Sweet things your SO does

ngolimento

Ever since we've started talking about TTC, and settled on a start date, my DH has been really extra sweet. He'll subconciously place his hand over my stomach and get a dreamy 'some day' look, tell me how our children will think their mom is the most beautiful woman in the world, and tells me how gorgeous I will be pregnant. Shmoopy, I know, but it turns me into an estrogen puddle.

So how about your SOs? Do they do/say anything extra sweet to you while TTC?

ETA: Or heck, tell me if he/she does special sweet things for you that are non TTC related!

missnacholover

That's sweet.

He gave me a random foot rub last week.  Other than that, he hasn't really been any more affectionate with TTC. 

peggels24

I've been trying to rack my brain for something sweet DH does - now I'm mad at him!    (

Goldie000

My SO does cute little things all the time. Not anything TTC related though. He makes dinner for me and is super clean and tidy, which I appreciate! Every Saturday he gets up early to go to the gym. I stay in bed and he brings me back my dr. Pepper and cake donut! The most recent thing is the picture below. He wrote out "I U" in sticky notes on my car. On each sticky note was a reason why he loves me. He's my dream guy!

Jpinky9

Mine isn't TTC related either, but my DH also cooks me supper every night! He is really enjoying cooking and I really enjoy letting him! In general he is very sweet and loving and he is always willing to indulge me. I love him!!

WolFox

DH is so open with how much he loves and adores me. BUT he doesn't feel clingy or needy and if he's being "adoring" and I need space I can just let him know... and then come back later when I'm ready for snuggles. 

Today is my birthday and he sent me flowers at work. I'm sure on valentines day he'll send me chocolate covered strawberries because three years ago I asked him to do it every year. He doesn't forget the "important" stuff hahaha. 

mmb248

No matter how bad the food I cook tastes, he always says thank you and eats it.

ETA - I swear English is my first language.

LostFan716

Negative. DH is just such a GUY. Ha. It's not that he doesn't love me enough to do sweet stuff... it's just that it would never even cross his mind.

I do get anniversary and Valentine's flowers... you know, the obvious.  8->

ETA: We aren't TTC yet, so this is just generally speaking.

aggiebug

H is the most caring guy I know.

Practically daily I get a message to let me know he loves me.

He will get up to get me a drink/ blanket/ chocolate almost any time I mention wanting something.

He will go to bed with me even if he isn't tired because he wants to be close.

I often catch him just looking at me with a smile. And then says he was thinking about how great of a mom I will be.

vrj0522

Since we already have one, he doesn't do or say anything about me being pregnant or us having another baby.  However, when we got married his dad told him that the sexiest man to a wife is the one that cleans, vaccuums and helps around the house so when it comes to baby making time, he is super sweet and does the dishes and cleans the kitchen to make me happy and get some. It definitely works! 

nikiz628

Just a few of the sweet things my DH does for me:

-Every morning he wakes me up, hands me my thermometer, waits for it to go off, reads it and puts it back for me. I wake up with DS, so its a different time each day. I am worthless at 6:30 in the morning, so I love that DH helps me out.

- If i say my back/feet/legs hurt, he rubs them.

- He puts DS to bed every night, complete with story time, so that I can have a few moments of quiet time for myself.

- Every morning that he is at work, he sends me a text that says "Good Morning, Beautiful". It always makes me smile.

- If he knows I've had a rough day with DS (or my niece/nephew that I babysit for extra $), he will bring me home a candy bar, frozen pepsi (i love those damn things), or some flowers to cheer me up.

nikiz628

aggiebug said:

H is the most caring guy I know. Practically daily I get a message to let me know he loves me. He will get up to get me a drink/ blanket/ chocolate almost any time I mention wanting something. He will go to bed with me even if he isn't tired because he wants to be close. I often catch him just looking at me with a smile. And then says he was thinking about how great of a mom I will be.

