I finally have one. Missing my body already. Love being able to feel baby move and having baby move but oh man getting used to this belly is a challenge. I'll attempt to squeeze through a small space only to have my belly hit something along the way while I realize too late I don't fit through small spaces anymore. Ouch! I'm tired of people running into my bump already too or accidentally knocking it. Not to mention my overall figure is 'filled out' with my twice as big boobs and changing waistline - one week even going from rounded on the sides to major curves which I've never had in my life. I still fit in my regular jeans with a belly band so I feel like my body is going wonkers and playing tricks on me. I watch skinny girls walk by with envy - something I've never done - definitely NOT envying their baby less belly but envying being able to fit in small spaces and in all my clothes.
FFFC: I think it is ridiculous the amount of flames people get for planning on traveling with a newborn. While they are at a greater risk for catching illness there are steps that can be taken to mitigate this issue.
Also I think travel with kids and moving with kids, while it can be hard is also very beneficial if done in a healthy manner. I was chatting with someone the other day who feels it is equal to child abuse to move with your kid every 2-3 years and that it would socially screw them up for life and make it where they would never be able to make friends. I think the benefits of seeing new places and possibly the world are so great for children when it comes to learning and society.
13 yr old boy with ASD, ADHD and PICA, 11 yr old boy, 3 yr old Girl, & baby Girl.
My confessions...
1. I've never held a baby. I'm terrified I won't know what to do with this one. I know everyone says your mother instinct kicks in blah blah etc, but I jus can't wrap my head around it. A customer plopped his baby on my desk yesterday and I almost asked if I could hold him just for practice but I didn't because I was scared I'd drop it.
2. Rember my bravado post about how great sex in the 2nd trimester was? I think it was around New Years...well, that's the last time I've done it. I feel bad for us both, but whenever he's in the mood I'm not and vice versa. Not to mention I've had a near constant UTI, and what's sexier than that?
We've had sex twice (2 times) (dos) (1+1) since I became pregnant. I feel like I just might need to attack him whiles he's sleeping...again. (That was the second time).
Oh and I have another. I'm on a roll. This one may have already been done, but I don't like other peoples kids unless they're babies or my DSs ages, 12 and 14, AT ALL. They all look like snotty little brats to me, even when their noses aren't running and even when they aren't being brats, it's all I can think of. Ok this is horrible and I have seen a few that don't repulse me but most of them I think 'I'm glad I'm not your mother' when I see them. I realize this is probably just because I'm so overwhelmed with the stage I am at with teenagers and a baby on the way that the age 2 and up til teenagerhood where mine are at terrifies me right now. I can't even fathom dealing with that age again.
ETA: Flame away. I probably need a few GIFs to tell me what a b%## I'm being right now .
Also I think travel with kids and moving with kids, while it can be hard is also very beneficial if done in a healthy manner. I was chatting with someone the other day who feels it is equal to child abuse to move with your kid every 2-3 years and that it would socially screw them up for life and make it where they would never be able to make friends. I think the benefits of seeing new places and possibly the world are so great for children when it comes to learning and society.
Wow, my DH grew up moving every 2-3 years. He is extremely flexible and easy to make friends with which is partly due to moving. I guess according to that person all military kids are screwed up. I kinda wanna throat punch that person...
Agreed with the throat punch. I moved around a LOT as a kid. I was in 3 different schools in 8th grade alone. But my dad's military career required the frequent moving, and I don't resent my childhood at all. It made me a very independent, outgoing individual.
Inspired by yesterday's UO: I really don't like dogs. Some are ok, but I really have no desire to ever own one. I hate going to (most) people's houses who have dogs, unless they are little lap dogs. I don't want to be licked, jumped on, or have my crotch sniffed. I really hate it when the owner thinks its funny and laughs. I realize the dog lives there and I don't, so I just won't come over. I've always been a cat person and if someone doesn't like my cat or is allergic, I would put him in another room rather than enjoy someone's discomfort.
I just want to say, I LOVE YOU for this post. I am NOT a dog person either and ppl give me so much shit for it
Also I think travel with kids and moving with kids, while it can be hard is also very beneficial if done in a healthy manner. I was chatting with someone the other day who feels it is equal to child abuse to move with your kid every 2-3 years and that it would socially screw them up for life and make it where they would never be able to make friends. I think the benefits of seeing new places and possibly the world are so great for children when it comes to learning and society.
Wow, my DH grew up moving every 2-3 years. He is extremely flexible and easy to make friends with which is partly due to moving. I guess according to that person all military kids are screwed up. I kinda wanna throat punch that person...
