UO

MaybeBabyMama

I'm just gonna come out and say it. And please keep in mind that I am actually a decent person.

I hate it…I mean REALLY, REALLY can't stand it…when women act like being pregnant is a death sentence, or cancer, or a life-long medical diagnosis. Who the heck needs "support" for the nine months you will spend being EXACTLY WHAT YOU WISHED FOR (in most cases). I'm not saying there aren't crappy parts about it, but I promise the world isn't about to stop because you are pregnant. And as a side note, no one will be quite as excited about your pregnancy as you are. Please stop rubbing your belly every second of every day so that everyone around you knows you're pregnant.

I swear I'm not an a-hole, I just really get bothered by women who spend the entire nine months thinking of nothing but themselves and who expect for everyone to be just as excited as they are.

kimberlymacrae

@golfbride44:   So you come home to dirty bottles, spit up on the floor, dirty dishes (from her and your baby), the TP being unstocked, burp rags all over the house, toys ALL OVER THE PLACE, dirty counter tops, crumbs all over the floor... right... right...

kimberlymacrae

@golfbride44: You may not "pay her to clean", she probably doesn't bleach your toilets and wash your undies. But trust me. There is a visible difference when you leave the house in the morning when you have an in-home and when you leave the house in the morning and do daycare. Messes are still there, dishwasher is still full, toys are still about, etc. I am pretty sure your house is slightly more tidy when you come home than when you leave. Moral of the story: don't side eye other moms unless your know their lyfe.

golfbride44

kimberlymacrae said:

@golfbride44: You may not "pay her to clean", she probably doesn't bleach your toilets and wash your undies. But trust me. There is a visible difference when you leave the house in the morning when you have an in-home and when you leave the house in the morning and do daycare. Messes are still there, dishwasher is still full, toys are still about, etc. I am pretty sure your house is slightly more tidy when you come home than when you leave. Moral of the story: don't side eye other moms unless your know their lyfe.

Apologies for the offense.

Runner313

sragreen said:

golfbride44 said:

My UO is giving people the side eye that use cleaning services.  I don't see what the big deal is to clean your house on your own.  It's not that bad. 

I LOVE my cleaning lady. She comes every 2 weeks and only does the big stuff. Maybe I am lazy, but she can do more in 2 hours than I can get done in 2 weeks. I still do general tidying and things like dishes, laundry, and vacuuming, but dusting....no one wants to dust.

^This. Can I clean my own house? Yes. I often enjoy it sometimes (slightly OCD here), but having a cleaning lady come in and do a thorough deep clean is well worth the money! I'd rather save my money to pay a cleaning lady than go out to a bunch of fancy dinners. 

jesslinnn

I'm a SAHM and I'd love to have a cleaning lady. Just because I really fucking hate cleaning. 

SusieBW

DH doesn't trust cleaning companies, so we can't have one.  It would improve my quality of life and DH and I would have a better relationship overall if I could just have someone come every couple of weeks to do the cleaning that DH and I never seem to get to (washing floors, dusting, windows), but he will not allow it because he doesn't trust anyone, no matter how many referrals and everything they might some with. 

I have no problem getting to the day-to-day cleaning up (dishes, vacuuming, tidying up, laundry etc.), but there often just don't seem to be enough hours in a day to ge tto EVERYTHING I'd like to be able to get to.  Plus, I really prefer going out and having fun to cleaning, so maybe that's the real reason there isn't enough time . . .

AggieBeth06

kimberlymacrae said:

@SusieBW & @DianaVB & @C_mo

Here is a little information I found about laws regulating "raw milk consumption".

"In 1987, the FDA mandated pasteurization of all milk and milk products for human consumption, effectively banning the shipment of raw milk in interstate commerce with the exception of cheese made from raw milk, provided the cheese has been aged a minimum of 60 days and is clearly labeled as unpasteurized."

