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ravenclaw1 said:

I'm inexplicably irritated that my MIL now has a car seat base in her car. She always means well, but she's effing obsessed with asking us if she can take her on the weekends and let us do stuff on our own to give us a break. I want to say that I'm already away from her all day when I'm working and that I want to spend my weekend time hanging out with her, but I have no balls.

She's also offered to pick her up at DC sometimes mid afternoon & be at our house when I get home. I don't like that idea either bc I like to relax when I get home, not entertain.

Again, I know she means well, but I think she wants to be buddies with me, but I'm just not into that with her.

Me too except MIL will only watch our son if we take him to her. She lives 30-45 mins away from anything we would want to do and add over an hour commute to work. Plus mostly I don't like her crazy ass. She wanted our son to stay the night at her house at 2 months. She has lost her damn mind. We let her borrow one of our bases and I felt so good when we took it back. Then she bought her own. Hers has never been used nor do I plan her ever using it.

bermybabe68

I often shower twice a day. Once in the morning if LO isn't fussy (quick to the point shower) and then again when DH comes home (loooong leisurely shower with foo foo soaps n such). I just love a hot shower like a lot of women like a soak in the tub. Pure bliss. My FFFC - I know it doesn't mean sh*t but I kinda like that DD is hitting almost all of her milestones early.

HBirdie

I often shower twice a week.

ajbook

The rare shower comments creep me out.  I LOVE showers!!!!  I would shower & wash my hair 5x a day if it didn't require dealing with wet hair.

TKtravels

Babies rabies has completely infected my brain.  LO is EBF, I haven't seen AF since Dec 2012, and we're NTNP.   

It is so bad that (while at my annual physical and getting other bloodwork anyway) I requested a serum HCG to be drawn.  It was negative.  

I know that I'm not KO, but my body doesn't seem to understand that.  I'm completely exhausted and my sense of smell is incredibly heightened.  I don't get it and I kind of want to start peeing on things even though the test I had done on Wednesday was negative. 

  

HBirdie

This is a UO, then... I hate showering. I hate baths more, but yeah... it's annoying and feels more like an obligation than a privilege to me.

TKtravels

Oh, and I've stopped trying to mask my look of disgust whenever someone makes the comment that it is okay for me to breastfeed in public as long as it's under a cover.  

If one has a problem with my uncovered NIP (which is still, in my opinion, relatively discreet), they're going to see my .5" strip of exposed flesh *and* my bitch face.  

redfallon

Don't get me wrong. I love long, hot showers. I just don't like to hear DD cry if I decide to take one. There is a small window when I can take a shower and I have to choose between either a shower or breakfast. That's only if DD isn't hungry for long enough. Otherwise I have to wait until DH gets home but by that time she needs another nap, then we have dinner, then she has bedtime, then I have about an hour to spend with DH before we go to bed and I don't want to go through a shower and washing, drying my hair.

averettgirl

DH and I decided we would not let LO sleep on our chests at night anymore, no matter how many times we had to help her back to sleep if she woke up after we laid her down. Well, I've let DD sleep on my chest all night for almost a week now so she would sleep better and therefore I would sleep better plus she's EBF and MOTN feedings are easier that way. But when DH wakes up at 7AM to get ready for work I tell him "Oh she just ate and I only now got her back to sleep." Hell, he sleeps through all of her fussing and doesn't have to feed her at night so I'm going to do what I gotta do. :-)

ravenclaw1

TKtravels said:

If one has a problem with my uncovered NIP (which is still, in my opinion, relatively discreet), they're going to see my .5" strip of exposed flesh *and* my bitch face.  

I started NIP without a cover recently bc A has decided she's done with that cover nonsense. People often have no clue what I'm doing.

Albertsgirl1982

amelbug said:

foxyroxy said:

I don't find being a SAHM fulfilling. I think it is important, hard, etc and I am so glad I am the one who gets to see her little milestones and to bond with her.... but I don't feel fulfilled. I don't feel like my best self. I am not as happy as I was when I was working. I wish I was. 

I feel like I am failing at both. I am not as focused at work and can't work the hours I need for my experiments and then when I get home A is so sleepy that I don't get quality time with her. I think it will take time for us all (working and SAHM) to adjust but the interim sucks!

amelbug said:

foxyroxy said:

I don't find being a SAHM fulfilling. I think it is important, hard, etc and I am so glad I am the one who gets to see her little milestones and to bond with her.... but I don't feel fulfilled. I don't feel like my best self. I am not as happy as I was when I was working. I wish I was. 

