If you open this thread you get FFFC

gutsymama

It's Friday, ladies! We waited for the west coast once, now this one is for @livvyx

My FFFC: I didn't open the seven years of bad luck thread because fuck, we can't handle any more bad luck. If it was good, can I get a recap?

jackson290721

Haha it was a big giant AE fail.

jackson290721

Also my FFFC I went BSC on DDs swing head insert thing today. I tried to take it off but couldn't get the straps through it so I ripped the thing off. I was already in a Pissed off mood and it set me off. It felt so good to rip it out. Haha Very therapeutic.

valstulas

News flash: that hilarious julysharkmama poster was our very own hilarious @maryannespier

gutsymama

jackson290721 said:

Also my FFFC I went BSC on DDs swing head insert thing today. I tried to take it off but couldn't get the steps through it so I ripped the thing off. I was already in a Pissed off mood and it set me off. It felt so good to rip it out. Haha Very therapeutic.

I am imagining you as Clark Griswold, going at the swing with a chainsaw.

jackson290721

mimi4347 said:

jackson290721 said:

Also my FFFC I went BSC on DDs swing head insert thing today. I tried to take it off but couldn't get the steps through it so I ripped the thing off. I was already in a Pissed off mood and it set me off. It felt so good to rip it out. Haha Very therapeutic.

I am imagining you as Clark Griswold, going at the swing with a chainsaw.

Hahaha it really was like that. Pretty sure the dogs thought I had lost my mind.

queenbone

I just read the UO thread w/ potty training. I'm in the midst of PT'ing DS2. If he is w/o pants he'll pee in the toilet no problem. While I was washing dishes today he ran into the kitchen and proudly announced that he pooped. We haven't gotten him over the hump to poop in the toilet yet so I was struck with fear. "Where did you poop, Sweetie?" Right in the middle of the Drawing room rug. Sigh! We just can't have nice things.

It was so much easier to PT the first born child. I just can't be everywhere.

gutsymama

Here's my real FFFC: A few days ago I finally felt comfortable leaving Lucas with our nurse so I took my laptop and left the house to grab lunch and try to do some work. But I didn't want to sit at the same place all day, so I thought maybe it would be nice to go somewhere else and have a glass of wine while I did a little more work. Only I was having anxiety about not being at home, and I couldn't decide where to go - I have to make so many stressful decisions for Lucas each day that I frequently feel incapable of making other small, insignificant decisions.

So instead of sitting in a swanky wine bar with my laptop, I grabbed a tallboy from the grocery store and drove home and drank it in our alley while I sort of worked in the parked car but mostly bumped because I was anxious and couldn't concentrate and maybe I'm a little trashy and a lot pathetic

valstulas

I exacted revenge on FIL on Christmas Eve. He hates A Christmas Story. As in loathes it. I know this. It's one of the first things I learned about him.

Well, he was here with the kids and me on Christmas Eve while SO was at work. Thomas wanted me to put on Singin' In The Rain. I couldn't find it, but I saw A Christmas Story. I said to Tom-Baby, "Sorry, buddy, I can't find it, so we'll have to watch this instead." I started it and headed upstairs to bathe the other kids. I was laughing at him to myself the entire time.

Motherfucker better never call me lazy again.

queenbone

mimi4347 said:

Here's my real FFFC: A few days ago I finally felt comfortable leaving Lucas with our nurse so I took my laptop and left the house to grab lunch and try to do some work. But I didn't want to sit at the same place all day, so I thought maybe it would be nice to go somewhere else and have a glass of wine while I did a little more work. Only I was having anxiety about not being at home, and I couldn't decide where to go - I have to make so many stressful decisions for Lucas each day that I frequently feel incapable of making other small, insignificant decisions. So instead of sitting in a swanky wine bar with my laptop, I grabbed a tallboy from the grocery store and drove home and drank it in our alley while I sort of worked in the parked car but mostly bumped because I was anxious and couldn't concentrate and maybe I'm a little trashy and a lot pathetic