Agreed with the throat punch. I moved around a LOT as a kid. I was in 3 different schools in 8th grade alone. But my dad's military career required the frequent moving, and I don't resent my childhood at all. It made me a very independent, outgoing individual.
My dad is military so yeah I was super annoyed with it. I think the friends I have that I am close to mean just as much to me as the friends some people have had since kindergarten.
13 yr old boy with ASD, ADHD and PICA, 11 yr old boy, 3 yr old Girl, & baby Girl.
I finally have one - I have little patience for people who make their lives harder on purpose. I have a colleague who worries so much about trying to fix the world and make everything better that he can't handle his job. Which means the rest of us have to pick up the slack. It's not that he's not a good person, but I could do his job IN MY SLEEP and I am so tired of hearing him complain because the world isn't sunshine and roses and he wants to "fix it". Just do your job and stop complaining! It makes me want to punch him in a not nice place.
FFFC - I get jealous of people's bigger fruit. I'm going to be a sweet potato tomorrow and I think it kind of looks like a turd.
I'd much rather be a banana.
I was so happy to graduate to a mango. That sweet potato really is gross looking.
FFFC: I have a massage tonight. I can't wait for it. I may just tell DH I combined 2 (he got me a package of 3) and go shopping after my hour is up for extra me time.
Also, update to my earlier FFFC. My Wendy's Spicy Chicken Sandwich was so much better than the sandwich I brought and ate at 9am. Totally worth it.
With regard to reprimanding other people's children...I do it for a living, so you can be sure I will have no problem saying something to a child whose behavior is affecting my kid.
Another FFFC: I've become completely desensitized (insensitive?) to children crying at the top of their lungs. When one of my kindergartners started bawling hysterically when I put her in time out, I just put her in the hall so she didn't bother the other kids. I'm listening to a second grader with special needs downstairs cry right now (yes, I can hear it a floor away) and all I can think is, *sigh*. Unless they are physically hurt, I just have no patience for the wailing. Regular quiet crying is different, because that's usually genuine and not just for attention. But the carrying on and wailing at the top of your lungs? No. Stop it.
I can't imagine getting to this stage in life and having no experience with babies or kids. To go into pregnancy having never been around it is so bizarre to me. I went into it knowing all the details, possibilities and really shitty parts. I knew what to expect from morning sickness, cravings, constipation etc. And not because i read all about it but because of all the people around me that have gone through it. Somebody in my circle has had a kid at least every other year since i've been 10. Sometimes every year, sometimes twice a year. Aunts, cousins, friends, older sisters of friends etc.
I know that there are people and situations where they happen to be that age or in that place that they are the first. But it's just so weird to me.
Also i think if i went into pregnancy and parenthood with no experience it would be so much harder. Like what the hell have i gotten myself into and why didn't anyone tell me it was going to be like this.
I am blessed that my mil will be watching the baby when I go back to work and I don't have to pay for daycare and I'm also scared that she is going to try to raise my daughter and be closer to her than I am. I'm being a shit I know but I can't help it
Once a month, I log into my mom's Facebook account (without her knowledge) and start liking pages she would never like herself. Some of it is for a laugh (The Onion), some of it is to expand her world view (George Takei), and others, like the American Asscoiation of Pediatrics, are so she will personally come across modern parenting/safety/SIDS ideas and practices that she would otherwise not be exposed to. When I tell her that something should be done a certain way that is contrary to how it was when she raised kids, I tend to get the side-eye. If she reads it herself, she believes it more.
It was really funny the few times she shared a The Onion story thinking it was fact. But she has also started conversations with me about parenting topics based on the articles she is finding in her newsfeed which are relevant and helpful. I don't feel guilty at all.
My Confession:
Once a month, I log into my mom's Facebook account (without her knowledge) and start liking pages she would never like herself. Some of it is for a laugh (The Onion), some of it is to expand her world view (George Takei), and others, like the American Asscoiation of Pediatrics, are so she will personally come across modern parenting/safety/SIDS ideas and practices that she would otherwise not be exposed to. When I tell her that something should be done a certain way that is contrary to how when she raised kids, I tend to get the side-eye. If she reads it herself, she believes it more.
It was really funny the few times she shared a The Onion story thinking it was fact. But she has also started conversations with me about parenting topics based on the articles she is finding in her newsfeed which are relevant and helpful. I don't feel guilty at all.
This is pure genius.