I feel like I am failing at both. I am not as focused at work and can't work the hours I need for my experiments and then when I get home A is so sleepy that I don't get quality time with her. I think it will take time for us all (working and SAHM) to adjust but the interim sucks!

@amelbug:
Experiments?? Are you a scientist too??

Burrberrymum

I completely gave up trying to get my DD to sleep in her crib... I couldn't take it anymore, I would try every night for 4-6 hours of rocking and putting her down with no success. I actually was getting really depressed about having to spend 6 hours in a dark room with a frustrated babe that just wants to sleep with her mommy. So just like that I gave up and we now bed share. I'm tired as hell of the "uh oh don't do that or you'll have her in your bed forever" comments.. SO. TIRED. Of hearing it.

I also put DD in her snowsuit in her car seat today. I'm always by the books when it comes to car seat safety but today was -30C and my damn cats peed on her bunting bag which now got ruined in the wash. I was gonna be late for an appointment so I did it, I figured since it was only a couple blocks away she would be fine. She enjoyed it so much she actually fell asleep in the car for the first time.

amelbug

Albertsgirl1982 said:

amelbug said:

foxyroxy said:

I don't find being a SAHM fulfilling. I think it is important, hard, etc and I am so glad I am the one who gets to see her little milestones and to bond with her.... but I don't feel fulfilled. I don't feel like my best self. I am not as happy as I was when I was working. I wish I was. 

I feel like I am failing at both. I am not as focused at work and can't work the hours I need for my experiments and then when I get home A is so sleepy that I don't get quality time with her. I think it will take time for us all (working and SAHM) to adjust but the interim sucks!

amelbug said:

foxyroxy said:

I don't find being a SAHM fulfilling. I think it is important, hard, etc and I am so glad I am the one who gets to see her little milestones and to bond with her.... but I don't feel fulfilled. I don't feel like my best self. I am not as happy as I was when I was working. I wish I was. 

I feel like I am failing at both. I am not as focused at work and can't work the hours I need for my experiments and then when I get home A is so sleepy that I don't get quality time with her. I think it will take time for us all (working and SAHM) to adjust but the interim sucks!

@amelbug:
Experiments?? Are you a scientist too??

Yes - coming to end of my postdoc at uchicago. Working in genetics lab, how about you?

smilingeyes2308

Burrberrymum said:

I completely gave up trying to get my DD to sleep in her crib... I couldn't take it anymore, I would try every night for 4-6 hours of rocking and putting her down with no success. I actually was getting really depressed about having to spend 6 hours in a dark room with a frustrated babe that just wants to sleep with her mommy. So just like that I gave up and we now bed share. I'm tired as hell of the "uh oh don't do that or you'll have her in your bed forever" comments.. SO. TIRED. Of hearing it. I also put DD in her snowsuit in her car seat today. I'm always by the books when it comes to car seat safety but today was -30C and my damn cats peed on her bunting bag which now got ruined in the wash. I was gonna be late for an appointment so I did it, I figured since it was only a couple blocks away she would be fine. She enjoyed it so much she actually fell asleep in the car for the first time.

I personally don't bed share, not that I wouldn't..we've just never "had" to. However, I can't stand people who have such a strong opinion about not bed sharing. Who cares if she'll be in your bed "forever"? Let's be real, it won't be forever. maybe just a few years if she gets THAT attached to it. Same goes for when people tell me not to nurse her to sleep. I'm her Mommy. If that's what comforts my baby, I'll do it. Even when she's one. I don't personally care. If I have a built in insta-sleep then I consider my boobies to be a holy grail, not some sort of curse.

Albertsgirl1982

@amelbug:
I've been working in regenerative medicine but my background is immunology.

Albertsgirl1982

@smilingeyes2308:
Built-in insta-sleep!! I love it

Burrberrymum

smilingeyes2308 said:

Burrberrymum said:

I completely gave up trying to get my DD to sleep in her crib... I couldn't take it anymore, I would try every night for 4-6 hours of rocking and putting her down with no success. I actually was getting really depressed about having to spend 6 hours in a dark room with a frustrated babe that just wants to sleep with her mommy. So just like that I gave up and we now bed share. I'm tired as hell of the "uh oh don't do that or you'll have her in your bed forever" comments.. SO. TIRED. Of hearing it.

