1st and 2nd TRI misconceptions.

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katnipeverclean

A huge surprise for me is that I have had zero energy the second trimester. With DD I had a ton of energy in the second tri so I was shocked when this LO seems to have me feeling just as zapped weeks 13-26 as weeks 4-13. And now we enter the third trimester land of insomnia. Eff.

Yawn.

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eortman

I'm surprised that this LO is so sedate. He just isn't active and punching every minute like my other 2 were. I hope that everything is okay with him and everyone says that all pregnancies are different, but it just seems so strange. On a positive note, though, I am hoping that he'll be a good sleeper since neither of my other ones were/are.

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abunai523

Honestly, there hasn't been too much in the way of surprises. I will say I did not expect the first trimester to feel so crazy long and lame! Just feeling bloaty-fat and tired and paranoid for 3 months was probably the worst part so far. Also I was not expecting heartburn to be such a problem for me. Before pregnancy I'd actually never had it before! So I never really considered it as one of the symptoms I would be getting. Lastly, I suppose the sleeping difficulties started earlier than I thought they would, but really for the most part it all feels pretty on-point with my expectations.

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cakebatter27

1st tri was so easy for me. I liked it best except for the anxiety. 2nd tri has been terrible from about 20 weeks on. I do feel very pretty and healthy but I think my insides are dying. I want my Advil Liquid Gels so bad.

dobbyisfree

Im surprised by how small i still am... idk if I thought I would just get 9 months pregnant and stay that way until it was time. I look at the bump and still just think I look fat. I definitely want to be in better shape going in next time.

TallMomma29

I was surprised by how crazy sick I was during first tri (most frequent thought: whyyyyyy would anyone have more than one of these??!?!), how late people normally feel movement (for some reason I was totally expecting to feel movement around 14-15 weeks and didn't feel it until around 18 weeks.. which was still early compared to others!), and that it's not just tall people who can take forever to show.  I anticipated it taking forever for me to show, if at all, but I'm surprised to see shorter girls on HDBD who still don't have a huge bump either.  It's crazy how different everyone's pregnancy can be.  Also, pooping.  I've never been so aware of my bathroom habits as I am now that I'm preggo.  I had no idea it would become such a big deal! 

TallMomma29

LiteraChick said:

I'd have to say my biggest misconception would be how little I'd feel LittleDude. I had no idea how active he'd be, how much he'd be awake and kicking. I'll be leaning over my desk staring at my computer at work, totally focused and he starts kickboxing my side to get my attention. I genuinely worried for awhile that he wasn't resting enough, that it wasn't normal for him to be so awake.

I also didn't expect how batshit crazy it would make my relatives as far as how entitled they'd feel.

None of my relatives have gone full on crazy (yet), but this totally surprises me too!  I just want to be like "It's not YOUR baby!  Chill the F out!"  Mostly that is from stories I hear on here or from friends about issues with family, but even trying to coordinate when all the grandparents can come meet the baby is making me a little ragey.  I want the first week with just DH if possible.  It's not going to kill you to wait until the baby is 2 or 3 weeks old (if you're the last of the parents to visit) to see her in person for the first time.  Ugh. 

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runrinserepeat

I'm surprised at how uncomfortable LO's movements are already. I'm carrying so much lower this time, I don't remember being this uncomfortable this early (especially since the little one isn't up in my ribs, just way too low for comfort).

Also, I think there's this misconception that pregnants look cute and everything in the first and second tri. I feel like I don't start looking cute until 3rd tri, when my bump is getting really obvious and hard and huge. Before a few weeks ago, I've just felt like the pilsbury dough boy.

marsalisails

the biggest surprise for me was exactly how much i had forgotten from my first pregnancy five years ago!  i don't remember DS kicking this much, or being like clockwork with movements - little girl is very consistent!  i don't remember my cravings - just that i couldn't eat yogurt - or what it felt like to be this big!

i thought that i "cherished" everything about him being in there, and i know that i did, but MAN what a difference five short years makes on the memory.  it's kind of like everything is new again.

maybe lack of sleep does kill the brain cells

Nichole8787

I was surprised about how awful my sleep is and how early it started. Also i've been surprised about how much i love being pregnant. I thought I would be miserable the whole time but Im not ...Im really peppy. I actually think I'll miss being pregnant 

acciovino

This one has been WAY more active than DD was and it scares me a little. Boys are more active in general, right? :-S

Anyway, I thought I remembered being more hungry in 2nd and 3rd tri with DD, but this time I have to force myself to eat. If I eat too much then I have massive heartburn. Just can't win!

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This little guy is a lot less active than DS was, too. DS was anti-sleep from the moment he came out, and hit all of his gross motor milestones early because he was just determined to move. Maybe this one will be my chunky little lazy baby who likes to sleep.

helloblueeyes

I was surprised by the extent of my anxiety. And also exactly how fucking awful you can feel for an extended period of time without losing your mind. 

