What do you do to keep yourself sane?

formerwigirl

Hey all,

So I know its really early and I need to just relax and let things happen. Unfortunately I feel like infertility brain is making me second guess everything. I am happy and trying to be excited because we finally got our BFP and it was confirmed via blood work. Now its over 2 weeks until our ultrasound and I keep questioning everything. I feel like I am going a bit crazy. I find myself making sure my boobs are still hurting to just to confirm I am still pregnant. The minute I have cramps I freak out because I am wondering if something bad is happening. I know its really early and I should just relax but after all it took to finally get here I don't want anything to happen. Am I going completely crazy? Does anyone else feel like this? If so what do you to to calm yourself down? I am sorry in advance if anyone is offended. Thanks for letting me vent.

HeatherHam10

I am 9w6d and i think the very beginning was the worst and not a lot helped me to calm down until I heard the hb but i still worry non stop just not as bad. Getting a doppler around 9 wks helped me as of lately. I also started talking to a therapist. I have heard many people use meditation and yoga to help relax. GL i know its scary after everything you go through with IF.

oO Angie Oo

This is normal! I used to cry before every appointment because I was terrified of hearing bad news. I never really worried if my boobs didn't hurt or if I cramped because every woman is different. I finally stopped feeling that way when I was about 14 weeks along. Congrats on your bfp!!! I wish you the best!

LSN8308

thats totally normal. and honestly i would just try to keep myself occupied more than anything. and i also had DH repeating in my ear, worrying wont help anything. his remedy was tons of takeout lol. i hope the time fly's for you and congrats on your bFP!

olenkapdx

I totally felt all those things at first!  I actually welcomed morning sickness since I figured it meant something good was happening.  I would actually get worried if I felt normal on a particular day.   I just tried to do what i could to keep my monkey mind at bay...kept busy with SO, friends, family, work, and hobbies, mainly.  I also practiced calming techniques...for me it is meditation.  For others it might be prayer or something else. 

What you're feeling is totally normal, especially for anyone who has gone through IF!

monimu13

Totally normal.  I seriously poked my boobs all the time to make sure they still hurt Try to enjoy being pregnant....I know that's not easy at this point!

FloridaSun82

I could have written that post! I go for my appointment on Monday (tomorrow), exactly 2 weeks after my last Beta and I'm freaking out. When I'm cramping, I'm nervous that something is wrong and when I'm not cramping, I'm worried that nothing is happening. My big symptom is I have blue veins showing everywhere (boobs, hips, legs, and hands), so I just keep looking at them to make sure they're still there! 

I also have to remind myself that my betas rose as they should, I haven't had any major cramping or bleeding, so there is no reason to assume that anything is going to be wrong.

BBColt78

Yup. I'm 15 weeks and the mind games continue. Totally normal.

Hope your ultrasound comes soon!

saraeric

I am right there with you! I go in on the 28th for my first ultrasound and that day cannot come soon enough. The timing of this pregnancy could not be more perfect (work reasons, family reasons, etc) and I am so afraid that it is too good to be true! I keep listening to Bob Marley's "Three Birds," that seems to help me.  

xtina78

This also sounds very familiar to me! I've been trying really hard to stay busy - which in itself is hard b/c I don't physically feel well. I bought a fun book and started some small organizing projects around the house. I also see a therapist and meditate which are both very helpful. I really want to start up some mild exercise but have been making excuses for myself due to my pregnancy symptoms!

brittneyandadam

I can totally relate. The last few weeks have been so tough...I ended up calling the RE for a third beta just to calm myself down. I was ok after that...but as the u/s gets closer, I find myself getting more nervous; especially since I've been cramping.

I have a little mantra that I repeat to myself when I start to get a little crazy: You are pregnant. Right now, you are growing a little human in your belly and no one can take that away from you. 

I'm also trying to concentrate on my school work and graduation in May. It helps to keep my mind from wandering.

FutureMrsW9

No, you're totally normal.  I did all the same things in the beginning.  Just don't freak out if your symptoms disappear - mine would come and go depending on the day.  To keep me sane I actually continued to POAS until my 1st u/s at 5w2d and even after that until 6w or so since I had an SCH bleed and was freaking out.  It's crazy, but it helped ease my mind.

JennyS86

I think we can all share this feeling - and to some extent, I still feel worried about little things!  I am more of a prayer girl than a mantra girl, but every time I freak out, I say to myself: "Today I am pregnant"

good luck at your ultrasound!

drjwj

I was really scared right up until I could feel her kicking around regularly!  One person said to focus on being pregnant right now today and being happy about that, but I didn't truly relax and enjoy it (or really believe it!) until probably the 18 week ultrasound!  Congrats for making it over here!

DagnyDoo

Ice cream  I still worry way too much, but I try to remember 1) the more I worry the higher my blood pressure, etc. gets, which is not good for the baby and 2) I am doing everything I possibly can to keep this LO safe and nourished, so I need to just have faith that everything will be fine, and if it isn't know it's not because of anything I did.  One day at a time!  And enjoy the excuse to indulge a little where you feel like it.  I was so sick in the beginning that it made it easier to not feel guilty about some things I called "meals"