I think you get a gold star for making the attempt to go out!

valstulas

And now a serious one: I've stopped trying to maintain my relationship with SO. I used to stay up late to keep him company bc he stayed up late and slept in (it was the only time we had alone). I used to ask him to go back to school or get a new job so he could help with the finances. I used to ask him to help with specific tasks around the house to give me a break. But then he'd never help with the kids in the MOTN or let me sleep in, he told me repeatedly that I was an "emasculating bitch" for bringing up the fact that I needed more help with money, and he just wouldn't do the housework I asked him to do and would get pissy with me if I got upset about it.

I have my hands full and I don't have the time/energy to put 110% into a relationship with someone who's not willing to even attempt to meet me halfway. So now our relationship is failing, but I honestly just don't give a fuck anymore. Sorrynotsorry, Mr. Vals.

valstulas

@mimi4347 You haven't lived until you've had a tallboy while sitting in a parked car in an alley.

valstulas

@mystererae I'm sure you are more than capable of properly bathing your D

Muffin379

Ok so I was bumping before bed the other night (kinda like now) and I had a dream I was at a convention and we all had name tags on. I looked up and there was this tall guy with short curly hair and his name tag said Mr Valstulas. That's all I remember from my dream.

Now my real FFFC is that I've been sick with a stomach bug all day and only managed one pump in the AM. I only ate a bowl of soup (barely kept it down) I drank a Sierra Mist and had only 15oz or so of h2O. It's now the next day and I'm finally pumping but not getting anywhere near what I normally get. I def know the reason why but I feel like a shitty mom for not muscling through it and making sure I hydrated.

valstulas

@Muffin379
1. Lol, that's hysterical. IRL, Mr. Vals is 5'10". He keeps his hair short but it's not curly. He's a ginger and has freckles. He has a full beard and wears nerdy glasses.
2. Don't worry about the staying hydrated/pumping thing. I'm sure your supply won't be permanently affected. I'm glad you're feeling better.

kaylakim

valstulas said:

And now a serious one: I've stopped trying to maintain my relationship with SO. I used to stay up late to keep him company bc he stayed up late and slept in (it was the only time we had alone). I used to ask him to go back to school or get a new job so he could help with the finances. I used to ask him to help with specific tasks around the house to give me a break. But then he'd never help with the kids in the MOTN or let me sleep in, he told me repeatedly that I was an "emasculating bitch" for bringing up the fact that I needed more help with money, and he just wouldn't do the housework I asked him to do and would get pissy with me if I got upset about it.

I have my hands full and I don't have the time/energy to put 110% into a relationship with someone who's not willing to even attempt to meet me halfway. So now our relationship is failing, but I honestly just don't give a fuck anymore. Sorrynotsorry, Mr. Vals.

I could have almost written this myself. My marriage is in a rough spot right now but I'm sick and tired of always trying to fix things. Just today actually I typed up a long letter for my H but didn't have the guts to print it and leave it for him. It's basically two full pages of me laying out all our issues and saying that we need help. So sorry you're also dealing with relationship crap. Best of luck to you!

valstulas

@kaylakim I'm so sorry that you're going through this, too. You're such a trooper. I never would have guessed you guys had problems bc you're always so mum about it. I hope things get better for you!

kaylakim

My true FFFC, I'm disappointed in my Christmas gifts. I know that makes me sound ungrateful but really I'm just annoyed with my mom. She asked everyone for a Christmas list but didn't really get me anything on it. Instead she got me random stuff I could care less about. Whatever, guess it's the thought that counts!

Muffin379

@valstulas yeah that's def not the guy in my dream lol.
Man that sucks about YH's but @kaylakim the letter idea sounds like it would be helpful. I'm sure you felt better writing maybe reading something might make it more real for him I don't know but GL.

kaylakim

valstulas said:

@kaylakim I'm so sorry that you're going through this, too. You're such a trooper. I never would have guessed you guys had problems bc you're always so mum about it. I hope things get better for you!

