FFFC

jackson290721

Asbromle said:

I'm tired of taking care of 2 people, a dog and myself. So I stopped taking care of my almost 37 year old SO.

If he wants lunch, he can pack it himself and if he wants dinner and I haven't made it then he can starve or make it himself.

I've taken more time for myself recently and I've been a better person because of it.

I can't stop feeling guilty though, but I just can't do it all alone.

Are we the same person? Except add seven other animals. H and I have had a lot of come to Jesus talks about him needing to step it up.

Lelo2006

Asbromle said:

I'm tired of taking care of 2 people, a dog and myself. So I stopped taking care of my almost 37 year old SO.

If he wants lunch, he can pack it himself and if he wants dinner and I haven't made it then he can starve or make it himself.

I've taken more time for myself recently and I've been a better person because of it.

I can't stop feeling guilty though, but I just can't do it all alone.

You cannot do it all yourself. I would never survive in the 1950s. My mom told me that her mom would care for 4 girls on her own all week and on the weekends her husband would play golf. Basically he was never home/never helped. As a result she was depressed. You have to take care of yourself.

Maybe have your SO pick up dinner for you both a few times a week? Does he grill?

elyse05

I've been using DH's deodorant for the past few weeks.  I can't find mine for the life of me! I know it will show itself as soon as I buy a new one.  DH hasn't noticed my manly smell yet, and I'm kind of digging the Old Spice Denali scent.

And I might not watch the Super Bowl this year.  Yes, I live in Seattle, but I'm not the biggest NFL/Seahawks fan (I prefer scrappy college games).  I am so sick of every sentence ending in "Beast Mode," "12th Man," and all this hype about Skittles.   I want my talk radio and morning news back.    I am the only person wherever we go not wearing overpriced 'hawks gear.   Guys, I can't escape it!   

Stina2012

I just ate Cheetos as part of my pre lunch. Nom nom nom. At least they are Baked Cheetos!

jackson290721

FFFC I'm really glad I'm not the most immature person on this board, even though I'm one of the youngest.

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Pink724

Stina2012 said:

I just ate Cheetos as part of my pre lunch. Nom nom nom. At least they are Baked Cheetos!

I love that you have pre lunch. I do too.

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Carrie3102

Asbromle said:

Oh and I wasn't requesting a pity party I just wanted to admit that I was finally defeated by this mommy thing

You weren't defeated by this mommy thing... you're not his mommy.

blairwitch

somerandomchick said:

@elyse05 I am in SEA too and I feel ya! Everyone is GD obsessed.

Have you ever met packer fans?  They are obsessed year round...and game time they are just plain crazy  My uncle even goes so far as to have a green vehicle, purely for the packers.

Carrie3102

I have another one... and It's not flameworthy, more like applause worthy.

Wednesday (the day the sitter was unavailable and DD fell down the steps)... I asked DH to feed Parker his puree while I cleaned up the kitchen after dinner, he argued with me about it like a child and I told him he was being a child and he helped create these kids and by God he was going to start helping with them when I needed it or just simply WANTED it or he needed to rethink his station as "daddy".

He bitches about doing anything with the kids some days. Most days he's great, but FFS I had had one hell of a day trying to work and take care of the kids, made dinner, did laundry and dishes, was cleaining up from dinner and wanted to fucking SIT DOWN.  Sue me.

And... Quite frankly I'm SICK of having to argue with him over EVERY little task I ask him to do.  I wanted to pick up my grandma so she could visit the kids, I asked him to put the laundry away, he argued, I said, ok, then go pick up my grandma.. he said no, and it's like a constant fucking struggle, and if I get mad I'm OVERREACTING. Clearly I married a 12 yr old.

FTR I know this doesnt' belong here... I just didn't want to start a new thread... you're welcome.

 

Stina2012

Mamasighs said:

Babies and toddlers cried a lot in the past. A woman's responsibilities to her home and husband were seen as primary. Babies were put on strict schedules from birth to ensure the mother was free to meet those obligations. If they cried off schedule for a bottle or nap they were left to do it in the crib or playpen.

Stuck in quote box:

Yeah, somebody at some point totally upped the game on us Moms! It always reminds me of Liz Lemon.

Stacey099

theblairwitch01 said:

somerandomchick said:

@elyse05 I am in SEA too and I feel ya! Everyone is GD obsessed.

Have you ever met packer fans?  They are obsessed year round...and game time they are just plain crazy  My uncle even goes so far as to have a green vehicle, purely for the packers.

Green and Gold baby! My mom is from Green Bay and my dad is a huge fan. I've been brought up to be a crazy fan and so will G

Stina2012

mainerocks said:

mainerocks said:

I don't get "La Flama Blanca". I just got around to googling it now and the first link didn't tell me, and now I'm too lazy to research further.