My confession: I am completely worthless at work today. I just am staring at the clock until it hits five. Plus, I'm a little bummed because I had Justin Timberlake tickets, but gave them away since I had a crappy week and didn't want to travel for the concert. Is it sweatpants o'clock yet?!
Me: 27 DH: 30 Married in 2011 Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014) Baby 2: Due May 2016
The other day I went into a bathroom at work and there were two doctors standing in the hallway just outside the door. I sat down to pee and surprised myself by accidentally ripping a booming loud fart. I am pretty mortified that those doctors HAD to have heard it.
I am planning to buy three boxes of girl scout cookies today and eat one before DH comes home. When he comes home I will share the happy news that I bought two boxes of girl scout cookies today!
The other day I went into a bathroom at work and there were two doctors standing in the hallway just outside the door. I sat down to pee and surprised myself by accidentally ripping a booming loud fart. I am pretty mortified that those doctors HAD to have heard it.
I am planning to buy three boxes of girl scout cookies today and eat one before DH comes home. When he comes home I will share the happy news that I bought two boxes of girl scout cookies today!
I just snorted (in my quiet office) regarding your first confession. I have been there...
The other day I went into a bathroom at work and there were two doctors standing in the hallway just outside the door. I sat down to pee and surprised myself by accidentally ripping a booming loud fart. I am pretty mortified that those doctors HAD to have heard it.
I am planning to buy three boxes of girl scout cookies today and eat one before DH comes home. When he comes home I will share the happy news that I bought two boxes of girl scout cookies today!
I just snorted (in my quiet office) regarding your first confession. I have been there...
FFFC - I get jealous of people's bigger fruit. I'm going to be a sweet potato tomorrow and I think it kind of looks like a turd.
I'd much rather be a banana.
I was so happy to graduate to a mango. That sweet potato really is gross looking.
FFFC: I have a massage tonight. I can't wait for it. I may just tell DH I combined 2 (he got me a package of 3) and go shopping after my hour is up for extra me time.
Also, update to my earlier FFFC. My Wendy's Spicy Chicken Sandwich was so much better than the sandwich I brought and ate at 9am. Totally worth it.
FFFC - My only weird craving has been mustard, and I want it on everything. I'm just excited because it has no calories, and I was worried I'd crave something worse for me.
OMG...mustard on pizza is so good, guys.
That actually sounds amazing. I eat my grilled cheese dipped in mustard, so this is right up my alley!
My Confession:
Once a month, I log into my mom's Facebook account (without her knowledge) and start liking pages she would never like herself. Some of it is for a laugh (The Onion), some of it is to expand her world view (George Takei), and others, like the American Asscoiation of Pediatrics, are so she will personally come across modern parenting/safety/SIDS ideas and practices that she would otherwise not be exposed to. When I tell her that something should be done a certain way that is contrary to how it was when she raised kids, I tend to get the side-eye. If she reads it herself, she believes it more.
It was really funny the few times she shared a The Onion story thinking it was fact. But she has also started conversations with me about parenting topics based on the articles she is finding in her newsfeed which are relevant and helpful. I don't feel guilty at all.
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I wish that I thought you were joking. I think this is *horrible*, among being illegal, lying, deceptive, etc... saying that you're doing it to "expand her world view" is crap. So, it's great to see that you obviously feel like your views on the world are so much better/right and your mom's are wrong?
Have you tried sending her articles to read regarding topics (ie. SIDS) versus doing something so nasty and underhanded to achieve your end result?
ETA: If your roles were reversed, how would you feel if someone logged in your account and shared things with your friends that weren't your feelings? For example, if they joined a "Support Putin" group or "I hate gays"?!
I HAAATTTE maternity clothes. I can't wait to get this crap off. It falls off my no-hips/no-butt and takes my underwear with it. HATE.
I hate ppl who push religion (aka: MIL). She doesn't do it to me, but rather her son. And she wonders why he wants nothing to do with her ever (Ok there are a lot of reasons for that).
My Confession:
Once a month, I log into my mom's Facebook account (without her knowledge) and start liking pages she would never like herself. Some of it is for a laugh (The Onion), some of it is to expand her world view (George Takei), and others, like the American Asscoiation of Pediatrics, are so she will personally come across modern parenting/safety/SIDS ideas and practices that she would otherwise not be exposed to. When I tell her that something should be done a certain way that is contrary to how it was when she raised kids, I tend to get the side-eye. If she reads it herself, she believes it more.
It was really funny the few times she shared a The Onion story thinking it was fact. But she has also started conversations with me about parenting topics based on the articles she is finding in her newsfeed which are relevant and helpful. I don't feel guilty at all.
