Baby dust?

8411mommy

It was just brought to my attention that I have been using the term baby dust in some posts and it has offended a few. I am very sorry if anyone was offended and if anybody could spare their time to explain to me why baby dust is gross or offensive please do. I had no idea. It was a termed used a lot here 4 years ago whenever I was trying for our first. I must be out of the loop. Thank you. On a side note: to me, my definition of baby dust is sparkly baby glittery dust that brings you luck in conceiving. Kinda like fairy dust that makes you fly. Something magical and cute just to say. Even when I look up the term it means good luck in conceiving.

PrimRoseMama

I believe some have said it reminds them of ground up babies.

MusicFanatic

Joy2611 said:

8411mommy said:

to me, my definition of baby dust is sparkly baby glittery dust that brings you luck in conceiving. Kinda like fairy dust that makes you fly. Something magical and cute just to say.

Magic, glitter, and fairies are for children - not adults.

FAIRIES AREN'T REAL?!?!?!? 

WinningColors

It doesn't offend me, but I do think it is a stupid term, like baby dancing. I just cringed even typing that. If you want to wish someone good luck, why not just say "good luck" ? 

sister13

Joy2611 said:

8411mommy said:

to me, my definition of baby dust is sparkly baby glittery dust that brings you luck in conceiving. Kinda like fairy dust that makes you fly. Something magical and cute just to say.

Magic, glitter, and fairies are for children - not adults.

Except for the glitter part - Joy nailed it!

Boards have different conventions and this one does not go in for false hope and a lot of the fake positivity crap spewed on other boards.

MusicFanatic

WinningColors said:

It doesn't offend me, but I do think it is a stupid term, like baby dancing. I just cringed even typing that. If you want to wish someone good luck, why not just say "good luck" ? 

I haaaaaaate baby dancing.  It's sex.

8411mommy

Thank you very much for letting me know. Like I said that term was bounced around everywhere on This site a long time ago. I will keep it to myself then. Sorry if I upset anyone. I truly didn't know.

sister13

Joy2611 said:

sister13 said:

Joy2611 said:

8411mommy said:

to me, my definition of baby dust is sparkly baby glittery dust that brings you luck in conceiving. Kinda like fairy dust that makes you fly. Something magical and cute just to say.

Magic, glitter, and fairies are for children - not adults.

Except for the glitter part - Joy nailed it!

Boards have different conventions and this one does not go in for false hope and a lot of the fake positivity crap spewed on other boards.

Excuse me, big eyeball.  Let's discuss how I can't recognize you now.

Ok, Philly Elphaba - after we discuss how it looks like you actually have glitter floating around your avatar!!!

ImJessesGirl

Definitely what @Sassmaster33 said... it was a common term on a different board when I was TTC #1 10 years ago. I'm so glad I didn't use that term this time around!

Tabitha1331

It doesn't offend me but I do find it infanitlizing. And it smacks of magic and miracles and luck - there's already a lot of that rhetoric floating around the TTC world and it's BS.

mommy2C

I just had to open this thread while eating my breakfast....

MommySarahT2011

I was wondering the same thing...thanks for clearing it up ladies, that makes a lot of sense now

sister13

Joy2611 said:

sister13 said:

Joy2611 said:

sister13 said:

Joy2611 said:

8411mommy said:

to me, my definition of baby dust is sparkly baby glittery dust that brings you luck in conceiving. Kinda like fairy dust that makes you fly. Something magical and cute just to say.

Magic, glitter, and fairies are for children - not adults.

Except for the glitter part - Joy nailed it!

Boards have different conventions and this one does not go in for false hope and a lot of the fake positivity crap spewed on other boards.

Excuse me, big eyeball.  Let's discuss how I can't recognize you now.

Ok, Philly Elphaba - after we discuss how it looks like you actually have glitter floating around your avatar!!!

oh, the touche-ness.

I can't even respond.  :-)

I know, it's really funny. 

8411mommy

Thank you @irishtheatrechic‌ , and thank you everyone for the insight on this issue. I appreciate everyone's response. I can't wait to get to know everyone here.

YaMrWhite

GoGlennCoco said:

Can things like this be added to the Newbie Blog? 

I chose TB over other sites because I'm a very pragmatic person who does not need sparkles and rainbows exploding on my screen every time I post that I feel a slight twinge under my belly button, but terms like baby dust are flooding every other TTC/TTGP board. I can see why anyone using these terms would be surprised they were not positively received on this board.

Edited: Grammar

I mentioned this to someone last week as I too got caught up using the term. Hopefully it will be added for others to read!

