 gifs in one day.

Mufflerlove

No longer the best said:

@tttwalters I left 6 hours after having M because my hospital is kinda hurtin (didn't have central air) and I would have had to share a room, I would have been woken up a lot and I wouldn't even try the food.  I think this is a bit of a difference between American hospitals and Canadian.  Perhaps with the odd exception like @Mufflerlove! 

Benefits of a small town perhaps? The food was awful though! The hospital is very old but the staff are great.

weddinginthecove

My UO is that I really really dislike the taste, and even smell of wine. Maybe it goes back to my first time drinking...blah. Also, I really don't see the problem with taking a little break from learning for a little fun (party). I absolutely loved all those parties as a child and I don't feel I was deprived of my education in any way. I could not wait to get out of the hospital. Three nights was more than enough for me. I faked that I was feeling great (no pain) when in fact it hurt to stand, sit or walk just so they didn't make me stay another night. I had my own room but my husband had to sleep on the tiny hospital bed if get wanted to stay. I did not get any sleep at.... Hospitals here suck.

TheTamedShrew

I HATE the show "Family Guy"

TheTamedShrew

melOHdy said:

TheTamedShrew said:

I HATE the show "Family Guy"

Popular.  I think those "adult" cartoons are often really vulgar and ridiculous.

For some reason I don't mind South Park and the Simpsons, but most "adult swim" cartoons are ridiculous for sure. I'm not a fan of cheap, vulgar humor in any context. Family Guy is probably the worst IMO.

Murphie82

MH dislikes the Harry Potter books not because we're religious in any way but because he thinks it sends the wrong message to kids - it's ok to lie if you think what you are doing is the right thing.  It's ok to cheat if it helps your cause.  It's ok to break school rules if you think you/your cause is above the rules.

I enjoyed the books because I read them simply for entertainment and don't read a lot into what a fictional book may or may not someday teach my child.

BC&LM

JustPlaneLoved said:

Bringing it over from the spam thread:

I don't agree with the way they do celebrations in schools. I think it is a distraction & they should focus on learning while there. If they wanted to do something, they should do it over lunch.

We don't celebrate Easter.

We couldn't wait to get out of the hospital, but that is because they were full, so we were put in a closet off the nursery. No food service, no bathroom, no tv, lights couldn't be turned off, slept on a cot, and had to get a nurse to open the door every time to get back into our room (like if we went out to the bathroom or to get water). If I had just delivered a baby, I could see wanting to stay longer.

How was that even legal for them to put you in a room like that? Doesn't it violate health codes or something!?

peachnectarine

I can't stand Once Upon a Time. I used to watch it, but can't get into it anymore. Not to mention the special effects are awful!

BC&LM

Steamboat1679 said:

***I am not an expert in employment law***, but I don't get why nurses, police people, firefighters, etc get overtime and most office workers don't. I know one of the criteria is making decisions and it seems like they make plenty of decisions. Not saying they shouldn't get overtime, but maybe I should?

I think for some professions, it depends on if you are paid on a salary or hourly.  Many companies that pay a salary do not recognize overtime.

No longer the best

I feel like some of these American hospitals are vacation homes!!! If I had the same scenario I'd try to go back as often as I could.  Except then I guess I would have to pay for it ... 

numbersgirl08

I'm the camp of wanting to stay in the hospital longer.  I can see why people who didn't have as much of an issue with recovery would want to go home sooner, but I physically didn't feel ready to go home.  I had a 3rd tear and showering, standing, getting up and down from the bed, walking, everything was painful.  Before I went into labor my mom asked me how I was going to get down the stairs in front of our house to get to the front door and I laughed at her, assuming I'd have no issues walking.  Well, stairs were completely out of the question, so we had to park in the neighbor's driveway so I could walk across the lawn slowly and avoid stairs.

I really hope I don't tear with my next kid.  That was such a miserable few days after giving birth.