FFFC

hmp1

I find talking about kids' looks, or lack of looks in someone's opinion, very uncomfortable.

AlinnJo

I am so stinking jealous of all the pregnant ladies. This wouldn't be the best month for me to get KU but I am sad my test was negative. It is only our first month of trying but damn. I am irrationally worried that I won't be able to get pregnant on my own. I don't know why. I AM so very happy for all of you. And I feel like a selfish bitch writing this. Sorry

eshee8198

BarefootContessa said:

@eshee8198 I would like to thank you for educating me yesterday about the snow on top of one's car. Because of you I brushed my entire car off today after we got about two inches last night. I"m embarrassed I never knew it was so dangerous.  

Awww...hopefully you weren't cursing me the entire time!

KellersPrag

Have a sec.

I think my thought was misinterpreted. I'm not saying it's not enjoyable without an orgasm, all I was saying is that what apparently is considered gourmet, is our norm, and that's just us. Of course it's about intimacy more than anything, but I'm like a man. If/when I don't O, I get terrible stomach cramps and aches - my own version of blue balls. So, it works for me.

OceanLover26

I can O very fast during sex.  I couldn't always O this fast, but I've figured out how to move to get me there.

@loislayn23 I'm sorry for your loss and the first trimester sickness.  Hang in there!

I loathe people waving me on after I stopped for them.  I stopped a big as SUV and traffic for you, now WALK.

Confession:  I cried all the way to Sam's Club this morning because I missed my mom.  I'll be seeing her 4th of July week, but I still feel sad.

Double confession:  I found it incredibly hard to walk by chocolate covered donuts in the bakery section.  I'm sure if anyone saw how I slowed down and gazed with question they would have laughed.  Needless to say, I left them where I saw them.  Step 1 to my diet:  Walk past the donuts.

MississippiCatfish

FTR, I didn't mind DH's beard for almost 3 months. I like scruff! We are at the point now where I saw the photos of that man who was lost at sea for almost a year or something and thought, Hhmm. Looks like Chris."

I don't think I could ever join in on a not-cute baby discussion because, ya know, karma. Scary.

I watch Baby Mama at least once a month.

I liked watching my little FB ten year movie, but didn't share it and wish everybody else would stop.

I feel guilty about having to leave Eddie for the night when I have baby #2. Makes me feel like a big wimp. I know many of you are rolling your eyes right now.

MRoxy0628

MississippiCatfish said:

FTR, I didn't mind DH's beard for almost 3 months. I like scruff! We are at the point now where I saw the photos of that man who was lost at sea for almost a year or something and thought, Hhmm. Looks like Chris." I don't think I could ever join in on a not-cute baby discussion because, ya know, karma. Scary. I watch Baby Mama at least once a month. I liked watching my little FB ten year movie, but didn't share it and wish everybody else would stop. I feel guilty about having to leave Eddie for the night when I have baby #2. Makes me feel like a big wimp. I know many of you are rolling your eyes right now.

I'm worried about that too and I'm not pregnant! I think that's a normal worry.

MrsKipper

Nola started saying "apple" recently so when I give her a gogosqueez applesauce she says "apple!" She also says apple when she sees a banana that she wants. The poor girl is going to think that everything BUT an apple is an apple.

misspunky

I feel like MOTY.  The plan for today was to drop DD off at my parents at 430, then I moved it up to 330 because she's been a pill with me the last couple days.  It's now 1120 and I'm getting ready to drop her off with my dad.  She's a terror with me and I'm praying it's just a stage, but I really can't take it today.  

thebanich

IndigoVader said:

I love DH with a beard and mustache.

We almost never have gourmet sex, that's ok, I'll settle for sleep.

Indy told me this morning that DH is his best friend. Ok, cool, not going to freak. I told him later that I love him, and he said, "No, mommy, I don't love you." Cue the tears and ugly cry.

Lilly has started doing this just to be a turd. She does it to me and my mom about once a day. It is so mean and I really wish I knew where or how she learned that.

>:D<

hmp1

MississippiCatfish said:

 I feel guilty about having to leave Eddie for the night when I have baby #2. Makes me feel like a big wimp. I know many of you are rolling your eyes right now.

When I had Leo, DH went home every night (well, both nights) and did bedtime with James. It worked out well since I had Leo at like 11am so I was fine by myself for a few hours in the evening. 

BeebopandBuddy

IndigoVader said:

I love DH with a beard and mustache.

