Flame here: Friday Confessions

MeatballEsq

Okay ladies, step up your game. We need a good proper flaming around here.

mrsbhk22

Ok, this is just for laughs though. Not my brightest moment.

We bought a new top of the line dishwasher 2 yrs ago. It worked fine Sunday, wouldn't even light up Monday. $81 and a service call turned up that it's wired to a switch (WTF) an the switch had been flipped.

That's right folks, I paid $81 to have someone flip a F-ING switch!

Ironically, DH installed it an didn't know back then either (he just cut the breaker to cut power).

MeatballEsq

I let my dog lick my kids face. Not like go to town on him, but if he gets hit with a drive by licking I don't freak out. I figure they are bonding

MeatballEsq

I am new and don't want to post my son's name or pic. I know most of the lo's names on here though. Flame worthy enough? Lol.

Monster made me laugh. I feel like that nn would fit my kid we'll too.

MeatballEsq

My kid had a roll last night for dinner after he wouldn't eat his chicken or pasta. I almost let him wash it down with a big sippy of juice

MeatballEsq

mathlete said:

@mathlete!!!!!!!!!! WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE???  :x

I'm not here for long. LO got up early so I had a little extra time before getting ready for work. Plus, my confession. It's been weighing on me.

I'm sorry I know you worked really hard to get that job and moved, etc so I'm sure that makes it even more disappointing. Hugs.

MeatballEsq

My kid has never been interested in TV or cartoons. Now that I'm home the tv is on a lot, but he doesn't pay attention to it. I kinda wish he would. It sounds magical

Bighair12

I am terrified to lose control of being the breadwinner in our family. I will quit my job at some point this year wen school get ramped up.

I am terrified to live on just dh's income.

redneckmomma25

I have not left the house since last Thursday. Half way to church on sunday, G puked in the car so we turned around and went home. That was it. I am not stir crazy. I feel bad I don't bring G anywhere but I really don't want to go anywhere. Now that I am healed from surgery though I need to get back to the gym. So that will change next week.

ETA: I went grocery shopping Sunday I forgot about that. But G hasn't left the house since last Tuesday.

MeatballEsq

mathlete said:

mathlete said:

@mathlete!!!!!!!!!! WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE???  :x

I'm not here for long. LO got up early so I had a little extra time before getting ready for work. Plus, my confession. It's been weighing on me.

I'm sorry I know you worked really hard to get that job and moved, etc so I'm sure that makes it even more disappointing. Hugs.

Thanks. I feel like an asshole because ultimately I am super lucky to get the job / salary that I did straight out of school. (I mean, salary could be higher but it's double what it would be if I had a traditional postdoc.) I am giving it a year to see if things change (gut says they won't) and so I can determine exactly what I want out of my next position. How is your job hunt going? Please find a job in the south. O:-)

It's slow I'm hoping it will pick up now that the holidays are over and maybe companies' budgets will open up after the new year too. Haha how about you find your next job up here? There's a top notch university down the road

MeatballEsq

Sahara78 said:

DD is delayed for both gross and fine motor skills. She is in therapy and is progressing, so I try not to worry about it too much. Yesterday at DC pickup, a 12 month old in her class said "Bye, baby" to DD. I am worried that her little DC friends can see that DD is behind where they are developmentally. Ugh, parenting is hard...

I'm glad therapy is going well! That's awesome. And I know it's hard not to compare...I've been through it, but know that the other kids have no clue. Truly. Parenting is hard.

mrsbhk22

Julie91011 said:

I am new and don't want to post my son's name or pic. I know most of the lo's names on here though. Flame worthy enough? Lol.

I don't think it's weird. I usually refer to my kids as DS1, DS2, or DD. Sometimes their initial, but I'm not sure I've ever used their names.

MarisaKathleen

My SIL (who is a f-ing moron) is doing CIO with her 4mo old.  She posted on FB that they were on 45 minutes of it at 245 this morning.  It takes all of my willpower to not tell her what a complete idiot she is.  We never had to sleep train, as Nancy did it herself, but isn't 4mo too young for such shenanigans?  I'm trying to wait until at least 20 weeks before I tell her that I'm pregnant again as she's a shitty Mom to the kids she has and is "on the fence" about having more.  I know if I tell her I'm KU again she's going to have to one up me yet again and get pregnant right away.

redneckmomma25

I am so tired of reading books to G.  By the end of the day I want to throw them all out the window.  

redneckmomma25

I would judge CIO at 4mo as well.  