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I find this a flammable post. I don't care how you justify it, logging into someone else's email or facebook is wrong. It is dishonest and it is deceitful. Just like you wouldn't like if someone logged into your facebook and started liking things that are against your beliefs. If you feel your mom should read an article, tag her in it so it shows up on her news feed, don't commit what in some states is Identity Fraud (and a felony) by logging in to her account just to try to prove yourself right.
13 yr old boy with ASD, ADHD and PICA, 11 yr old boy, 3 yr old Girl, & baby Girl.
Kind of a sad confession. I hid the book "Natural Hospital Birth" so that my SIL wouldn't see it when she stayed with us last weekend. The only people I've talked to about wanting to birth med-free are my DH and my Mom and neither of them were very supportive. Their responses were laughter and "You'll change your mind." respectively. DH has since come around and agreed to buy in and be an involved and supportive coach and I don't discuss it with my Mom anymore. Now I don't want to discuss birth or anything to do with it with anyone. I guess I'm afraid that if, in the end, I don't wind up going med-free for whatever reason, I'll have to endure a chorus of "I told you so"s.
FFFC - My only weird craving has been mustard, and I want it on everything. I'm just excited because it has no calories, and I was worried I'd crave something worse for me.
OMG...mustard on pizza is so good, guys.
That actually sounds amazing. I eat my grilled cheese dipped in mustard, so this is right up my alley!
Have you tried the Papa Murphy's cheeseburger pizza. I believe it has mustard in the sauce and it has pickles on it. Pregnant woman's dream!
FFFC - My only weird craving has been mustard, and I want it on everything. I'm just excited because it has no calories, and I was worried I'd crave something worse for me.
OMG...mustard on pizza is so good, guys.
That actually sounds amazing. I eat my grilled cheese dipped in mustard, so this is right up my alley!
Have you tried the Papa Murphy's cheeseburger pizza. I believe it has mustard in the sauce and it has pickles on it. Pregnant woman's dream!
I have never heard of this Papa Murphy character. I'll have to investigate...
Upon further investigation, it looks like I am out of luck being a Bostonian. Though I might pass one on an upcoming road trip. I'll have to remember this.
Kind of a sad confession. I hid the book "Natural Hospital Birth" so that my SIL wouldn't see it when she stayed with us last weekend. The only people I've talked to about wanting to birth med-free are my DH and my Mom and neither of them were very supportive. Their responses were laughter and "You'll change your mind." respectively. DH has since come around and agreed to buy in and be an involved and supportive coach and I don't discuss it with my Mom anymore. Now I don't want to discuss birth or anything to do with it with anyone. I guess I'm afraid that if, in the end, I don't wind up going med-free for whatever reason, I'll have to endure a chorus of "I told you so"s.
Ugh, I feel the same way. Whenever I say I want to go without drugs as long as possible I get laughter and "yeah, right"s up the wazoo. So obnoxious! From now on its between me and my OB!
FFFC - My only weird craving has been mustard, and I want it on everything. I'm just excited because it has no calories, and I was worried I'd crave something worse for me.
OMG...mustard on pizza is so good, guys.
That actually sounds amazing. I eat my grilled cheese dipped in mustard, so this is right up my alley!
Omg I do that too! Everyone thinks I'm weird but it's so delicious. Now I am thinking about the mustard on pizza...
I have another. I never wear socks. Like evarrr. I hate them. I have two pairs of sneakers that I alternate between and they both smell so incredibly bad that I have to wash my feet immediately after taking them off. It's disgusting!!!
Kind of a sad confession. I hid the book "Natural Hospital Birth" so that my SIL wouldn't see it when she stayed with us last weekend. The only people I've talked to about wanting to birth med-free are my DH and my Mom and neither of them were very supportive. Their responses were laughter and "You'll change your mind." respectively. DH has since come around and agreed to buy in and be an involved and supportive coach and I don't discuss it with my Mom anymore. Now I don't want to discuss birth or anything to do with it with anyone. I guess I'm afraid that if, in the end, I don't wind up going med-free for whatever reason, I'll have to endure a chorus of "I told you so"s.
I am really sorry for you. Every woman deserves support for the kind of birth she hopes for. The truth is you might go all the way without wanting drugs, you might decide 3/4 of the way through that you want systemic drugs or an epi, your laboe might move so fast that drugs aren't an option, but you deserve support and to not fear hearing "I told you so".
