Give me insight into the negative reactions to this article...

FemShep

fredalina said:

Did she really post about CIO on AP and post on the breast feeding board? Anyone have links?

She didn't post about CIO on AP-she posted about how you shouldn't give a toddler more than one or two choices per day.  I used CIO on AP as an example of posting something that you know would cause problems and get attention.  You know, like posting about how her friend should just FF on the BF board.

LittleLunarMouse

TikiTurtle said:

Here's my question: why are you still here? And I mean that in an honestly curious way.

You know that the general population of this board does not like you, you feel you will be attacked and misconstrued no matter what you say, you're "damned if you do, damned if you don't", have glaringly different political and religious views, etc etc. (your words) and you aren't even TTC for another 3 years or so.

So why are you so determined to hang around? What does this board bring to your life that makes all this backlash worth your time? If you don't fit in with a certain community there's nothing wrong with searching out one that would be a better match. Why bash your head into a wall repeatedly? What good does that do you?

lisa2008boo said:

On what why I need to be here or want to be here? I did answer that because I can.

Just going to leave this here, because I also am truly curious and would actually like to hear the answer, and "because I can" is not one.
((Edit: formatting))

mobraniff

I think the underlying message to take from the post is acceptance and even love of your form. I yearn for the day that we can all just accept the message instead of battling back so fiercely. Each and every one of us deserves space. Here is another message coming from someone who "knows nothing" and yet everytime I watch it I can't help but cry.  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zQucWXWXp3k 

Maybe soon we will be able to remove the fat/thin shaming from our vocabulary and measure people by their strengths, weakness and possibility for growth. 

DebateThis

lisa2008boo said:

Ok now we are bringing old posts I am out of this conversation. You all are way to bored and dramatic. I am done with this conversation it is clearly going no where. So now you all have resorted to pulling up old post to pick apart truly pathetic!

You've said you were done at least twice. And just because a comment you made is a few months old doesn't mean you're any less culpable for it.

TikiTurtle

She's just decided she's "done" (again) with this thread b/c she can't come up with any real answers to our questions.

norweigan

Ok, I normally only post on TTC, but after reading this thread I have a question: Why is religion and politics being brought up on this site in the first place? Isn't it the first cardinal rule of socializing? Don't talk about religion and politics? I was a political science major, and have very firm beliefs, but no one here knows what party I'm apart of. Why? Because I don't see any reason why there would be a debate about it on a pregnancy board. 

bugandbibs

lisa2008boo said:

Ok now we are bringing old posts I am out of this conversation. You all are way to bored and dramatic. I am done with this conversation it is clearly going no where. So now you all have resorted to pulling up old post to pick apart truly pathetic!

I don't think you understand what the word "done" means.

Mysterious_wife

Look this shit is ridiculous. The point has been made. She's not getting it. She's never going to be done.

Twinkie0612

AFwifelife said:

fredalina said:

Did she really post about CIO on AP and post on the breast feeding board? Anyone have links?

Here's the BFing post: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12215028/formula-stigma#latest

ETA: I don't know about a CIO post on AP but this is a post from there that she gives advice on.  She took a class on Child Development so she totes knows what she is talking about: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12202844/no-mama-no-no-no/p1

ETA2: I want to find the nursing cover post! I don't think I've seen that one

@AFwifelife Here's the nursing cover post it looks like it's from a year ago...

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/8757399/breastfeeding-and-being-discreet/p1

24karat

@lisa2008boo

All I have to add to this fine discussion is that mature adults don't have need to stomp their feet and proclaim to the world that they are indeed mature. Their actions and words speak for themselves. Same goes for the actions and words of the immature.

None of this has anything to do with you having conservative/religious beliefs. It has everything to do with your immature words and actions.

Mysterious_wife

I'm not sure why you flagged me. I was trying to take up for you.

24karat

Wow...my first flag. How was what I said an attack or TOS violation? False flagging will get you banned.

Twinkie0612

Yay my first flag! I posted a link to a thread that someone wanted to read, how is that against TOS? Flag =/= dislike

BTW @lisa2008boo I really don't care about your drama you can post whatever insights and wisdom life has given you all over the bump, but other posters have the right to question and disagree with you.  It's the way message boards work.

FemShep

Since she's gone back and flagged pretty much every post in the thread, can we finally get an end to the crazy?

mandymack

@kimbus22 - wish granted. That particular abuse flag has been removed. I'll look at any other abuse flags you feel aren't deserved, just shoot me a PM about them!

FemShep

lisa2008boo said:

Bottom line stop commenting in here unless it is about this article or having body image issues after having a baby. Anything else including my baby name preferences, opinion on breast feeding or giving toddlers choices is breaking the rules.

You don't get to control what people comment on in any post. Deal with it. And flag me, please, since I'm not breaking any rules and the more ridiculous flags you make, the sooner you'll be banned.

