Anyone else have a nosey MIL?

Annsor

Little venting here...
My MIL is by far the most nosey person I know! We were so excited to tell them about grand baby #2... All we got was "can you afford another child on one income" apparently my bakery is not considered a job nor income in her eyes. "Do you even have time? You seem so busy at your little job" My little job you say... Every time they come to my home it's always "this is nice, how much did that set you back?" Really??? Grr!! Glad my parents were over the moon! In laws! Aaargh! Sorry guys rant over!!!

Hope you ladies have a more excited MIL than I do!!

hollster8

Aw, I'm sorry!  That's lame that she wasn't more excited.  I'm excited for you!!!!

Annsor

Thanks hollster8!! We're pretty excited...guess that's all that matters right?!

hollster8

Yep!  I bet she'll get more excited when the baby comes and there are cute little cheeks to squish and smooch on!

firefliesandfjords

Ugh. MILs. So sorry.

portentosa

Aw, that sucks Annsor. I'm sorry she was so crappy about it.

Both my mom and my MIL were super excited, but my step mom just gave me a sad look and said, 'I'd hope you'd get a chance to rest first. You always look so tired.' Ummm, thanks? WTF?

Ballet513

trombgirl said:

Aw, that sucks Annsor. I'm sorry she was so crappy about it.

Both my mom and my MIL were super excited, but my step mom just gave me a sad look and said, 'I'd hope you'd get a chance to rest first. You always look so tired.' Ummm, thanks? WTF?

This made me LOL. Yes, kids are tiring. You might as well have another one while you're already "so tired" though right?

mana8503

I'm sorry she feels the need to belittle you to make herself feel better.

MIL is the opposite, H can talk on the phone with her form 45 mins and not once does she ask how we are doing (we live 500 miles away).  H was going to tell her, but she interrupted him so he hasn't said anything yet.  We figure if he can't tell her before Feb, we'll add something in her Birthday card.

MIL did get in our financial business when H got out of the military.  I made double what he did, but she always brought up how she "didn't know we were going to make it without being in the Military".  8-|

Sweetest116

MILs are unpredictable. They're frightening like that

missmaddie

Whoa! Sorry! My MIL give me a hard time about a bunch of stuff. We haven't told her about our pregnancy yet. But somehow she suspects it. She live 900 miles away, but is visiting at the end of the month. Maybe your MIL will come around!

Hward1015

Pumpkin&Hunny said:

We haven't told his parents yet, but I feel for you. When DH and I bought out house, she decided to stop over with little to no notice several times a week to see what we were doing, and how we were decorating. She still does it 5 months later. She drives me batty.

Wow! You have patience! My SO's Mom and Dad thought it was perfectly okay to come over at 8:30 - 9:00pm when my DD was a baby. They would wake her up and then leave 30 - 45 mins later so there I would sit with a wide-eyed baby until midnight - 1am. Needless to say, I made the decision we were moving 6 hours away. SO's family still isn't happy about the idea, but I couldn't handle living by them anymore. Great people, absolutely no common sense. 

Hward1015

Pumpkin&Hunny said:

Hward1015 said:

Pumpkin&Hunny said:

We haven't told his parents yet, but I feel for you. When DH and I bought out house, she decided to stop over with little to no notice several times a week to see what we were doing, and how we were decorating. She still does it 5 months later. She drives me batty.

Wow! You have patience! My SO's Mom and Dad thought it was perfectly okay to come over at 8:30 - 9:00pm when my DD was a baby. They would wake her up and then leave 30 - 45 mins later so there I would sit with a wide-eyed baby until midnight - 1am. Needless to say, I made the decision we were moving 6 hours away. SO's family still isn't happy about the idea, but I couldn't handle living by them anymore. Great people, absolutely no common sense. 

Christmas day she called and told us that they were coming over and would be at the house in about 30 minutes, I have never cleaned, showers and been dressed so fast in my life. We even steam mopped the whole house. She said that they were coming over because FIL had not seen the place since we moved in. WTF go away! I want to sex up your son Christmas morning, not entertain you for 45 minutes! (needless to say, I still did sex him up and that may have been the sex that started this little seed growing)

Hahahah! Now that is good

Shanadoll

ugh I am so sorry you have a pain in the butt mother-in-law.

Mine is horrible. She is a 'legal druggie' and we are waiting as long as possible to tell her that we are pregnant. She is into everyone's business and everything that you do is wrong. It's her way or nothing. It's awful. The only good thing is that DH is aware of it as well and we have made the decision that she will never ever be left a lone with our child and the ban we have on her coming to our house will not change. 

It's going to add a whole new level of awesomeness (heavy sarcasm) when we have a baby. 

Good luck!!!

kenshiela

For some annoying MILs:

jesswein9

Wow, that takes some nerve for her to be so judgmental. You have a lot of patience.

athara

Try not to let it bother you too much, as PP have said, she will act completely different when the baby is here. When we first announced that we were pregnant with DS, my MIL text my mom and was asking her if she thought we were "ready" to have a baby. My mom didn't tell me for quite a while because she didn't want me to be upset about it.

Annsor

kenshiela said:

For some annoying MILs:

I need one NOW!!!

Shrmoss01

I have the same problem... My MIL ( been with my boyfriend for 11 years not married but she might as well be) anyways she called me yesterday because she knew we had our first appt today. As she's talking to me about it she ends the conversation with well I guess I will just meet you guys there. Tid-bit of information she lives 7 hours away. Never asked to come to our appt, cried when we asked her to leave the room during the sonogram, and then tried to post things on fb without our permission. I have a high-risk pregnancy and we are choosing to only tell family until at least 13 weeks, if I had it my way it would be 20... Sometimes you just have to smile and not say a word. Doesn't mean you ever get used to the overbearing ways though! Glad I'm not the only one who gets driven up the wall by one!

whataboutscience

This makes me feel better about mine...lol I only thought I had it bad. We haven't told quite yet because I want to feel a little more "safe" with the pregnancy first and am not ready for all of her unsolicited advice.

I've been getting baby pressure for years and we are only 25. "You know I was 27 when my last child was born..." Bringing up friends with kids, "you know, they seem really happy with the baby. Didn't they get married after you?" Etc.....

She had mentioned that she was thinking about building a new play set in her backyard for our kids, years ago when hubby and I weren't even thinking about kids. I've mentioned casually that I plan to SAH so that she doesn't think they will be there all the time.