MeatballEsq

MiraskTastic said:

MarisaKathleen said:

My SIL (who is a f-ing moron) is doing CIO with her 4mo old.  She posted on FB that they were on 45 minutes of it at 245 this morning.  It takes all of my willpower to not tell her what a complete idiot she is.  We never had to sleep train, as Nancy did it herself, but isn't 4mo too young for such shenanigans? 

Our Pedi recommended us do it at 4 months. We did. H had two rough nights, and then he was a champ. And he has been a champ ever sense. I see no issue with it and I think you are judging her a bit much. Just because you had an easy go doesn't mean what she is doing is wrong. 

I think 4m is still really early to do it and cut out motn feedings. It may work for some, but maybe the baby is hungry?

MarisaKathleen

MiraskTastic said:

MarisaKathleen said:

My SIL (who is a f-ing moron) is doing CIO with her 4mo old.  She posted on FB that they were on 45 minutes of it at 245 this morning.  It takes all of my willpower to not tell her what a complete idiot she is.  We never had to sleep train, as Nancy did it herself, but isn't 4mo too young for such shenanigans? 

Our Pedi recommended us do it at 4 months. We did. H had two rough nights, and then he was a champ. And he has been a champ ever sense. I see no issue with it and I think you are judging her a bit much. Just because you had an easy go doesn't mean what she is doing is wrong. 

Right, which is why I said I didn't know if 4mo was the right age to start it, because I didn't know.  

And yes, I am judging her.  There's obviously more to it that adds to my annoyance, this just happened to be the most recent example.  She also tried cereal on her at just under 2mo because she wanted her to STTN and at the time, the kid was sleeping 6 hours at a time. 

FTR, I see absolutely nothing wrong with CIO.  I just thought it was something you started closer to 6mo.

kelbel527

Sometimes I wish my 15 month old would watch TV. 

With DS1 I was so, "He doesn't even pay attention to TV, he's doesn't need TV, lalala."  Then DS1 started watching TV around 2 - 2.5 and I realized from time to time it can be really useful. 

The idea of 30 minutes of quiet time while they BOTH watch Doc McStuffins?  That sounds magical.

I'm also a big fan of going to movies, so I can't wait until they're both old enough to go with me.  I don't think that's flameworthy though...

kelbel527

Sahara78 said:

MeatballEsq said:

Sahara78 said:

DD is delayed for both gross and fine motor skills. She is in therapy and is progressing, so I try not to worry about it too much. Yesterday at DC pickup, a 12 month old in her class said "Bye, baby" to DD. I am worried that her little DC friends can see that DD is behind where they are developmentally. Ugh, parenting is hard...

I'm glad therapy is going well! That's awesome. And I know it's hard not to compare...I've been through it, but know that the other kids have no clue. Truly. Parenting is hard.

Thanks! I know it's a bit silly to get upset about what a baby said; it just got to me for some reason. Probably because she was walking when she said it. :P

I could totally understand being sensitive about it.  But try not to worry - glad therapy is working!!

If it makes you feel any better...my S12 "baby" calls kids older than him babies all the time.  It just makes me laugh because apparently he doesn't realize he's a baby?!?

MarisaKathleen

MiraskTastic said:

MeatballEsq said:

MiraskTastic said:

MarisaKathleen said:

My SIL (who is a f-ing moron) is doing CIO with her 4mo old.  She posted on FB that they were on 45 minutes of it at 245 this morning.  It takes all of my willpower to not tell her what a complete idiot she is.  We never had to sleep train, as Nancy did it herself, but isn't 4mo too young for such shenanigans? 

Our Pedi recommended us do it at 4 months. We did. H had two rough nights, and then he was a champ. And he has been a champ ever sense. I see no issue with it and I think you are judging her a bit much. Just because you had an easy go doesn't mean what she is doing is wrong. 

