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ghostof5letters said:

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Warning, the following link is nsfw and shows a penis. It's hilarious. https://gawker.com/fox-afiliate-accidentally-broadcasts-dick-pic-has-perf-1546428157?utm_campaign=socialflow_gawker_facebook&utm_source=gawker_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow

HOW DOES THAT EVEN HAPPEN?!??!  I mean seriously, some poor intern is going to lose limbs for that!  their faces are freaking PRICELESS though! 

Wouldn't you stop scrolling by the time you got to the burrito picture?

What do those pictures even relate to regarding news?  I guess that's not the point, but still wonder how the junk got in there.  I wish it could have continued on to get their reactions to it.

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TugboatSheila

tundrabunny said:

LiteraChick said:

@JP27 I'm in the same boat darlin'. It's almost unpopular or frowned upon to be a SAHM. Why, I don't know and I personally don't shiv a get. I cannot wait to be the first kiss my son gets in the morning and the last at night and all of them in between.

Am I sacrificing a personal goal of mine of mine to have a career in an industry I've always loved? Yes. But he won't be little forever and if I really want to have that come true, I can come back to it down the road. In any case, I get to flex my writing while doing the SAHM thing. I cannot wait to get my studio set up. DH can have his man cave, but I want my studio!

I've honestly never considered staying at home. It has never truly crossed my mind. I would like to have the option to work part-time and seriously, if DH and I really wanted to make it work, we probably could, but I'm not there yet. I wish I could take closer to 12 weeks of maternity leave rather than the 6 I'm looking at right now. DH thinks I'm going to be ready to go back after 6 and I haven't asked my boss when she needs a definite decision. We'll see.

I read about people getting ready to quit their jobs and be SAHs and I'm just like, "whoa.....weird." People ask me at work if I'm planning to come back and it always takes me a second to realize what they're asking.

My mom was an awesome SAHM. My older sister does the part-time thing. My best friend was a SAHM mom for a couple of years and now works about 10-15 hours per week. It's all around me and I know a lot of awesome people that do it (like you lovely ladies here), but when I think of it for me, it's just a total non-starter.

Thanks both for your perspectives. @Literachick, I definitely have fears about it but like you I am also excited. 

To both of you- I think that's a main difference for me. Parts of this decision were really easy and parts were tougher than I had thought. Firstly, the place I work is a job and not a career with absolutely no upward mobility for me and in the 4 years I've worked there, there have been no raises given. Which is surprising because this is a huge global company whose parent company, at least, is doing very well. So in that aspect, it was easy. I don't see myself working for this company 5 years down the road with nowhere to go regardless of whether or not I'm growing a baby so that was a huge positive. All the fears I have are not based at all in the realm of working and all based on WILL I BE GOOD AT THIS?!

TugboatSheila

@literachick, I almost forgot.. I've encountered that reaction too. I don't understand the backlash or weird comments I've been getting from people. I get the feeling with some of the people who give me flack about my decisions, when they are different than the decisions they made, it is because they somehow feel that me doing something differently is me saying what they did was incorrect. Which is not the case. And it's obviously not the reason that everyone reacts that way, but specifically the people I've encountered for sure. 

DH had 2 grown men laugh in his face about cloth diapering. He didn't even bring it up, THEY did. They asked him if we were considering it, laughed in his face when he said we were and were all smug and GOOD LUCK WITH THAT BRO about it. It's like they wanted us to fail so they could say I told you so. 

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jessa8907 said:

LiteraChick said:

God, right?! I think it's actually incredibly self centered and egotistical of other people to think that our choices are somehow reflective of mocking theirs. I mean, how into yourself do you have to be to think that because I say A, what I am "really" trying to say is that "B" is wrong. It's so rude.

As a FTM I am being driven crazy by the superior attitude even my friends and family are having towards me. Every time we are asked about a method or tack we have decided on taking with LittleDude, there is a shocking amount of scoffing, laughter and "just wait and see..." like we are fucking morons who haven't considered most rational possibilities. It's kind of a slap in the face.

I.E. I posted on FB about this video that has gone viral: and said "this is exactly the mentality I want to raise my son with! Playing outside and away from video games!"

And this smug, altern-uber hippie acquaintance of mine comments and says, "I can't wait to see all of the ultra expensive baby crap you buy into and post on here, that will be telling if your comment is true or not. You'll know what I mean in a few years..." I mean, I read that and I was floored. How dare she? I have bought all of my nursery furniture second hand, made my own onesies and .... GRRRR!!! I get so mad that she is even forcing me into justifying myself! I ended up completely ignoring her.

