Just found out yesterday afternoon that they're going to try to deploy DH soon and he'll be gone for the birth. Okay, I know we're very lucky in our career field to have 6 month deployments possibly going to 4 month deployments, and that it's totally normal for the father to not get to see the birth of his child, but do I at least have the right to be upset about it?
I guess the part that upsets me most is that they've taken this into account for others in our career field--bringing them home early or sending them out late--so they can be there on baby watch. If they do this, it's the third time we've been completely screwed over. I keep thinking, I did not spend the first six months of our marriage at a different base so they could do this, too!
I'm sorry. I know there are a lot of you here who probably had to go through this exact thing but didn't have the option to have your H there with you. As if it's not bad enough you're apart, you're apart while you're bringing a child into the world. I get that even having an option to bring them back early so they can be there is cushy and a luxury that a lot of us don't have. I'm just sick of watching it happen to everyone else in my career field and then be told that we don't get that same luxury.
I really hope I haven't offended anyone.
Re: Deployment Rant (kind of long)
It's awful to never be able to plan for deployments and births, even when you do, things inevitably get changed around. I'm so sorry
We're both AF, but I don't know how many fathers I've seen our wing/group delay their deployment or have them come home early or not deploy this cycle. I don't know why I'm so surprised. They treat everyone differently even if they do the same stupid stuff--one person gets a slap on the wrist, one gets an LOC, another just gets ignored. Why would this be any different?
Surprise! BFP 3/7/2013, Missed MC, D&C @ 7w5d
BFP 12/10/2013, Natural MC @ 5w1d
BFP 2/15/2014...Katia Elizabeth is due 10/23/2014!
Surprise! BFP 3/7/2013, Missed MC, D&C @ 7w5d
BFP 12/10/2013, Natural MC @ 5w1d
BFP 2/15/2014...Katia Elizabeth is due 10/23/2014!
GL to you too @Kredsing!
It looks like they've taken him off the deployment. One of our bosses was being a jerk to even suggest it, apparently. So, right now, looks like he'll be here. Regardless, we're supposedly going to 4 month rotations (I'll believe it when I see it) so hopefully he won't be heading off until at least December!
Surprise! BFP 3/7/2013, Missed MC, D&C @ 7w5d
BFP 12/10/2013, Natural MC @ 5w1d
BFP 2/15/2014...Katia Elizabeth is due 10/23/2014!
That's great! I hope it stays that way.
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(Okay, I'll pull my boot straps now and continue on.) Grateful to know I'm not alone in this frustration though. Thank you for sharing.