It also has state-by-state laws. https://www.realrawmilkfacts.com/raw-milk-regulations

*The website is slightly biased but it is the "easiest to use/read"... just an FYI.

I also eye roll at the raw milk phenomenon locally. Pasteurization was a MAJOR improvement to society.

May not be a UO but, still.

AlisonPDX

I have a cleaning lady come once every two weeks, and I don't even have kids yet. She doesn't replace the cleaning I do, she does the things that would never get done if it was just me. I prefer doing a lot of things over being the one to personally scrub our walls. 

Anyway, my UO is that I hate Facebook. It's such an obnoxious time suck, and I hate that it makes me think I care about the mundane trivialities of people's lives who I haven't seen in ten years. Sometimes I fantasize about closing all my social media accounts and living off the grid. 

Eastie156

golfbride44 said:

My UO is giving people the side eye that use cleaning services.  I don't see what the big deal is to clean your house on your own.  It's not that bad. 

I use one every.single.week. I have zero time to clean our house between work, an almost 17 month old and graduate school. But even when I was laid off and off from school for the semester, I still kept her. You ever try to clean with a toddler in tow? It ain't easy.

KingLED

AlisonPDX said:

I have a cleaning lady come once every two weeks, and I don't even have kids yet. She doesn't replace the cleaning I do, she does the things that would never get done if it was just me. I prefer doing a lot of things over being the one to personally scrub our walls. 

Anyway, my UO is that I hate Facebook. It's such an obnoxious time suck, and I hate that it makes me think I care about the mundane trivialities of people's lives who I haven't seen in ten years. Sometimes I fantasize about closing all my social media accounts and living off the grid. 

If you hate FB stop using it.  Pretty simple.

Eastie156

MaybeBabyMama said:

I'm just gonna come out and say it. And please keep in mind that I am actually a decent person.

I hate it…I mean REALLY, REALLY can't stand it…when women act like being pregnant is a death sentence, or cancer, or a life-long medical diagnosis. Who the heck needs "support" for the nine months you will spend being EXACTLY WHAT YOU WISHED FOR (in most cases). I'm not saying there aren't crappy parts about it, but I promise the world isn't about to stop because you are pregnant. And as a side note, no one will be quite as excited about your pregnancy as you are. Please stop rubbing your belly every second of every day so that everyone around you knows you're pregnant.

I swear I'm not an a-hole, I just really get bothered by women who spend the entire nine months thinking of nothing but themselves and who expect for everyone to be just as excited as they are.

I'm not going to flame you, because this isn't FFFC, but I used to be of this mindset, too. Turns out, being pg isn't all p&r. Lot's of women think they are going to love it, then don't. I personally know quite a few women who hate being pg. But does that stop them from having kids? Nope.

MrMrsandBaby

ADH0906 said:

I think being on two BMBs is odd.

But I have two BMB's so...why?

megaroo64

natsan08 said:

golfbride44 said:

My UO is giving people the side eye that use cleaning services.  I don't see what the big deal is to clean your house on your own.  It's not that bad. 

I LOVE my cleaning lady.  Time = Money and since I don't stay at home it's a great way for me to stimulate the economy (paying my cleaning lady) AND make sure that the finite resource that is my time gets used in the best way possible (spending time with my kid and husband).  You can side eye it all you want but I'll just smile and wave back from my clean house and my happy kid.

I love my cleaning lady too!  My H and I both work, and it helps us really enjoy our time at home... and has saved us both from a lot of petty arguments.  I don't think I would ever give that service up. 

caranichole

EllyD14 said:

golfbride44 said:

Nope, she doesn't do cleaning.  

You're going to tell me your in-home nanny doesn't pick up after herself or your kid?  Bullshit.

Yikes... My nanny didn't clean.. so we fired her.

meggiev123

dorothyzbornak97 said:

This is an early FFFC, but I'm jealous of you gals with cleaning ladies. I would love to have one, but I'd end up defeating the purpose and cleaning before she came because I'm embarrassed about how junky our house gets sometimes. 

