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bunny0711 said:

helloblueeyes said:

FFFC:

I can't imagine getting to this stage in life and having no experience with babies or kids. To go into pregnancy having never been around it is so bizarre to me. I went into it knowing all the details, possibilities and really shitty parts. I knew what to expect from morning sickness, cravings, constipation etc. And not because i read all about it but because of all the people around me that have gone through it. Somebody in my circle has had a kid at least every other year since i've been 10. Sometimes every year, sometimes twice a year. Aunts, cousins, friends, older sisters of friends etc. 

I know that there are people and situations where they happen to be that age or in that place that they are the first.  But it's just so weird to me. 

Also i think if i went into pregnancy and parenthood with no experience it would be so much harder. Like what the hell have i gotten myself into and why didn't anyone tell me it was going to be like this. 

Just something that's been on my mind. 

Really? I don't think it's that weird. I'm an oldest child, all of my aunts had children within a few years of me being born, none of my close friends have kids. I don't work in an environment where I would ever come across children. 

No one I know IRL ever mentioned the nasty parts of pregnancy. It was all roses and sunshine for them. I now think they're all big liars. But, totally, I've had some moments where I wondered why it wasn't common knowledge that pregnancy sucks in the biggest way. 

My husband's brother has three kids so I have some experience with them but they aren't MY kids. I play with them for a few hours and then I go home. I definitely feel a level of anxiety about what to actually DO with a newborn once it comes home. 

Here's a headups for ya....just wait until you have the baby and haven't taken a dump in a week (they'll give you softeners).  That was one of the most painful, infuriating things that I had to deal with in pregnancy.  I seriously took a dump a size of a professional sized football and prayed to the toilet gods that it would go down in one flush.  You're welcome!

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alyss0nl

Our anniversary was yesterday, and I totally forgot to get a gift for DH. I had such a busy week with parent-teacher conferences that it totally skipped my mind. I felt terrible since he gave me a certificate for facial! But, we got out early today, so I got my butt to the mall and there is now a gift waiting for him.

helloblueeyes

bunny0711 said:

helloblueeyes said:

FFFC:

I can't imagine getting to this stage in life and having no experience with babies or kids. To go into pregnancy having never been around it is so bizarre to me. I went into it knowing all the details, possibilities and really shitty parts. I knew what to expect from morning sickness, cravings, constipation etc. And not because i read all about it but because of all the people around me that have gone through it. Somebody in my circle has had a kid at least every other year since i've been 10. Sometimes every year, sometimes twice a year. Aunts, cousins, friends, older sisters of friends etc. 

I know that there are people and situations where they happen to be that age or in that place that they are the first.  But it's just so weird to me. 

Also i think if i went into pregnancy and parenthood with no experience it would be so much harder. Like what the hell have i gotten myself into and why didn't anyone tell me it was going to be like this. 

Just something that's been on my mind. 

Really? I don't think it's that weird. I'm an oldest child, all of my aunts had children within a few years of me being born, none of my close friends have kids. I don't work in an environment where I would ever come across children. 

No one I know IRL ever mentioned the nasty parts of pregnancy. It was all roses and sunshine for them. I now think they're all big liars. But, totally, I've had some moments where I wondered why it wasn't common knowledge that pregnancy sucks in the biggest way. 

My husband's brother has three kids so I have some experience with them but they aren't MY kids. I play with them for a few hours and then I go home. I definitely feel a level of anxiety about what to actually DO with a newborn once it comes home. 

I totally get that it happens and some people just haven't been around it. There isn't anything wrong with it, I just can't imagine it. It's just been such a part of my life, i was the go to babysitter for everyone i knew for years. I am they only person my mom and her ex could agree on to take my younger siblings if anything happened to the both of them. I practically was a pregnancy wikipedia for one of my co-workers despite not actually having any kids of my own cause i knew the answers to all of her questions. Things her doctor would talk about that she didn't quite get, i could explain it to her. 

My DH has a DD from a previous relationship, so between us there isn't really a whole lot we haven't been exposed to or have to figure out. Except probably breastfeeding and in that regard i have done my homework. I think it may be part of the reason i'm not feeling as excited as i thought i would, i'm also not feeling as anxious as i thought i would be either. 