Sorry to ramble. I just am really fed with superior STMs who want to piss on my leg and tell me it's raining when really, they come off as bitter and smug.

What exactly does "ultra expensive baby crap" have to do with wanting your child to play outside? Also I love that video!

Is drinking from a hose considered unsafe? We used to do that all the time.

Drinking from the hose was the best! That water was always the best I have ever tasted.

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LiteraChick said:

@JP27 I'm in the same boat darlin'. It's almost unpopular or frowned upon to be a SAHM. Why, I don't know and I personally don't shiv a get. I cannot wait to be the first kiss my son gets in the morning and the last at night and all of them in between.

Am I sacrificing a personal goal of mine of mine to have a career in an industry I've always loved? Yes. But he won't be little forever and if I really want to have that come true, I can come back to it down the road. In any case, I get to flex my writing while doing the SAHM thing. I cannot wait to get my studio set up. DH can have his man cave, but I want my studio!

Becoming a SAHM wasn't a decision I made before DD was born. The idea grew on me as I spent those early months with her. DH and I had talked about me doing way back before we seriously got down to thinking about kids. It wasn't until a month before my leave ended that I had lunch with my boss and the first thing she said was, "you're staying home, aren't you?" Not necessarily trying to be accusing, she just had a hunch.  

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I agonized over turning in the resignation letter, worried that I had wasted my grad school experience, that I was throwing away my career.  I finally gave the letter to my boss and heard from her soon after that the letter was rejected. They offered me a chance to work very minimal hours until I was ready to come back more hours. When DD was 5-6 months old, I just couldn't see it happening, but I jumped at the opportunity to stay involved because I love my job.

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Now that DD is over a year and I'm more in my zone, I am happy for my brief, professional time. She gets to socialize with another toddler close to her age and I get to do what I love. (My friend babysits her - she is working on her daycare business so it is a win win). I can totally see myself working more hours once both kids are olderish. And by the time they start getting to full day school, I may be ready for even more. We'll cross that bridge when we get there. And I still want to get back to my etsy store. (Acid dyes+babies+in the house=bad plan. The garage will provide a safer, well ventilated work space. )

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It is such an individual situation and you just have to do what works for your family. To hell with the judgment of others! We are all parents trying to make it work and raise our kids to the best of our ability. I'm not going to knock somebody for that.

beff12

On the topic of SAHM, most people that I've shared our decision with have understood and agreed. Our logic is that I'll never regret staying with the little girl. At least I can't think of any reason why I'd regret it. If I do end up going crazy, I can always find a job. I'm a teacher and I can't just start teaching next year and then decide in October that I want to stay home.

There's also the issue of my paycheck too. Being a small private school, I'm making way less than at my old school. We've researched and my paycheck would literally just cover daycare and nothing else. I don't see the point in working solely for someone else to watch my kid when I could not work, stay with her, and we will still be making the same amount of money!

Everyone has agreed with me but one lady. I told her our reasons and she side eyed the crap out of me (her son would be in my class next year and I think that has something to do with it). She just kept saying "well I would have gone CRAZY being home all the time!" Well great, but I'm not her. This is the same lady that told me back in November to just enjoy being pregnant and to not let anyone be negative to me.

Come on!!

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dobbyisfree

A bunch of people at work have taken to saying 'oh sure, youre going to cloth diaper now.... but youll quit really quick!!!' And it pisses me off. I guess now I should be greatul because i consider it a challenge. Gives me one more reason to stick with it.

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LiteraChick said:

JP27 said:

@literachick, I almost forgot.. I've encountered that reaction too. I don't understand the backlash or weird comments I've been getting from people. I get the feeling with some of the people who give me flack about my decisions, when they are different than the decisions they made, it is because they somehow feel that me doing something differently is me saying what they did was incorrect. Which is not the case. And it's obviously not the reason that everyone reacts that way, but specifically the people I've encountered for sure. 

DH had 2 grown men laugh in his face about cloth diapering. He didn't even bring it up, THEY did. They asked him if we were considering it, laughed in his face when he said we were and were all smug and GOOD LUCK WITH THAT BRO about it. It's like they wanted us to fail so they could say I told you so. 

God, right?! I think it's actually incredibly self centered and egotistical of other people to think that our choices are somehow reflective of mocking theirs. I mean, how into yourself do you have to be to think that because I say A, what I am "really" trying to say is that "B" is wrong. It's so rude.

As a FTM I am being driven crazy by the superior attitude even my friends and family are having towards me. Every time we are asked about a method or tack we have decided on taking with LittleDude, there is a shocking amount of scoffing, laughter and "just wait and see..." like we are fucking morons who haven't considered most rational possibilities. It's kind of a slap in the face.