I felt that way in the beginning too, but it's amazing how quickly you get over it! My cleaning lady organizes my closet, my cabinets and in general makes me feel like I've got my shit together, even when I clearly don't! So worth the money.

KingLED

Nicb13 said:

MrMrsandBaby said:

ADH0906 said:

I think being on two BMBs is odd.

But I have two BMB's so...why?

So do I. I like DS's month board.

Pretty sure she means if you're due early Oct so you are on Sept14 and Oct14 for the same pregnancy.

MrMrsandBaby

EllyD14 said:

Nicb13 said:

MrMrsandBaby said:

ADH0906 said:

I think being on two BMBs is odd.

But I have two BMB's so...why?

So do I. I like DS's month board.

Pretty sure she means if you're due early Oct so you are on Sept14 and Oct14 for the same pregnancy.

Ok, so that makes sense...I concur.

ADH0906

EllyD14 said:

Nicb13 said:

MrMrsandBaby said:

ADH0906 said:

I think being on two BMBs is odd.

But I have two BMB's so...why?

So do I. I like DS's month board.



Pretty sure she means if you're due early Oct so you are on Sept14 and Oct14 for the same pregnancy.


Sorry, should have specified. I meant when you're due Sept 30th so you do September AND October.

caranichole

Nicb13 said:

EllyD14 said:

Nicb13 said:

MrMrsandBaby said:

ADH0906 said:

I think being on two BMBs is odd.

But I have two BMB's so...why?

So do I. I like DS's month board.

Pretty sure she means if you're due early Oct so you are on Sept14 and Oct14 for the same pregnancy.

Well why the hell would someone do that?!

wow! I personally don't have the energy for more than one board. This board is a lot to keep up with by itself. I already gave up on looking at 1st trimester board in addition to this one. lol 

KingLED

Nicb13 said:

EllyD14 said:

Nicb13 said:

MrMrsandBaby said:

ADH0906 said:

I think being on two BMBs is odd.

But I have two BMB's so...why?

So do I. I like DS's month board.

Pretty sure she means if you're due early Oct so you are on Sept14 and Oct14 for the same pregnancy.

Well why the hell would someone do that?!

Attention?  No idea.  I've tried to ask people that have done it, but I never get a straight answer.  I will say that I do understand lurking on two boards until you figure out where you really belong, though.  That is different than the people that just stay on both boards because they don't want to.

SusieBW

Nicb13 said:

AlisonPDX said:

I have a cleaning lady come once every two weeks, and I don't even have kids yet. She doesn't replace the cleaning I do, she does the things that would never get done if it was just me. I prefer doing a lot of things over being the one to personally scrub our walls. 

Anyway, my UO is that I hate Facebook. It's such an obnoxious time suck, and I hate that it makes me think I care about the mundane trivialities of people's lives who I haven't seen in ten years. Sometimes I fantasize about closing all my social media accounts and living off the grid. 

I personally don't understand why people complain about FB or other social media but continue to use it. Why fantasize about closing your accounts when you can ACTUALLY close them?

Also, I think it sounds incredibly stuck up to say that social media makes you "think you care about the mundane trivialities of people's lives". That just sounds really bad IMO. If people don't like the shit I post on FB or Instagram then ditch my ass. Easy peasy.   

ITA!  DH complains about FB all the time, but I see him using it daily and he's forever reading me things that people I've never even heard of are posting.  I don't get it at all.  I'm on FB.  Sure, there are a few friends that post foolish things that I don't care about, but I scroll on by.  If they continually post exclusively bullshit, they get defriended.  If I get a request from someone I haven't seen or thought about in 10 years, and I just don't care about, I hit ignore.  Remove the reasons that you hate FB, or close your account, but for the love of God don't complain about something that you continually choose to use.

SusieBW

Nicb13 said:

EllyD14 said:

Nicb13 said:

MrMrsandBaby said:

ADH0906 said:

I think being on two BMBs is odd.

