dealing with life's crap while knocked up

lola4411

hey ladies, i am sure that we all have a lot going on besides being preggers.  it would be amazing to coast through our pregnancies with no work/family/life issues but that just isn't reality, is it?  my dad was just admitted to hospital with congestive heart failure which is tough to deal with anyway but it feels harder being pregnant and emotional.  i am sure i am not alone with dealing with other issues besides being pregnant!  what are you all doing to make yourself feel better?  besides trying to stay positive, exercise, yoga and pop tarts help me

MollySm

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I hope he is doing alright!

tbmadeamistake

I make sure to plan at least 10 minutes a day when I can sit with my feet up and do things that don't take any thought at all, be it TV, reading, listening to music, or bumping.  DH knows not to bother me with questions, I do it after C is in bed (or while she's in the bath, which is DH duty).  It helps to keep me centered and let my body and mind slow down a bit.  I also have a small glass of wine here and there, just enough to enjoy the taste and remind me of the relaxation it can cause when I'm allowed to drink more.  I'm sorry you're going through a rough time! Thoughts and prayers for your dad!

Mztwilson

I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I thought I was going through some tough stuff but my issues seem minimal compared to what your going through. Hugs and prayers.

lola4411

thanks everyone.  he is doing better and should make a full recovery but its still tough to see your dad in the hospital.  trying to stay positive and i love all of your suggestions.  thanks

kellyjayne

I think one of the most important things to do is to let yourself feel upset or angry if you need to. After my mom passed away, I tried so hard to be strong for everyone around me, and I never allowed myself to just break down and acknowledge how much pain I was in. Once I let my guard down, I was able to process some of my feelings and slowly start to work through them. Some days are still rough, but knowing that no one expects me to be the glue holding everything together helps me get through those days.

 

wtfisup

I will say that it would be easier if I could drink. I miss Bad Day Wine or meeting a friend for happy hour.

kellyjayne

@wtfisup totally agree. I was on a wine and advil pm diet for awhile...probably best to be off of that one but I still miss being able to drink as much wine as I please on any given night.

mschware

I'm sorry about your Dad! I don't know if this will help you feel better at all, but my mother dealt with congestive heart failure for 10 years on top of tons of other health issues and the CHF was able to be controlled to a certain extent and wasn't even their biggest concern! She had heart surgies, but they were able to help her with it a lot. I know it's hard to watch as a daughter, especially being pregnant as well, but I'm sure they will do the best they can for your father too.. All you can do is take it day by day with him. It's just a slower ride than anyone would like to be on.. But I pray it gets better for your family fast
I'm glad exercise helps you! Don't be too hard on yourself at this time and let yourself feel emotions guilt free! Try to keep your mind busy with doing things you love, but give yourself rest when you need... Though easier said than done!

lola4411

mschware said:

I'm sorry about your Dad! I don't know if this will help you feel better at all, but my mother dealt with congestive heart failure for 10 years on top of tons of other health issues and the CHF was able to be controlled to a certain extent and wasn't even their biggest concern! She had heart surgies, but they were able to help her with it a lot. I know it's hard to watch as a daughter, especially being pregnant as well, but I'm sure they will do the best they can for your father too.. All you can do is take it day by day with him. It's just a slower ride than anyone would like to be on.. But I pray it gets better for your family fast I'm glad exercise helps you! Don't be too hard on yourself at this time and let yourself feel emotions guilt free! Try to keep your mind busy with doing things you love, but give yourself rest when you need... Though easier said than done!

thank you so much

anordstrWed114947

What can u controll? That's how I prioritize. Can I change the outcome? Doi have controll? If not its in gods hands.

drsunny

So sorry to hear you're going through a hard time! The mix of emotions (sadness and anxiety about your dad's health, excitement and nervousness about the baby) can be hard to balance. I hope you are able to get together with friends and family who can let you vent or laugh or cry however many times you need to. Maybe turning up some good dance music and letting yourself go could be a fun release! Hugs!

lola4411

hey everyone, i just wanted to share an update. my dad is finally getting released from the hospital today! he still has a long road of recovery ahead of him, especially since he is older (80, i am kid #5) but he is getting better and finally gets to leave the hospital!  i didnt mention before but he got sick while he and my mom were visiting us from out of state.  so they will be here until sunday when he is hopefully well enough to fly.  needless to say, this visit took an unexpected and scary turn, but i am grateful for your thoughts and support.  thanks