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babylimas

jcoffeebeans said:

babylimas said:

WisconsinCheese12 said:

babylimas said:

Will's not allowed to have a savings account.

Not allowed?

If he ever has more than $5000 to his name he loses all of his benefits. We have a special needs trust but 529s or savings accounts aren't allowed bc he can't have his own money according to big brother.

How infuriating! Can you set up savings for your DD?

Yes, it only has to do with Will. There is a bill up to change it a bit for kids like Will. It's not like he will ever not be disabled. It really prevents kids with intellectual disabilities from contributing to society since they can't get paychecks and make money for the risk of losing their benefits. He will always need some sort of government assistance since he will never be fully independent but he should be allowed to take care of himself however much he can.

babylimas

Oh and I should clarify that he doesn't get any assistance now because he is under our income. At 18 he will get social security income. So I guess we could have a savings account for him right now it would just have to be empty by the time he's 18. I don't think it would affect his Medicaid bc it's not income based.

babylimas

Right, I'm not saying he can't work. I'm saying he can't save any money or retain. It is very limiting. @Bsouls - I actually work with ssi, so I know the details, but I appreciate you providing it. Granted, I said the wrong limit, so you wouldn't know that.

Also, his Medicaid has nothing to do with income. He gets Medicaid Tefra, which is non-income based for children with disabilities that need institutionalized level of care. We have to apply for SSI as part of the process, but get the Medicaid despite being denied by SSI. He will transition to traditional Medicaid when he is an adult. Because he has Medicaid, he automatically qualifies for WIC, which covers his individual food needs (currently 10 cans of formula a month).

jcoffeebeans

I just cried all the cries and felt all the feels watching the end of The Notebook. It's starting over and I'm watching it again since Hubs is still at work. Me and M are snuggling in bed watching.

babylimas

bsouls said:

@babylimas I was just trying to explain the details for people who don't know how it all works; I mostly only have experience with adults.

So many people I work with get written out of wills and it makes me sad. Parents often say, "oh their sibling will use the money for them, but I don't want them to lose their benefits." I'm always trying to convince them to put the person back in, because they can have a trust. People are funny with money and I am sure lots of people with disabilities get screwed out of inheritance, because a sibling justifies using the money for themselves. Like, "oh my car broke down and I need to buy a new one so I can pick you up on weekends and holidays."

Gotcha. Well I appreciate it! We immediately rewrote our will to have a special needs trust. My partner handles all the probate and estate planning for the office and he was telling me the same thing as you. That people always assume a sibling will take care of the SN child and then it doesn't happen. So sad.

mfarmer0811

@younglove316‌ I am!!! And I love Blake Shelton!!! I don't think I've heard his new song.

Did you see him in Jimmy Fallon the Other night? It was hilarious!!!

Kewii

babylimas said:

Will's not allowed to have a savings account.

Not allowed?

If he ever has more than $5000 to his name he loses all of his benefits. We have a special needs trust but 529s or savings accounts aren't allowed bc he can't have his own money according to big brother.

How infuriating! Can you set up savings for your DD?

Yes, it only has to do with Will. There is a bill up to change it a bit for kids like Will. It's not like he will ever not be disabled. It really prevents kids with intellectual disabilities from contributing to society since they can't get paychecks and make money for the risk of losing their benefits. He will always need some sort of government assistance since he will never be fully independent but he should be allowed to take care of himself however much he can.

This is basically the same situation my sister has ended up in in Canada.  She has some severe physical disabilities and is in a wheelchair.  But she can't work a regular job because she'd lose her benefits and there's no way she'd be able to afford the things she needs if she doesn't have benefits.

It really does need to be changed.

wildhoney4508

Random for the day: Cuteness courtesy of @WisconsinCheese12‌

Sanibel21

Effing step MIL shared my 5 month photo album (she thinks she has but she really hasn't based on my settings). But still. She hasn't seen LO in 3 months. I know we complain about this all the time here but it still infuriates me every. Single. Time. I'm blocking them next time and I don't even care if they find out. DH used to get pissed off but now seems to be trying to let it go and I'm sitting here stewing like a crock pot. I've gotten mostly over them not caring enough to come see her but it drives me nuts they think they have any right to share mympoctures like doting effing grandparents.

