Just found out yesterday afternoon that they're going to try to deploy DH soon and he'll be gone for the birth. Okay, I know we're very lucky in our career field to have 6 month deployments possibly going to 4 month deployments, and that it's totally normal for the father to not get to see the birth of his child, but do I at least have the right to be upset about it?
I guess the part that upsets me most is that they've taken this into account for others in our career field--bringing them home early or sending them out late--so they can be there on baby watch. If they do this, it's the third time we've been completely screwed over. I keep thinking, I did not spend the first six months of our marriage at a different base so they could do this, too!
I'm sorry. I know there are a lot of you here who probably had to go through this exact thing but didn't have the option to have your H there with you. As if it's not bad enough you're apart, you're apart while you're bringing a child into the world. I get that even having an option to bring them back early so they can be there is cushy and a luxury that a lot of us don't have. I'm just sick of watching it happen to everyone else in my career field and then be told that we don't get that same luxury.
I really hope I haven't offended anyone.