I personally don't bed share, not that I wouldn't..we've just never "had" to. However, I can't stand people who have such a strong opinion about not bed sharing. Who cares if she'll be in your bed "forever"? Let's be real, it won't be forever. maybe just a few years if she gets THAT attached to it. Same goes for when people tell me not to nurse her to sleep. I'm her Mommy. If that's what comforts my baby, I'll do it. Even when she's one. I don't personally care. If I have a built in insta-sleep then I consider my boobies to be a holy grail, not some sort of curse.


Haha built in insta sleep is definitely what I have too! & at this point I'm just in that mind set too "if it's going to comfort her than so be it" I don't know why everyone shakes their heads in disapproval and makes me feel like I didn't try. Bed sharing for me right in this moment makes for a happy baby and happy baby = happy mommy. I know I shouldn't care what people around me say but they seem to make me feel like I'm doing something terrible by comfort nursing to sleep & bed sharing.

HBirdie

jenny5o5 said:

This is a UO, then... I hate showering. I hate baths more, but yeah... it's annoying and feels more like an obligation than a privilege to me.

Ditto. If I didn't work in medical I wouldn't shower every weekday!

I don't shower every day. Honestly I usually only shower 3-4 times a week, more if I'm working out, though. And when I worked at a plasma donation center and was around blood and plasma and whatnot, I'd shower every day.

ajbook

Beer beat running tonight.  I'm not really mad about it either.

TKtravels

Loppy19 said: 

I started NIP without a cover recently bc A has decided she's done with that cover nonsense. People often have no clue what I'm doing. Add me to team "fuck covers." I had an old lady glaring at me as I nursed Logan in the play area at the mall today. She would have seen a whole lot more of me if I had a baby flailing under a cover to deal with. 

No joke.  

The few times I've gotten stink eye, I've been tempted to deliberately flash them and/or stick my tongue out at them.  It's immature and helps nothing, sure, but I get really, really annoyed when people have a problem with NIP.  

I think it's funny too because pre-LO, I never thought I'd be one to get worked up over this, or who looks forward to the next local NIP nurse-in.  

Also, yay Team Fuck Covers! 

ravenclaw1

TKtravels said:

Also, yay Team Fuck Covers!

FOR REAL. I always said I'd NIP bc my baby needs to eat and I wouldn't always be at home. I always assumed I'd use a cover, but I never realized some kids learn to hate them and they become useless. I've become the most awesomely discreet nurser of all time.

In fact, the other day I was feeding her in a synogogue during Shabbat services. About 5 people came up to talk to me while I was doing it (after services) & they all just assumed she was sleeping.

coraggiosa

ocnfish4 said:

My brother's baby was born today. 5 weeks early, but so far, everyone seems to be ok. I have stated before that I'm not excited about this baby because they're a couple of idiots. But I confess that there's another reason I'm not excited. I'm jealous that my DS is no longer my parents only grandchild. He got to be the special center of attention for only a few months and that just doesn't seem fair. That's a selfish thing to say, but oh well. It's how I feel.

I can't believe this didn't get flamed. 

@ocnfish4 Seriously? You aren't excited about the birth of your niece or nephew (you didn't say if it was a boy or girl) because the parents are idiots? And you are upset that your child is no longer the only grandchild? It isn't fair? Seriously? WTF? That's extremely immature. I find your judgment of your brother and the mother of his child rich, considering your confession here. 

HBirdie

drey1028 said:

I returned the outfits my older brother bought L for Christmas. They were from Spencers and completely not our style (think punk rock with bows, skulls and flannel). I felt so guilty returning them, but I really had not intentions on putting any of them on her. So now I have $60 to Spencers (overpriced baby clothes anyone??) and I have the feeling I am just going to have to re-buy some baby clothes from there since my mother keeps bringing them up. He also bought them "with room to grow" (12 and 18 months)

Spencer's, like, the gift store in the mall with all the in-bad-taste/inappropriate joke items? I wasn't allowed to go in there as a kid/teen and I think as an adult I've only been in there once. They sell baby clothes?   /:) I'd return them, too. And I'd be like, "You know, those aren't really our style so I returned them for something we really love." And show them what you got. Maybe you could sell the store credit to someone who actually shops there or something?