SurpriseAt39

Happy birthday FBW.
I wish my family (and everyone else) would forget my birthday. It no longer excites me.
I'm sorry your family has disappointed you.
I was eating brownies and ice cream when I read your post, so I was imagining you eating your cake with me. I hope you enjoyed it.

SurpriseAt39

11:11pm.
I'm seeing this time far too often again...

cdnmomma

FBW that sucks. I also hate bdays. Full of disappointment. Enjoy your cake, especially since you don't have to share it. Happy birthday!

kaking78

I'm sorry your family sucks @farmboyswife. Happy belated birthday from your less sucky internet family!

jcoffeebeans

lincbeesmom said:

bsouls said:

I am understanding this thread correctly, right? Fourth time will be the charm.

She's BSC.

AND she outed her ae. Again.

That made for a nice pump break. So many Ae's so little time for that one.

jcoffeebeans

@bennieangel‌ it's been slow around here lately so I clicked through out of curiosity. I don't care so much; it's more that I'm nosy

Kewii

bennieangel said:

So LO slept really well Friday & Saturday. Thought for sure we were turning a corner. Then last night...not so much. And all he wanted was mom, he would SCREAM if DH was trying to comfort him. So I spent a good chunk of last night rocking. I think his tummy hurt but gripe water didn't help. 

I hope tonight is better. 

I was thinking the same thing with Layla.  It seemed like we were turning a corner and then last night was awful.  But she has a tooth poking through, so I'm hoping that's it.

I've also decided to stop thinking of her as a terrible sleeper, but instead to think of her as a baby who loves her mom so much that she can't go too long without seeing her.

It helps me feel a little better about being sleep deprived.

babylimas

Parenting is making me a 1D fangirl. It's a dangerous place. 

babylimas

Oh, wow, and I just watched the Story of my Life video and hardcore cried. I've heard the song before, but the video has me all screwed up. I don't cry people. Damn Parenting!! 

Sanibel21

babylimas said:

Parenting is making me a 1D fangirl. It's a dangerous place. 

I can't stop going over there. And I like OKed for 1D on spotify today. I'm doomed.

CruiseGirl28

I just spent all afternoon at working catching up on this thread, out of boredom. So bored at work.

SurpriseAt39

I just pulled another dozen sleepers out of LO's dresser that are too short for him. DH keeps losing track of what has been outgrown so he just puts all the clothes away. Then I go pull out what's too small.
Now I have to find the larger pjs and such so LO has something to wear to bed this week.

CruiseGirl28

Isla woke up at 330 last night crying. I was trying to sooth her, but nothing was working. I put her on my bed to grab her blanket, and she fell right asleep. Joe always says she likes our bed best.

jcoffeebeans

@bennieangel‌ I'm sorry you're still not getting great sleep. My H sleeps through the night and it's always me up to do the feeds/diaper changes (always 3 times a night) so I feel your pain. I hope he is back in your room soon so that you can nudge him and try to sleep through the soothing when he is on paci duty.

talee1989

Neatest thing ever when you have a toddler that demands to go on the big potty! With two littles, I know this will be well worth the money!

kaking78

No one pissed in my cheerios this morning but there were ants in the raisin bran. Thank goodness I noticed before I took a bite.

Sanibel21

kaking78 said:

No one pissed in my cheerios this morning but there were ants in the raisin bran. Thank goodness I noticed before I took a bite.

This is my biggest fear. And those flour bugs.. <shudders> I may or may not obsessively check everything.. 

Sanibel21

NorthernLghts said:

My mom and I are currently having an arguement on LOs first foods. I want to start her on veggies first, she's insisting I need to give her cereal to practice eating. We'll see who wins at her 6 month appointment this month.

