Ok, I'm going to try to keep this brief....
My LO (12 weeks on
Thursday - eek!) has been hospitalized since 12/9 (at our local
hospital, now at Children's Hospital - Pittsburgh) for severe
dehydration due to vomiting and diarrhea. He lost nearly 2 lbs. in 2
weeks.
My FMLA ends this week and I am scheduled to return to
work on Thursday. Obviously, this has been agonizing. How do you leave
your LO?!?! Fortunately, my husband and my mother have some vacation
time that could be used, but.....it's just not the same as mom being
here.
I have been given the most amazing gift of approximately 2
weeks pay by my medical director (I work in healthcare) and have been
offered a "solution" to my problem from my employer. Basically, to
comply with FMLA requirements, I need to resign from my position.
However, it is up to my department as to posting my job for re-hire,
which they are not going to do. As long as I return to my position
within 90 days, it would be more of a "reinstatement" and my benefit
time, years of service, etc. would remain the same. The only major
downfall would be that my insurance would go to COBRA.
Here are my questions:
1.
I have health insurance through my employer and through my husband's
employer as my secondary policy. If my policy is dropped, will my
husband's effectively become my primary? Do I need to do anything to
ensure this? If it doesn't work this way, knowing I would be literally
24/7 in the hospital with my son, would you go without insurance for the
short amount of time until I return to my position (insurance would be
reinstated on the 1st of the month following my return) or pay over
$600/month for COBRA?
2. Are there any specific questions I should
ask my employer regarding my resignation/reinstatement? I plan to get
their answer in regards to my status remaining the same in writing.
3.
At this point, I don't know if my LO will be here another few days or
another few weeks. Unfortunately, I'm running out of time to make a
decision in regards to what I'm going to do about returning to work. I
plan to talk to my boss again about whether I should wait until the last
minute to resign, if needed or whether I should just resign now and
re-evaluate my situation in 2 weeks. Even if my LO is discharged later
this week, he may come home with his picc line and I'm sure it's going
to be an adjustment getting into a routine again and being more
"needy". I have been pumping this entire time to keep my supply up,
however he hasn't effectively nursed in more than 2 weeks and hasn't
nursed at all since early last week. I'm sure that is going to take
some real work to get back to EBFing without problem. What would you do?
Re: XP: FMLA Nightmare
Re: insurance, every plan is different. DH and both work for large multinational companies, so a resignation would be a "life event", allowing an off-cycle change. It wouldn't just happen - we'd actively have to sign up. But that may be different at his company. He should investigate.
Honestly, if I was in this situation, and the situations above were ok, I would quit. But that's an emotional decision, definitely not logical.
Best of luck to you and your LO. I hope he is feeling better soon!
I'm not worried about not being hired back, but then again, crazier things have happened. My boss is actually "making up" for my maternity leave by covering much of my position, however that includes decreasing his time spent in his position and cannot happen for a significant period of time. My department literally cannot function effectively for any lengthy period of time without being fully staffed, so I don't think there is any chance they would cut my position or anything like that and my coworkers/boss have determined that they will not post my position.
Re: returning to work.. Can you live without your income if something were to happen to your position? If yes, then I would resign. I would wait until the last second to do so, though, so that you may have a better idea of what LOs recovery will look like. Like PP said, while they say they'll welcome you back, things happen and you may not be able to get your job back. It is unlikely they will give you anything in writing.
Not sure how your company works, but would your director be willing to give you those two weeks of pay in the form of PTO? If so, you can "return" from FMLA leave, and then immediately use those two weeks of PTO.. Which would give you 2 more wks to figure out which direction things are going.
And lastly, I recognize you from my BMB. I had no idea your LO was sick and I'm so sorry to hear that
First, I'm sorry about your LO. Hope he gets to come home soon.
I'm confused about why you have to resign? FMLA says they have to hold your job (or an equivalent job) for 12 weeks, but it doesn't say they can't let you take more time than that off. You just aren't covered by FMLA if you request (and they grant) more time off.
Personally I'd be hesitant to resign. That would make me nervous - especially if we weren't comfortable living on just one salary for an extended period. Did they make you use your vacation or sick time during FMLA? Or could you request a few vacation days off over the next few weeks? Then rely on your husband or mom for the other days?
If you do resign, I'd talk to your insurance companies to find out if you would be covered under your husband's policy without COBRA. There is no way I'd try to go without insurance for any amount of time - especially given the ACA mandate starting up on January 1.
I would be very hesitant to resign from my position. As a couple have mentioned, a company can extend your leave time beyond the 12-week FMLA at their discretion. It sounds like you will need more time off. I would do anything I could to get the time off without resigning.
As far as insurance, loss of your benefits should be considered a "life event" that would allow your husband to put both you and LO on his insurance. You need to double check with you DH's insurance company on this.
Since you work in a hospital, do you have the option of going to part-time or even reducing your hours and still working full-time? Remember also that your DH is eligible for FMLA as well. Since you can afford to quit your job you may need to look into him using his FMLA to help care for you LO.
Once again, I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. Especially, having to focus on work logistics instead of being able to be with you LO.
I can't even imagine your position, but long term what would probably be best is for your family is to keep your job/benefits. If NO ONE could be with LO that's a whole 'nother story, but if your husband and mom can help out...
Good luck with everything and I hope for a speedy recovery for your LO.
Have your DH talk to his HR about the insurance, you should be covered per "life event" of losing your primary coverage.
I was on mobile earlier...what would they do if you were in a car accident? Chemo treatments, etc? That is what we have "catastrophic leave" for-when you run out of time off or have nothing left. People can donate their vacation and sick to you and you can use it. Would they be open to something like that?
I would go back to work at least for a few weeks, and see if you can qualify for another FMLA when the new calendar year begins with your LO's situation as a new event. Or propose a part time work schedule. Good luck!
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