I.E. I posted on FB about this video that has gone viral: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GWRdHXbTmrs and said "this is exactly the mentality I want to raise my son with! Playing outside and away from video games!"

And this smug, altern-uber hippie acquaintance of mine comments and says, "I can't wait to see all of the ultra expensive baby crap you buy into and post on here, that will be telling if your comment is true or not. You'll know what I mean in a few years..." I mean, I read that and I was floored. How dare she? I have bought all of my nursery furniture second hand, made my own onesies and .... GRRRR!!! I get so mad that she is even forcing me into justifying myself! I ended up completely ignoring her.

Sorry to ramble. I just am really fed with superior STMs who want to piss on my leg and tell me it's raining when really, they come off as bitter and smug.

I understand. It really gets to me too. And I can't believe someone would say that. It's all in how you approach someone and this abrupt smugness is a real turn off for me. I mean, does that work in any other area of one's life? I've been smug before, I've said things I shouldn't have, I've judged other people because I'm human and you know what I've learned? Nobody responds well to that. NO-BOD-Y. 

I really don't understand your friends comment either, I keep coming back to it. She might as well have said "I'm insecure about something I failed at and I can't wait to see you fail at something too so that I can not feel so alone in this. In fact whatever you failed at will make me feel better about myself".

Actually if she had said that, I would probably have responded better to it. 

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amlonica said:

A bunch of people at work have taken to saying 'oh sure, youre going to cloth diaper now.... but youll quit really quick!!!' And it pisses me off. I guess now I should be greatul because i consider it a challenge. Gives me one more reason to stick with it.

We had a ton of people tell us that with DD1, but we've been CDing for 2+ years now so they can all suck it. I hate it when people say crap like that thinking they're being funny or helpful. It's unsupportive and sucky.

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jensavicci

shanicenicolle said:

HOLD THE PRESS!!!! I went to Wendy's to get chicken nuggets... Which is a splurge because I haven't been eating fried foods. I usually eat them plain but the lady asked if I wanted sauce and I had the sudden intense craving for BBQ Sauce.


THERE WAS NO BBQ SAUCE IN THE BAG WHEN WE GOT HOME!!!! Don't ask and then withhold sauce!

......I'd have turned right back around and got it. Nobody messes with my sauce.

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jensavicci said:

shanicenicolle said:

HOLD THE PRESS!!!! I went to Wendy's to get chicken nuggets... Which is a splurge because I haven't been eating fried foods. I usually eat them plain but the lady asked if I wanted sauce and I had the sudden intense craving for BBQ Sauce.


THERE WAS NO BBQ SAUCE IN THE BAG WHEN WE GOT HOME!!!! Don't ask and then withhold sauce!

......I'd have turned right back around and got it. Nobody messes with my sauce.

Even when you have it in the fridge at home, it's just never the same as the little packets. It's enraging and so sad all at the same time. You have my sympathies.

jnnfrrose6

MSUDucks said:

I'm going to jump into the STM smug nonsense. People are so rude! We got a lot of condescension from people because DS is a not so good sleeper. I eventually got to the point where I'd just tell people "yes we've tried all the solutions, no they haven't worked, I'm just going to love and enjoy him anyway". I mean really - we allow adults to have idiosyncrasies, why not kids?! There is no one size fits all. We also get double judged on our poop wrangling choice since it's a cloth diaper service - it's not good enough for hard core cd'ers and too much for hardcore disposable users. Really people?! You care so much about the way we are handling poop?! Do you want to know my preferred method of cleaning up my own shit?

I'm jealous you have a CD service. I am very much aware of my strengths and laundry isn't one of them. I really wanted to CD DS but I just knew I wouldn't be able to handle the extra laundry and with no service in my city, I had to move on from that idea.

jensavicci

I can't sleep because I've got snoops dogs "drop it like it's hot" stuck in my head

helloblueeyes

It's almost 9pm and I utterly exhausted from having to drive to our furthest location (2hours away for 90 min of work) and back today. But my DH wants to go return something to Walmart and since its his bday I'm not going to say no.

emineminem

Our almost house had a great home inspection today!! DH just has to go back and fix two little light fixtures to get us through the appraisal and we will (hopefully) be good to go!

On the crappy side, we put in our offer that we wanted the washer and dryer, and they accepted...and then took the damn things! I don't know if I want them to put them back or just give us some money off the price, but I'm irritated we have to think about it.

