FFFC

tiffletons518

nykkolaughs said:

I'm buying a tankini top because I feel guilty being a skinny mom.

Seriously?

CindyRelluh

tiffletons518 said:

nykkolaughs said:

I'm buying a tankini top because I feel guilty being a skinny mom.

Seriously?





This is such a bitchy thing to say. Do you even understand how this could hurt people's feelings? I'm not a skinny mom, but I'm a damn good mom and I am far more humble.

needanustart

nykkolaughs said:

I'm buying a tankini top because I feel guilty being a skinny mom.

Not good enough. You stay in a moo moo until I lose the last 8 pounds or I will shank you at baby swim class.

Just kidding, a little projection on my part

WasNotWas

O goody. Cindy is here to spread good cheer

CindyRelluh

WasNotWas said:

O goody. Cindy is here to spread good cheer

Do you even know where she starts and you begin? Believe me, there are plenty of us who she offends.

Oh and ho ho ho.

tiffletons518

@Cl8badB just said it nicer than I had planned to.

ilovemarfa

nykkolaughs said:

I'm buying a tankini top because I feel guilty being a skinny mom.

The only thing I think of when I see a mom with a bikini on is how the hell do they not have stretch marks? My stomach looks like I was mauled by a tiger. I didn't have stretch marks when I was pregnant with my 2 boys but right after delivery they showed up.

WasNotWas

CindyRelluh said:

WasNotWas said:

O goody. Cindy is here to spread good cheer

Do you even know where she starts and you begin? Believe me, there are plenty of us who she offends.

Oh and ho ho ho.

It's fine to be offended but you come with such a rain cloud on this board. It didn't used to be that way...

CindyRelluh

It's 70 and sunny here.

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Lizzybizzy80

I feel guilty over my chubby belly but wouldn't expect a skinnier mom to cover up.

kaleyandjason

nykkolaughs said:

I'm buying a tankini top because I feel guilty being a skinny mom.

This actually makes me really sad. Do you even understand how conceited it makes you sound? Us fat moms don't need your pity by hiding your pretty little body. I'm proud of every extra lump and bump I have yet to get rid of from carrying a baby for 9 months. I don't need you to hide by buying a tankini because you are sooo in shape.

kaleyandjason

nykkolaughs said:

I'm buying a tankini top because I feel guilty being a skinny mom.

This actually makes me really sad. Do you even understand how conceited it makes you sound? Us fat moms don't need your pity by hiding your pretty little body. I'm proud of every extra lump and bump I have yet to get rid of from carrying a baby for 9 months. I don't need you to hide by buying a tankini because you are sooo in shape.

tiffletons518

nykkolaughs said:

I think by saying that youre covering up your skinny mom body bc you feel guilty implies that non-skinny moms feel bad or jealous of your skinny body so youre doing them a favor by covering up.

The reason I want to cover up is so if I can help it, moms don't feel that way. My best friend is pregnant and keeps comparing herself to me and the last thing I want is for her to feel bad. We are too hard on ourselves as it is.

You're right. That's super humble. Because my saggy boobs and three times a mommy gut totes is jealous of you in a bikini. Piss right off.

TheTamedShrew

nykkolaughs said:

I'm buying a tankini top because I feel guilty being a skinny mom.

Au contraire. When I see a skinny mom I am even more motivated to lose the last few pounds. Regardless, why would you ever dress to please other people? I do not understand this. You can't help what body type you have, and even if you had to work hard for it, then that's even more reason to be proud of your body (not to mention we should all be proud of our bodies for the miracle of life that they created). Some women are just thinner by nature. Besides, you're not going to look less skinny in a tankini vs a bikini. Might as well stay in your house all summer. :P

CamillaPT

@cindyrelluh You can come join my side. They call me Eeyore.

SLaBM2B

WasNotWas said:

O goody. Cindy is here to spread good cheer

Do you even know where she starts and you begin? Believe me, there are plenty of us who she offends. Oh and ho ho ho.

It's fine to be offended but you come with such a rain cloud on this board. It didn't used to be that way...

I'm sorry Was, you know I love you girl, but Cindy has every right to think what she thinks.  I think Nykkol's post was tacky at best. Come the hell on... "I feel guilty being a skinny mom"? What planet are you from, woman? Who even THINKS that way other than a person with an inflated sense of self worth whom assumes that people GAF if she's a skinny mom or not.

And Cindy, I love you. You come spread that sexy cheer of yours all you want.

momofcatan

@nykkolaughs I know where you are coming from. I've been the recipient of many looks and comments. People try to be nice about it, but you know that your presence makes them feel bad about themselves. I guess no one here feels that way around skinny moms, and more power to you, but I know there are women who do.

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chelsmcl

I wear a bikini, I worked hard to get my body and I hope people won't judge me for it the same way I won't judge other women for their weight or swimsuit choice

momofcatan

@34blondie A couple of times my mom has make a comment about someone gaining a lot of weight (to me, not to the person) and she will follow up with "I hope everything is ok with her health, I wonder if she is on steroids".

CindyRelluh

@libbyluru my legs? Keep our personal lives personal, Libbie.

Monkeybutt80

nykkolaughs said:

I'm buying a tankini top because I feel guilty being a skinny mom.

Cricket81

I've spent so little time in front of a mirror since LO was born that I just discovered a whole set of side stretch marks today that i didn't even know I had... Can we stop talking about bathing suits while there's still 2 feet of snow outside?

No longer the best

My confession - I think since LO is napping decent and consistently being a SAHM of ONE is easier (for ME) than working.  (I definitely thought the reverse for the first few months!) 