I catch DH doing this all the time. I always ask him why he is staring, and he always says, "because you're too beautiful not to look at".  I know its kinda cheesy, but it always makes me feel special!

wirt2cute

H does some random sweet things, like he will clean the entire house without me asking for any help. He will bring me my favorite lunch just because. And when I needed him to be a father figure to my oldest son from my previous marriage he truly stepped up to the plate without hesitation (put him on his health insurance, pays for his band stuff). At his birthday party a few weeks ago he took it upon himself to get everything taken care of for the party including paying extra for the game truck to stay longer. Just writing this I should thank him way more often.  

ngolimento

Happy Bday Wolfox!

@Ally1986. My DH gets all sorts of adoring when he's drunk too! If he tells me "I love you so much" like 8 times in a minute, I know he's sauced.

barely

Well, this isn't so much TTC related, but now that I'm pregnant DH told me the other day that I shouldn't take a bath because it will loosen my "clot". Haha. I thought that was cute/funny. 

When we were TTC though, DH sold his car that he loved to buy me a new one and he took my old one so that we would have two "family cars". huge sacrifice for him.

kmaty13

HisGirlFriday929 said:

He makes me dinner every night.  Every night.  He is a wonderful cook & he does it just to make me happy.  I love it.  Sometimes he even packs me a lunch the night before & leaves it in the fridge for me to take in the morning.

He will also sometimes come home late from managing the bar & therefore not get to really see me - so he'll leave me a note in the bathroom.  Something like, good morning, can't wait to have kids with you, you'll be an amazing mom... He can be a doll.

I love these sweet things because honestly, he's very sarcastic & dry & doesn't really like other people very much - so the sweet things he does do really stand out.  I'm like a mush monster today w/this thread!

Jpinky9 said:

Mine isn't TTC related either, but my DH also cooks me supper every night! He is really enjoying cooking and I really enjoy letting him! In general he is very sweet and loving and he is always willing to indulge me. I love him!!

How does one accomplish this? Yesterday, I cleaned the house while he sat on the couch for most of the day and then I got a "So what's for dinner?" .... Umm no.

DH doesn't really do anything TTC related since we just started trying. I think he'll be excited if/when I get a BFP but right now he's scared shitless. 

I do get flowers for no reason a lot.

mmb248

kmaty13 said:

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How does one accomplish this? Yesterday, I cleaned the house while he sat on the couch for most of the day and then I got a "So what's for dinner?" .... Umm no.

DH doesn't really do anything TTC related since we just started trying. I think he'll be excited if/when I get a BFP but right now he's scared shitless. 

I do get flowers for no reason a lot.

Ha - if you cook and clean, you're getting flowers for a damn good reason.

lebradford

My husband is the sweetest, most patient, and most supportive person that I know. 

He leaves me notes all of the times, and even hides them new places. 

He goes out to get me Starbucks on the weekends, even though he rarely gets anything for himself.

He know that the few hours between the kids getting out of school and eating dinner are the most stressful, so when he gets home he always asks how he can help, even though he has been working all day too. 

Oh, and he totally talked me through my Provera sob-fest last night into the wee hours of morning, even though he had to get up early to go to work. He's definitely a keeper. 

katie0919

After we had DS, we both sort of neglected one another because we are so busy taking care of DS. But since we have decided to start TFAS, he has been a LOT more affectionate and sweet. And he wants to BD like everyday, lol!

He is the BEST dad in the world, and he helps me out so much by cleaning up the dinner mess every night and packing up our lunches and DS's lunch/snacks (I don't care for the daycare menu - they feed them total crap). He works really hard with me, and I love him for that!

WolFox

HisGirlFriday929 said:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, @WolFox!!!!

DarcyHermione said:

Happy Birthday, @Wolfox!

Thanks!! 

MmmPopcorn

My husband initiated sex today (on day 10 of ED sex) because he knew how guilty I felt about using his body every day and how disappointed I was about my temp dip this morning. He's probably so tired of it. I can't wait to fucking O.

He also cleaned the litterbox and is making dinner, which is cool, too.

divinemsbee

Mine is my rock. He's good about the flowers/jewelry/cliché stuff, really good about it, but he's good at the just being there. The just letting my talk. The going to get me Greek food even though he doesn't want it. To be fair, I try to do the same for him. He kisses me every morning before he leaves for work, which is one of my favorite things.

nolanova85

mrsmechanic1 said: MH doesn't really do anything sweet.  It's our agreement that I'll try to work on my hangry issues if he does better to communicate with me and support me verbally (like compliments and letting me know what he's thinking when I ask his opinion on a situation or something).  New Year's resolutions, I guess you could call them.