It's from Eastbound and Down. I don't think it's a "thing" for anybody else. Just my own silly thing. Kenny Powers is an asshat and I usually post it for asshat things or to be totally sillly.

Here's the clip from the show (may not be suitable for work or little ears):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uoWOriok-WU

OK phew. I thought it was some totally popluar pop culture reference that I was clueless about, as is usually the case with these things. :-P

Nope, totally a dumb me thing. If it offends or bothers anyone PM me and I'll stop!

jackson290721

Laurendag said:

Dh has a game called Plague on his phone. Last night I got a sick sense of excitement that my parasite had infected 94% of the worlds population before it was noticed. And an even sicker excitement that it took 566 days for it to wipe out the worlds population with a cure only 19% developed.
It's a personal best. I still only got 4 stars though.
Any science lovers with IPhones I suggest this game. Just watch out for Greenland, they'll get you ever time.

I love this game.

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@Carrie3102 so very true.

@lelo2006 we order out at least once a week usually, but I'm on a health kick so I've been making chicken or fish at the beginning of the week and eating on that, I always have dinner and so does the dog and baby.

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@Carrie3102 I didn't love that because of the 12 year old you live with but because you put your foot down

Clyde013

I made a cake. @lizabethann06 thank you for the recipe! I made a chocolate cake with buttercream frosting. But I made a rookie mistake. I had no idea that 32oz of confectionary sugar does not = 4 cups of confectionary sugar. I realized this in time to spoon some of the sugar out but needless to say it is super sweet. DH liked it anyway so I won't tell him.

My fffc is that I went to get a mani/pedi yesterday so I could delay cleaning. I can't clean now because I don't want to mess up my nails.

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@stina2012 east bound down cracks me up, love it.

@mainerocks I seriously will not sit down at nigh until it hits 10,000 I think the fitbit has given me a problem.

Carrie3102

@asbromle, I wish I had your drive.  I'm just to fucking mentally exhausted to make myself work out.

Scratch that, I'm lazy and making excuses.  This must stop.

jackson290721

Asbromle said:

@stina2012 east bound down cracks me up, love it.

@mainerocks I seriously will not sit down at nigh until it hits 10,000 I think the fitbit has given me a problem.

This is why I want a fitbit. I know I will have ridiculous competitions with myself. Really H and I both need to get them. We have major competition issues. Might as well use it for something good haha

Carrie3102

See that's just it I LOVE competition LOVE IT. THRIVE on it.  I just need to be beating SOMEONE at SOMETHING... I'm not good at "beating myself" does this make sense?

jackson290721

Silv3rlining said:

It just farmed on me that I can shower at the Y after my workout (line dance class) while LO is in their DC center thing. I enjoyed an uninterrupted shower. I contemplated if it would be weird to take him there some times just so I can shower. ..

OMG I have been telling H how we should join the Y. This might make it worth it.

coco2787

Carrie3102 said:

See that's just it I LOVE competition LOVE IT. THRIVE on it.  I just need to be beating SOMEONE at SOMETHING... I'm not good at "beating myself" does this make sense?

I hate competition with other people because I hate losing but then I feel bad about beating people. I love beating myself though! If I'm going to do something more than once I have to do better the next time.

KMRR86

I work in finance.... But I have a cupcake business on the side.  

redrocksmama

My FFC: I got jealous of the nanny this morning. LO was crying before she got here for the day. When she came in, he stopped and suddenly became a happy baby. Dagger in the heart. I've been hoping he'd be a little more responsive to her attempts to soothe him, but I was sad that he cried for me and not for her. Ok, rant over!

KMRR86

Also my fil just put some anti vax garbage on Facebook and now I've engaged him in a Facebook fight. I feel like I'm fourteen. 

giraffeluvspi

dliz87 said:

Mamasighs said:

I'm drowning in mom guilt today.  I know better!  So now I'm feeling guilty and mad about feeling guilty. 

I'm in the same boat with you. I'll help you paddle.

Party of three.

Party of four (unless someone on page 3 or 4 has also joined)

ceechie

ncchnat said:

I need a haircut, badly. I haven't had one in nearly two years and my hair is ridiculously long.

Why don't I get one, you ask?

1) I only get it cut at most twice a year and had cut it in April 2012. It was cut a little shorter than normal, so by the time I was really due for another one, I was pregnant with Muppet and it seemed like every time I talked to my sister, she was asking when I was going to get my "mom haircut." She has seriously harped on it for some reason (like it actually kind of bothers her) and it irked me, so I haven't gotten it cut. Dumb, I know, but that's sisters for you.

