FFFC

BbyCarter13

Ok so it's a few mins early for me but I'll forget by morning.

My FFFC: I don't like that kids are so into technology today. I want Ellie to learn how to interact with people on a face to face basis. There was a kid at work today that could barely communicate with an adult properly (he was 9-10). He could text and talk on the phone fine but he could barely talk to me. It's not that he was shy, he just couldn't communicate to someone right in front of him. Not everything should be technology based for kids. I can see where it can be useful but they also need to learn to play without technology.

benny713

Sometimes after meals, I hold DD over the kitchen trash can and brush the food off of her.

HelgaFunk

benny713 said:

Sometimes after meals, I hold DD over the kitchen trash can and brush the food off of her.

Sometimes after meals, I hold DD over the dog and brush the food off of her.

needanustart

Off the technology theme, I think having a smart phone has made me a worse mom. I didn't have one until G was 2 and I know I was paying attention to him way more and not always checking my phone. I know I don't look at and interact with Lo as much as I did on my days home with G because of it. It's bad. I really need to put this fvcker down once in a while.

dmlk413

violet1183 said:

I posted this the other day, but I still use the My Brest Friend every time I nurse.
Also, I haven't seriously considered swim lessons for LO because I'm not ready to put this pasty, chubby body in a bathing suit yet (me, not LO. His pasty, chubby legs are adorable.)

I still use the boppy every time I nurse. Also, no way in hell I'm putting my fat a** in a bathing suit anytime soon. LO will have to wait for swim lessons.

Cricket81

Another faithful boppy user!

tiffletons518

GiggleJiggle said:

This is all I got right now..... I rarely remember to floss.

I don't floss. Not because I don't remember. Because I don't like doing it. I hate the way it feels. My dentist has stopped lecturing me about it.

BC&LM

As an adult, I have developed a sort of phone phobia.  I really hate talking to people I do not know much on the phone.  As a teacher, I have to call parents from time to time about grades and behavior.  Most of the time, as the phone is ringing, I am thinking, "Please go to voicemail; please go to voicemail." And when it does go to voicemail, I am like, "Score!" That way I can convey the message without having to speak to someone I don't know, and they can call me back if they want more information.

I wish when parents gave contact information that they were required to give a working email address.  I have several parents I maintain email contact with, and it is so much easier.  I don't have to worry about playing phone tag, sounding stupid on the phone, etc.

BC&LM

Oh, and confession #2: I still wear my maternity dress pants. All. the. time.

BC&LM

calikat80 said:

Off the technology theme, I think having a smart phone has made me a worse mom. I didn't have one until G was 2 and I know I was paying attention to him way more and not always checking my phone. I know I don't look at and interact with Lo as much as I did on my days home with G because of it. It's bad. I really need to put this fvcker down once in a while.

I totally agree. I get a little bored sometimes when LO is just playing with his toys and find myself playing with my phone way too much.

HeartLikeMine3

Last night LO was up all night not like hysterically crying but just whining. I fed him, changed and rocked him multiple times. DH and I were both awake for 3 hours taking turns. So for the first time ever I just turned the monitor's sound off and went to sleep. I feel kinda guilty but he was fine and still loves me this morning.

JessicaKS

@secretsauce correct me if I'm wrong:

@cl8badb - I think her sons actual name rhymes with a common type of sauce. I think that lots of us do things to disguise our kids names on the Internet for privacy.

WasNotWas

@secretsauce's LOs name is schmayonaise?

WasNotWas

I have dreams of being a room mom and a volunteer crossing guard when the boys get in school...what is powerball up to now?

momofcatan

HeartLikeMine3 said:

Last night LO was up all night not like hysterically crying but just whining. I fed him, changed and rocked him multiple times. DH and I were both awake for 3 hours taking turns. So for the first time ever I just turned the monitor's sound off and went to sleep. I feel kinda guilty but he was fine and still loves me this morning.

I guess my confession is I always wait for crying. Usually at least a minute of crying before I get out of bed.

numbersgirl08

Two of the reasons I'm sad about weaning: washing bottles (I hate dishes) and losing my guaranteed iPhone time several times a day.

numbersgirl08

kari5186 said:

We have been house hunting for a month and think we might have found THE house. I won't pull the trigger and make an offer since it was literally the 5th house we saw. But I cried the other night when I couldn't find it online and thought it had been sold (it's still for sale).

Go ahead and make an offer! If you love it then it doesn't matter how many you see. If you have other reservations then I guess hold off but if you think it's THE house go for it!