I am also surprised at how much a body can take, this pregnancy has been the roller coaster of crazy but despite that we have a perfectly healthy baby and i am always on track as to where i should be. 

mamaloaf

I'd say I've been surprised as to how easy the first and second tri were. I feel like first tri was actually the easiest for me and I was never sick. Second tri I noticed I had less energy and zero sex drive. Now beginning third, I feel like a slow-ass sloth flopping around in bed and moving about. I'm just going to try to force myself to get some exercise each week and go for walks in the evening when it gets (and stays) nice out. 

emy730

A few things:

 - I had no idea how sick I would really be (I was sick all of 1st tri and most of 2nd)

 - Next to no energy, except for random spurts that last a few hours

 - Almost no sex drive

 - Sex being so incredibly painful, no matter the position, amount of lube, etc.

stacyf20

I'm very surprised that my pregnancy seems to have come equipped with a third tri switch.  Since crossing that magical date I can't believe how I'm so suddenly tired uncomfortable, painful, heartburny, constipated, bitchy/crazy/weepy in the span of minutes, etc.  The emotional/hormonal stuff is getting me the most.  There's nothing worse than knowing in your head you're acting irrationally and yet not being able to stop doing things like crying or snapping at my poor husband.  Ick.  

JayBzo

This is contrary to some of the comments here, but I honestly thought I was going to be a pregnant goddess. I pictured myself running marathons until the day I happily delivered. Yeah. No. I feel yucky and some days feel cute with my bump, but definitely not the blissful experience I thought it would be. On the other hand I am surprised at how magical it has been feeling my baby and seeing this belly grow I never really imagined I would have.

TurtleMonsters

I'm surprised how different I feel this time. Both had morning sickness and evilness. I was in my 2nd trimester in the summer, which I know plays a role in some of my mood and energy. But everything was all wonder and intrigue. I DID feel like a goddess, with energy and sex drive and felt healthier then I did before- no migrines. I wanted DS to come asap, and I read everything little thing out there in hopes of keeping my impatience at bay.

This time, there is so much more pain, migraines, lack of energy and disenchantment. I'm dreading the next few months as it gets warmer and I get bigger. LO can stay in there a long time, because I'm having enough trouble with all this minus a NB.

Clined22

I am surprised at a couple of things:

1) how much weight I have gained. I thought I would be my normal self with bigger boobs and a cute belly and I thought I would continue working out... Yeah, nope! 

2) I'm so sensitive to everyone's comments. I wished I could just take EVERYONE's advice and say thanks and smile. Instead, I want to smack everyone all the time!!

3) I have anxiety about everything! I didn't know I was such a pessimist... I wish I could turn back the time and relax a little bit and enjoy.

SaraRL07

• I never experienced the perks of crazy sexy dreams.  ( 
  
• Hormones will give you a pregnancy glow?  NOPE...I had pregnancy breakout until I visited my dermatologist to get it under control.
  
• I haven't had crazy cravings yet, nor sent my dh out to buy things for me in the middle of the night.
• I thought my friends were exaggerating on how tiring it was to be pregnant....nope I could not get enough sleep.

Fletch82

I was surprised that instead of morning sickness I was so tired early on. I did become a pro at squeezing in naps.

I also expected more of a pregnent belly at this point; I just look like I've gained weight.

CandC13

I feel like I have been very fortunate in the symptoms I've been feeling based on what "could have been" but there are things that I have had to come to terms with that I didn't think would be an issue - like weight gain: I knew I would gain weight and have already put on the recommended at 28 weeks and while I'm ok with it there are days where I realize I have never been this heavy in my life and hitting things with this belly or behind well before I thought I would is off putting. Oh and dealing with other peoples reactions/thoughts/idea on what I should be doing during pregnancy. I found myself not playing sports or doing certain exercises as long as I would have liked because of others. Here I was all worried about how I would handle pregnancy - totally forgot to figure out how I would handle other people

Amberxo

1st tri surprised me with having no symptoms to sickness anything which I totally took advantage of! Dizziness and tiredness have been terrible 2nd tri but I'm other than that i have loved my pregnancy going to miss my bump !!xxx

honeybee434

I really had no idea what I was getting into with the normal symptoms that you don't see people go through visually. I never really knew what constipation was until I got pregnant, and I never realized how bad it would be! Apparently that's one symptom no one around me ever wanted to talk about! Same with the discharge...and the pee sneezing....I've decided that everyone just needs to talk more. Get it all out in the open! Without the Bump and everyone talking about their symptoms I would have been panicking!!

TugboatSheila

I thought I would not gain very much weight because I "am really good at making healthy decisions and controlling what I eat. BAHAHAHAHAH @First Trimester Me

I really thought I'd be really hormonal. I get a little angrier a little quicker but I don't cry all the time at anything and I don't rage out on people.

I'm with Litera on the researching, I am an OCD control freak and thought I would consume all the books about all the babies. I haven't read a single one since getting pregnant. I prefer talking to my OB directly and focusing my questions directly on what's going on during that time period. 

