Just a message to those who are still cooking...

my5sons

It's not a tirade. I just choose not to be obnoxious. Is that the attitude of the board that I'm supposedly trying to change? I just wanted tthe OP to know that not EVERYONE was annoyed by her and found her condescending. I could have taken her comments that way, I just chose not to. I would rather assume the best of people instead of the worst.

And there are plenty of 'regulars' here who have plenty of positive and supportive things to say. I never said I didn't like anybody. You are entitled to your opinions as I am entitled to mine. Just because you don't like mine doesn't make you right. Or me either for that matter. Why don't YOU please stop? There's really no point in saying anything else. We don't agree. No big deal.

peanutmuse

@my5sons and @aceboom, I'm not quite sure what the two of you are trying to accomplish. Nor do I care. You'll either continue to run into problems here and end up switching to a different site, or you'll figure out the dynamics of the board and adapt. (And yes, @my5sons, like any other social group -- online or otherwise -- there are dynamics to this group.) You aren't the first ones to do this sort of thing and you won't be the last. But I can tell you one thing for sure -- you won't be successful if you continue on this path. It is what it is.

my5sons

If you don't care...then what is your point? I'm not trying to do any sort of thing. All I wanted was to let OP know that not EVERYONE found her comments 'annoying' or 'condescending'. I wanted her to not feel like she was being ganged up on. If she read any of my posts then she knows that I understood what she was trying to say and how she meant it. I don't have a particular 'path' or specific goal so I'm not sure what you are expecting me to fail at, but if you have a problem with me being nice to someone, oh well, I guess. Like you said, it is what it is.

thelittlepear

aceboom said:

@aceboom why are you here if all you want to do is white knight random posts and bash the regulars? Just wondering.

I'm here because I can be, want to be, have the right to be.... I'm pregnant, due in January.... Does that answer your question. Hope my answer was crystal clear.

Okay, I've avoided every conflict on this board up until now, but really @aceboom? That's the most mature answer you can come up with? Great, you're due in January, so sure, you have the "right" to be here. But, if you took any time to look around, you'd catch on that most of us have been here for significantly longer then your 36 posts (a chunk of which are aggressive to others on the board), and ease your way in to the conversation. If you tried that, you might get to know others personalities a bit, and be able to recognize when people are actually being malicious or mean spirited. Helloooo basic manners/relationship building skills.

ETA: Basically ditto to @my5sons.

ccip82

thelittlepear said:

aceboom said:

@aceboom why are you here if all you want to do is white knight random posts and bash the regulars? Just wondering.

I'm here because I can be, want to be, have the right to be.... I'm pregnant, due in January.... Does that answer your question. Hope my answer was crystal clear.

Okay, I've avoided every conflict on this board up until now, but really @aceboom? That's the most mature answer you can come up with? Great, you're due in January, so sure, you have the "right" to be here. But, if you took any time to look around, you'd catch on that most of us have been here for significantly longer then your 36 posts (a chunk of which are aggressive to others on the board), and ease your way in to the conversation. If you tried that, you might get to know others personalities a bit, and be able to recognize when people are actually being malicious or mean spirited. Helloooo basic manners/relationship building skills.

ETA: Basically ditto to @my5sons.

@thelittlepear

Very well stated  

ccip82

@allairewedding

How is the view from up there???

FTR, if OP would have simply not overreacted when people brought up that this post was condescending, than this thread would been very different. It was her subsequent responses followed by people like you who feel the need to tell us how horrible and mean we all are that fuel the fire. 

ccip82

 @Katiedjdj you need to polish up on the TOS.

There is absolutely nothing in my previous post that would deem my comment flag worthy. Just because you may disagree to with what I say or dislike me, does not mean you can flag my post.

All you are successful in doing is creating more work for the mods who now will have go through this post and unflag. Kindly reclick the flag button please and thank you.

caraconner

Solid.

allairewedding said:

Seriously ladies... its like I have been transported back to high school. Let the poor girl be. If you all knew her intentions were good, then why the heck say anything?? And you may not realize this, but this is a public forum that ANYONE can join at anytime not some cliquey Facebook group. I don't post often but let me tell you I read just about all of the feeds YOU ALL post and I will tell you that due to feeds like this one, the "dynamic" some of you regular posters have created SUCKS. I mean seriously, she's obviously very proud of herself as she should be. She was scared to death as most FTM are and was simply sharing a positive experience. And yet she gets called "condescending" and "obnoxious"??? You all openly admitted to her intentions being good. But what about your intentions in calling her out on a public forum that the whole flipping world can see?? Makes no sense whatsoever. It's almost comical that the ones saying not to post opinions are the most opinionated ones in this "January birth club". No joke...like I said, I may not be posting all the time, but I am certainly reading. I'm sure I'll get blasted by the "mean girls" for posting this but oh well. Save yourself the typing because I won't be back on here either.