(says the person who bought their last house when we weren't even looking and it was def the only house we considered then - and I cried when we moved even though we still own it, because I love it so much!)

needanustart

kari5186 said:

We have been house hunting for a month and think we might have found THE house. I won't pull the trigger and make an offer since it was literally the 5th house we saw. But I cried the other night when I couldn't find it online and thought it had been sold (it's still for sale).

We bought the first house we looked at this time! We looked at 8 after in the same day and I was like, nope, that's the one! When you know you know.

Cricket81

I told my mom, MIL, and DH not to come to lo's hospital appointment today. Not because I'm not nervous, but because I don't want to have to worry about them too. Such high maintenance!

DH is usually fine, but he still thinks he's getting over his man cold.

peachnectarine

When I told my husband that I was doing the Secret Santa exchange back in December, he thought I was crazy. He said I was either going to get a naked old man picture or nothing. Luckily, my Secret Santa proved him wrong

WasNotWas

I told my husband that @heartlikemine3 bought the FP bandstand for us because I didn't want to admit to buying another toy for Ty. He didn't really think anything of it since we have done the exchanges and some of the other bumpies and I have exchanged prezzies. Luckily it is a hit!

Lizzybizzy80

I floss regularly starting a few nights before a dentist appointment. I don't think I've fooled the hygienist.

musicalsilver

Daycare sends home LO's crib sheet every day.  I inspect it for any obvious signs of gross, and then just send it right back.  Do they seriously think I do laundry every day?

Monkeybutt80

I am getting together with some friends tonight.  I haven't seen one of them in awhile and I know she has recently lost all her weight from her two kids (3 yrs and 1.5 yr) doing everything right - working out before her kids wake up and eating healthy.  I still have like 13 lbs of my pregnancy weight on me.  and on a 5'4" frame, it's a lot.  I know she will want to give me advice on losing weight and I know it is coming from a good place and I probably could use that advice BUT I just don't want to hear it.  I should be excited about getting together with my friends, but I am dreading it instead. 

AND I HAVE NOTHING TO WEAR. 

Lizzybizzy80

I've started referring to J13 as "the board" or "an internet board" when talking to people not on the bump. It is more anonymous and sounds somewhat official: Board of Trustees, Board of Regents, governing board, the bump J13 message board.

Lizzybizzy80

@WorkinIt that is too funny, I can just picture the kids. I try to be vague about flossing, "not as much as I should". Apparently she hears that a lot.

PinkPuffyHeart2

@34blondie I haven't been through that but I have a fear of something similarish- since at almost 9mo pp it still hurts to have sex, I'm pretty sure something is wrong "down there". I chocked it up to being dry from breastfeeding... But, it took me close to 3 months to pee/wipe pain free. Anyway, I hope you get it figured out. I know you have a whole separate issue with your blood clotting, which I am sure makes it 100% scarier!! But just remember it never hurts just to get it checked out. gl lady.

PinkPuffyHeart2

This might get me flamed. I have been keeping lo's crib mattress on her floor because I'm tired and side-lying nursing is easier than holding her to nurse then rocking then putting her in her crib. Putting her in her crib always = multiple wake ups and I just want to roll away and be done. Anyhoooo... Twice now I have found her halfway off the mattress. Once was just her head and I panicked... So I put a rolled up blanket and pillows by the side to block her in. But then last night, thanks to rolling(?) I found her on her belly with her knees on the floor and chest propped up on the bed. She apparent pushed the pillows away... She's not crawling and up until 2 days ago she wasn't rolling so I was hoping this mattress on the floor thing would work, but apparently not. Now I have to figure out another way and its going to suck.

BC&LM

musicalsilver said:

Daycare sends home LO's crib sheet every day.  I inspect it for any obvious signs of gross, and then just send it right back.  Do they seriously think I do laundry every day?

What!? Ours does once a week.  Every day is just crazy unless you have a baby who constantly spits up or leaks from the diaper.

SLaBM2B

benny713 said:

Sometimes after meals, I hold DD over the kitchen trash can and brush the food off of her.

I vacuumed off my son with the hand vac three nights ago. Totally acceptable IMO

SLaBM2B

NailQueen said:

This is kind of an FFFC and I am really excited/nervous about it so I am going to share: Dh and I have decided that I am getting off the pill in a week and will be TTC. I really want to go back to school and don't want any interruptions during school to have another baby (we want our first 2 less than 3 years apart) and after I finish I want to go straight into the working field when the knowledge is fresh in my mind. I am a little nervous about dividing my time and leaving the house but really excited. We planned to have them 2.5 years apart and I would TTC next winter but this plan makes a lot more sense and my schooling would just be pushed off by a year.

