FFFC

brittneyandadam

My sister is autistic and for years, my mom was grasping for anything that would explain why. Of course she jumped on the anti-vaccine bandwagon and I had to explain to her over and over why it was wrong. The attached meme does an amazing job of explaining it. I love drunken, angry scientists ♥

jmolr

I hate when people post pics of food on FB.  Most of the time it looks like cat vomit and I have a hard time understanding why someone is bragging that this is food they cooked.

Finally914

We have tried for 4 years, had 3 failed IVF attempts, sold our house and most of our furniture to downsize and move -- just to cover all those medical bills. And still, 3 miscarriages.. But we are pregnant now. I know what it feels like to struggle with others around you getting pregnant easily. But I really believe that EVERY pregnancy is a miracle and you can't doubt the timing in someone else's story.

Trust me, I understand that it could be easy to focus on jealously of others -- but it will only hurt you and them.

The day we found out our last pregnancy was over )@10.5 weeks, no heartbeat despite hearing it twice @6 & 8 weeks -- with Trisomy 14 diagnosis -- We were told we had to go in for surgery (D & C) to remove our little girl the very next day, because it was a "missed miscarriage" where my body wasn't recognizing the loss and wasn't miscarrying or bleeding on my own.
THE VERY NEXT DAY after out surgery, my twin brother's wife went into labor with our neice. While I was actively miscarrying/cramping/bleeding, we were in labor and delivery in support of them for 10.5 hours. Ironic since our little girl was 10.5 weeks when we found out we had lost her.
To this day, my twin brother and his wife are ao grateful we were there for them that day. They understand labor & delivery and watching someone deliver after your 3rd loss was yesterday... Well, understood it as much as they could.

Needless to say, they (my twin brother and his wife) are some of the most excited about our pregnancy now. What goes around comes around. Every pregnancy is at the right time. They got pregnant right away in a few months and it's taken us 4 years, 3 surgeries, and selling most belongings to afford fertility. But nonetheless, you can't compare journeys. Both of ours are what they are. My husband and I are forever changed due to the struggles, stronger now than ever. Good news since we are taking on parenthood together.

LovelyLou23

@Finally914 - Thank you for sharing your story. You are a strong woman to stand by your family while experiencing such heartache. But you are also, as you said, forever changed. 

I truly believe that comparison is a thief of joy, in any situation, not just pregnancy and the issues discussed today. And in order to truly feel contentment in our journeys, we have to get to that place where we are genuinely happy for other people. At least this is what I've been learning a lot lately. (not necessarily in regard to pregnancy/kids, but more in money/belongings/status)

TinkL0ver

I did a little dance when I found out that my cousin is infertile after having her daughter. 
A little back story so not everyone flames me. We are two weeks apart in age and 16 when she got pregnant. Her and her family are the embarrassment of my family with the dad having two families (wife+2 or more kids) at the same time, selective child abuse, overall white trash jerry springer type family. I was hoping that having a child would make her grow up a bit because she was heavily into drugs and alcohol before conceiving but it hasn't. Her and the baby dad got married as soon as she turned 18 and were divorced less than a year later and she continues to use her daughter as punishment for him finding out shes BSC and will take her as often as she can and drop her off with my other cousin just so her ex can't have her, while she goes and works as a drug mule. It came out last year that she's infertile due to an untreated STD and I honestly could breathe a little easier that no other child will suffer having her manipulate their life. 

courtney4425

TinkL0ver said:

I did a little dance when I found out that my cousin is infertile after having her daughter. 
A little back story so not everyone flames me. We are two weeks apart in age and 16 when she got pregnant. Her and her family are the embarrassment of my family with the dad having two families (wife+2 or more kids) at the same time, selective child abuse, overall white trash jerry springer type family. I was hoping that having a child would make her grow up a bit because she was heavily into drugs and alcohol before conceiving but it hasn't. Her and the baby dad got married as soon as she turned 18 and were divorced less than a year later and she continues to use her daughter as punishment for him finding out shes BSC and will take her as often as she can and drop her off with my other cousin just so her ex can't have her, while she goes and works as a drug mule. It came out last year that she's infertile due to an untreated STD and I honestly could breathe a little easier that no other child will suffer having her manipulate their life. 

I have a cousin who is very similar, however she is a fertile myrtle and needs to have her tubes tied....

bumpuser10199668

@salsa_wifey and @bear1215 what about the retarded part of the post? No one ever explained that part to me.  Also, taking away your love tit doesn't mean it didn't happen.

I found a gif to represent the deleted post that I feel best represents the essence of what I imagine it said:

bear1215

Who cares if I unliked her post, there was nothing there anymore. I don't see why people get so uptight about the littlest shit on the Internet.

eta: uptight over me unliking her non existence post not over using the word retarded.

bumpuser10199668

Because you're ignoring the question ? Also, who is uptight ? You seem touchy ...

bear1215

carmstr4 said:

Because you're ignoring the question ? Also, who is uptight ? You seem touchy ...

What question?

bumpuser10199668

carmstr4 said:

@salsa_wifey and @bear1215 what about the retarded part of the post? No one ever explained that part to me.  Also, taking away your love tit doesn't mean it didn't happen.

I found a gif to represent the deleted post that I feel best represents the essence of what I imagine it said:

The one with the question mark right after your name

bear1215

she said she uses the word retarded and not anyway to make fun of mentally ill/handicapped people but towards really stupid things.

I've used that word before and not thinking about it ... but she seemed as if it was no big deal that bit offends others

bumpuser10199668

bear1215 said:

she said she uses the word retarded and not anyway to make fun of mentally ill/handicapped people but towards really stupid things.

I've used that word before and not thinking about it ... but she seemed as if it was no big deal that bit offends others

Also, mentally ill isn't even remotely the same as mentally retarded.

bear1215

Oops didn't mean ill...I know the difference

salsa_wifey

Yeah, I chickened out. The post was looking for a reason to flame and I was coming up with whatever I could but I knew it was WAY over the top so I deleted it. At least the flame part was still accomplished with our without leaving the post up. Ok, I shouldn't joke.

I apologize for my rude and insensitive post and for offending anyone. Obviously I knew it was horrible, that's why I deleted it. There is no excuse for posting it in the first place but it guess I saw it as a challenge and succeeded in booting myself out of the group. Am I blacklisted?

bumpuser10199668

salsa_wifey said:

Yeah, I chickened out. The post was looking for a reason to flame and I was coming up with whatever I could but I knew it was WAY over the top so I deleted it. At least the flame part was still accomplished with our without leaving the post up. Ok, I shouldn't joke.

I apologize for my rude and insensitive post and for offending anyone. Obviously I knew it was horrible, that's why I deleted it. There is no excuse for posting it in the first place but it guess I saw it as a challenge and succeeded in booting myself out of the group. Am I blacklisted?

You must first participate in an online training course that you can find here: https://www.r-word.org/

Also, all jokes aside, that word is always reason for flaming, which you already knew.  

 I can't speak for everyone, and clearly my opinion is irrelevant, but for what it is worth, I always will respect someone for having the balls to apologize and admit they were wrong.  Real apologies, that is.  Looks to me like the flaming was kept to the right person in your absence.  

Your balls are large, and for that: RESPECT. That can be your new R-word.

salsa_wifey

I do actually mean it and I honestly didn't mean what was said either. I was trying to play along and I guess the idiot side of me clicked the stupid button.

I don't blame you for saying something. It was horrible for me to say and I really am sorry.