Did DH watch?

Joansmith1128

For those who have already had their babies, did DH watch the actual delivery? Im not a very modest person, but im so nervous im gonna go #2 in front of him, not to mention how bloody things will be! LOL im afraid he will regret not watching the birth of his child though. Just looking for your experience/ funny stories!

rowanthefrog

Yes, DH did, he was holding my leg. I just asked him about it and his basic comments were "no residual after-effects" (meaning it didn't traumatize him) but "not entirely sure if watching was the best thing." He has made a few other comments along the lines of how much blood and fluid comes out, etc. I have no idea if I pooped or not.

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jldubb0626

Yup, he watched both times.  Not the prettiest thing to watch but it obviously didn't scar him enough to keep him away. 

RedSaffron

SO was by my head and his mom and my mom had each of my thighs. We used a mirror and I don't recall it being that bloody during the pushing.
I'm a very modest person, but when I was pushing a 7-8 lbs, 20" burrito out of my vag for 1 1/2 hour, modesty was the last thing on my mind.

ashleywiz

DH was up by my head so he could see her coming out but wasn't all up close and personal. He did see me projectile pee all over and knew that I pooped, but he said there was someone constantly wiping things up the whole time so he didn't see anything. For him- the only "gross" part of the entire experience was when the placenta came out and he glanced over at them examining it. Like other ladies said, even if I was modest, that was the very last thing on my mind.

ScarlettDahlia

He did not watch. He sat in a chair the whole time because he knew he wouldn't be able to stand up and see that.

He did walk past while they were delivering the placenta and he turned pretty white.

Tylynngrace

MH didn't watch but accidentally stood up and saw over the divider and saw my intestines hanging out (csection), he said it was the grossest thing seeing his wife like that because it's nothing like seeing a deer gutted.

jwp325

Totally agree about the modesty issues. I pooped and DH knew it. He held my leg and did look at various points. He was actually excited about it and watched the doctor pull DD out with the forceps. He stopped watching at that point since he got a quick glance at them stitching me up and was done. Plus he wanted to be with DD as they checked her.

JaneW2

During my section, he mostly stayed on the head side of the curtain.  He took a small peek over, saw a lot of blood, and pulled his head back down.

CeeJC121013

DH did watch. He had my leg. I am very modest and didn't want him to see what was going on down there. Heck, I didn't even want to see or think about it. He was the opposite. He is not grossed out by anything and said it was amazing watching our children being born. That made me feel better about what he witnessed!

ababymaybe

@Tylynngrace - my DH did the same thing (peeked over for a second). Said it was pretty horrifying to see. I don't think he will get brave again this time around.

jblank03

My DH kept talking about how he didn't even want to be in the room for the delivery, it'd be so gross, blah blah.  He ended up staying by my head (my mom and a nurse each had a leg), but he said he really could see everything going on down there and that he was so focused on the baby getting out healthy and what the Dr was doing/saying that he wasn't grossed out at all.  At least in our situation, I know he really would have regretted missing out on the experience.

We had to have an assisted delivery with the vacuum, and there were some tense moments with the suction popping off a couple of times.  I'm so glad he was in the room because I was so in the zone pushing I couldn't focus on anything the Dr's were telling me about what was going on.  Hearing DH tell me what happened after the fact, it was like I wasn't there!

wifetomrb101

Yep, he did.  He was holding my leg/foot so he had a front row view.  He didn't notice when I pooped - he was too focused on the baby (I only pooped with DD1, not this time).  He still talks about the miracle of being born and watching the baby's head go from pointed during pushing to round. 

bellamatson

I told him not to watch... But he did.

His thoughts:
"It was a miracle. I was so in the moment, it wasn't even gross. Ive never seen a vagina stretch so much before, but the grossest part of it was looking at the placenta. "

ach298

DH held my leg when I was pushing with both boys and considering DS1 took 3.5 hours to push out, he got to see everything. He was in no way permanently scarred by anything he saw.

cnwilbur1030

@tylynngrace My DH did the same thing with DD. to this day when I ask him about it, he says "I don't want to talk about it" and gets really quiet.

This time, the dr wanted him to stand up and see DS fresh out of the womb. DH was a bit hesitant, but he did it. Thankfully the dr positioned the baby more strategically so he couldn't see everything. He still looked pale when he sat back down!

sleepymonkey

DH was planning on watching but I ended up with a c-section. Once LO was out, they let him go see her while they were putting me back together. He said he saw my insides which would have probably been really disturbing but he was so focused on his new daughter, he didn't even think about it.

megngregk

Different situation because we had to Skype, but the camera was angled at my upper half. We did show him the naby crowning briefly.

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COgirl29

My DH was adamant about not watching, not cutting the cord because that's so gross, etc. when it came time to push, he was holding one of my legs, and he looked at me and said "I have to watch, I can't believe she is almost here this is so cool" and he watched the entire thing. He also gavebme updates and told me how far out she was, that she had so much hair, etc. even after he is so happy he did watch - he said it wasn't like he was looking at my vagina - it was just a surreal experience and he had to watch!

blue_elle

DH wasn't planning to and I was fine with that, but when it came down to it he was holding my leg and was right there. Kind of hard not to see everything. He did comment that it wasn't as bad as he thought it would be and that it wasn't traumatizing. 

susieandmarty

Dh watched with dd1. He said, "I've seen things I can unsee". After we had her to ourselves in the hospital room he told me he may not let he go through that again. Clearly, we are having number 2.

buckeyebride22

@tylynngrace my DH stood up and watched too. He was so excited because with DS I was put to sleep so he didn't get to come in the OR. He was disappointed and said gutting a deer is worse lol. He also tried really hard to get a picture of my insides as Cora was coming out. He's a freak but I love him

aessary03

I had a c/s and hubby watched. Him and the anesthesiologist joked that it looked like an episode of walking dead. Ha ha, funny guys. He said it was actually really cool and a not as bloody as he though it'd be.

nolagal79

I had a c-section and DH watched the entire surgery until he left with Emerson to go to the nursery. He said it was amazing to watch and got some really great pictures of her coming out. His biggest comment is that it wasn't nearly as bloody as he thought it would be.

