My daughter has just turned 2 in Dec. ever since she was maybe 9months she has thrusted herself up against the crotch bar in highchairs, shopping carts, booster chairs or even the strap in her car seat. Recently I've noticed her just rubbing herself on her rocking horse. Her body gets tense and she has the blank look on her face. I'm really uncomfortable and embarrassed to even be writing about it but I'm so worried and concerned as to why she's doing this. Does anyone else's child do this? Will she grow out of it? Please help!
Re: Toddler rubbing herself on crotch bar in chair
You can try to explain to her that this is private behavior and should not be done in public spaces. But try not to make her feel ashamed about what she is doing. In time as she understands the difference between public and private behavior, she'll outgrow doing it in public.
I remember masturbating when I was still in diapers (clitorally) and actually bringing myself to a clitoral orgasm.
Some girls just happen to discover that little spot a bit too early, by accident. This is not common but not unheard of.
I think you just need to explain to her that what she is doing is OK, but there is a time and a place. Perhaps tell her that if she wants to do that, she needs to just do it in her room, when she's alone. You certainly don't want her to think what she's doing is wrong (for obvious reasons).
Again, try to avoid putting feelings on it when talking to your DD. Her behavior is normal and common, you just need to teach her the time and place for it.
You'd be surprised at how much a child understands at a young age. Redirect! Redirect! It's the best tactic ever.