Katieryan13

How you never really feel like yourself. Like something is always off.

Also, how I am 25 weeks pregnant and still just look like I have gained some weight. I figured I would have a true baby belly by now but I don't.

ahjahbaba

bunny0711 said:

Oh, also, pregnancy sex drive. Who are these women that say they are horny maniacs while pregnant?? At this rate, DH is getting it once per trimester. 

My husband also wants to know who those woman are... Haha Poor guys

clgregson

bunny0711 said:

Oh, also, pregnancy sex drive. Who are these women that say they are horny maniacs while pregnant?? At this rate, DH is getting it once per trimester. 

Seriously. I think the last time we had sex might have been valentine's day? But we may not have even done it then?

Today is my birthday and I likely won't get any, and it's just as well because I don't even enjoy it at this point. Back hurts, hips hurt, can't breathe--the whole she(don't)bang.

hereid326

I've been shocked about all of the absolutely bizarre pregnancy symptoms I never knew about. It started with the morning sickness that lasted all day, everyday for 12 weeks straight. My mom let me know towards the end of that spell that my aunt had it for all nine months in both pregnancies. I freaked out for a few weeks until it slowly dissipated.

I also had no idea that I would pee my pants completely upon sneezing on more than one occasion...and I'm talking full on peeing my pants. One night I even got some on the couch...

Now the fingers on my right hand tingle constantly from carpal tunnel...oh and the heartburn...

And the best is that when these random symptoms arrive, they are like an emergency situation for about two days, and then they just become part of the pregnant world. I'm amazed at how fast I've adjusted to the point that it's no big deal. 

The whole thing, albeit pregnancy, is so weird.

amwenz

To those people that think bed rest would be awesome...it sucks. I hate the anxiety that I had for the first 5 months. I hate that I have had insomnia almost the whole pregnancy. I didn't know constipation existed before this. I feel guilty that I sometimes hate this pregnancy because we had to conceive via ivf and were fortunate for it to work the first time. I love to feel baby and have felt baby since 16 weeks! I like how someone described the movements as slithering...sometimes those are so strange! Finally, for the past week I'm beginning to feel a bit better...guess the bed rest has worked. I also thought I'd run through my pregnancy...ha!

Wrights22

LiteraChick said:

eortman said:

I'm surprised that this LO is so sedate. He just isn't active and punching every minute like my other 2 were. I hope that everything is okay with him and everyone says that all pregnancies are different, but it just seems so strange. On a positive note, though, I am hoping that he'll be a good sleeper since neither of my other ones were/are.

See, this is precisely what scares me NOW. That his being so active in the womb will mean he never naps after he is born.
:-S

So I'm interested in this too. Not so much that she won't nap.... But that she will be high energy when she's awake. My first was very active in the womb. And now she's a little pistol. Constantly wanting to do something physical. Into everything. (I compare to her cousin who is the same age... And will sit on the couch and watch an entire movie). This little one in this pregnancy is wayyy active too. We'll see if she's as much of a handful. I will say though... My daughter has always been a good sleeper. She still naps for over 2 hrs a day. And sleeps at night from 8 to 7.

drunkenhandstand

SarahVol131 said:

A huge surprise for me is that I have had zero energy the second trimester. With DD I had a ton of energy in the second tri so I was shocked when this LO seems to have me feeling just as zapped weeks 13-26 as weeks 4-13. And now we enter the third trimester land of insomnia. Eff.

Yawn.

What Sarah said ^

glitterclaws

I'm surprised at how weak and trapped I feel. I've always told myself I am a tough cookie so I can handle this pregnancy business. But when pushing myself to work harder could be bad for the baby and doesn't just mean sore muscles anymore, I'm blown away.

For the sake of science, I need to be in better shape when I do this again so I can measure the differences between the two experiences.

Also, when I heard the preggos are tired all the time, I assume that just meant they slept a lot. This whole tired+insomnia is a horribly mean trick.

rachelchristina

I thought I would workout more throughout the pregnancy and eat better like I was doing before.  I've kept a decent diet and exercise routine, mostly, but it is so DANG hard.  I've definitely had more sugar and bad food than I should. 

I didn't realize I would miss raw sushi so much either.  

Like a lot of you, I also thought I'd get a belly faster, I have just started really getting a rounder belly over the last couple of weeks, before I just looked like I'd been eating too much

Jandamay

I'm surprised by how much I didn't know. A new weird symptom pops up, I text my sister asking her about it, she says normal and she had it. I feel like I knew nothing before experiencing pregnancy myself!

beff12

I was surprised that the magical energy fairy didn't come in the second tri like all the books claimed.

When I really think hard about it, I realize that I never feel especially good. Nothing major enough to even mention, just not normal. I guess I expected to feel like my normal self with a bigger belly!

Mostly, I've been surprised by other people and how they've responded to my pregnancy. Instead of just being excited, they've asked how much weight I've gained, if we "know how this happened" (even though it's only our first! I think you asked people like Michelle Duggar that), and other ridiculously uncaring questions.