I think 4m is still really early to do it and cut out motn feedings. It may work for some, but maybe the baby is hungry?

True. I retract my statement. Or at least the tone if it. I guess we were lucky because H wasn't eating in the MOTN at that point. 

I can totally see CIO when your kid isn't eating.  That's completely acceptable...MOTN is not playtime tiny person!! :-)  I just think it's too early to cut MOTN feedings, when the baby has been eating 2x a night.  

MarisaKathleen

@MiraskTastic, my SIL and your MIL could be besties.  Someday when I come down to Southern IL we'll go have a drink and compare wackies. :-)

redneckmomma25

DH and I haven't been on a date in months. The last time we even went out alone was to go buy a car in October.

Hyaline

My SIL (who is a f-ing moron) is doing CIO with her 4mo old.  She posted on FB that they were on 45 minutes of it at 245 this morning.  It takes all of my willpower to not tell her what a complete idiot she is.  We never had to sleep train, as Nancy did it herself, but isn't 4mo too young for such shenanigans?  I'm trying to wait until at least 20 weeks before I tell her that I'm pregnant again as she's a shitty Mom to the kids she has and is "on the fence" about having more.  I know if I tell her I'm KU again she's going to have to one up me yet again and get pregnant right away.

***

I think it's a touch young.  But we sleep-trained DD at about 5 months (flame away--I know the experts say 6 or 7 months).  I could tell it was time.  She was a classic three-day-and-done sleep trainer, and has loved her crib ever since.  So no regrets.  That said, I *do* think plenty of people don't take their kids' individual needs and personalities into account when deciding to sleep train, and do it because they think they're supposed to.  So I wouldn't have any issue just dropping the fact that I wouldn't have felt my kid was ready at 4 months, just to emphasize--"you don't have to sleep train now or ever despite what plenty of people say."

Pokedot

I think CIO at 4 months is too early. We did it at 6 months and it worked well. I couldn't see using it at 4 months with DS and it sticking.

I picked DS up from DC yesterday and was blocked in by another mom. So I saw her put her kid in the car. He's forward facing with a huge puffy jacket on and he's about 10 lbs smaller and 2 months younger than DS. Making him about 17-20 lbs (I've held him) and 14 months. I cringed so bad. I'll be the first to admit that I judge parents who FF so quickly. Haven't they read all the research? I realize it's wrong to judge but I seriously can't help it.

I can see my brother's g/f doing stupid shit with my niece like that. She's always one upping me somehow and we've only known her since last May. I'm going to have to bite my tongue a lot. What makes it worse is that she had a son before my niece and had to tell me how combat teething with DS. "Just give him a rib bone and let him chomp on that." UUmmm.....NO!

MarisaKathleen

@Pokedot, we had Nancy's 15mo check up last Friday and for the first time, it said on all the print out paperwork that they recommend RF until 2y/o.  I thought that was really cool, although I don't know if it's specific to my doc's office, or if it's a standard thing now.

Our fill in sitter has a daughter 2 mo older than Nanc and FF...she really didn't know the dangers of it at all until I told her why we were going to stick with 2yo instead of 1.

kelbel527

Pokedot said:  I'll be the first to admit that I judge parents who FF so quickly. Haven't they read all the research? I realize it's wrong to judge but I seriously can't help it.

Unfortunately, I just don't know that it's that easy.  If I hadn't been on the bump, I wouldn't have known about ERF.  When DS1 was 1, AAP was still saying FF at 1 was okay.  My pediatrician has never said anything to me about RFing. 

Because of that, we usually talk to our friends about it, since it's just not common knowledge (And it should be!).  I turned DS1 around at 18 months thinking that I did a good thing by keeping him RFing for more than a year.  Now, I've done more research (thanks to the ladies on here) and I won't even consider flipping him until a minimum of 2 years (though I know longer is better, we'll see). 

Hyaline

MarisaKathleen said:

@Pokedot, we had Nancy's 15mo check up last Friday and for the first time, it said on all the print out paperwork that they recommend RF until 2y/o.  I thought that was really cool, although I don't know if it's specific to my doc's office, or if it's a standard thing now.

Our fill in sitter has a daughter 2 mo older than Nanc and FF...she really didn't know the dangers of it at all until I told her why we were going to stick with 2yo instead of 1.