Eener31

This pregnancy is giving me the stinkiest vag. It is NOT a cleanliness issue. It IS embarrassing and God awful. I feel sorry for anyone who uses the bathroom after me, and I hate myself every time I drop trou.

marsalisails

tealowl said:

FFFC - the last few days, I SWEAR its the baby moving. I have no gas. Could be muscle spasms, but I just don't think it is. My friend dismissed it which bummed me out. I don't think S/O will believe me either. I'm a STM and I'm 15wks, is it really too early? I'm just excited about it and no one else is. HMMPFT *pouts*

@tealowl - I'm a STM, 15+ weeks, and I've felt the baby move. I had my Doppler out one day, and the baby was on my right side...thought I felt the baby move on the other side, but said "nah, couldn't be"...got the Doppler out, and it was on the left! I can't feel it steadily or anything, but it has happened!

Csltdk

alyssa719 your Team Unicorn makes me giggle everytime, hee hee I love it

AutumnBonfire

bunny0711 said:

helloblueeyes said:

FFFC:

I can't imagine getting to this stage in life and having no experience with babies or kids. To go into pregnancy having never been around it is so bizarre to me. I went into it knowing all the details, possibilities and really shitty parts. I knew what to expect from morning sickness, cravings, constipation etc. And not because i read all about it but because of all the people around me that have gone through it. Somebody in my circle has had a kid at least every other year since i've been 10. Sometimes every year, sometimes twice a year. Aunts, cousins, friends, older sisters of friends etc. 

I know that there are people and situations where they happen to be that age or in that place that they are the first.  But it's just so weird to me. 

Also i think if i went into pregnancy and parenthood with no experience it would be so much harder. Like what the hell have i gotten myself into and why didn't anyone tell me it was going to be like this. 

Just something that's been on my mind. 

Really? I don't think it's that weird. I'm an oldest child, all of my aunts had children within a few years of me being born, none of my close friends have kids. I don't work in an environment where I would ever come across children. 

No one I know IRL ever mentioned the nasty parts of pregnancy. It was all roses and sunshine for them. I now think they're all big liars. But, totally, I've had some moments where I wondered why it wasn't common knowledge that pregnancy sucks in the biggest way. 

My husband's brother has three kids so I have some experience with them but they aren't MY kids. I play with them for a few hours and then I go home. I definitely feel a level of anxiety about what to actually DO with a newborn once it comes home. 

I was never around babies growing up. I'm an only child and I have a really small family. I'm the first of my friends to have kids. My close cousin had a baby, but I was in high school at the time so I wasn't really involved. She didn't talk about her pregnancy. She made fun of me for years about never changing a diaper. The first diaper I changed was DS's. Of course my aunt was there to tell my cousin all the details so she could make fun of me - I used too many wipes (meconium is pretty sticky), DS peed on me, hahaha. I read a few books, did some online research, and some Bump lurking and I did just fine. DH has a large family and was the last of his siblings to have kids. He was around babies for all of his adult like and had no clue what he was doing.

As for nobody talking about the nasty things with pregnancy - I noticed that too. I was aware of some things, but others were a surprise. I decided its all part of a big cover up when I was pregnant the first time. I was waiting for someone to come to my door to sign a nondisclosure statement so we can perpetuate the human race. 

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My rather disgusting FFFC: I have begun to develop nipple crusties on a regular basis.

I'm assuming my boobs are beginning to secrete some sort of fluid, just enough for me to get the boobtacular version of morning eye-corner crusties. Such sexiness.

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Lori_n_Lior said:

I don't use deodorant and never really have, I hardly sweat and when I do it doesn't smell. I asked my doctor friend about it once out of curiosity and he said some people don't have the gene for body odor.

I very rarely use it, and I've never really had much problem either.

nola 1017

^THIS!! I came out of law school and got into a big firm with good money. I was top 10% of my class; law review editorial board. It's tough. My school debt is insane. I left the big firm for a smaller firm and allegedly better hours. Took a 1/3 cut in pay. And I still have work on the weekends.

TugboatSheila

Lori_n_Lior said:

I don't use deodorant and never really have, I hardly sweat and when I do it doesn't smell. I asked my doctor friend about it once out of curiosity and he said some people don't have the gene for body odor.

I very rarely use it, and I've never really had much problem either.

STUCK IN THE GREY

I had switched from regular deo to arm and hammer because of the aluminum in regular deodorant. I used it for years before realizing it never did anything for me except put a gel mess on my pits. Then I started trying all kinds of natural deos which my body rejected vehemently. Now I make my own and I must admit The past several weeks when I've been working solidly from home I will go an entire week without putting any on. I figure I'm not leaving the house and I shower everyday so it's not that important to me.