I was going to message the poor girl that posted this in the first place to tell her to go enjoy her baby and get the hell out of here! Glad to see she already deleted her profile. Smart girl!


Nice ladies...nice.

k8augs

Wow. I concur. I feel like we all need to recognize when your comments might be taken as bullying. Let's use this site for good...to support each other?

caraconner said:

Solid.

Seriously ladies... its like I have been transported back to high school. Let the poor girl be. If you all knew her intentions were good, then why the heck say anything?? And you may not realize this, but this is a public forum that ANYONE can join at anytime not some cliquey Facebook group. I don't post often but let me tell you I read just about all of the feeds YOU ALL post and I will tell you that due to feeds like this one, the "dynamic" some of you regular posters have created SUCKS. I mean seriously, she's obviously very proud of herself as she should be. She was scared to death as most FTM are and was simply sharing a positive experience. And yet she gets called "condescending" and "obnoxious"??? You all openly admitted to her intentions being good. But what about your intentions in calling her out on a public forum that the whole flipping world can see?? Makes no sense whatsoever. It's almost comical that the ones saying not to post opinions are the most opinionated ones in this "January birth club". No joke...like I said, I may not be posting all the time, but I am certainly reading. I'm sure I'll get blasted by the "mean girls" for posting this but oh well. Save yourself the typing because I won't be back on here either. I was going to message the poor girl that posted this in the first place to tell her to go enjoy her baby and get the hell out of here! Glad to see she already deleted her profile. Smart girl! Nice ladies...nice.

Katiedjdj

Professional lurker here..have been following this thread with interest but did not mean to flag, clearly a combination of my phone and fat fingers do not mix well.
Apologies!

ccip82

Katiedjdj said:

Professional lurker here..have been following this thread with interest but did not mean to flag, clearly a combination of my phone and fat fingers do not mix well.
Apologies!

My sincere apologies then @katiedjdj !! I should not have assumed so quickly Many thanks for the unflagging and letting me know!

Katiedjdj

I feel terribly embarrassed that I managed to report abuse when clearly it was nothing of the sort! Serves me right for lurking here I guess but I've never had the balls to post..possibly because I'm in the UK and feel slightly irrelevant as our health systems are so different. All the best to you and the other mums to be

ccip82

Katiedjdj said:

I feel terribly embarrassed that I managed to report abuse when clearly it was nothing of the sort! Serves me right for lurking here I guess but I've never had the balls to post..possibly because I'm in the UK and feel slightly irrelevant as our health systems are so different. All the best to you and the other mums to be

@katiedjdj

No worries I've accidentally flagged people on here a couple of times. Mobile bumping makes it easy to flag. I'm an American living in the UK (Scotland), we have ladies from all over the world here- feel free to chime in whenever! All the best to you as well.

peanutmuse

The interesting thing about these randoms ( @my5sons, @aceboom, @allairewedding) is that they are sticking up for someone who probably wishes that they would stop.  How's that for comedy? 

Katiedjdj

ccip82 said:

Katiedjdj said:

I feel terribly embarrassed that I managed to report abuse when clearly it was nothing of the sort! Serves me right for lurking here I guess but I've never had the balls to post..possibly because I'm in the UK and feel slightly irrelevant as our health systems are so different. All the best to you and the other mums to be

@katiedjdj

No worries I've accidentally flagged people on here a couple of times. Mobile bumping makes it easy to flag. I'm an American living in the UK (Scotland), we have ladies from all over the world here- feel free to chime in whenever! All the best to you as well.

Oh, there goes my theory about differences in health care then!!
Thanks for bringing me out of my lurk, even if it was a rather unconventional way of doing so. I'll be glad to join in the conversation some time

Katiedjdj

JmeMichelle said:

Katiedjdj said:

I feel terribly embarrassed that I managed to report abuse when clearly it was nothing of the sort! Serves me right for lurking here I guess but I've never had the balls to post..possibly because I'm in the UK and feel slightly irrelevant as our health systems are so different. All the best to you and the other mums to be

Happens to the best of us girl! Don't be embarrassed!!!! At least you were nice enough to correct it, which most people don't but just test the waters and find some posts that you can relate to. Contrary to popular belief, we are usually very laid back and welcoming!!! Glad to have you @katiedjdj!