I'm still on Mat leave here in Canada and that could change once I actually start working but right now I am dreading getting everything done when I go back!! 

ilovemarfa

Large and in charge!!!!

TheTamedShrew

No longer the best said:

My confession - I think since LO is napping decent and consistently being a SAHM of ONE is easier (for ME) than working.  (I definitely thought the reverse for the first few months!)

All these words. E just took a 2.5 hour nap. I drank coffee, cleaned the kitchen, read a magazine, worked out, watched some tv, and played on my phone. Life is rough here.

RissNRuss

ilovemarfa said:

Large and in charge!!!!

Not large, you look great!

ilovemarfa

RissNRuss said:

ilovemarfa said:

Large and in charge!!!!

Not large, you look great!


Thank you but believe me, I'm overweight. I don't care though. You can't see my cellulite and I'm doing my best to suck in my rolls.

RissNRuss

I have a bikini and tankini. I am a small framed lady with insane metabolism. Do I flaunt my body in a bikini to make other people feel bad about themselves? No. So why would I feel guilty wearing the type of suit that flatters my body type because someone else MIGHT feel bad about themselves? That's nuts.

I understand there are women who have had weight challenges, or do have them now. I have had trouble with my stepfather's perception of my weight and others assuming I have an eating disorder. I will not let that effect MY body image. Even moreso now that I have a daughter, I want her to be and FEEL healthy. If that means neither of us are toothpick Barbie women, but have some of our heritage based curves, we will OWN IT.

And it's super conceited to have admitted that you are so thin you won't flaunt it. Own your body, and be happy with it. Don't back-handed weight /shape shame other people with YOUR perceptions of them.

No longer the best

TheTamedShrew said:

My confession - I think since LO is napping decent and consistently being a SAHM of ONE is easier (for ME) than working.  (I definitely thought the reverse for the first few months!)

All these words. E just took a 2.5 hour nap. I drank coffee, cleaned the kitchen, read a magazine, worked out, watched some tv, and played on my phone. Life is rough here.

Yes I am sooo lazy during his morning nap I read, have a coffee, workout, shower, feel guilty.  Then usually during his second nap I do dishes, prep dinner, vacuum/clean.  After I have lunch while bumping.  I do feel guilty because I let DH think it is a bit harder than it is. 

CindyRelluh

Thought this would be appropriate for all the h8rz:

SLaBM2B

I just can't get it up for people who are upset that they are skinny.  Those people making snarky comments to you are just jealous.  Enjoy being thin... the other side of the spectrum is awful. Trust me. I've been on both sides. I'd take thin over fat any day of the year.

tiffletons518

NurseMommy13 said:

I'm buying a tankini top because I feel guilty being a skinny mom.

I've thought this too. ETA: and also, I don't like the comments. I've been skinny my entire life. Like, most people think anorexic skinny. I've gotten all the comments. Then the 'you're finally gaining weight' comments started when I got pregnant. Now I'm back to pre-preg size and the 'there's no way you had a baby' comments are there. I'm 5'7" and about 106-108lbs. People don't think before they speak and can be hurtful, no matter what size you are. And I just like to avoid those comments cause I'm sick of them! My parents have a pool and I did buy a bikini for there. If and when I decide to take M to swim lessons, I will probably buy a one piece or tankini.

But, the difference is... you aren't wearing a bikini because people are idiots. When I got small after both of my girls and people would see me eating a salad, I'd get the "like you need to diet.. just eat a cheeseburger" remarks. I was that small BECAUSE of the way I ate and because I busted my ass. I totally get what you're saying and people are stupid. But, she was saying she didn't want to wear one not because she didn't feel like listening to comments made to her.. but because she didn't want anyone else to feel badly about themselves. It sounds conceited.

needanustart

BTW when I lost all the weight after DS1 I definitely wore a bikini to the beach. I worked damn hard and had a c-section and wasn't going to hide for anyone. That being said if anyone complimented me or said something I made sure to say, "It wasn't easy!" so people knew I wasn't one of you freak "good metabolism" people I'm not naturally thin by a long shot but I can get athletic looking if I try really hard!

Also now when I see moms with itty bitty babies I frequently compliment them on looking great before I even say anything about their cute babies. I've been there and it's nice to try and remember what that feels like for people to say you're doing well post baby no matter what your shape. It meant so much to me when a fellow mom would say something about looking good so I always try and pay that forward. 

needanustart

Mrsveinotte said:

Never thought of this being an FFFC until I read the UO thread. 

I have a neck tattoo, and I am not a meth user.  

Jugular or nape? Jugular means you definitely did meth, you just may not know it.

chelsmcl

I was 1 of 4 women in my mommy & me swim class wearing a bikini, I don't think it's inappropriate.

Western Diva

@violet1183 said:

I posted this the other day, but I still use the My Brest Friend every time I nurse.

Me tooooooo! I used it until the day I weaned DS1 when he was 1 year and 3 weeks old...I'll use it all the way to the end with this guy too!

CoffeeBeanFiend91

My FFFC is I made and ate brownies with strawberries on top for breakfast and shared with DD

Since becoming a mother I've finally accepted my body. I don't give a flying fluck how skinny other moms are. I've spent most of my life worry about comparing myself to other girls/women and all it got me was bulimia, a ruined metabolism, and an even worse complex. Trust me most other moms don't give a shit what you look like either. Too busy with other things.

tttwalters

if we are still going on about weight..... I secretly enjoy when I get on the treadmill next to someone that is super tiny and they are walking. Then I bust out running 6 miles at 6.5 mph and my ego grows just a little more.