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StayingHopeful2013

Hello.

Me and my husband have been trying to get pregnant for the past 6ish months. I usually start my period with the 21-28 day cycle. But the past 2 cycles have been a little different. I'll create a timeline.

In Jan I started my period on the 7th (day 35) and ended on the 11th. 

In Feb I started my period on the 10th (day 35) and ended on the 14th.

On the first day, I have very little spotting, which has never happened before. And I was having discharge that was a butterscotch color.

In Mar I started my period on the 21, (day 40) it hasn't ended.

Before my period started in March I was expecting it to be either on the 28th or the 35th day. It came 5 days late. Maybe it's just that I ovulated later than I thought? In the month on Feb. we did the horizontal tango every other day, until I got my period. Now, it's my 3rd day, and for the past three days I haven't seen red, like a normal period, it's all been brown. And you know when you wake up to go to the bathroom see that blob of blood, I have yet to see that this month. My period isn't heavy like it usually is. I just one pad for 1 and a half days, I normally have to change pads every 2-3 hours.

I haven't taken a test, seeing a negative would just make me and my husband sad.. we've been up and down for the past 2 months with ttc.

Anyway, any advice on what to do, and how to conceive would be helpful.

(Oh, I don't have insurance yet, waiting for it to kick in)

(Sorry about the novel)

nannabee21

If you don't want to take a test and know yes or no, I'm not really sure what you want to hear. It sounds like you are having a lighter period than normal. Cycles can change month to month. It's normal. It also sounds like you should really look into charting your basal body temp with fertility friend to start identifying when you ovulate so you can have the best chances each month of conceiving. Also, read the newbie blog for lots of helpful info.

mrs_tacos

nannabee21 said:

If you don't want to take a test and know yes or no, I'm not really sure what you want to hear. It sounds like you are having a lighter period than normal. Cycles can change month to month. It's normal. It also sounds like you should really look into charting your basal body temp with fertility friend to start identifying when you ovulate so you can have the best chances each month of conceiving. Also, read the newbie blog for lots of helpful info.

All this. If you don't want to take a test, I don't really know what you expect us to say.

janda426

StayingHopeful2013 said:

Hello.

Me and my husband have been trying to get pregnant for the past 6ish months. I usually start my period with the 21-28 day cycle. But the past 2 cycles have been a little different. I'll create a timeline.

In Jan I started my period on the 7th (day 35) and ended on the 11th. 

In Feb I started my period on the 10th (day 35) and ended on the 14th.

On the first day, I have very little spotting, which has never happened before. And I was having discharge that was a butterscotch color.

In Mar I started my period on the 21, (day 40) it hasn't ended.

Before my period started in March I was expecting it to be either on the 28th or the 35th day. It came 5 days late. Maybe it's just that I ovulated later than I thought? In the month on Feb. we did the horizontal tango every other day, until I got my period. Now, it's my 3rd day, and for the past three days I haven't seen red, like a normal period, it's all been brown. And you know when you wake up to go to the bathroom see that blob of blood, I have yet to see that this month. My period isn't heavy like it usually is. I just one pad for 1 and a half days, I normally have to change pads every 2-3 hours.

I haven't taken a test, seeing a negative would just make me and my husband sad.. we've been up and down for the past 2 months with ttc.

Anyway, any advice on what to do, and how to conceive would be helpful.

(Oh, I don't have insurance yet, waiting for it to kick in)

(Sorry
about the novel)

1. The "horizontal tango" makes me cringe. Just say sex. Sexy sex sex.

2. It's been two months. Not that long. Chill.

3. You want advice on how to conceive? Shouldn't have scrolled past the link in all caps that said IF YOURE NEW CLICK HERE... It's got all the advice you need

4. You're really gonna need to man up and take a pregnancy test. When you're trying to get pregnant it's a pretty useful tool

gscoville

Soooo, you're trying to get pregnant but you can't stand to see the results of a test? You think it's easier to just not know, guess at things, and then what...wait until you crown, or hit 9 months and nothing happens? I don't get it, I honestly don't get it. Take a test, how can a negative on a test be worse than actually getting your period has been every cycle that you've tried so far?

And ewwww to only using one pad for two days, that's just gross - even if you're not filling it, you need to change it up much more often than that!  And assuming you're also an adult (or even if you're not), you can just use the word sex.  Horizontal tango, seriously??

GirlOnTheBeach

Please change your pad more often than every one and a half days, even if you don't "need" to... That's just gross

Manateearmz

Well I'll never eat butterscotch candy again.

ngolimento

If you are old enough to 'horizontal tango' then you should be old enough to be an adult and pee on a stick. Seriously, how do you deal with other things in your life you 'don't want to do'. Are you all: "fuck laundry, I hates it precious!"?

Although, I suppose we are talking about someone who keeps their pad for two days. Super special bonus hint: people can smell you. Maybe you are nose-dead, but take it from someone who isn't, people can tell that you are growing a bumper bacteria crop in your pants.

Snickerdoodle24

You lost me at "I'll create a timeline."

Belou52579

I'll never eat butterscotch again.

swizzle3

Cycles change drastically from one month to the next. in January i spotted for 5 days. February not at all. If you aren't charting (which i suggest since it takes alot of guess work out of TTC) then i can only tell you to test and see where you are at. 

Good luck. 

catmagick

Honestly? I really can't today. If seeing the results will make you sad then I really don't understand what you want from us. Like we can tell you anything that a pee stick can't?

SpartanChick88

MeatandBandP said:

What everyone else said and you should wait to TTC until you have insurance. Insurance is a must. 

This!!!  Just to give you an idea - my hospital stay, 28 hours of labor and eventual C-Section cost my insurance around $17k.  That's not including what we had to pay out of pocket or pre-natal care.  Having a baby isn't the cheapest nor is the care that said baby requires after birth.  PLEASE wait until your insurance kicks in.

Pookieson

1) Read newbie blog

2) take a HPT

3) if negative, wait for insurance before you continue TTC

You have no other options.  The newbie blog will tell you all you need to know regarding TTC.  An HPT will tell you if you are pregnant and having some weird bleeding or having a regular period.  Insurance will make sure you get the care you need while pregnant.  Do yourself a favor and don't make your life difficult when it is so easy to not complicate things.    Oh, it can take a perfectly healthy couple 12 months to conceive even without any fertility issues.  You may have a long road and a lot more sticks to pee on.  I suggest you thicken up that skin of yours.

lilly1096

Read the whole thing and all I can remember is "butterscotch discharge".

Ew. Just no.

Yasm33na

Sweety... You seriously need to test... My husband and I tried for over a year before our first pregnancy ... And there are ladies who have been trying FAR longer... Just test and get it over with. Every time I got a bfn I'd have a glass of wine and go out for lunch with DH to pick my spirits up. And as the PPs have said... Wait till your insurance kicks in... Imagine having a baby and being thousands of $$ in debt... Not a very good way to start... And damn.... I used to love butterscotch.....