This is why I have no problems just sharing--non-confrontational, not "correcting" someone--about stuff like this.  My SIL asked if we had moved DD out of the bucket months ago, and I said yes, but that we were keeping her rear-facing because I liked what the research showed on keeping rear-facing until two.  All her friends FF at a year--she'd never heard of not doing that before.

I think often people get their cues from other parents in their circle, and that's usually a great thing, but when new research comes along, they often miss it, whereas new parents are more likely to be reading up.

kelbel527

MarisaKathleen said:

@Pokedot, we had Nancy's 15mo check up last Friday and for the first time, it said on all the print out paperwork that they recommend RF until 2y/o.  I thought that was really cool, although I don't know if it's specific to my doc's office, or if it's a standard thing now.

Our fill in sitter has a daughter 2 mo older than Nanc and FF...she really didn't know the dangers of it at all until I told her why we were going to stick with 2yo instead of 1.

I'm curious if my doc's office will say anything about it when we get in for 15 months.  He never did w/ DS1 (but AAP changed their recommendation since then) and hasn't said anything so far w/ DS2.  I totally think all offices should do that!

watercolor5

MiraskTastic said:

I let my kid watch about an hour of TV a day when he gets home from school. Helps me to get stuff done and have about 20 minutes of ME time before DH gets home. I don't feel bad about it at all. 

I put animal documentaries (national geographic or bbc) on tv in the afternoon for DD1 to watch while I feed DD2.  She calls all of the animals "doggie!"  At first I corrected her and said "No, that's a bear! Bear!"  but now I've reached new levels of laziness and find myself saying things like "Sophia, do you want to watch the doggies?" ... and then I put on a documentary about whales.  My kid is going to be so confused...

BeebopandBuddy

redneckmomma25 said:

DH and I haven't been on a date in months. The last time we even went out alone was to go buy a car in October.

DH and I only go out alone about 3 times a year.  we went to a movie last December, a concert in June and to my company Christmas party this past December.  We get to go to a wedding by ourselves in a few weeks.  Woohoo.

We just don't have family nearby to watch the kids and to add the cost of a babysitter to the cost of dinner or a movie makes it just too expensive IMO.  We do what we can when we can.  Although I'd like it to be more regular, it doesn't bother me that much.

Pokedot

@MarisaKathleen & @Kelbel527 I realize that. That's why I said I was judging and realized I was wrong. I realize there are so many things we should/shouldn't can/can't do that our parents did or even that things were acceptable just a few years ago. I think carseat safety is one of these most important things that should be discussed especially by pedi's and their staff.

I realize I won't agree with everything everyone does as a parent and thats fine. It's my own fault for judging. I wanted to say something but I don't think that's my place.

BeebopandBuddy

kelbel527 said:

Pokedot said:  I'll be the first to admit that I judge parents who FF so quickly. Haven't they read all the research? I realize it's wrong to judge but I seriously can't help it.

Unfortunately, I just don't know that it's that easy.  If I hadn't been on the bump, I wouldn't have known about ERF.  When DS1 was 1, AAP was still saying FF at 1 was okay.  My pediatrician has never said anything to me about RFing. 

Because of that, we usually talk to our friends about it, since it's just not common knowledge (And it should be!).  I turned DS1 around at 18 months thinking that I did a good thing by keeping him RFing for more than a year.  Now, I've done more research (thanks to the ladies on here) and I won't even consider flipping him until a minimum of 2 years (though I know longer is better, we'll see). 

I agree.  I am pretty naive I guess.  I wouldn't have known either if not for TB.

redneckmomma25

We have family 2 miles away that I could ask. Or my sister would gladly do it. I kind of don't know what to talk about anymore when it is just us.

tyrannasaurusjess

MeatballEsq said:

My kid has never been interested in TV or cartoons. Now that I'm home the tv is on a lot, but he doesn't pay attention to it. I kinda wish he would. It sounds magical

This is us, too. I would love it if he would sit and be entertained for .5 seconds, but... nah. He sits and watches the bachelor with us, but that's it. 