TallMomma29

I am sure this has been asked before, but why do some threads say "answered" and others with more legitimate responses do not? For some reason seeing "answered" when 5 people have talked about their very different pregnancy cravings, but then not seeing "answered" on a thread where several people have answered a medical/symptom question drives my mind a little crazy!

tourqeyes

jessa8907 said:

Just had an uncomfortable FB message from one of my two male coworkers offering me a back rub...

Granted we were talking about this earlier today because he injured his back over the weekend. He said I should make DH do it and I told him DH tries but he's just not very good at it.

Super awkward. I don't know what to do. 

Pregnancy fetish?

tourqeyes

TallMomma29 said:

I am sure this has been asked before, but why do some threads say "answered" and others with more legitimate responses do not? For some reason seeing "answered" when 5 people have talked about their very different pregnancy cravings, but then not seeing "answered" on a thread where several people have answered a medical/symptom question drives my mind a little crazy!

I once posted a question and I couldn't figure out how to pick people as "answers". No help here but it has always confused me.

tourqeyes

shanicenicolle said:

HOLD THE PRESS!!!! I went to Wendy's to get chicken nuggets... Which is a splurge because I haven't been eating fried foods. I usually eat them plain but the lady asked if I wanted sauce and I had the sudden intense craving for BBQ Sauce. THERE WAS NO BBQ SAUCE IN THE BAG WHEN WE GOT HOME!!!! Don't ask and then withhold sauce!

My husband does this off and it PISSED ME OFF. Irrationally so, but it's like...how did you forget in the 5 minutes you got off the phone with me????

jensavicci

I don't feel like waiting til UO or FFFC for this.

I'm going to just repeat what tourq said a while back and say that it irks the hell out of me when people very obviously leap over your pic and continue love titting everyone else. It's one thing to accidentally skip a pic or two but I'm not blind. I can see that you've skipped my pic or someone else's pic for whatever reason. I try and love everyone's pics and think it's a funky move to pick and choose which ones you'll like. We all deserve love and we all deserve tits!

But whatever....moving on.

knitsandgiggles

@jensavicci‌ - thats funny about the snoop dog song stuck in your head. I was humming r kelly's ignition remix while making dinner. I eventually just had to put it on. Then I thought how silly I'm going to be later when I'm singing to my "classics" in the car while the kids roll their eyes, hahaha!

tourqeyes

jensavicci said:

I don't feel like waiting til UO or FFFC for this. I'm going to just repeat what tourq said a while back and say that it irks the hell out of me when people very obviously leap over your pic and continue love titting everyone else. It's one thing to accidentally skip a pic or two but I'm not blind. I can see that you've skipped my pic or someone else's pic for whatever reason. I try and love everyone's pics and think it's a funky move to pick and choose which ones you'll like. We all deserve love and we all deserve tits! But whatever....moving on.

Girl, your photo is what got me going last week.

I thought to myself today, 'I swear if litera or jensavicci posts before or after me again this week I'm going to lose my shit.' (Not mad at you guys just selective love-titers).

I'm open about the fact I'm petty like that and base self worth on love its.

knitsandgiggles

Yay for a great inspection, @missquela!
That is annoying about the washer and dryer!

tourqeyes

^^ @knittylady -- since you are online now go post your HDBD photo. Don't make me wait until page 4 or 5

jensavicci

@knittylady‌ hahaha that'll be too funny! Btw, now I have ignition stuck in my head. Lol thanks a lot!

@tourqeyes‌

I noticed it last week too! regardless though, you always put effort in to loving everyone's pics even though you can't always see them haha and I try to as well. It takes all of a second to love a pic.

tourqeyes

I can't see my lady bits anymore and each time I go to clean up down there I think about the time @bpaws said someone she knew shaved part of her clit off. This is terrifying to me.

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TheAnne said:

I am super sad that I have only posted like 2 HDBD pics.  I can't have my phone in my building (or any camera) and by the time I get home I either look like dog food or am too busy chasing miss thang around to remember.

Take pics on your ticker change day...or every sat or sun or something. My HDBD is always from the sunday before. Also, I doubt you look like dog food :P

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LiteraChick said:

@MSUducks - laughed SO hard at that line "Do you want to know my preferred method of cleaning up my own shit?"

I get that unwarranted parenting advice is part of hazing that FTPs go through, but I guess it always shocks me because it's STILL COMMENTING ON SOMEONE'S PERSONAL CHOICE. It just is not polite. There is no way to change that, dress it up or rationalize it. It's just... fucking ....rude. I don't tell an obese person, "Hey, put down that cupcake, you are too fat to eat that" or "Really? Leather shoes? Don't you see what happens in tanneries?"

