Never knew it would be this hard...

mdm2014

Anyone else's family tell them "oh you'll get pregnant in no time! Our family is fertile! It'll be easy!" ? That is a bunch of bologna! My mom had no trouble having me and my sisters, she even got pregnant using different forms of birth control, But my body just doesn't want to work with me on this. My Husband and I want a child and have been trying for almost 6 months (yes I know that is nothing compared to how long some people ttc) but nope nothing yet. I tried talking to my doctor because I have a problem ovulating which makes my periods messed up. He did an ultrasound and everything looks fine. He told us that if after a year we still hadn't conceived then to come back and we would figure something out. I understand that but I hate to see the look of Disappointment on my husbands face very time the pregnancy tests come out negative. has anyone else had some issues like this? I can't be the only one.. 

kwicks

When I told my mom we were trying, she didn't seem excited at the though of having her first grandchild. When I questioned her about it, she  told me " I'll get excited if it actually happens".  So I don't quite have the same experience, but I know it can be difficult.

You shouldn't base your expectations on others experiences; we are all different and you will be setting yourself up for disappointment. I would try and focus on other things in your life, all the stuff you can do before having kids. And maybe not show your husband the negative results if he gets upset by them? Eitherway, good luck!

mrs_tacos

What ovulation problems do you have? How are your periods messed up? Please explain.

Also, trying for 6 months is hardly having problems getting pregnant. Impatience =/= issues. It can take even the most fertile, healthy couples up to a year to get pregnant.

 I know the emotions surrounding TTC can be difficult to deal with, but you have to get some perspective on this for the sake of your sanity. This could reasonably take you another six months, and you just have to get used to that. I find it helps me keep the attitude that I'm not pregnant until proven otherwise, instead of always setting my heart on each cycle being THE cycle, and then getting my heart broken.

Danielle0311

I started to hit my impatient mark at six months , then at 8 months I finally got a bfp only to miscarry at 9.5 weeks.. So I totally get your frustration... But like others have mentioned it really can be totally normal to take up to a year .. Although it seems like everyone gets pregnant easily you don't really know how long they were trying (or not preventing) unless you were in their bedroom.. And no matter what other people experience it has nothing to do with your own experience .. I know it can be frustrating but just try to do other things in the 2ww and not to obsess too much.. Don't let this consume your whole world like I did for a while .. It helps to stay busy and stay positive !!

mdm2014

Ok so on the ovulation and messed up periods: when I first started having my period everything was fine, I had one every month and they were normal the whole 9 yards. Then when I got older, I would miss a period here and there. I figured it was just my cycle taking longer or something. Well now there is no telling when it will pop up. I've seriously gone months and months without one. Thank god they have gotten slightly more frequent but they are still majorly irregular. Yes I've done the charting my temp and used the kits. 

And thanks ya'll, I was alittle iffy about posting this on here at first but I'm glad I did and I'm glad I'm not the only one getting frustrated with all of this. 

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