MRoxy0628

MeatballEsq said:

My kid has never been interested in TV or cartoons. Now that I'm home the tv is on a lot, but he doesn't pay attention to it. I kinda wish he would. It sounds magical

My LO is the same.  I do have the TV on when we're home, but she doesn't pay attention to it.  She's either in my lap wanting to be read to or off playing.  She does enjoy a few Ipad apps though. 

Pokedot

redneckmomma25 said:

DH and I haven't been on a date in months. The last time we even went out alone was to go buy a car in October.

We try to make an effort. It's so easy to get caught up in the day to day and the routine. We're going to try for once a month even if it's on a week night just to get some us time. Even if it's lunch or just a movie. Something.

Hyaline

watercolor5 said:

MiraskTastic said:

I let my kid watch about an hour of TV a day when he gets home from school. Helps me to get stuff done and have about 20 minutes of ME time before DH gets home. I don't feel bad about it at all. 

I put animal documentaries (national geographic or bbc) on tv in the afternoon for DD1 to watch while I feed DD2.  She calls all of the animals "doggie!"  At first I corrected her and said "No, that's a bear! Bear!"  but now I've reached new levels of laziness and find myself saying things like "Sophia, do you want to watch the doggies?" ... and then I put on a documentary about whales.  My kid is going to be so confused...

Nature documentaries and ballet are pretty much the only thing DD takes an interest in on TV.  Except all animals are kitty.  Or Wow.  She says Wow in regards to animals a lot.  I mean, they are pretty impressive.

MarisaKathleen

Pokedot said:

@MarisaKathleen & @Kelbel527 I realize that. That's why I said I was judging and realized I was wrong. I realize there are so many things we should/shouldn't can/can't do that our parents did or even that things were acceptable just a few years ago. I think carseat safety is one of these most important things that should be discussed especially by pedi's and their staff.

I realize I won't agree with everything everyone does as a parent and thats fine. It's my own fault for judging. I wanted to say something but I don't think that's my place.

oh no, I wasn't saying you should have or shouldn't have said anything, just that whoa, look what my doc did...maybe hers would too. :-)

Pokedot

BunkinMama said:

redneckmomma25 said:

I am so tired of reading books to G.  By the end of the day I want to throw them all out the window.  

I get tired of reading too.  It will be the same book over and over and over! I feel like a broken record and I have many books memorized.  M also has this thing where she has to hold my finger and guide it to point to pictures in the book.  I then tell her what she has me pointing at.

I go back and forth between loving and hating reading to DS. He has a shit ton of books that we need to read on a daily basis. I'm not home with him so I can see getting ridiculously tired of reading. It's funny that he has preferences and how they change though. I'll pick up a book and get a head shake and a "no" then pick up another and he'll say "mmhhmm" so that's the green light. Others he'll pick and I know what page we'll need to stop because he'll get bored. Kids!

MRoxy0628

BeebopandBuddy said:

redneckmomma25 said:

DH and I haven't been on a date in months. The last time we even went out alone was to go buy a car in October.

DH and I only go out alone about 3 times a year.  we went to a movie last December, a concert in June and to my company Christmas party this past December.  We get to go to a wedding by ourselves in a few weeks.  Woohoo.

We just don't have family nearby to watch the kids and to add the cost of a babysitter to the cost of dinner or a movie makes it just too expensive IMO.  We do what we can when we can.  Although I'd like it to be more regular, it doesn't bother me that much.

We're leaving Lily with a babysitter (her aunt) for the 3rd time since she was born.  She goes to daycare everyday, so it's not that we're not away from her, but this is only the 3rd time we've left her to go on a "date".  I don't have much of a desire to be away from her, especially both of us together (for a plethora of reasons I won't bore people with).  I think if the couple doesn't mind, it shouldn't be a big deal to others.  I'm sure there are people in my life (and on here) who think it's weird, but it works for us.  We were homebodies to begin with anyway. 

ETA: spelling error

eshee8198

MeatballEsq said:

I let my dog lick my kids face. Not like go to town on him, but if he gets hit with a drive by licking I don't freak out. I figure they are bonding

I trained my dog to lick DD's face. When we say, "Lucy [dog], give Penny kisses," she'll run over and start licking DD. That's not widely acceptable?