We almost never have gourmet sex, that's ok, I'll settle for sleep.

Indy told me this morning that DH is his best friend. Ok, cool, not going to freak. I told him later that I love him, and he said, "No, mommy, I don't love you." Cue the tears and ugly cry.

It seems like we are living parallel lives with our toddlers lately.  Mine made me cry the other night too.  They can be so mean.  I'm sorry.  Little snotheads.

mrsbhk22

LoisLayn23 said:

And now I feel guilty for complaining about pregnancy when so many women here have experienced loss and long to be pregnant.

I know there's no pain olympics and all that.

@loislayn23 I wouldn't feel guilty about venting. HG is no joke - I can't imagine how miserable you've been, especially with other kids and a job outside the home. Anyone who is around here knows you are compassionate to TTTC. I think people are sometimes quick to cry pain Olympics when it's truly just a vent.

Holly_1007

hmp1 said:

MississippiCatfish said:

 I feel guilty about having to leave Eddie for the night when I have baby #2. Makes me feel like a big wimp. I know many of you are rolling your eyes right now.

When I had Leo, DH went home every night (well, both nights) and did bedtime with James. It worked out well since I had Leo at like 11am so I was fine by myself for a few hours in the evening. 

Dh didn't stay at the hospital overnight with me when we had Colby. It was his weekend with SD so he wanted to spend time with her also. They spent time at the hospital, but he was home with the kids at night. I was like you and terrified to leave keagan, even with my mom

AKB090609

I 'broke' the internet last night. DH has gotten back into some stupid online game again and I'm tired of him trying to keep us up late so he can do all his daily's. He couldn't figure out why it was back to working when we went to watch Netflix.

Holly_1007

Dh just left to drop keagan off at my parents house for the weekend. I'm crying. He has gone up there a couple of times for overnights but not often. I miss the little turd already.

LegallyBlonde217

ktnicole said:

FFFC: my coworker (asst. Mgr) just found out she can't have kids after the dye test showed complete blockage. My heart hurts for her and I don't know how I will start ttc with her struggles. I shouldn't let it stop me from having a bigger family and DH would never understand but I can't imagine going through my pregnancy with her hurting. /rambling

@ktnicole - Blocked tubes doesn't mean she can't have children.  It just means she can't conceive through sex or IUI.  IVF completely bypasses the fallopian tubes.  She could absolutely get pregnant that way. 

willy_gert

I personally think my kid is absolutely adorable and I have no idea where it came from, seriously.  DH and I are not handsome or super pretty, but seriously, I think my little girl is beautiful.

I am having a war within myself about Luci and her weight.  She has never been "underweight" but has always fallen about the 50th to 60th percentiles, but in the last three months, she has been gaining like crazy.  I know she is growing and getting taller, but my own weight issues are transferring over to her I think.  I am fearful that my weight issues are going to harm her or something.  I hate myself for this and am trying to get over it etc, but I am worried.  She is wearing 12-18 month clothing and I am freaking out about it for some reason.

MarisaKathleen

@willy_gert, Nanc is wearing 18 or 24mo in pants and either 12 or 18 mo in tops.  She's in the 65% for weight and 90% for height.  

I think Luci's totally normal! :-)

willy_gert

mrssqueegy said:

willy_gert said:

I personally think my kid is absolutely adorable and I have no idea where it came from, seriously.  DH and I are not handsome or super pretty, but seriously, I think my little girl is beautiful.

I am having a war within myself about Luci and her weight.  She has never been "underweight" but has always fallen about the 50th to 60th percentiles, but in the last three months, she has been gaining like crazy.  I know she is growing and getting taller, but my own weight issues are transferring over to her I think.  I am fearful that my weight issues are going to harm her or something.  I hate myself for this and am trying to get over it etc, but I am worried.  She is wearing 12-18 month clothing and I am freaking out about it for some reason.

My kid was once down at 5%tile and is now at 64%tile.  I sometimes worry that he is gaining too much but we don't feed him any junk food so I know that he is gaining on an extremely healthy diet.

Do you think you need to work on the kinds of food you offer her?  Or do you think she is just gaining at her own rate and should try not to worry?

I think I could do better on her diet but it also isn't like she is eating Snickers and Juice for every meal.  I have just noticed that she is gaining quickly and it freaks me out that I even think about it so much.  The doctor is thrilled that she is gaining weight and doing well, so I shouldn't be worried at all.  Its just this weird internal conflict thing that I go through every time we are moving up a size in clothing or the doctor says she has gained weight.  