Thank you!

mommygrams0730

allairewedding said:

Seriously ladies... its like I have been transported back to high school. Let the poor girl be. If you all knew her intentions were good, then why the heck say anything?? And you may not realize this, but this is a public forum that ANYONE can join at anytime not some cliquey Facebook group. I don't post often but let me tell you I read just about all of the feeds YOU ALL post and I will tell you that due to feeds like this one, the "dynamic" some of you regular posters have created SUCKS. I mean seriously, she's obviously very proud of herself as she should be. She was scared to death as most FTM are and was simply sharing a positive experience. And yet she gets called "condescending" and "obnoxious"??? You all openly admitted to her intentions being good. But what about your intentions in calling her out on a public forum that the whole flipping world can see?? Makes no sense whatsoever. It's almost comical that the ones saying not to post opinions are the most opinionated ones in this "January birth club". No joke...like I said, I may not be posting all the time, but I am certainly reading. I'm sure I'll get blasted by the "mean girls" for posting this but oh well. Save yourself the typing because I won't be back on here either.

I was going to message the poor girl that posted this in the first place to tell her to go enjoy her baby and get the hell out of here! Glad to see she already deleted her profile. Smart girl!


Nice ladies...nice.

ETA: many of us are not on the "cliquey" Facebook group by choice so you can throw that idea out too.

Mobile so I can't bold, but "she deleted her profile" um no she didn't. You can't just delete your profile, you have to email the bump gods and it isn't instant, takes a bit of time to actually happen.

Even so I think OP will be fine with a few internet strangers sharing their opinion, if not she needs to grow some thicker skin...it's tough being a parent because we sure think our kids are perfect but alas they aren't. Confrontations and differences of opinions happen in life all the time, this thread is really nbd.

Morenajuliet

Wow this thread's still going?

Munchie2.0

I love our FB group...  ZERO DRAMA there  

ccip82

@cnctf

There is absolutely nothing in my previous post that would deem my comment flag worthy. Just because you may disagree to with what I say or dislike me, does not mean you can flag my post.

All you are successful in doing is creating more work for the mods who now will have go through this post and unflag. Kindly reclick the flag button please and thank you.

salsamommy

allairewedding said:

Seriously ladies... its like I have been transported back to high school. Let the poor girl be. If you all knew her intentions were good, then why the heck say anything?? And you may not realize this, but this is a public forum that ANYONE can join at anytime not some cliquey Facebook group. I don't post often but let me tell you I read just about all of the feeds YOU ALL post and I will tell you that due to feeds like this one, the "dynamic" some of you regular posters have created SUCKS. I mean seriously, she's obviously very proud of herself as she should be. She was scared to death as most FTM are and was simply sharing a positive experience. And yet she gets called "condescending" and "obnoxious"??? You all openly admitted to her intentions being good. But what about your intentions in calling her out on a public forum that the whole flipping world can see?? Makes no sense whatsoever. It's almost comical that the ones saying not to post opinions are the most opinionated ones in this "January birth club". No joke...like I said, I may not be posting all the time, but I am certainly reading. I'm sure I'll get blasted by the "mean girls" for posting this but oh well. Save yourself the typing because I won't be back on here either. I was going to message the poor girl that posted this in the first place to tell her to go enjoy her baby and get the hell out of here! Glad to see she already deleted her profile. Smart girl! Nice ladies...nice.

@allairewedding

salsamommy

Kevin O'Leary = 

ETA for tagging!

@jessicabcairns

cnctf

ccip82 said:

@cnctf

There is absolutely nothing in my previous post that would deem my comment flag worthy. Just because you may disagree to with what I say or dislike me, does not mean you can flag my post.

All you are successful in doing is creating more work for the mods who now will have go through this post and unflag. Kindly reclick the flag button please and thank you.

@ccip82 it was a mistake and I didnt mean to flag your post, so instead of assuming that I dislike you, just know it was accidental.

ccip82

cnctf said:

ccip82 said:

@cnctf

There is absolutely nothing in my previous post that would deem my comment flag worthy. Just because you may disagree to with what I say or dislike me, does not mean you can flag my post.

All you are successful in doing is creating more work for the mods who now will have go through this post and unflag. Kindly reclick the flag button please and thank you.

@ccip82 it was a mistake and I didnt mean to flag your post, so instead of assuming that I dislike you, just know it was accidental.

@cnctf

My apologies! Sorry that was twice today that the same comment was flagged on accident! I did not mean to jump the gun, but I have been flagged an awfully lot lately

Thanks for fixing it!

jldubb0626

@allairewedding

Wwwhhhyyyyy are you hating on the FB group? Seriously? If you want to go at it with regs on this board who, IMO, haven't done anything wrong - then more power to you. But keep your assumptions about a group of women who aren't even involved in this to yourself, since those you are throwing down with aren't even on the FB group. So really, you just look stupid for even bringing it up.

peanutmuse

@jldubb0626 -- all that @allairewedding's comment about the FB group accomplishes is to prove that she doesn't know what the flip she's talking about. Not that there was any question about that anyway...

FTR, allairewedding, I am not part of the FB group. So your theory about that is garbage, since I'm the one who had an issue with the OP's thread. But again, and as always -- nice try, dear.