EDD has come and gone / grieving "right"

mingaling2

Coraline's EDD was yesterday and I posted on my blog about it. 

I thought I would feel horrible, but then I felt guilty for not feeling bad "enough."  I just don't have an attachment to the EDD.  I read this piece on "You Are Grieving Right" and it reminded me how all our experiences are different and it's okay. So I hope this article is helpful for anyone who is consumed with self-doubt during this difficult journey.

Noethola

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Everyone is very different in their grieving, for sure. Thanks for posting the links. 

bunnybun4

thanks for sharing.

thinking of you and Coraline. 

mmsweeney1

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I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I feel so happy or content with my job and my husband and I think,  "How dare you feel ok?" It's hard to let yourself move on at all without feeling guilty.

kz's_girlygirl

Thank you for sharing that. I don't feel a huge attachment to Jesse's EDD either and feel some guilt surrounding that.

I'm glad you were able to find some comfort and take another step in grieving your own way.

stefuge

Thank you for sharing. I'm glad you were able to find some comfort and that the day wasn't too difficult.

angelsnight

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Thank you, that was an amazing article.  I struggle with this all the time.  If I am having a bad day, I wonder why I am such a mess 10 months later, on a day that held no special signifigance.  If I am happy and laughing, I wonder how it is right for me to ever be happy again.  I lost my daughter, I should forever be sad. 

Definitely helps to know that the way I grieve is right for me, even if it isn't right for others.

princezjk

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Great article!  Thank you for sharing.  I think it is such an important message for loss moms wherever they may be on their journey.  And FWIW, I didn't feel any particular attachment to my daughter's EDD, probably because I always expected her a little early.  

VyD81

Thanks for sharing, I felt the same way on the EDD.

Maybe Joleisa

Great article. The week after our loss I think I read every post on the Still Standing website--it is an amazing resource. Thank you for sharing your blog post, as well.

My EDD/c-section date was 5/11/14, which this year falls on Mother's Day. I lost my mom in 2012 and my mom lost her mom on Mother's Day many years ago, so it has never been a glorious day...this year even more so.