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SuperTinkerham

@sxymamakat big sloppy hugs. Trust your doc and your body (hard to do after infertility, I know).

dobbyisfree

@sxymamakat‌ xoxoxo :-(

jensavicci

Summerlovin314 said:

AWing my cake for tonight because it took a ton of effort at 9 months pregnant and because it has alcohol!! I present: a Guinness stout chocolate cake filled with whiskey chocolate ganache, iced in a Bailey's buttercream frosting and finished with a chocolate whiskey glaze. Yum!

Lhalliburton

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2lacyblue said:

I read a mention in the NICU thread that made me remember.... The full moon is coming up! Any of you buy into this? I know my DH and his mom do.

The full moon is on my due date... So I'm hoping it's true if he doesn't come beforehand

You and me both lady, due Saturday. I'm hoping he comes before then. I feel like the whole situation would be like bad 90's sitcom writing. All traffic, celebrity cameos and chicks pushing in the elevator. Lets just pop them out during the week

I like that plan!

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mrscurlygurl

@sxymamakat, the saying about opinions and assholes comes to mind here....The annoying friend is one thing, but your dad is the worst I'm sure. Feel free to vent here since you're bound to find others who can completely relate.

fmb2011

@sxymamakat‌ I'm so sorry you're dealing with people being crappy! And I totally understand the pain/uncomfortableness of your hands! I will say it was so nice being able to lay on my right side without my arm and hand going numb/tingling/swelling during my massage! If I figure out anything that helps, I'll gladly share!

TugboatSheila

sxymamakat said:

Ladies, I need a little vent, please forgive me.  I've been incredibly tolerant of real-life people's opinions this entire pregnancy, but I'm really getting over it.  

One of my "friends" messaged me last week asking how I was, and I mentioned the c-section my doctor required me to schedule.  Now, FWIW, a c-section is the last thing I wanted, and I've already had my crying jags about it with my SO, but I didn't share that with her.  Her response to my news was that she thought that as a biology professor, I would "know better" than to schedule my baby to come out early instead of waiting, and that I must have just realized that I couldn't handle the birth on my own.  Excuse me, b*t*h?  The c is scheduled for 39+1, it's the last thing I wanted, and I still went to my natural birthing classes and spend time doing meditations, some yoga, and sitting on my birthing ball.  Know better?!?!?  Let me show YOU "know better". 

My mom called today to see how I was holding up, and admittedly, it turned into a bit of a vent, but I'm having health problems galore and she's even pushing me to have the doc try to move the c up a few days because she's worried about my health.  She listened and was pretty supportive. My dad then gets on the phone and says "Well, gee, I guess this whole having a baby thing wasn't as easy as you thought!"  Again- excuse me!?!?!?  I never fucking said it was easy- it took nearly 3 years to conceive this baby, I've had a pretty f'ing shitty pregnancy that I've kept my mouth shut about for 9 months, and I've never said that having the baby was going to be a cakewalk.  The only person who knows what a struggle this has been from start to finish is my amazing boyfriend, so I'm over the opinions.  

If one more person tells me that I've put on "all my weight in the last week", I WILL go homicidal.  I've actually lost weight because I'm barely eating, but I'm SO swollen.  I can't get even flip-flops on, my hands are blown up to where I can't curl my fingers, and my face is all puffy.  STFU, assholes. 

Thanks for listening.  I've really tried not to whine here since I know so many of you are dealing with the same or worse, but I'm at my wits end, and I had to let it out somewhere. 

There is something about a pregnant woman that makes everyone around them go bat shit fucking crazy. I would be upset too with that friend. Its not like you win or fail at labor and delivery. When it comes to the safety of your baby and your own safety/well being you do what you have to do. I'm sorry you aren't getting the birth you imagined, it is OK to be upset about that. You're doing the best and safest thing you van by listening to the trained medical professionals under whose care you have been placed. Screw all that other noise!!

beff12

@sxymamakat‌ I'm so annoyed for you. I'm sorry people are being so difficult. I'll never understand why people think they know better than doctors! Hang in there and feel free to vent freely here...I hope you can get a break from the ridiculous comments and enjoy some rest in the last few days of your pregnancy!

jensavicci

This is weird but, Max's belly button freaks me out. I know, I know. All babies have them, it'll fall off, yada yada. But jeez, it's like a giant scab (it basically is) that keeps poking me and I'm like gah! Time for a shirt! I love you but, time for a shirt. It's like that giant mole in Austin powers. You just can't stop staring at it.

ichamommy

@sxymamakat‌ I'm glad you let it out! We are here for you! hugs!

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SuperTinkerham

We have had a gift card for pf changs for 2 years. Mister made me eat there tonight. That was gross. Square chicken is not real food. Yuck.

jensavicci

SuperTinkerham said:

We have had a gift card for pf changs for 2 years. Mister made me eat there tonight. That was gross. Square chicken is not real food. Yuck.