Tylynngrace

buckeyebride22 said:

@tylynngrace my DH stood up and watched too. He was so excited because with DS I was put to sleep so he didn't get to come in the OR. He was disappointed and said gutting a deer is worse lol. He also tried really hard to get a picture of my insides as Cora was coming out. He's a freak but I love him

I wish MH would've gotten a picture! I wanted to see what was going on.

jinkybink

DH doesn't want to watch. And I do NOT want him to. He gets grossed out just talking about body fluids like blood or needles. But I hear that our nurses try to get the dads-to-be to be part of it and try to trick them into looking. I do not want him passed out and worried he's got a concussion. We want him over by my shoulders to help support me and to be conscious enough at the end to reveal the baby's gender please!

bensmommy518

With DS, DH was holding my leg so he could see everything.  He spend a lot of time looking at me and talking to me though becasue he has a little bit of a weak stomach and I had told him ahead of time that if at any point in the delivery I have to start worrying about him fainting, there would be hell to pay.  So he would only look in small spurts and then turn back to me and tell me what was going on and how well I was doing.  Because of this he also chose not to cut the cord (which I figured would be his decision). 

ac1259

So DH held my leg with our first DD and it didn't bother him too bad...2 hours of pushing so he saw like everything.

This time his right arm was broken so he couldn't hold, and because she was so early there were a ton of people around. He was holding my hand up by my head and didn't see as much this time- also with DD2 I pushed for all of 5 minutes so it didn't take as long. But afterwards when he was seeing the baby he almost backed up into the container with the placenta... The doctor said "watch out don't lean in the placenta!" That grossed him out a bit!

sept9107bride

Yes he said it was gross in some ways but it was the freaking miracle of life that I carried around for 9 months so he can deal with it! Also tip...I told him not to share any of the gross details...I don't need bad visuals for future deliveries. Also I consider pooping on the table a bonus as it takes some of the mental stress off of going right after you just pushed out a baby!

km_md

I still have an inside baby, but DH and I have talked about this a bit... I had mentioned the possibility of pooping on the table, and he seemed pretty grossed out by that, but I think it was more of him trying to act silly and get me to not worry about things. I asked him if he wants to cut the cord, and while I didn't get a straight answer, I don't think that he wants to. 

He's never been in a situation like this (obviously lol) so I'm sure he just doesn't know what to expect. He always seems to step up in the moment, so I'm sure that he will do whatever I need him to. I told him that it is his decision, if he wants to look or cut the cord he can (as long as he doesn't faint!) but if he doesn't want to, I won't hold it against him. 

Only time will tell what will actually happen!

Siblynika

DH had no choice the first time- we kept trying to get SOMEONE in the room because I said the baby was coming now and the nurses kept blowing him off. Once our daughter started to crown he called out into the hall to our passing doctor: "did you want to catch this baby or should I go ahead and do your job?". He was a little annoyed that they basically treated him like an idiot. Btw he DID end up looking and catching her and he was perfectly fine. He'll probably want to do it again once this one decides to debut.

Momto1goofball

Yep. SO stood at my head and held my hand a knee when I had DS. He was so sweet trying to keep my hair out of my face and calming me when I had a panic attack when they had to give me oxygen.

hurricanekb

He initially said he didn't want to watch, but he did and is so glad he did!

HeartOverMind

Dh watched her emerge into the world. I honestly didn't pay that much attention to him, i was kinda busy. But he said he saw it, so whatever that means.

last14real

DH was with me the whole time when DS was born, but up by my head and shoulder area. He does not really do well with gore and said he had no desire to see all that. I was fine with whatever he wanted, I didn't really want him to see me like that, but if he wanted to see his baby born I wouldn't stop him. I told him that if he looked and I pooped than he better not even tell me. I still to this day do not know if I pooped on the table with DS and I would like it to be that way with this LO as well:)

pixieonboard

ashleyfinn23 said:

Nope, DH refused to watch and I was completely okay with that. He stayed at the head of the bed the entire time and he said he had a tight grip on the rail of the bed so as to not pass out, I assume. He said he does not regret it at all and would rather not see my lady bits in that sort of way.

I think my DH will do the same and feel the same way as ashleyfinn23 s. My hubby struggled with watching the version attempt.

mommabird77

My DH watched the whole thing with our DS.  He was a medic for many years and has assisted in deliveries before, so it was nothing new to him. 

JennaRaek

DH told me he wasn't going to watch. He was up at my head the until we got close. He looked and told me our son had hair. Now, after watching his son be born, he says he's glad he looked. He said he thought he'd be kind of grossed out but it was the most beautiful thing he's ever seen. 

bnik

I due next week but he has made it quite clear that he will not be looking. "You should keep a level of mystery in your marriage, andthis iis a mystery we will have between us" lol

gina0485

I initially didn't want DH to watch due to fears it would change how attractive he viewed me but he insisted. He was my rock and was so excited to hold my leg, help tell me when a push was good, tell me our son had hair. He watched me get cath'd -- he missed nothing. He was amazing. I can honestly say I think he loves me more after going through it together.