We are not really frilly people. M is a girl, and she wears girl clothes, but usually something like pink pants and a heart-printed sweatshirt. Today at the library she wore lavender overalls, a floral shirt, and pink shoes. She has the beginnings of a toddler mullet, but her hair is too short for clips and she usually does not wear bows for long. Literally everyone we see assumes she is a boy, no matter how girly her outfit, although she has never worn a tutu or something. People are often like, hey, tough guy. The librarian today says "that little boy, uh, is on the move." A special needs person on the elevator at the hospital was like, cute little guy...wait, it is a boy, right. I was like, she's a girl, but that's okay, everyone thinks she's a girl. I do not like to correct people, but if they ask, I have to. I don't know what to do to make her seem more like a girl. I wouldn't be offended if people occasionally were wrong, but every single person thinks she's a boy.
Re: do you care if strangers don't know if you have a boy or girl?
That's so odd. People thought DS was a girl when he was really little, and as his hair keeps getting longer, I imagine that'll start up again. I usually do correct people, but I don't get huffy or offended. I usually just say something like, "Oh, he's a boy" and leave it at that. So, I guess I "care" but not that much
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But people couldn't tell if I was a boy or girl until I was 3, despite dresses and ruffles, just because I had no hair. I was an early talker and I have a ton of crib memories, so I remember being two and three and correcting people myself.
I try to never use sex specific pronouns until I know for certain the kid's sex.
Edited to add: What does bother me is when EVERYONE asks if they're twins. By far the most frequent question I get.
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I hate girls baby clothes with lipstick or girls with big sad eyes or princesses etc on them. I dress DD in plain solids or patterns. When I was pregnant I thought that I wouldn't care for any thing too girly to dress her in and I was surprised when she was born and I became strangely obsessed with bows and headbands for her head and bought all these colors. I'm calmer now but maybe that is because she mostly pulls anything that is not a hat off of her head.
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That's kind of hilarious, @pinesnow. I mean, good for her for not caring that a girl was dressed as Spiderman (because some people are still backwards like that), but still funny.
I guess the main reason I correct people is because I would want to be corrected if the situation was reversed. It really doesn't matter ultimately, though.