Godparent Issues

hsal

Our first child was easy. I asked my cousin and my husband asked his best friend.

This time, we've already decided to ask hubs cousin to be the godfather but I have no clue who to ask for the godmother. I have two sisters, both younger, one confirmed and one not. The one who is, is the person I keep thinking should be the godmother but I don't want to upset my other sister. I don't have any other cousins I'd want to ask and I'm hesitant to ask a friend.

who are you asking?
Should I ask my sister since I can't ask my other sister (she's not confirmed)?

Were done after this so I won't be able to ask my other sister later on...

Thanks!

Miggg

I don't think we're going to do the whole godparent thing so I'm not really familiar with the rules/etiquette around it. Good luck with your decision though!

deanna1313

I know one of the two godparents has to be confirmed. At least that is the rule in my church. If the god father isn't confirmed then I would pick the sister that is confirmed so that you can still use him.
I am having the issue with picking people, also. I have two brothers and want to pick the older of the two since it's my first baby, but then I feel I need to pick a female from my husbands side and he doesn't have any. If I pick my cousin for the god mother then we pick a guy from his side neither one would be catholic and the church won't allow it.
I feel your pain! It's tough!

flutepharm87

We have the same godparents for our twins and will be using the same godparents for this LO. Only their godmother is Catholic/confirmed, their godfather is a non-Catholic. Is your DH's pick for godfather a confirmed Catholic? If so, you should be off the hook and could pick the non-confirmed sister.

ama7165

My husband and I were just talking about this. I have a very small family and my sister is an atheist...so I have little to no choice on my side of the family. We were actually thinking of asking friends over family but there is always the concern that you will offend people. It is definitely a tough decision. Good luck!

Jillzy86

Pick the sister you want to have as your child's god mother. I'm sure your other sister will understand. I have two older brothers and I will have my oldest brother be the god father for my first child and if I'm blessed with another I will have my second oldest brother be the godfather for my second child. People shouldn't get offended if you don't ask them to be a godparent, it's up to you and if your church prefers the god parents to be confirmed then go with the sister that is.

jfletcher3113

We're picking my sister-in-law on DH's side and my brother.

I would pick the one who is confirmed, since that seems to be the one you feel most comfortable with. Like PP said, nobody should get offended about not being chosen as a godparent.

tjkdlhb

We are allowed to have more than one godmother/godfather.  I think 2 of each at least are allowed.

If one isn't confirmed and has no intention of being confirmed, then you could still explain that it's a an issue with confirmation and church rules, rather than up to you... (If I read that correctly... it's late... and I'm tired)

jsaffer01

We are most likely choosing my brother in law as the godfather and my cousin as the godmother, only because I don't have a sister to choose. And if we have a second child the godfather will be from my side of the family and the godmother will be from my husband's side.

I would pick whatever sister you want, the other will understand.

EmilyGolden1

If you are close with both sisters I would choose the older one. If you have another baby then you can ask your younger sister.

Turn4Cindy

Ask both sisters. You can do that. I have two Godmothers and two Godfathers. I wasnt baptized until I was 8 so I chose who I wanted and I wanted two sets. Don't ask why, I have no idea.

sopsongbird

From a non-catholic point of view, DH and I chose my brother and his wife to be LO's godparents.  The godparents are supposed to assist with the spiritual upbringing of the child, and we chose accordingly.  DH was raised Catholic, but doesn't practice anymore.  We might do a christian christening, but aren't sure yet.

Bootsie327

I have two sisters, and one of them is going to be the godmother. The way she worked it with her own kids, was that both me and my other sister each got one. If you plan on having more than one, you could do the same. If not, I'm sure if you explain to the not-godmother sister that you needed to use someone who was confirmed, I think she will understand. Or like a PP said, maybe even have both!

Also, what we did for our weddings, is that we kind of worked out a circle. I'm the youngest, and my oldest sister had my middle sister as her MOH, and I had my oldest sister as mine. If my middle sister gets married, I will be hers. Maybe something similar could be worked out for you with god parenting?