It's my baby they are discussing, which is about as private and personal as it gets! (ok, done, promise) :-*

Oh honey, it's not just first time parents. Every step of your child's development there will be people who just know they did the best thing and that their way is the only way and they will tell you all about it. I'm not trying to be all, "just you wait" (I remember how annoying that was as a first time mom), but Lord I swear it just gets worse. I have a sorority sister who is constantly on me because I am not attempting a VBAC.  There is no other "class" of people as harshly judged by their same class as parents. The best you can do is learn to say screw 'em and do what is best for your baby and your family.

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tourqeyes said:

^^ @knittylady -- since you are online now go post your HDBD photo. Don't make me wait until page 4 or 5

@tourqeyes - girl, you act like I was ready for the day! I did almost save a spot on page 1 though! As soon as I finish my real breakfast, I'll get right on it!

Saying that made me think of "don't tell mom the babysitter's dead"

"I'm right on top of it Rose!"

cuntasaurusrex

tourqeyes said:

jensavicci said:

I don't feel like waiting til UO or FFFC for this. I'm going to just repeat what tourq said a while back and say that it irks the hell out of me when people very obviously leap over your pic and continue love titting everyone else. It's one thing to accidentally skip a pic or two but I'm not blind. I can see that you've skipped my pic or someone else's pic for whatever reason. I try and love everyone's pics and think it's a funky move to pick and choose which ones you'll like. We all deserve love and we all deserve tits! But whatever....moving on.

Girl, your photo is what got me going last week.

I thought to myself today, 'I swear if litera or jensavicci posts before or after me again this week I'm going to lose my shit.' (Not mad at you guys just selective love-titers).

I'm open about the fact I'm petty like that and base self worth on love its.

I really don't get this.  I mean, it's one thing to be offended in your mind, but to be bothered enough to post about it... more than once.. come on. 

For the record, I try to love it each picture, but I know at least one time, only 3 or 4 of them stuck, on about 5 pages worth.  I'm just going to stop giving them out at all on the thread if it's continually an issue.  If it REALLY bothers you that much, then go ahead and tag the offenders, have it out, and call it a day.

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aliletz said:

tourqeyes said:

jensavicci said:

I don't feel like waiting til UO or FFFC for this.

I'm going to just repeat what tourq said a while back and say that it irks the hell out of me when people very obviously leap over your pic and continue love titting everyone else. It's one thing to accidentally skip a pic or two but I'm not blind. I can see that you've skipped my pic or someone else's pic for whatever reason. I try and love everyone's pics and think it's a funky move to pick and choose which ones you'll like. We all deserve love and we all deserve tits!

But whatever....moving on.

Girl, your photo is what got me going last week.

I thought to myself today, 'I swear if litera or jensavicci posts before or after me again this week I'm going to lose my shit.' (Not mad at you guys just selective love-titers).

I'm open about the fact I'm petty like that and base self worth on love its.

I really don't get this.  I mean, it's one thing to be offended in your mind, but to be bothered enough to post about it... more than once.. come on. 

For the record, I try to love it each picture, but I know at least one time, only 3 or 4 of them stuck, on about 5 pages worth.  I'm just going to stop giving them out at all on the thread if it's continually an issue.  If it REALLY bothers you that much, then go ahead and tag the offenders, have it out, and call it a day.


Am I supposed to love everyone, even the people I don't know?

This is dumb.

tourqeyes

aliletz said:

tourqeyes said:

jensavicci said:

I don't feel like waiting til UO or FFFC for this. I'm going to just repeat what tourq said a while back and say that it irks the hell out of me when people very obviously leap over your pic and continue love titting everyone else. It's one thing to accidentally skip a pic or two but I'm not blind. I can see that you've skipped my pic or someone else's pic for whatever reason. I try and love everyone's pics and think it's a funky move to pick and choose which ones you'll like. We all deserve love and we all deserve tits! But whatever....moving on.

Girl, your photo is what got me going last week.

I thought to myself today, 'I swear if litera or jensavicci posts before or after me again this week I'm going to lose my shit.' (Not mad at you guys just selective love-titers).

I'm open about the fact I'm petty like that and base self worth on love its.

I really don't get this.  I mean, it's one thing to be offended in your mind, but to be bothered enough to post about it... more than once.. come on. 

For the record, I try to love it each picture, but I know at least one time, only 3 or 4 of them stuck, on about 5 pages worth.  I'm just going to stop giving them out at all on the thread if it's continually an issue.  If it REALLY bothers you that much, then go ahead and tag the offenders, have it out, and call it a day.

@ me or @ Jen posting it again? I am allowed to agree with someone on a comment, no?