Thanks. I almost posted about it yesterday but there is so much history behind some of the issues it would be too confusing. For the most part things are ok but he just doesn't appreciate me or have half a clue what I do all day every day for our family. So hard to feel unnoticed.

kaylakim

Thanks @muffin379, I think I will still print it and leave it for him. I hate confrontation and can always get my feelings out better on paper. At least it'll be off my chest and I'm his hands at that point.

valstulas

kaylakim said:

My true FFFC, I'm disappointed in my Christmas gifts. I know that makes me sound ungrateful but really I'm just annoyed with my mom. She asked everyone for a Christmas list but didn't really get me anything on it. Instead she got me random stuff I could care less about. Whatever, guess it's the thought that counts!

This is where I'm at. I know my mom and I aren't speaking, but she didn't get me anything. FIL got my a wine bottle stopper. SO got me a copy of Mary Poppins (from the kids) and a gift card for a hair cut. He did this after bitching that he had no money to get me a gift this year and then getting pissed at me when I tried to buy my own gift on the 22nd just so I had something.

Fortunately I have some really great friends who got me some awesome gifts. I even got a pair of yoga pants from a great friend and fellow mom!!!

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My FFFC is that someone stole our Yeti we had in the front yard as our Christmas decoration. I hope the Yeti burns their house down. Who steals something on Christmas? Well next year we are not putting anything up. This is why I hate Christmas.

valstulas

@joanna2004 Now I'm picturing you, dressed as the Grinch and rigging your yard with booby traps.

danigirl7181

My FFFC- DH and I are going out Saturday night to watch the UFC fight with one of DH friends and his wife. While I'm excited about going out and getting away from the kids for a night, I really don't want to hang out with the wife. I love DHs friend, he's an awesome guy and was one of the groomsmen in our wedding. But his wife annoys the crap out of me. 

She talks nonstop, even if you try to add to the conversation she will talk over you. She also smokes like a chimney, and did while pregnant. When they came to meet DS this summer she was smoking while wearing their DS in a front carrier. When she went for her last OB appointment they decided to do her CS early and she was mad that she couldn't have a cigarette before going in. She said if she would have known she was going into the hospital she would have chain smoked on the way there. 

I'm not looking froward to it, so I will most likely be bumping a lot that night. And drinking.

danigirl7181

Not sure if this is a FFFC but I'm getting Boudoir photos taken for DH for Valentines Day. We are not doing too great either, but we talked last night so hopefully things will get better. We told eachother what we want to change and then had make up sex I know he'll love the pictures and I want to take advantage of my big BF boobies, normally I'm barely an A. I have to lose a few pounds before the pictures though, I hope I can do it. 

Stacey099

My FFFC. I'm disapointed in the gifts DS got from our parents. My dad and SM got him a jumperoo but other than that there's nothing else fun for him. MIL & FIL got him a few small plastic books. The truth is DH and I had/have no money to spend on any presents on anyone including DS. I think I was hoping out parents would spoil him more. Nothing was even wrapped so we couldn't watch him get excited about ripping paper. DS is happy and healthy so I need to put on my big girl panties and get over it

jemasa33

@fayga I'm sorry you are feeling that way. Sometimes you need to weigh the benefits for what you are giving up. Are you able to go to counseling since you don't want meds? The hardest part is if you wait too long to address the issue. At that point it may become unbearable. Good luck!

valstulas

@MrsErinH You are not being over-sensitive. That was a crappy thing to do.

@Fayga I'm not going to flame you, but it's time for you to go back on your meds. It's not okay to be violent to your H, even if it's due to mental illness that is treatable. I'm sorry that it means you will have to stop pumping. It's not fair and big hugs!!!

jemasa33

@valstulas @kaylakim I'm sorry your husbands are being so stubborn. My dh goes through phases like that sometimes. I end up snapping on him like a mad woman continuously until he starts helping more. I'm lucky that works. I just hit the point where he can either step it up or I'm going my room or going shopping by myself for a few hours and he can do everything.

lrichmond86

Fayga said:

mine is a relationship one as well. Teenagers are dumb as fuck if they really think a baby will make their relationship better.... Anyway....

