here we go again (notified ManChild)

eg214

So I emailed him today to let him know we were in FL and if he wanted to MEET his daughter (ya know now that she has been alive for 9 whole weeks) he could meet her at one of my parents houses. His response? Wait for it...





"YOU NEED TO CALL ME"


You know what I feel like saying to that? Fuck you you motherfucking piece of shit asshole!!!!!! ALWAYS trying to manipulate. ALWAYS trying to control. FUCK YOU!

Guarantee his lawyer told him not to have anything in writing anymore. GUARANFUCKINGTEE it. He won't communicate with me anymore unless its HIS way and by phone. Its bullshit.

I need to probably call him bc I don't want that shit brought up in court like DID YOU MAKE AN EFFORT TO SEE YOUR DAUGHTER? YES JUDGE I TRIED BUT SHE NEVER RESPONDED TO ME. I can just hear it now.

I am going to call him tomorrow when we are through with our day on speaker so my mom can be present in case he says shit that she can attest to in court. All he's going to do is harass me more. I've already given my counter proposal to my attorney two weeks ago. I've tried to get him a fucking copy of her social three times now. The birth certs are on their way. Wtf else do u want me to do?

I fucking hate him so much.

eg214

Yes @lurchbaby‌. I gave up on getting this shit for him bc I realized he can do it himself. I meant to include that in the email but I forgot I'm going to think of a good response to this. Idk if I can use the verbal abuse thing bc its been a long time. Fml.

MinnesotaMomma91

Having your mom there for a conversation over speaker phone. Although, i would tell him before hand, you are on speaker phone and my mom is sitting with me while i speak with you.

Im sorry hes making things so difficult for you and your dd. If his lawyer is telling him not to get things in writing his lawyer is an incompitant moron. Getting every interaction in writing doesnt just protect your ass it protects his.

Anyways hugs, it gets better or so i hear

freeatlast2014

I would respond "I prefer we communicate via text message as to protect all parties involved. Let me know when you are available so we can work out a mutually agreeable time". 

And that's that. 

I wouldn't call him. Absolutely not. My ex and I communicate ONLY via email and text. In fact, he won't even look at me when he sees me which is fine. At least I can cover my ass when I tell him things regarding the children. It does piss me off a little though, not going to lie.

20thirteen

If you absolutely *HAVE* to call him, not only have your mom present, but get one of those cheap recorders and record the conversation. You'll have to tell him you're recording, but then you'll be able to have everything he said on record. I have one I got for like $15-$20 from best buy. I'm sure any electronics store has them.

This sucks so hard, I'm so sorry he's such a prick.

eg214

Thanks ladies. Naturally he emailed me a long psycho rant this morning saying he never said he wouldnt be a part of her life if I challenged him. Yeah yeah. One thing I've never been is a liar. Now that its in writing (I put it in the email to CMA) he of course is going to say I'm lying and I made that up somehow.

Anyway I wrote back and basically said I've given you ample opportunity YOU cancelled twice. Heres your chance, you know how to reach me. Also told him I won't discuss the custody visitation stuff anymore and that our lawyers have it. That its been clear since we were married we could not agree. He mentioned in his email that he wanted her to come to FL at 6 months (hahahaahah that wasn't what he said in his proposal) and that she's actually able to come and stay with him now. HUH?!? She eats off my boob every 2 hours and is 9 WEEKS OLD! Even I didn't fly with her down here. We drove. Whatever he's a psycho ass.

So exhausted of him. SO exhausted.

He put how he is now looking like the bad guy. Well yeah dipshit...u havent paid a dime to help, you haven't made an effort to actually see her...whose fault is that!?!?!?

MinnesotaMomma91

Im sorry hws putting you through this. Hopefully the lawyers get things sorted soon.

eg214

Thanks @MinnesotaMomma91‌. It makes being a mom SO difficult. This whole thing has been hell.

He emailed me four more times since I sent him the ONE email. Hes a psycho like seriously. All he cares about is getting visitation in FL and NOT visiting her in VA. Yet he claims he has her best interest in mind and I don't. Are u kidding me? Its all about you dude and what you want and that's HER needs? I'm confused asswipe. I hope like hell a judge sees through this. I really do.

Oh and in my txt message save sweep, I saved one where he said they pay him enough to own two houses. Score for me. If he tries to say he doesn't make enough or has no $$$, BAM! If you can afford the mortgage on two houses, you can afford to pay the FULL CS.

MinnesotaMomma91

True that. My bd is poor and has five kids and a wife to support bentley isnt going to get jack from bd

jesuisfatiguee

If you have a smart phone, I think you can find a free app that will record phone calls. Call him and say, "Hey, just so you know, this call is being recorded" and proceed with your plans to meet up. 

Good luck. 

freeatlast2014

You have done the right thing so now you can sleep at night knowing you put forth the effort. 

The rest is his loss.

eg214

Thanks y'all. I just told him our attorneys are handling it. If he wants to see his daughter he can email me dates and times and I will check my calendar. I said we can't agree I'm not wasting my time i already gave my atty my response...etc. I'm not playing his games anymore....blah blah.

I'm sure I will get about 12 more psycho emails tomorrow. I hope he does in a sense...as much as it stresses me out and makes me sick, I plan on using all this against him if necessary.

He hasn't even asked how long we are here so I'm just guessing he doesn't care and won't see her. His atty will prob tell him he really should.

MinnesotaMomma91

If he doesnt see her hes a dip shit

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20thirteen

I kind of want to put his email on a listing for Craigslist.

eg214

@roxalot Ahahahahhah. I would have never even thought of doing that. If he doesn't see her maybe I will accidentally give it to you.

So far this morning, nothing. I just can't get over the fact he wants to fight me so much but doesn't want to see her. I mean, that's classic ManChild. I knew he'd do everything within his power to make my life miserable. I hope he brings up in court that he didn't want to see her in front of my parents. Then I will say well funny u mention that bc the reason I do it in front of my family is because he is abusive. Oh here is the proof....

Dipshit.

20thirteen

If you accidentally give me his email, I may make the personal ad read "m4m - prison rape fantasy"

eg214

Ahahahahahah @roxalot. Good one.

MinnesotaMomma91

Ahahaha @roxalot only hung men need apply