This isn't a FFFC.  A FFFC is a confession that is flameful and you aren't supposed to get flamed, but you will anyway.. for instance...

"I do not vax my children"  <------ FFFC

nikel13

BbyCarter13 said:

Ok so it's a few mins early for me but I'll forget by morning. My FFFC: I don't like that kids are so into technology today. I want Ellie to learn how to interact with people on a face to face basis. There was a kid at work today that could barely communicate with an adult properly (he was 9-10). He could text and talk on the phone fine but he could barely talk to me. It's not that he was shy, he just couldn't communicate to someone right in front of him. Not everything should be technology based for kids. I can see where it can be useful but they also need to learn to play without technology.

While I agree whole heartedly that technology is overused for children, it is the only way that Lily has my parents in her life.  They live in another state and FaceTime has been a saving grace.  It allows her to "spend time" with her grandparents even though they cannot physically be there.

nikel13

I want to buy a tankini because I feel flabby.  H says I don't need to cover all of the extra skin (he thinks I look fine), but I still think I want to buy one.

 

EDIT: the words

tiffletons518

This will garner flames.. I put LO on the top of the cart. I have with all 3 of my kids. I will continue to do so until we move him to a convertible seat and I am just carrying him in the store.

nikel13

Lizzybizzy80 said:

I've started referring to J13 as "the board" or "an internet board" when talking to people not on the bump. It is more anonymous and sounds somewhat official: Board of Trustees, Board of Regents, governing board, the bump J13 message board.

I call you all Bumpie moms to my parents and then just say a forum to strangers!

WasNotWas

@BonnieK10 said:

I like it when J14ers post on our board by mistake.  It makes me feel all nostalgic and wise, even if I don't post anything.  I actually think it'd be a good idea for them to intentionally do it with questions because we're BTDT and can say "that happened to me and LO is fine."

I'm always impressed with how their posts are handled. If that's rainbow and butterflies and disingenuousness then I want some more

nikel13

I might have a true FFFC.  I let Lily have a sippy cup at her disposal of water.  It's not for practicing.  She sometimes is just thristy and BM or formula makes her spitty.  Andplusalso, I'm pretty sure she has had almost everythng she's not supposed to eat except honey or fish.  MIL gave her peanut butter frosting, so that no peanut thing went out the window.  We don't give it to her, but she has had it.

BC&LM

BonnieK10 said:

I like it when J14ers post on our board by mistake.  It makes me feel all nostalgic and wise, even if I don't post anything.  I actually think it'd be a good idea for them to intentionally do it with questions because we're BTDT and can say "that happened to me and LO is fine."

I also like how nice our board members are when this happens by mistake. This might get me flamed for mentioning it, but on other boards, I have seen a couple of semi-rude responses when people posted by mistake. (I'm NOT talking about the infertility boards. If someone posts a BFP by mistake on the TTTC board, they deserve their flaming!)

tiffletons518

melOHdy said:

tiffletons518 said:

This will garner flames.. I put LO on the top of the cart. I have with all 3 of my kids. I will continue to do so until we move him to a convertible seat and I am just carrying him in the store.

Yeah this is flameworthy.  Why, knowing the risks and seeing the videos of babies falling, would you continue to do it?  In my opinion there is just no good reason to risk that for a little more cart space. 

I had never even heard that this was a no-no until I was pregnant with this LO. Of the 2 videos I've seen, the parents weren't anywhere near the cart. DD2 figured out how to escape the buckle early on sitting with the cart cover. So, if I was stupid enough to walk away, she could just have easily have stood up and gotten hurt too. And, "A little more cart space"? A car seat takes up a bit more than just "a little bit" of cart space. I am always standing right there with a hand on the cart, and for you that may not be good enough. For me, it is. I highly doubt I'm the only person who has ever shopped with the seat on top, I'm probably just the only one to admit it. 

Lizzybizzy80

I just shifted in my seat in front of my boss and it sounded like I let out a squeaky toot. No amount of reshifting would recreate the squeak. I hate when that happens.

WasNotWas

@nykkolaughs said:

I'm buying a tankini top because I feel guilty being a skinny mom.

You should be proud! FFFC: I judge skinny moms of babies, but I know that's 100% projection on my part. Don't let my insecurity impede your sexy!!