Aw man, I've been wanting to eat there this makes me sad. What'd you order?

kenziebug22

SuperTinkerham said:

We have had a gift card for pf changs for 2 years. Mister made me eat there tonight. That was gross. Square chicken is not real food. Yuck.

That's no fun i went there about a month ago, it was deldelicious!

SuperTinkerham

jensavicci said:

We have had a gift card for pf changs for 2 years. Mister made me eat there tonight. That was gross. Square chicken is not real food. Yuck.

Aw man, I've been wanting to eat there this makes me sad. What'd you order?

He got salt and pepper prawns and I got spicy chicken. It was just gross fast food. We also split a California roll. Pei Wei is better. It comes with veggies at least.

kenziebug22

kenziebug22 said:

SuperTinkerham said:

We have had a gift card for pf changs for 2 years. Mister made me eat there tonight. That was gross. Square chicken is not real food. Yuck.

That's no fun i went there about a month ago, it was delicious!

My phone has autocorrect issues.. :-/

jensavicci

SuperTinkerham said:

jensavicci said:

SuperTinkerham said:

We have had a gift card for pf changs for 2 years. Mister made me eat there tonight. That was gross. Square chicken is not real food. Yuck.

Aw man, I've been wanting to eat there this makes me sad. What'd you order?

He got salt and pepper prawns and I got spicy chicken. It was just gross fast food. We also split a California roll. Pei Wei is better. It comes with veggies at least.
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Whaaaat? I tried pei Wei a few weeks ago and it was bad. Lol it was square chicken! The pasta was ass and the breading was soggy. The spring roles were good though.

bgoodbpar

SuperTinkerham said:

We have had a gift card for pf changs for 2 years. Mister made me eat there tonight. That was gross. Square chicken is not real food. Yuck.

Say what?!? I love P.F. Chang ... Lettuce wraps Mongolian beef and crab wontons yumm..Never have I had a fast-foody type meal from there. Definitely beats Pei Wei out here. Sorry it sucked.

sxymamakat

Guys, I can't thank you enough for the words of support and encouragement.  You all truly put a smile back on my face tonight and I really needed it.  You guys are seriously the best, and I wouldn't have gotten through this whole crazy ride without you.  :-D

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ichamommy

pintsizemama15 said:

If my husband says he doesn't understand why I'm weepy one more time I'm going to lose my shit.

I've had my heart set on breast feeding from the jump and the fact that it isn't working out because i can't seem to do it right when there isn't a lactation consultant in the room and that we're "supplementing" with formula (quotations because with how little I pump he's basically eating all formula) and the fact that I now have to share my baby with people on the outside after having him all to myself for 9 months, is making me a sad. Sorry not sorry.

(Holy run on sentence)

(Haven't read comments yet) but I am dealing with the exact EXACT same thing. Heart set on BF exclusively but DS not latching and I'm not producing enough... Yeah, sucks.

abrazz

This is how to sell baby carriers I showed DH and he totally wants to wear one now, shirtless.

honeybee434

@sxymamakat‌ I hate when people feel their opinions matter when they obviously don't! Sorry you're having to deal with them! I had people give me the "pity look" when I mentioned a scheduled c/s, but nothing compared to what you're dealing with.

honeybee434

@pintsizedmama‌ Just keep going! We had to supplement with formula the same way because DD was only latching for like a minute or two and lost too much weight in the hospital. I just kept trying and now she's off all formula. It's hard but you can do it!

jnnfrrose6

I love reading everyone's birth stories, but I've got to be honest, most of them bum me out since I didn't get to attempt a vaginal birth for either kid. I feel like I missed out on a pretty major part of pregnancy/having a baby. Of course I believe in doing whatever is best for my baby, and c/s was it for both, but it's still hard for me to come to grips with the fact that I didn't have a "regular" delivery.

dobbyisfree

jnnfrrose6 said:

I love reading everyone's birth stories, but I've got to be honest, most of them bum me out since I didn't get to attempt a vaginal birth for either kid. I feel like I missed out on a pretty major part of pregnancy/having a baby. Of course I believe in doing whatever is best for my baby, and c/s was it for both, but it's still hard for me to come to grips with the fact that I didn't have a "regular" delivery.

I dont know how your experience was because I was really sick and on Mag so they may have done things differently for you, but I couldnt see or feel what was going on behind the sheet and a small, irrational part of me says what if they just whisked a baby in from the other room and he never came from me?? I know thats so ridiculous to say, but I didnt get to SEE - Im sad I missed out on that.

kenziebug22

jnnfrrose6 said:

I love reading everyone's birth stories, but I've got to be honest, most of them bum me out since I didn't get to attempt a vaginal birth for either kid. I feel like I missed out on a pretty major part of pregnancy/having a baby. Of course I believe in doing whatever is best for my baby, and c/s was it for both, but it's still hard for me to come to grips with the fact that I didn't have a "regular" delivery.

Trying to get past this feeling before i get mine, but i have a feeling even if i do I'll go back to thinking this exact thought again when it actually happens.