I just fear that I am a bad mom and nobody is telling me except for that lady at church who emails me.

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danabsd

LoisLayn23 said:

This one is not rational and I'm totally not looking for sympathy or sorry messages. I just need to get it out for me.

My grandpa died on Wednesday and I found out via group text from my dad and was pissed. They aren't doing a service so there's no goodbye. But deaths come in 3's and now I'm irrationally terrified that I will go to my 12 week appointment on Monday and have a dead baby. The anxiety is almost crippling me the past couple of days.

I am sort to hear about your grandpa and the text.  

@shiggybop said what I was going to say. I have those same feelings, still. All.the.time. 

danabsd

@AlinnJo said: I am so stinking jealous of all the pregnant ladies. This wouldn't be the best month for me to get KU but I am sad my test was negative. It is only our first month of trying but damn. I am irrationally worried that I won't be able to get pregnant on my own. I don't know why. I AM so very happy for all of you. And I feel like a selfish bitch writing this. Sorry

I think a lot of people have these feelings when TTC and it's not something to be ashamed of, it's human nature. I have a very good friend who got married in October and just went through a miscarriage. She kept me up to date on their TTC and was thrilled to be PG. I sent my sympathy on the day of her D&C but she hasn't spoken to me since she told me she miscarried. I am about 100% sure it's because I am PG and she harbors some sort of jealousy or resentment towards me. It hurts my feeling, but I won't push her.

I am not even sure what the point of that was. Maybe I just needed to say it.

danabsd

@willy_gert said: mrssqueegy said: willy_gert said: I personally think my kid is absolutely adorable and I have no idea where it came from, seriously. DH and I are not handsome or super pretty, but seriously, I think my little girl is beautiful. I am having a war within myself about Luci and her weight. She has never been "underweight" but has always fallen about the 50th to 60th percentiles, but in the last three months, she has been gaining like crazy. I know she is growing and getting taller, but my own weight issues are transferring over to her I think. I am fearful that my weight issues are going to harm her or something. I hate myself for this and am trying to get over it etc, but I am worried. She is wearing 12-18 month clothing and I am freaking out about it for some reason. My kid was once down at 5%tile and is now at 64%tile. I sometimes worry that he is gaining too much but we don't feed him any junk food so I know that he is gaining on an extremely healthy diet. Do you think you need to work on the kinds of food you offer her? Or do you think she is just gaining at her own rate and should try not to worry? I think I could do better on her diet but it also isn't like she is eating Snickers and Juice for every meal. I have just noticed that she is gaining quickly and it freaks me out that I even think about it so much. The doctor is thrilled that she is gaining weight and doing well, so I shouldn't be worried at all. Its just this weird internal conflict thing that I go through every time we are moving up a size in clothing or the doctor says she has gained weight. I just fear that I am a bad mom and nobody is telling me except for that lady at church who emails me. 

She's always been small, she's just catching up. Just like big babies weight starts to slow down at a certain point. Nothing to worry about.

BillyMollyEmmy

willy_gert said:

I personally think my kid is absolutely adorable and I have no idea where it came from, seriously.  DH and I are not handsome or super pretty, but seriously, I think my little girl is beautiful.

I am having a war within myself about Luci and her weight.  She has never been "underweight" but has always fallen about the 50th to 60th percentiles, but in the last three months, she has been gaining like crazy.  I know she is growing and getting taller, but my own weight issues are transferring over to her I think.  I am fearful that my weight issues are going to harm her or something.  I hate myself for this and am trying to get over it etc, but I am worried.  She is wearing 12-18 month clothing and I am freaking out about it for some reason.

My child wears 2T. I think you're okay

tinyhumantoe

5th for weight, 75th for height, 12-18 mo clothes.

Food-wise, I think along the line of - is she being fed healthy food?  Weight shouldn't be a part of that either way - whether you're concerned they're gaining too much, or not enough.

I noticed after a few weeks of feeding W total crap that I was routinely thinking to myself, "welp, she could stand to gain some weight so it's okay."  The truth was it was not healthy food.  There are healthy calorie and fat powerhouses I can feed her if I want to make sure she's getting enough to keep her healthy and energetic. 

