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ugh...wwyd?

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in May 2013 Moms
So date night was great. But fast forward to when we get home. Baby sitter leaves and since it had snowed DH realizes that someone else was over while we were out due to tracks in the driveway.

Say something or not??? Normally we would but she is the niece of a peer of DH and they are a welll known family in the area(we moved 3 months ago.) So saying something puts DH and I in a hard place.

Nonetheless I will try to find another babysitter.....
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  • emmy236emmy236 member
    Playing devils advocate here but could there be a logical reason? Did she order pizza? Could someone have turned around in your driveway or anyone stop by? Good babysitters are hard to find, especially if you're new to a place, and honestly as long as most of my valuables were accounted for and LO liked her id try to see if there is a harmless reason first.
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  • mommatotwo2mommatotwo2 member
    Are you sure someone didn't just pull in and back out? Or maybe her mom dropped off something she'd forgotten? It's awkward, for sure.
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  • mommatotwo2mommatotwo2 member
    Also, when did he notice the tracks, when you first pulled into the driveway? He's certain he didn't leave them, pulling out of the driveway?
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  • bumpuser3155624bumpuser3155624 member
    Well I had asked her before we left if she'd had dinner and she had. But unsure if it was mom, a friend. Doubt it was a turnaround beacuse we are in a new housing development so no through traffic. Just makes it weird...
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  • JoJo716JoJo716 member
    I agree it is awkward. Did you ask her beforehand not to have anyone over? If you did, I would probably skip on her babysitting. If you did not, maybe you could lightheartedly ask her if a friend stopped by and then ask that in the future she not have any visitors.
     

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  • bumpuser3155624bumpuser3155624 member
    JoJo716 said:

    I agree it is awkward. Did you ask her beforehand not to have anyone over? If you did, I would probably skip on her babysitting. If you did not, maybe you could lightheartedly ask her if a friend stopped by and then ask that in the future she not have any visitors.

    No we didn't discuss people coming over. But I honestly didn't think I needed to. When I babysat that was something I'd never do. But then I was also a wuss about stuff like that.

    We already have her scheduled again in 2 weeks. May just see if it happens again and go from there. :(
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  • LaxMOM44LaxMOM44 member
    So I used to watch my nephews and if I wanted a break or I was unsure of something I'd call my mom to ask her to come over. So maybe she felt a little unsure and wanted help. Yes maybe even from a friend. I would also not care as long as she wasn't having sex at my house or neglecting my child but if it bothers you I'd use someone else
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  • LolalipsyLolalipsy member
    Say something. I would want to know who was in the house whilst someone was looking after my child. To be honest I would expect to be asked first.



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  • snowgirl427snowgirl427 member
    When I babysat onetime I had my mom come over. The people were 3 hrs late (it was 2am) and the baby would not sleep.

    I would probably ask or just mention next time - no visitors.

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  • OohgurlOohgurl member
    Meh, I would just ask, I dont think it is that awkward to ask at the time but now it might be.
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  • TradeMamaTradeMama member
    I would say something-- "we noticed you had company while we were out, in the future we'd like you to ask before you have company". Maybe she will offer an explanation.
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  • surpriseadditionsurpriseaddition member
    My daughter is 15 and has called me before for help when the baby had a really bad diaper and she was nervous about getting it all cleaned out from the nooks and crannies, if you know what I mean. I would still use her, but "review" with her your expectations. "I know we went over this before, but I'm sure you babysit for a lot of people....blah, blah, blah, and then throw in about not letting anyone into the house or having people over".


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  • botanicalblissbotanicalbliss member
    If you want to keep her as a sitter, I would say something.  If you don't want to keep her as a sitter, I would not say anything and just not hire her again.  Not OK to have someone else over unless they OK it first.
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  • huzzahuzzahuzzahuzza member
    I would ask her about it before launching into a "no visitors" speech. If she did call her mom for help, I would want her to feel comfortable doing that in the future.
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