Like you said do whats best for baby and sometimes it's the only way, but it still stinks when you've always thought it would be one way.

Lhalliburton

jnnfrrose6 said:

I love reading everyone's birth stories, but I've got to be honest, most of them bum me out since I didn't get to attempt a vaginal birth for either kid. I feel like I missed out on a pretty major part of pregnancy/having a baby. Of course I believe in doing whatever is best for my baby, and c/s was it for both, but it's still hard for me to come to grips with the fact that I didn't have a "regular" delivery.

I'm going for a VBAC this time around, and I totally understand how you feel. My OB is letting me go to 42 weeks to deliver naturally (as long as baby and I look good) and I think I'm going to end up with a C-section anyway. Plus, the c-section recovery doesn't help. 

My sister just had her third c-section, and she would never want to give birth vaginally. Some people just don't understand. When a natural birth is what your heart is set on, when you know that's what your body should be able to do and can't, you still feel like a failure. You feel guilty because a healthy baby is more important, but it's still a struggle.

Hang in there.

ghostof5letters

amlonica said:

Its my birthday. I delivered Wednesday via c section after a failed induction due to severe pre-e a beautiful skinny 36 week boy. Today they finally decided he really is doing terrible at regulating his own sugar and he needs an IV and transported him to the NICU for at least 24 hours. My blood pressure is still worryingly high. STOP telling me I have baby blues. This isnt just stupid hormones any normal regular person would be upset. Its my birthday for Christs sake. Dont belittle me by calling it baby blues. I had to vent somewhere, everyone else is acting like Im just hormonal. (Except DH) maybe I am, but they took my baby away on my birthday. Cut me some slack. I miss Logan. :-(

I've been offline for a few days, so I'm just reading this now. How is your son doing today? Is he still in the NICU?

Has your blood pressure come down?

Lastly, happy belated birthday. You totally get a do-over next month if you want one.  (((hugs)))

jnnfrrose6

@MSUDucks‌ I don't mean to say c/s aren't regular/normal, though I know it comes across that way. It's more to do with the idea I'd assume most women have of childbirth from a very young age and a c/s isn't it. Laboring and pushing and having your baby put right up on your chest. These are things I didn't get to experience and it's tough wrapping my head around it sometimes.

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dobbyisfree

ghostof5letters said:

amlonica said:

Its my birthday. I delivered Wednesday via c section after a failed induction due to severe pre-e a beautiful skinny 36 week boy. Today they finally decided he really is doing terrible at regulating his own sugar and he needs an IV and transported him to the NICU for at least 24 hours. My blood pressure is still worryingly high.

STOP telling me I have baby blues. This isnt just stupid hormones any normal regular person would be upset. Its my birthday for Christs sake. Dont belittle me by calling it baby blues.

I had to vent somewhere, everyone else is acting like Im just hormonal. (Except DH) maybe I am, but they took my baby away on my birthday. Cut me some slack.

I miss Logan. :-(

I've been offline for a few days, so I'm just reading this now. How is your son doing today? Is he still in the NICU?

Has your blood pressure come down?

Lastly, happy belated birthday. You totally get a do-over next month if you want one.  (((hugs)))

Were going home today!!!! He was on a glucose drip for about 12 hours and that was enough. What happened was he had his circumcision and after was out of it and tired and wouldnt eat. And because hes tiny and a little premature he has no fat and cant maintain his own sugar without eating. So he needed a little help. A ton less dramatic than I originally thought. So happy to be going home today after a week!

My BP is still high. Ick. So Im on 3 months of BP meds while we wait to see if my body goes back to normal. But my liver enzymes are improving and that was the big concern the other day.

And thanks. DH is dancing around the NICU suite right now. Im sure hes going to take a half hour shower as soon as we get home haha

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SuperTinkerham

jnnfrrose6 said:

@MSUDucks‌ I don't mean to say c/s aren't regular/normal, though I know it comes across that way. It's more to do with the idea I'd assume most women have of childbirth from a very young age and a c/s isn't it. Laboring and pushing and having your baby put right up on your chest. These are things I didn't get to experience and it's tough wrapping my head around it sometimes.

Your feeeeeeeeeelings are 100% valid.*hugs* You've done a great job for your baby and regardless of how he entered into the world, he's going to have a terrific mama that fights tooth and nail for his best interests.

SuperTinkerham

My niece is getting sent to a very spendy gymnastics camp for a week. Seeester said I can send her emails. I log into their email system and they want to charge me $1 per email.

WTF?

ghostof5letters

SuperTinkerham said:

My niece is getting sent to a very spendy gymnastics camp for a week. Seeester said I can send her emails. I log into their email system and they want to charge me $1 per email.

WTF?

That's ridiculous. 

ichamommy

My son farts like its his only job in the world... Which it kinda is.

He's a master of the SBD.

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lindslalala

Against my better judgment I let my MW do a cervical check today. I'm 2cm and baby is way low. I'm annoyed, because I was 2cm with my first for weeks so I know it means nothing. I don't know what the heck I was expecting.