It's like you're describing me & DH.  He definitely does not need as much from me in terms of a "love language," he just wishes I were more emotionally even (I can have a serious breakdown if I'm too hungry).  Whereas I definitely need to hear verbal confirmations of his love for me in things like compliments, etc.

With TTC, we're just trying to focus on being better for each other.  Our main goal is to have and maintain a solid relationship between he and I, especially while pregnant and once kids arrive.

jenmcD11

My DH is a dude all the way through, but when I ask him what he thinks of a new hairdo that I styled or a new knitting project that I want to try, he always takes a minute to seriously listen to me and give an honest opinion even though I know it doesn't interest him.

amylee545

DH's recent thing since starting his new job, is he leaves little sticky love notes somewhere around our apt for me to wake up to since he's usually out the door before I wake up. He's put them on the toilet paper (knowing that the first thing I do in the morning is pee), on the mirror in the bathroom, on our Keurig coffee maker, even on the door knob of our bedroom door. It's like a mini scavenger hunt in the morning looking for his itty bitty love note

Makes not having our usual breakfast and coffee together a little easier!

Pintobean39

Two things come to mind. If I'm having a bad day he leaves a sweet note near the coffee so I'll see it when I wake up. Except he has the typical Dr's handwriting and half the time I have no clue what it says.

He also buys Reese's cups and leaves them on my pillow.

Hazel622

My husband calls me when special (to us) songs come on the car radio... so I can listen to them too.  Also, he goes into the other room when he has to toot.   :x

MrsG713

My H has always been a really openly affectionate guy. He remembers every single date I swear too.

He brings me chai tea almost every Sunday for when I wake up and has the barista draw a heart next to my name.

He watches Greys anatomy with me, and comes off as genuinely interested in the plot.

He has a countdown for our "milestone" wedding anniversaries in his phone (not kidding our 50th is in there, even though I told him he likely wouldn't have the same phone 2 years from now).

Now that I just started temping, every morning he asks "how's your temperature?!" Like he is excited to know what it is. Even though he has no idea what they mean (neither do I, who am I kidding?) Ha. But I'm trying!

leembean10

My husband is a darling, while it was 2° in the morning many days, he would wake up early and warm the car up so I wouldn't have to sit in a cold car.

shandelyn

Peledreamsofrain said:

Happy Bday Wolfox! @Ally1986. My DH gets all sorts of adoring when he's drunk too! If he tells me "I love you so much" like 8 times in a minute, I know he's sauced.

My H does the same thing! He's so "I love you" times a million when he's drunk. But every time during the 2WW, he'll mention something about the "little H the 4th" and say things like I'm going to be the best mom and I'm so happy...

NSAnderson0313

My DH loves cooking and pampering me, but not to the extreme. We have a mutual understanding that if one cooks the other must do dishes. Over the weekend I wasn't feeling my best so DH cooked, did the dishes and all of our laundry, then snuggled with me on the couch while I was sleeping.

shandelyn

H asks about my temps in the morning if they're above or below the baseline after O, and says things like, we should try for twins, and talks openly about doing the "baby dance" with me whenever he wants. He wants to know every time I take a test, whether its an O test or HPT and he always asks what it was, if its digital, he asks about the smiley face. I think he is just as excited or more excited than I am...he just doesn't stress about it like I do when CD1 comes. He is the best thing for me, keeps me balanced and inline. I don't know what I would do without him.  :x

kmaty13

Pintobean39 said:

Two things come to mind. If I'm having a bad day he leaves a sweet note near the coffee so I'll see it when I wake up. Except he has the typical Dr's handwriting and half the time I have no clue what it says. He also buys Reese's cups and leaves them on my pillow.