But I have two BMB's so...why?

So do I. I like DS's month board.

Pretty sure she means if you're due early Oct so you are on Sept14 and Oct14 for the same pregnancy.

Well why the hell would someone do that?!

I've been posting here and lurking on September (I just found out yesterday that I'm due September 29, I was expecting it to be Oct 1), but I don't think I've ever posted there.  Honestly, I sometimes lurk on every single BMB between now and when I'm due.  It's like a reminder of all the things that are coming in the next few months.  Maybe "lurk" isn't the right word for any of this.  Maybe it's more like stopping in once in a while to see what people are talking about.  Lurking makes it sound more like a regular thing, and for me at least, it's not.

AlisonPDX

Nicb13 said:

AlisonPDX said:

I have a cleaning lady come once every two weeks, and I don't even have kids yet. She doesn't replace the cleaning I do, she does the things that would never get done if it was just me. I prefer doing a lot of things over being the one to personally scrub our walls. 

Anyway, my UO is that I hate Facebook. It's such an obnoxious time suck, and I hate that it makes me think I care about the mundane trivialities of people's lives who I haven't seen in ten years. Sometimes I fantasize about closing all my social media accounts and living off the grid. 

I personally don't understand why people complain about FB or other social media but continue to use it. Why fantasize about closing your accounts when you can ACTUALLY close them?

Also, I think it sounds incredibly stuck up to say that social media makes you "think you care about the mundane trivialities of people's lives". That just sounds really bad IMO. If people don't like the shit I post on FB or Instagram then ditch my ass. Easy peasy.   

You're right, that does sound bad. I was just being dramatic. What I really mean is that I hate that I end up on there for hours looking at people's profiles and then get the false idea that I know what's going on with them because of what little pieces of their life they share online and then don't feel the need to reach out to them in person. Which is my problem that I don't call them but I think it's a realistic effect of social media for a lot of people. But then I get nervous if I delete it I would have no idea what's going on because, in reality, would I call them even if FB didn't exist? Would I even think about them? I try not to be the kind of person who complains about it too much in real life but it is something I think about. I guess it's easy to idealize times before modern means of communication, though. 

MaybeBabyMama

Eastie156 said:

MaybeBabyMama said:

I'm just gonna come out and say it. And please keep in mind that I am actually a decent person.

I hate it…I mean REALLY, REALLY can't stand it…when women act like being pregnant is a death sentence, or cancer, or a life-long medical diagnosis. Who the heck needs "support" for the nine months you will spend being EXACTLY WHAT YOU WISHED FOR (in most cases). I'm not saying there aren't crappy parts about it, but I promise the world isn't about to stop because you are pregnant. And as a side note, no one will be quite as excited about your pregnancy as you are. Please stop rubbing your belly every second of every day so that everyone around you knows you're pregnant.

I swear I'm not an a-hole, I just really get bothered by women who spend the entire nine months thinking of nothing but themselves and who expect for everyone to be just as excited as they are.

I'm not going to flame you, because this isn't FFFC, but I used to be of this mindset, too. Turns out, being pg isn't all p&r. Lot's of women think they are going to love it, then don't. I personally know quite a few women who hate being pg. But does that stop them from having kids? Nope.

Still…its temporary. And I'll refer back to the part of my post you highlighted. Being pregnant is NOTHING like cancer or a life-long medical diagnosis.

kbsatre

jcsumm0 said:

theresat858 said:

golfbride44 said:

My UO is giving people the side eye that use cleaning services.  I don't see what the big deal is to clean your house on your own.  It's not that bad. 

Hahahaha...maybe your toddler isn't a tornado yet...but I'm not sure when I could clean my house without DD immediately making more of a mess than I just cleaned. Her hour long naps don't really cut it.  It works much better for someone to clean when none of us are home.