FemShep

"I'm not doing it, I don't have to, and you can't make me!!!"

My toddler, or.....

gogadgetgo

I'll give you two choices: man up or leave. At least my two year old understand that.

FemShep

lisa2008boo said:

"I'm not doing it, I don't have to, and you can't make me!!!"

My toddler, or.....

Right because bringing up old posts from a year ago is the appitamy of mature. High school mean girl, or.....

The word you're looking for is "epitome". Perhaps another visit to high school is in order?

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The user and all related content has been deleted.

mandymack

@kimbus22
I cleared them both.

Kimbus22 said:

Thanks @ToBeMrsShavers!  You rock.  There are two more I got in this thread.  One where I said you should stop responding if you don't like to instigate drama and one where I said I wanted to have sex with @Debatethis.  Seeing as Debate liked my post, I'm guessing she didn't feel harassed.  And if you're feeling really generous one from Sept on SAHM where I got flagged for the word "shit."

I'll own the flag where I called someone a disgusting name.  She earned it.

Mysterious_wife

Clear my flag too

Meery82

Kimbus22 said:

Thanks @ToBeMrsShavers!  You rock.  There are two more I got in this thread.  One where I said you should stop responding if you don't like to instigate drama and one where I said I wanted to have sex with @Debatethis.  Seeing as Debate liked my post, I'm guessing she didn't feel harassed.  And if you're feeling really generous one from Sept on SAHM where I got flagged for the word "shit."

I'll own the flag where I called someone a disgusting name.  She earned it.

Ok, so I had to go creep through your history to after you posted this. Oh boy. Did she ever deserve it. So, so nasty.

24karat

lisa2008boo said:

AFwifelife said:

lisa2008boo said:

One of the requirements for bullying is the inability to escape it. 

If you were actually a woman of your word and actually left when you keep claiming you are done, you could easily get away from it and go forward with your life. 

But keep flagging shit. At least you will get yourself banned.

I did leave I haven't been here in days. But I am not stupid enough to not read back I knew you were all still rambling on about me. Stop getting pissed at me because you all got caught breaking the rules and now don't want to get into trouble.

We all got caught breaking the rules?  Only one I've seen get a PM from a mod on this post is you.

What PM from a MOD? And how would you know what I got in private? 

She knows about your PM from a Mod because the Mod replied in this thread saying YGPM (you got a private message). It's a way of giving you a heads up to check your inbox, just in case you're on mobile etc.

WashingtonQueen

 Stupid quote box!!

I guess I haven't posted enough in this thread to get flagged by Lisa. Boo. That's ok, I got some make-up flags from a nutball in first tri to make up for it.

LMAO at "And how would you know what I got in private?" )

LnR70707

I was wondering how that silly blog post could possibly be worth 7 pages.

I cleared a bunch of other flags. 

Meery82

Kimbus22 said:

Meery82 said:

Kimbus22 said:

Thanks @ToBeMrsShavers!  You rock.  There are two more I got in this thread.  One where I said you should stop responding if you don't like to instigate drama and one where I said I wanted to have sex with @Debatethis.  Seeing as Debate liked my post, I'm guessing she didn't feel harassed.  And if you're feeling really generous one from Sept on SAHM where I got flagged for the word "shit."

I'll own the flag where I called someone a disgusting name.  She earned it.

Ok, so I had to go creep through your history to after you posted this. Oh boy. Did she ever deserve it. So, so nasty.

She really did.  I don't throw those words around lightly but she earned them.  You don't attack people about things like that are entirely heartbreaking and also out of their control. 

Agreed. What an animal.

Mysterious_wife

LnR70707 said:

I was wondering how that silly blog post could possibly be worth 7 pages.

I cleared a bunch of other flags. 

Clear mine please.

Mysterious_wife

Did you see her post on TTGP? She accused Whocanitbenow of stalking. She pulled the military card. And she owns a van!

Meery82

I have 16 freaking abuse points. Maybe one of them is deserved. There is butthurt aplenty on The Bump.

DebateThis

Meery82 said:

I have 16 freaking abuse points. Maybe one of them is deserved. There is butthurt aplenty on The Bump.

You big meanie, you.

Meery82

I have 16 freaking abuse points. Maybe one of them is deserved. There is butthurt aplenty on The Bump.

DebateThis said:

Meery82 said:

I have 16 freaking abuse points. Maybe one of them is deserved. There is butthurt aplenty on The Bump.

You big meanie, you.

I know! I'm such a hateful bitch.

DebateThis

@LnR70707 can you clear my flag from Lisa? thx.

LnR70707

@LnR70707 can you clear my flag from Lisa? thx.

Cleared yours and also @Mysterious_wife

24karat

Mysterious_wife said:

Did you see her post on TTGP? She accused Whocanitbenow of stalking. She pulled the military card. And she owns a van!

I lurk over there and saw that. Crazy stuff...