Re: FFFC
FFFC: I think it is ridiculous the amount of flames people get for planning on traveling with a newborn. While they are at a greater risk for catching illness there are steps that can be taken to mitigate this issue.
Also I think travel with kids and moving with kids, while it can be hard is also very beneficial if done in a healthy manner. I was chatting with someone the other day who feels it is equal to child abuse to move with your kid every 2-3 years and that it would socially screw them up for life and make it where they would never be able to make friends. I think the benefits of seeing new places and possibly the world are so great for children when it comes to learning and society.
13 yr old boy with ASD, ADHD and PICA, 11 yr old boy, 3 yr old Girl, & baby Girl.
ETA: Flame away. I probably need a few GIFs to tell me what a b%## I'm being right now
Agreed with the throat punch. I moved around a LOT as a kid. I was in 3 different schools in 8th grade alone. But my dad's military career required the frequent moving, and I don't resent my childhood at all. It made me a very independent, outgoing individual.
13 yr old boy with ASD, ADHD and PICA, 11 yr old boy, 3 yr old Girl, & baby Girl.
Once a month, I log into my mom's Facebook account (without her knowledge) and start liking pages she would never like herself. Some of it is for a laugh (The Onion), some of it is to expand her world view (George Takei), and others, like the American Asscoiation of Pediatrics, are so she will personally come across modern parenting/safety/SIDS ideas and practices that she would otherwise not be exposed to. When I tell her that something should be done a certain way that is contrary to how it was when she raised kids, I tend to get the side-eye. If she reads it herself, she believes it more.
It was really funny the few times she shared a The Onion story thinking it was fact. But she has also started conversations with me about parenting topics based on the articles she is finding in her newsfeed which are relevant and helpful. I don't feel guilty at all.
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I did GREAT for 24 hours, but... now I'm eating an enormous chocolate muffin. Worth it.
My confession: I am completely worthless at work today.
Married in 2011
Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014)
Baby 2: Due May 2016
I am planning to buy three boxes of girl scout cookies today and eat one before DH comes home. When he comes home I will share the happy news that I bought two boxes of girl scout cookies today!
TTC since October 2012
BFP#1 1/11/13, EDD 9/19/13, M/C at 9wk6dy
BFP#2 11/12/13, DS born 7/28/14!
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I just snorted (in my quiet office) regarding your first confession. I have been there...
TTC since October 2012
BFP#1 1/11/13, EDD 9/19/13, M/C at 9wk6dy
BFP#2 11/12/13, DS born 7/28/14!
Chart
Everyone is welcome
TTC since October 2012
BFP#1 1/11/13, EDD 9/19/13, M/C at 9wk6dy
BFP#2 11/12/13, DS born 7/28/14!
Chart
Everyone is welcome
TTC since October 2012
BFP#1 1/11/13, EDD 9/19/13, M/C at 9wk6dy
BFP#2 11/12/13, DS born 7/28/14!
Chart
Everyone is welcome
Have you tried sending her articles to read regarding topics (ie. SIDS) versus doing something so nasty and underhanded to achieve your end result?
ETA: If your roles were reversed, how would you feel if someone logged in your account and shared things with your friends that weren't your feelings? For example, if they joined a "Support Putin" group or "I hate gays"?!
BFP 11/18/13. EDD 7/25/14. It's a BOY!
Surprise BFP 7/30/13. EDD 4/7/14. Natural MC 8/24/13
I hate ppl who push religion (aka: MIL). She doesn't do it to me, but rather her son. And she wonders why he wants nothing to do with her ever (Ok there are a lot of reasons for that).
13 yr old boy with ASD, ADHD and PICA, 11 yr old boy, 3 yr old Girl, & baby Girl.
TTC since October 2012
BFP#1 1/11/13, EDD 9/19/13, M/C at 9wk6dy
BFP#2 11/12/13, DS born 7/28/14!
Chart
Everyone is welcome
Upon further investigation, it looks like I am out of luck being a Bostonian. Though I might pass one on an upcoming road trip. I'll have to remember this.
TTC since October 2012
BFP#1 1/11/13, EDD 9/19/13, M/C at 9wk6dy
BFP#2 11/12/13, DS born 7/28/14!
Chart
Everyone is welcome
I am really sorry for you. Every woman deserves support for the kind of birth she hopes for. The truth is you might go all the way without wanting drugs, you might decide 3/4 of the way through that you want systemic drugs or an epi, your laboe might move so fast that drugs aren't an option, but you deserve support and to not fear hearing "I told you so".