Keeper!

littleboyermoose

My hubby knows I am not a morning person, so every morning he makes my coffee, fills my water bottle and pours my cereal. He also takes care of the dogs. They are all little things but I am so thankful for this morning routine. In so many ways, I am incredibly lucky.

mockingjay1

Not TTC related, but my DH does almost all the cooking, food shopping, and dishes. He fills my car up with gas when it's freeeeeezing outside (like tonight). He does a lot of other sweet things my tired brain cannot remember. I'm pretty lucky!

LaDyBostonRN

This whole thread depressed me lol. The things DH does aren't very obvious, but they are SOMETHING.

When I am watching TV and cuddled with our pup, if I need more water or more wine (obviously I would need more wine), or my computer charger so I can continue bumping, he will bring it to me, even if there are several requests at several different times throughout the evening.

If we're both in my car and I need gas, he will go out and fill it for me.

If he's outside cleaning snow off his car, he will always wipe off my car too.

TTGP related - Even though it ended in a chemical, when I got my BFP he hugged me and said "I feel closer to you than I ever have in the 10 years we've known eachother". That might be the sweetest thing he's ever said to me.

SmileyJay

So many sweet hubbies here!

A few sweet things he has done since ttc -

- Every morning he sets out my prenatal vitamins next to a glass of fresh orange juice. It makes my heart melt. We have a juicer and he usually gets up and goes for a run in the morning then makes breakfast and fresh juice so it's ready when I get out of the shower. 

- He knows I am obsessed with baby names and one of my gifts for Christmas was a baby name book that he already went through and highlighted ones he liked. There were so many names it must have taken a while but it was so so sweet to me.

- Pretty much on a daily basis he will ask things just to check in with how I am feeling with ttc, or if I am having any symptoms of pregnancy. He has been learning a lot and reading a lot, and likes me to explain my charts and stuff to him. It is sweet. 

- He created me a pregnancy workout routine that he will do with me. Squats, planks, etc. that should be totally safe throughout. He is really into fitness and this was sort of his contribution to the cause and I really appreciate it. 

I have to throw this in there although not totally ttc related. On Christmas day I unwrapped a box that had a note to go outside. In a tree next to our house he had hand built a beautiful wooden swing and painted the seat and everything. It is so lovely and I had absolutely no idea which is a huge deal because we are always together. I still don't know how he pulled it off. He said he imagined me in it with our children and knew he wouldn't have time to do it this summer if I was pregnant and of course I cried. I wondered why he didn't come to bed until really late the night before even though we had driven all day to see my family (4 hours each way) and I knew he was tired. He was up on a ladder putting up a swing until 2 am in the freezing cold. He is a crazy person but so sweet and I love him so much! 

GirlOnTheBeach

I hate mornings and DH is a total morning person. Almost every day, I'm running around trying to get to work on time because I hit the snooze button too many times. He always has my breakfast ready and set for me to just take it with me.

He also makes me hot chocolate every morning. Not the instant stuff, but the kind where you melt the chocolate in a pot with milk and he throws cinnamon and whipped cream on it. He also adds a chunk of cheese to the bottom (it adds a nice salty flavor and its awesome!) it makes mornings so much more manageable for me :-)

He also fills up my car with gas, goes grocery shopping with me, and cleans our bathrooms. I think he's a keeper :-)

peggels24

Ok I thought of some sweet things that DH does.  Not TTC related:

He does the laundry - all of it - without asking.

He will never say no if I ask him to go the store - even if it's just because I want ice cream.

He says "I love you" all the time and kisses me goodbye and hello and goodnight every day.

And for you ladies - with the sweet drunk SO's - mine is right there too.  When he's drunk, he's super mushy.

kaimee27

I get compliments from DH almost every day, he also gives me back rubs whenever I ask for them.  Other than that, he is just really sweet whenever I get hormonal or overly stressed out.  The other day, I had a major ugly cry, and he just picked me up, carried me to the couch, and cuddled with me until I felt better.

norweigan

So I'm kind of late to this thread. My hubs is just a sweet man in general. He is this big, burly manly man who is also a big teddy bear. I love how he will be affectionate with me, even in front of his friends. 

One of my favorite things he does is sing to me. He doesn't sing in front of anyone else, just to me. He will usually change words in the songs to include his pet name for me, which is boo boo. It makes me melt.