I came to the conclusion about a month ago that DH and I'd relationship would be a LOT better if I would go back on my heavy duty meds, a cocktail of Xanax, prozac, and depakote since apparently my one lonely Med isn't cutting it, but I could no longer give DD BM since all pass into BM. Here it is.... I rather be a raging bitch to DH and basically down right belittle him then quit EPing. Its so bad that I'm starting to get violent at home and verbal in public. But I can't find myself to stop and call my doc... I know work isn't helping either with stress of things, and I'm starting to get snippy there as well, but I just can't.... I have so much BM frozen she would be fine... it's all on me.

I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this. I've had the medication/counseling debate with myself many times. I've tried both and counseling works better for me, so that's what I do. I understand wanting to continue bfing for dd's benefit, but I think you also should consider if it would be better for her to have a happy, healthy mommy. Dh and I have had our share of disagreements in front of dd and I always feel terrible after because I want to model a healthy relationship for her. She picks up on my mood so quickly and I can see that it impacts her. There have been times that I get a little weepy about her brother while I'm holding her (she reminds me of him SO much! ) and shell notice that I'm crying and start to get the crying lip. Anyway, my point is that dd needs you to be happy and healthy as much as she needs to be bf, maybe more. Sorry this got so long. I just hate seeing a fellow loss mommy hurting

MRads

I really wanted to do blw, but B is six months and not quite there in terms of grabbing things and bringing them to his mouth. So, we've started spoon feeding yogurt, avocado, potatoes and bananas, etc. I'm kind of relieved for some reason that we are starting this way and not blw, but Im not sure why.

pgermain11

@valstulas @kaylakim I'm sorry you all are going they these tough times with you husbands.

@danigirl7181 I'm glad you spoke and the boudoir sounds like fun! I've done one before and it's awesome.

My FFFC: I love to eat the pork skin from a huge roasted pig! Gah! I feel so yucky eating it but it reminds me of my childhood and I love the crunchy, fatness of it.

Oh and I like cleaning poopy diapers.

pgermain11

maryannespier said:

I'm totally doing a cliche New Year's resolution. I want to train for a half marathon. It makes me feel silly.

I respect runners. Just do it!

Clyde013

My fffc: my step children are coming to visit and meet LO. I like them fine but I am dreading it so much and I feel bad about it.

@maryannespier I love to run. It's a great stress reliever and keeps you in shape. Good luck I hope you enjoy it!

Clyde013

My other fffc whine is that I'm pissed we have to start solids. It took me a while to figure out this formula crap and get comfortable with it. Just in time to start learning about solids. Blah.

fabk

My sister (who just had a baby in October) asked if I was pregnant last night. I punched her in the arm and told her not to joke about things like that.
It hurt my feelings because I obviously don't look very good if she jumped to that conclusion. I have lost weight but its all below the equator. Everything north of the equator is still flubby.
Second, it scared me. I keep feeling phantom kicks and weird cramping. AF has visited twice in the last month (despite EBF and the mini pill). I should probably POAS, But don't want to.

Carrie3102

JFC ladies! It's 7:30 and this is two pages already! I'll be playing catch-up all day!

Carrie3102

My FFFC my parents gave us s gift card to the local butcher enough for 80lbs of meat. It's the best gift ever. It will allow me to save up and buy large amounts of meat for the whole year. That will last us like 3 months! However they got DD a power wheels bug convertible and that was $250 bucks... they got Parker and my siblings gifts too. They can't afford that. I feel guilty accepting it.

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valstulas

@maryannespier I have some pretty cliche resolutions: lose weight and get out of debt. Cliche but necessary. :-S