**DING**  Idea - maybe if I stop feeding her she'll calm the fuck down.

ktnicole

LegallyBlonde217 said:

ktnicole said:

FFFC: my coworker (asst. Mgr) just found out she can't have kids after the dye test showed complete blockage. My heart hurts for her and I don't know how I will start ttc with her struggles. I shouldn't let it stop me from having a bigger family and DH would never understand but I can't imagine going through my pregnancy with her hurting. /rambling

@ktnicole - Blocked tubes doesn't mean she can't have children.  It just means she can't conceive through sex or IUI.  IVF completely bypasses the fallopian tubes.  She could absolutely get pregnant that way. 


@legallyblonde217- She did say they could do IVF and her parents are offering to help pay since insurance covers zero. She isn't sure about it because she is afraid of further disappointment. If she does, I believe it takes longer than our timeline but I'm not sure on that. @mrssqueegy- her dr didn't offer anything besides IVF, maybe that is something she can ask about. Worth a shot once she is comfortable talking more.

willy_gert

danabsd said:

@AlinnJo said: I am so stinking jealous of all the pregnant ladies. This wouldn't be the best month for me to get KU but I am sad my test was negative. It is only our first month of trying but damn. I am irrationally worried that I won't be able to get pregnant on my own. I don't know why. I AM so very happy for all of you. And I feel like a selfish bitch writing this. Sorry

I think a lot of people have these feelings when TTC and it's not something to be ashamed of, it's human nature. I have a very good friend who got married in October and just went through a miscarriage. She kept me up to date on their TTC and was thrilled to be PG. I sent my sympathy on the day of her D&C but she hasn't spoken to me since she told me she miscarried. I am about 100% sure it's because I am PG and she harbors some sort of jealousy or resentment towards me. It hurts my feeling, but I won't push her.

I am not even sure what the point of that was. Maybe I just needed to say it.

@danabsd I am so sorry you are going through this!  I had a friend do the same to me when I got pregnant.  I told her personally before telling anyone else and told her that I understood how she was feeling and that I wouldn't be hurt if she didn't want to talk to me or be around me because of my being pregnant.  The next time I saw her was when she took Luci's newborn pictures for me.  I haven't talked to her since.  

I had T-TTC and it sucked, but I tried to remember that people weren't getting pregnant just to hurt me!  I'm really sorry your friend is being like that!

MarisaKathleen

@danabsd: I was a dick to people while we were having so much trouble conceiving.  I know I was.  I had friends getting knocked up on accident left and right and it was killing me to think that they're at crappy places in their lives and don't even want that kid and here I am struggling.  Pf.  It was so stupid.

I hope your friend comes around.  

KellersPrag

BillyMollyEmmy said:

willy_gert said:

I personally think my kid is absolutely adorable and I have no idea where it came from, seriously.  DH and I are not handsome or super pretty, but seriously, I think my little girl is beautiful.

I am having a war within myself about Luci and her weight.  She has never been "underweight" but has always fallen about the 50th to 60th percentiles, but in the last three months, she has been gaining like crazy.  I know she is growing and getting taller, but my own weight issues are transferring over to her I think.  I am fearful that my weight issues are going to harm her or something.  I hate myself for this and am trying to get over it etc, but I am worried.  She is wearing 12-18 month clothing and I am freaking out about it for some reason.

My child wears 2T. I think you're okay

Mine's fully in 3T all the way around now. 98% for weight, 90% for height. A friend's son is shorter and weighs less than C, and he has always been in bigger sizes than her. Kids are all just built differently!

melody921

mrssqueegy said:

This is more of a UO, but I wasn't around yesterday.

I think those cabbage patch doll wigs are hideous.

LOL, looks at siggy. I love them, obviously. It gives my little baldy a new look :-D

melody921

IndigoVader said:

Here's another FFFC- or why mom is crying again

I found out recently that my first big rescue was put to sleep. She had mange and a staph infection, and we had already lost all her puppies. I'm a little skeptical, because the 'foster/other rescuer' only contacted me with either more money requests or bad news. Apparently, she developed epilepsy on top of all her issues, but the girl never contacted me. I am angry, but I am more pissed that I trusted this person when I was basically begging for ANYONE to help and it seems to be all for nothing. Also, @shiggybop, you will have a PM in like a few minutes.

Aww, I'm sorry. That sucks.

redneckmomma25

I feel like i shove G into tiny clothes or something. She's huge but in 18 and 24mo stuff.