I would LOVE to have someone clean my house.  Yes, I am capable of it, but I hate it, I'm terrible about keeping up with it, and I can think of about a thousand things I could do with my time that would be more productive and fun.

I don't think I'll ever hire someone to clean my house, but I do HATE doing it myself! LOL I don't know what is wrong with me - maybe too many chores as a kid? But I can't keep up with it and it doesn't help that my DH is the same way We have dishes in the sink usually for a week before we break down and wash them! It can be ugly. 

HOWEVER - this has been the way of life b4 kids! Now that we are expecting, I do plan on changing my ways and hope that DH will do the same

KingLED

AlisonPDX said:

x

You're right, that does sound bad. I was just being dramatic. What I really mean is that I hate that I end up on there for hours looking at people's profiles and then get the false idea that I know what's going on with them because of what little pieces of their life they share online and then don't feel the need to reach out to them in person. Which is my problem that I don't call them but I think it's a realistic effect of social media for a lot of people. But then I get nervous if I delete it I would have no idea what's going on because, in reality, would I call them even if FB didn't exist? Would I even think about them? I try not to be the kind of person who complains about it too much in real life but it is something I think about. I guess it's easy to idealize times before modern means of communication, though. 

I guess this is my UO, but what's so bad about falling out of touch with people?  If the only contact you have with someone is reading a few snip-its from their life once in a while, is that really any sort of relationship worth keeping?  Don't blame social media on you not wanting to put forth more effort to keep them as a closer friend. 

ashie0610

Nicb13 said:

AlisonPDX said:

I have a cleaning lady come once every two weeks, and I don't even have kids yet. She doesn't replace the cleaning I do, she does the things that would never get done if it was just me. I prefer doing a lot of things over being the one to personally scrub our walls. 

Anyway, my UO is that I hate Facebook. It's such an obnoxious time suck, and I hate that it makes me think I care about the mundane trivialities of people's lives who I haven't seen in ten years. Sometimes I fantasize about closing all my social media accounts and living off the grid. 

I personally don't understand why people complain about FB or other social media but continue to use it. Why fantasize about closing your accounts when you can ACTUALLY close them?

Also, I think it sounds incredibly stuck up to say that social media makes you "think you care about the mundane trivialities of people's lives". That just sounds really bad IMO. If people don't like the shit I post on FB or Instagram then ditch my ass. Easy peasy.   

I can see your point here.  I can't speak for @AlisonPDX, but I can tell you why I still have my Facebook, even though I kind of hate it too. 

I first signed up for it 10 years ago and, like anything or anyone you have a long relationship with, it is really difficult to cut ties completely.   

First off, I have so many pictures stored on Facebook that I would not want to lose.  Back when I loved it, I uploaded tons of college and post-college photos and those memories are important to me.  I've since made most of my albums private, but in order to be comfortable closing my account, I'd need to go one by one and download each of them to my back-up storage device.  Have you ever tried to even untag yourself in photos?  It takes FOREVER.  They know what they're doing and make it as difficult as possible.  I'm not willing to lose those photos just because I made the foolish decision not to back them up in the first place.  If I could go back and save them elsewhere I would, but I can't.

Second, I have tons of connections and re-connections on Facebook that I'm glad I made, but no longer have the time or energy to maintain, especially when my newsfeed shows me more ads and e-cards and crap than real posts from people I care to read about.  Along with this point, If I just disappeared, if my "friends" that I'm not really friends with realized that, I truly think many of them would view that as a personal offense against them.  As if I somehow don't want to know them anymore.  I realize that's related more to how much I care about what people think of me, but to that extent, I do.

My third and last reason is because I feel like Facebook is so much a part of our culture, as is all of social media.  Everyone uses it now, so I feel like I need to keep it as a connection tool for if/when I need it.  I'll give you an example.  Long story short, I was estranged from my father for a multitude of reasons and have been for years.  When he passed away suddenly a few years ago, he hadn't spoken to any of our family members in years. I actually found out via a private Facebook message from a friend of my father who found him.  It makes me wonder if I ever would have known he had died without having Facebook as an option for him to contact me.  Kind of a weird reason, I realize, but it's mine.