2) (This one is kind of gross.) About six weeks ago, I decided I was done with that and wanted to get it cut, only now I'm too self conscious. When I was in college, I started this bad habit of whenever I was stressed, I would scratch at my head absentmindedly while I was studying. A lot of the time, I would scratch so much that I would end up bleeding. Then stressed out me would end up reopening the scabs because I would keep scratching. 

Apparently, I've been doing it again the past month. I didn't even realize I was doing it again until a) my husband asked if my head was itching and b) I washed my hair one day and the little wounds started stinging like crazy when I used my shampoo. I can't go get my hair cut now because I'm afraid my stylist will think I have some kind of crazy disease. 

I'm making a conscious effort to keep my hands of my scalp.

tl;dr: I've given into peer pressure in a way and won't get a haircut.

Hugs! I honestly think this isn't that bad. As a stylist, trust, I've seen WAY worst. I once had to cut a wig off a girls head that she had woven into her hair and hadn't removed in a year. Which means she hadn't washed her hair in a year!!! That was bad. Thinking about it still makes me dry heave.
Just let her know you have some scratches. She probably won't even bat an eye. And I bet they're smaller than you imagine. You'll feel better for it. You really will!!!! A lot of people have scalp abrasions. Go now! And don't do a mom cut! Do Brigitte Bardot!

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3 letter acronym that starts with O. I'm totally stumped, someone help a girl out

sdtchica13

Asbromle said:

3 letter acronym that starts with O. I'm totally stumped, someone help a girl out

OMG

jackson290721

Does it make it better if you start it with a z? ZOMG!!!!!

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Thanks! I almost always write OMGosh, lol. I'm a tool.

Dubs1978

@laurendag Dh has a game called Plague on his phone. Last night I got a sick sense of excitement that my parasite had infected 94% of the worlds population before it was noticed. And an even sicker excitement that it took 566 days for it to wipe out the worlds population with a cure only 19% developed. It's a personal best. I still only got 4 stars though. Any science lovers with IPhones I suggest this game. Just watch out for Greenland, they'll get you ever time.

Plague is the best. To really kill Iceland and Greenland, you need to evolve for cold and for ship born (it is the 2nd water I think). Madagascar gets me a lot too.

My FFFC: I was so happy to drop the baby off at DC today. She goes from happy and laughing to major meltdowns in a second. I am tired. And secretly happy I have another work trip next week. After being gone for 3 nights last week my DH has really stepped up because he didn't realize how much I did or how hard it was to do it all solo. So yay for travel? Sort of?

jackson290721

I'm getting pictures done of DD today. I hope they are absolutely adorable and H ends up feeling like an ass for going to work instead of being there and telling me not to buy the CD or a canvas.

DenverBride2005

FFFC I am more than happy to let DC help me with current milestones with my boys--eating solids, for DS1, and starting to think about potty training, for DS2. I figure I will allow them to do the bulk of the work with getting these things going, and then when we start doing them more at home, it should be easy! It takes a village!

I am going to spend some time today while working from home to decorate for our Super Bowl party! Also, FFFC: I don't think--I know--that Denver has more hard core fans than Seattle! Don't worry, @somerandomchick, and @elyse05, if you want to cheer for a real team, you can always cheer for Denver! GO BRONCOS!

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Oh and BTW, I thought I'd let everyone know that I now leave LO with my SO and he knows how to change diapers.

Not a FFFC, but I'm sure you all were secretly flaming me for never having him change a diaper or take care of LO alone  

Dubs1978

@DenverBride2005 - now that the Pats are out, Go Broncos! And we are having the worst time with LO and solids. So solids went to DC with her. Hopefully they can help get her over the hump!

saphires

I took LO to daycare yesterday and stayed home from work. I have a cold and slept most of the day but I still felt super guilty.

gutsymama

I woke up this morning to find they had direct deposited the entire semester's stipend in a lump sum instead of breaking it up monthly like they usually do. 

I need to rework our budget to account for that and make sure we set aside enough for the next few months, but I am very, very, very tempted to do something stupid with all that money. 

But seeing it all at once reminds me that my one-semester salary equals roughly one night in the NICU. At least that knocks that shopping urge down a peg or two. No skittles until I get a grown-up job (

ETA Update: HOLY SHIT YOU GUYS! I inquired because it was significantly less than it should have been for a whole semester, and it's not a lump sum of my stipend - it's my regular check plus a lump sum BONUS STIPEND for the spring fellowship I was accepted into! I had thought it was an equal swap for TAing, but I guess not.  

I literally do not know how to handle suddenly having extra money. We've been on a strict budget for so long that I don't even know what to do with it. 

SKITTLES FOR EVERYONE!!!!