Um... you win.. because you're the mom?

talee1989

bennieangel said:

@talee1989 - is it the soft close one? We bought that too & I LOVE IT. no slamming toilet seat, ever! However, I forget that other toilets don't have this...and now I slam them all the time. HA. 

Yes!!! I just got it today and I already love it! haha

SurpriseAt39

@NorthernLghts
It could be like the argument between purée or BLW.
MIL was pushing rice cereal and purées.
We gave DS1 a piece of steak and orange pepper as his first foods.
Mommy and daddy won that discussion.

SurpriseAt39

I hate neighbours.
I especially hate MY neighbours.
I was just putting LO down when a neighbour revved his motorcycle engine then took off down the street.
He also does that at 6:20am when he's heading to work.

I need to live where there are no other people. In the middle of a large field...or forest.

kaking78

I just got a juror qualification questionnaire in the mail. It's not a summons - yet. Has anyone had any luck postponing jury duty due to nursing?

SurpriseAt39

kaking78 said:

I just got a juror qualification questionnaire in the mail. It's not a summons - yet. Has anyone had any luck postponing jury duty due to nursing?

I got the questionnaire either just before DS1 was born or shortly after.
There was a space to say why you'd be unable to fulfill the duty. I replied baby - breastfeeding (or whatever the option was).
I've never heard another word.

Regarding the SAHM exemption. ... My mom was a SAHM and she was called for jury duty several times when I was growing up. I doubt she did it before we started school, but I definitely remember her being called 5 or 6 times while I was a student.
She sat on a murder case, an abuse case...

But I live in Ontario Canada so rules may be different where you are.

katka512

DisneyAddict1 said:

kaking78 said:

I just got a juror qualification questionnaire in the mail. It's not a summons - yet. Has anyone had any luck postponing jury duty due to nursing?

I got out of it for being the kids primary caretaker was how it was worded on the questionnaire.


This. I also mentioned I was exclusively breastfeeding. They sent me back a letter saying I was excused due to "extreme hardship." Interesting way to word it, but at least I got excused.

Sanibel21

I got one last month and I believe it specifically said primary caregiver to a child or breastfeeding was not an exemption but I could postpone up to a year for any reason. So I couldn't get out of it all together but I could postpone for a year anyways. Did that make sense?

Sanibel21

@kirotea @twaffle5‌ @babylimas @nikkys2008‌ @lovethatdirtywater‌ wtf is going on with the Larry thread? I was completely blindsided by this backtracking of belief!

Sanibel21

Starts at the beginning. A lot of it is gifts but the main info is in the first few pages.

mfarmer0811

I read some Of the Larry thread, but was confused at first because I didn't know who Harry Stiles was or the other guy.

mfarmer0811

younglove316 said:

I am going to attempt coffee crusted steak for dinner tonight. It sounds & looks delicious so I'm really hoping mine turns out.

@younglove I've made that before and it's so good!! I used a recipe from my favorite Steakhouse, The Capital Grille!! It's the Kona Crusted steak with shallot butter sauce. Mmmm my mouth is watering thinking about it! Let us know how it turns out!

babylimas

twaffle5 said:

Sanibel21 said:

@kirotea @twaffle5‌ @babylimas @nikkys2008‌ @lovethatdirtywater‌ wtf is going on with the Larry thread? I was completely blindsided by this backtracking of belief!

I have been uber busy today, have not been following. I'm 86 post behind, anything happened? is my heart going to be broken?

I'm about that behind too. I'm only on pg. 53. Gaaaaahhh. I have so much work today too. I don't have time for this!!

kaking78

Thanks for all of the responses about potential jury duty. In my state the only automatic excuses you could choose were for being over 70, being a volunteer firefighter, or having served on a jury in the past two years.

I'd actually be interested in serving eventually but I don't think the court would like it much if I needed a 20-30 minute pump break every 2.5 hours.