MeagC

I also had seen the term and did not know what it was so offensive.
Thanks for asking and thanks everyone for clearing it up!

janda426

I don't wish anyone fairy dust when they've got a job interview or exam or something so I just think it's weird to wish fairy dust to someone having sex to conceive a baby

8411mommy

I agree it should be added to the newbie board. Cause that's one of the first places I checked and it never mentions anything about it

Sliptak

MusicFanatic said:

WinningColors said:

It doesn't offend me, but I do think it is a stupid term, like baby dancing. I just cringed even typing that. If you want to wish someone good luck, why not just say "good luck" ? 

I haaaaaaate baby dancing.  It's sex.


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I like humping it out too

NerdyLucy

SassyMommaC said:

It makes me think of ground up babies in a pepper mill... 

This is what I always thought of, until someone posted that her baby dust was sitting in an urn on her mantle. That just about broke my heart, and I would never want to bring that image to any woman's mind with a childish phrase. "Baby dust" isn't a real thing, and if it were, I wouldn't want people throwing it at me like rice at a wedding. Edit: missed letter, added words

I'm not aware if I've used the term "baby dust" around here, and if I did it was probably more ironic than serious, but if I have said it at all EVER, I apologize. 

Sincerely I apologize.

I'd never compared baby dust to ashes in an urn before this, but it makes sense as to why it would be insensitive, and I feel like I've learned something.

YaMrWhite

GoGlennCoco said:

SassyMommaC said:

I love hearing that a newb checked the blog! Only a handful actually do and the rest cry that we're mean cause they ask questions that are clearly answered in there.

Like building Ikea furniture...look at the damn instructions before you start putting the dresser together.

I put my Kivic couch and chaise together without the instructions. I'm kinda proud. A weird talent I have. Also, I'm impatient....but I swear I read the newbie blog before I first posted. 

wishiwaspreggo

jconno said:

The term doesn't offend me but I would rather not see it on this board. It reminds me of other sites like babygaga and I don't wanna see that same tone here.

This pretty much sums up how I feel, too! I do like that I can vent about my symptoms on the TWW thread, and I like that I get realistic advice and anecdotes from others rather than "Ermahgerd yer totes preggers!!!" Empty reassurances don't do much for me. I frequent TB because the people here are smart and funny. I don't find that anywhere else So when someone blows baby dust on these boards, we're like "NOOOOOOO Take that back to babygaga!"

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sjames2

Thank you OP for the question. I have also read the newbie blog and could not find the answer as well. I know the term was used on TTCAL back in 2011 and some of 2012 when we were TTC #1. And thank you everyone for the answers.

wirt2cute

Since we are talking about things to possibly add to the newbie blog what does 

tl;dr,  and ded. I have figured out HIO, and FFFC. 

jaytee16

@Mrswirt2013 - tl;dr = too long, didn't read

sister13

WhoCanItBeNow said:

bbg676 said:

8411mommy said:

Thank you very much for letting me know. Like I said that term was bounced around everywhere on This site a long time ago. I will keep it to myself then. Sorry if I upset anyone. I truly didn't know.

You may have this board confused with another board (like whattoexpect, babycenter, or babygaga), because I have been here (through lurking and then posting) for three years and baby dust has never been an acceptable term here.

@whocanitbenow and others have been here much longer and can confirm, but I've lurked posts as far back as 2009/2010, and it was off-limits even back then.  They were much more vocal about it then than they are now.  

Other site hands it out like candy.

Yeah, that's been a no-go since 2008 around these parts.

Ah yes, the great Baby Dust Eradication of 2008.  

wirt2cute

@englandxo and @jaytee16

Thank you....

PinkCamino

It's nice to see ladies trying to understand why this term is so so hurtful to some of us. Thank you

Myamia91

I have always seen that thrown around on other boards but never knew it's meaning. After reading some of the responses about it, I'm so glad I NEVER cared for the term to begin with! Thank goodness for finding this out before I had the chance to "join the dark side"

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Myamia91

Wow so ignore whatever my phone decided to take upon itself and do to my post 8-}

Myamia91

SassyMommaC said:

Myamia91 said:

Wow so ignore whatever my phone decided to take upon itself and do to my post 8-}

Apparently you want to go to Disneyland because of Baby Dust. Maybe Tinkerbell has some? ;-)


That is hilarious! I was aiming for Star Wars attached to the post. Not sure how it went from Jedi to going to Disney. Hey, I'll take it though since it still fits the the topic

PrimRoseMama

@Myamia91‌ : though I do love me some Zak...

PrimRoseMama

=P~

snooks721

I'm not offended, it's just a stupid thing to say.

8411mommy

slappalicious said:

I think of this...

yeah i heard if you put your face up to the dust you will conceive twins instantly.