So at the end of the day, yeah, I hate using Facebook, but I probably won't close my account.  I choose not to check my newsfeed anymore and I don't even really go to the site unless 1) I have a notification or message or 2) I am INCREDIBLY bored.  

Sorry for the novel, but there you have it!

PS - I love Instagram.

AlisonPDX

EllyD14 said:

AlisonPDX said:

x

x 

I guess this is my UO, but what's so bad about falling out of touch with people?  If the only contact you have with someone is reading a few snip-its from their life once in a while, is that really any sort of relationship worth keeping?  Don't blame social media on you not wanting to put forth more effort to keep them as a closer friend. 

Yeah, I fully admit that I'm a big part of the problem. Social media just enables me. But it's an interesting question about falling out of touch. For me, most of my friends that I knew K-12 all still live where we grew up but I moved away. So I see them all together and I think that I still "belong" to that group and kind of cling to it emotionally. But maybe it wouldn't be the worst thing in the word to move on from those relationships. 

erin72682

kimberlymacrae said:

I dont like snuggling

This! The day we got a king size bed was one of the best days of my life. Don't touch me. I'm sleeping.

nicamo86

I hate beer, I have tried many different kinds and they all are nasty.

caranichole

@nicamo86 I always say that anyone who likes beer is lying. lol It's a joke but I really have never enjoyed it.

kimberlymacrae

erin72682 said:

kimberlymacrae said:

I dont like snuggling

This! The day we got a king size bed was one of the best days of my life. Don't touch me. I'm sleeping.

I fantasize about having a California King bed. I want sheets with the middle line, just for reference.

victoria+james

MrsWaffles said:

I hate eggs.

I normally like eggs... now? Now I could sell DH for more eggs. Give me all the eggs!

*shoves hard boiled egg in mouth*

jesslinnn

nicamo86 said:

I hate beer, I have tried many different kinds and they all are nasty.

No. Beer is awesome. I can't wait for October! Mmmmm fall beer...  :x

addyplusone

Just saying, I would LOVE to be able to afford someone to clean my house! My uo I don't like the taste of beer/alcohol of any kind! I have tried so hard to like it and just can't find anything. I will drink it, but I won't really like it until im tipsy!

addyplusone

Nicb13 said:

addyplusone said:

Just saying, I would LOVE to be able to afford someone to clean my house! My uo I don't like the taste of beer/alcohol of any kind! I have tried so hard to like it and just can't find anything. I will drink it, but I won't really like it until im tipsy!

This explains so much

What do you mean lol

AlisonPDX

@mel689 I LOVE autumn beers, especially pumpkin beer. DH hates it and it's one of the most biggest issues in our marriage.  

KingLED

HiCan said:

AlisonPDX said:

@mel689 I LOVE autumn beers, especially pumpkin beer. DH hates it and it's one of the most biggest issues in our marriage.  

I love beer (especially IPA's) but hate the flavored ones like pumpkin.  In fact, I hate all drinks with pumpkin flavoring!  I loathe the pumpkin spice lattes.  Yuck.  

I feel the hate coming on...

I love things made with actual pumpkin, but things that use artificial pumpkin flavor can suck a gorilla dick.  They're disgusting.

addyplusone

Nicb13 said:

addyplusone said:

Nicb13 said:

addyplusone said:

Just saying, I would LOVE to be able to afford someone to clean my house! My uo I don't like the taste of beer/alcohol of any kind! I have tried so hard to like it and just can't find anything. I will drink it, but I won't really like it until im tipsy!

This explains so much

What do you mean lol

Something is wrong with a person if they don't like alcohol :-q

My whole family loves it! We're German and Irish.. im just the odd ball who can't stand it! Any specific thing I should try when done breastfeeding?? I'm willing to try things lol