I wish G slept outside of her crib. I'd love to send her to someone for a night. MIL wants to take us to Texas for cousins baby shower. We have 2 week long vacays this summer. I absolutely dread any of it. I don't want to go just because she won't sleep.

I would much rather not go on a vacation that have a crappy sleeper who will sleep anywhere.

melody921

redneckmomma25 said:

I feel like i shove G into tiny clothes or something. She's huge but in 18 and 24mo stuff. I wish G slept outside of her crib. I'd love to send her to someone for a night. MIL wants to take us to Texas for cousins baby shower. We have 2 week long vacays this summer. I absolutely dread any of it. I don't want to go just because she won't sleep. I would much rather not go on a vacation that have a crappy sleeper who will sleep anywhere.

By summer, she could be a completely different sleeper! Is there a way to test her out for a night or two, somewhere other than her crib, to get her used to it before you go away?

hmp1

redneckmomma25 said:

I feel like i shove G into tiny clothes or something. She's huge but in 18 and 24mo stuff. I wish G slept outside of her crib. I'd love to send her to someone for a night. MIL wants to take us to Texas for cousins baby shower. We have 2 week long vacays this summer. I absolutely dread any of it. I don't want to go just because she won't sleep. I would much rather not go on a vacation that have a crappy sleeper who will sleep anywhere.

Same with Leo. 80's for weight and 99% for height and he is in 18-24 for most stuff with some 2T pants for length only. Most 2T pants are too baggy for him though.

Have you tried doing PNP naps at your house? Start in her room in the pnp and work her to different rooms. 

Hyaline

Re: Being a dick to/feeling dicky towards people who get pregnant easily when you're struggling: A good friend of mine went through this and very wisely chose me (I was neither trying nor pregnant nor interested at the time) as her unload-onto person.  She could vent to me about friends getting KU, seeing pregos in the gyno's office and wanting to utepunch them, all of that, without making anyone feel guilty.  I admired her self-awareness so much.

Hyaline

LoisLayn23 said:

FFFC: I don't feel sad, guilt, or anything but sheer joy when I drop my kids off for an overnight or weekend.

I trust both sets of parents and they love having them around.

Same here, only it's only been with DH because both sets of parents are hands-off grandparents.  I've wondered if I'm missing some vital mom gene because I have yet to miss my kid while we're apart and most people are talking about missing their kids five minutes after dropping them off at grandma's or whatever.

MarisaKathleen

I'm irrationally bummed that the house we put the offer in on won't be going through.  It was a short sale but the seller didn't disclose a few liens against the property as well as a pending bankruptcy which is causing all kinds of issues. Also, what the fuck are you doing taking out 3 mortgages on a house?  Why wouldn't you try and get out before it gets to that point?  This is a 2600sq ft home for under $200K in a desirable area with no major repairs that need to be made.  I just can't figure out why you wouldn't try to fix the problem before it gets SO bad.

willy_gert

MarisaKathleen said:

I'm irrationally bummed that the house we put the offer in on won't be going through.  It was a short sale but the seller didn't disclose a few liens against the property as well as a pending bankruptcy which is causing all kinds of issues. Also, what the fuck are you doing taking out 3 mortgages on a house?  Why wouldn't you try and get out before it gets to that point?  This is a 2600sq ft home for under $200K in a desirable area with no major repairs that need to be made.  I just can't figure out why you wouldn't try to fix the problem before it gets SO bad.

I'm sorry you didn't get it!

DH's boss just went through a foreclosure and I don't get it at all.  They were in danger of foreclosure, but the bank messed something up so they got another 2+ years in the house.  Instead of turning shit around and trying to make it or get out of it without the foreclosure, they bought new cars instead and still eat out every single meal.  Literally every single meal.  It drives me insane, because now they talk about how the bank "stole" their house. 

hmp1

MarisaKathleen said:

I'm irrationally bummed that the house we put the offer in on won't be going through.  It was a short sale but the seller didn't disclose a few liens against the property as well as a pending bankruptcy which is causing all kinds of issues. Also, what the fuck are you doing taking out 3 mortgages on a house?  Why wouldn't you try and get out before it gets to that point?  This is a 2600sq ft home for under $200K in a desirable area with no major repairs that need to be made.  I just can't figure out why you wouldn't try to fix the problem before it gets SO bad.

They could have gotten all three mortgages when they bought. An 80-10-10 used to be a fairly common offering for a mortgage for someone not looking to put anything down.