How early would you leave your newborn?

hisbeautyalways

I couldn't do it. Between just me in general, and also breastfeeding. At one week PP, I did have to leave him with my mom for a few minutes so I could run to the store. We had gone to visit her while she babysat my niece, and he peed all over himself. It being our first trip out (about an hour from home), we had no backup clothes because we simply didn't think about it. So she watched DS. It was weird, but nice, and he slept the whole time I was gone.

After that, at 2 months old DH and I went on a date night (Valentine's Day)... however, it ended up taking WAY longer than expected because, you know, Valentine's Day... and my mom pissed me off and we haven't had a date night since. She's watched DS for other things since then, but no huge chunks of time like that.

SassyFlats

I'm a FTM, and she gets no judgement from me. I'll be breastfeeding so that would definitely be a factor in if I would or could leave my baby that soon, but if I have a bottle pumped and my mom is still visiting and I need a couple hours out in the world... Meh. I'll do what I need to do.

I wouldn't leave such a young baby with a sitter... But the woman who birthed and raised me? Sure.

KayCee85

Heck yeah! If my mom was willing and I could find something presentable to squeeze my still fat ass in, I'd be all over the opportunity to get out for some breakfast and girl talk for a few hours. Its not like she's leaving her 8 day old for the weekend.

VineyardMel

I wouldn't have and doubt I would want to this time. I just didn't feel a need to get away that fast and wanted to be with her constantly. I had to go to an appt at 3wks PP for an hour or so and then a few days later went out for a couple of hours to find some clothes I could wear. It was nice to have some time alone, but it wasn't something I needed.

All of that said, to each their own. I only give the side eye when someone is super determined to still have their life 'unchanged.' Having a baby changes everything, so if you're still just interested in your life before baby I have to scratch my head.

Zriseon3

I'd be more than okay with leaving LO with my mom. My mom is going to be the one helping me and DH learn the ropes after we get home. In fact she will probably only be about 5 weeks when we leave her overnight with my parents. We bought concert tickets ages ago for April and my parents said they'd take her overnight. My mom retired to help take care of my 3 nephews. She also raised me and my brothers. As far as I know right now she is a better mom than me lol. Would I leave my LO alone with anyone else that early? Probably not. But I'd gladly accept a night out if I had the opportunity.

Edit: proofread, genius.

huskymomma94

I was an absolute mess of postpartum hormones at 8 days pp. I'd say when DS was about that old, my mom came over and sent me and DH out for a quick lunch while she stayed home and watched him.  I absolutely needed to get out of the house and have a breather, so I'm thankful that I have my mom around.  I think 3 hours would have been too long, because of BFing, but I wouldn't judge. 

ilinzainmama

The first time I left my daughter with anyone besides my husband she was about a month old and it was with her grandma. The first time I let her stay the night with grandma, she was 2 months old. That with probably all be sooner this time though bc I know 2 kids will be hard at first and those little breaks help a lot!

htn1763

As a FTM my Mom has a lot more experience with newborns than I do! Definitely more than DH. So I can't leave the baby for 3 hours without judgment from someone??!

I still plan on having a life after the baby. If I need 3 hours out to keep me sane and my DH, Mom, or MIL can watch him (and I have an extra bottle for him) then I will definitely take the time. 

Excitedmum35

I have never left my babies that early. Not sure if it's the breast feeding hormones or the fact that I probably had undiagnosed anxiety at that time?
I would say both.
When I had my first I was very young and firmly believed that I had to look after my child all the time. This led to a VERY worn out mother which wasn't helpful at all.
As I have matured I have realised that looking after yourself is really important in order to be a good mum.
I actually am a little judgy of mums like I used to be, who refuse babysitting or childcare for their children as they need to do it all themselves.
Kids actually end up more well rounded from spending time with relatives and in good daycare situations.

lb1117

I don't see a problem with it. I am going back to work at 4-5 weeks pp and we might as well get used to the arrangement. 

DH or my mom will be doing childcare depending on my hours. I don't see any problem with him being left with either one of them. 

OP, if you're friend felt up to going out at 8 days pp, good for her. I don't know what I would be doing at that point, but if I felt good and DH or my mom or sis was willing to watch him, I wouldn't think about being gone for an hour or two. That said, I am not BFing, so that might be a factor as well. 

mamamia866

If I had spent the last 8 days catering to every need of my newborn cooped up in my house, you bet your ass I'm leaving him with my mom or husband for a few hours to get some fresh air. I get stir crazy very easily. Longer than that? Probably not until a couple months old or so. Like PPs have said, H for sure needs to be able to handle taking care of baby by himself, especially since he's going back to work after 3 weeks.

Sanibel21

All I know is we're leaving LO with my mom at 10 weeks for a wedding, not overnight. Other than that I have no idea what I'll be comfortable with as a FTM. But if it's a super close trustworthy person, I don't see a problem with a quick outing.