Wow....

klscas

To my cousin whose been letting her child sit in a shitty diaper for over an hour now while she & her SO play video games. Can't pause it for 5 freaking mins? And i know she can smell it.. i can smell it down the hall. Poor child. SMH.

mrscrcalli

Go change him!!! poor kid

klscas

Nope. Not my job, not my child. I think she might have changed it based on the dirty diaper just laying on the floor now. I'm sorry but if your on your 3rd kid, your only 20 years old and can't change one of the two you already have that should tell you something. Period.

klscas

Call me mean but I've waited this long to have another child for a reason. and not to take care of anyone else's in between the two.

abbeylanecb

You need to go change it. I'm sad for that kid.

mrscrcalli

So the innocen child gets to sit in his shit because you want to prove a point??? Sounds legit.. You need to let go of some of that selfishness before April comes...

Bun in the oven 2011

That's awful. I would say something to her if you don't feel like changing it (don't blame you! It's not your job!) but poor lil bub needs a clean butt. She needs to get off her butt and do it! How would she like to sit in her poop for over an hour? It's just wrong.

kseccomb17

Sick to my stomach. There are people dying out there and you're going to make a child suffer to prove a point? All of you should be ashamed.

LittleLady77

Please say something and/or just go change the kids diaper.

klscas

Nope, again... Its not my job. Me telling her to change it was enough. And like i said.. its done now. My point is... people shouldn't have kids if they aren't going to take care of them. I'm 6 mths pregnant and wore out. I feed the child everyday. At this point I'm fed up and don't really care. I do have my own to take care of.

Mrs.Kohalic17

Agreed with PPs. Go change it or say something, thats just wrong to let him suffer.

mrscrcalli

MaiTaiBeth said:

Mud?

I'm sad to say I don't think so.. This chick is just an ACTUAL asshole.

mrscrcalli

OP sounds like you're gonna be an awesome mom [-(

Bluebird2318

I don't give a shit whose job it is, TBH. That poor baby doesn't deserve that. Change the diaper, and then drop the dirty one in your cousin's lap. Point proven; problem solved.

klscas

Granted... if he were still sitting in it out there i would have flew off the hinges by now. The kid can't even talk. It makes me mad when people RELY on the goodness of others to do things for them because they're too lazy to do it their selfs. There's TWO of them out there to take care of the kid.

mrscrcalli

It's not about them it's about the mother fucking kid that's sitting out there suffering! I hate you, literally.

klscas

mrscrcalli said:

OP sounds like you're gonna be an awesome mom [-(

Sure am. To my son.

kseccomb17

I. Can't. Even.

J&NL

Wow. You're just as much of a douche as they are. The kid shouldn't suffer. I hope he didn't get a rash from that. 

Mrs.Kohalic17

I mean you already let it go for AN HOUR, so by NOW you'd be flying off the hinges???  :-/

ETA: auto correct

thomas930

Honestly, you are no better than her. The kid shouldn't have to suffer for other people's actions, including yours.

klscas

mrscrcalli said:

It's not about them it's about the mother fucking kid that's sitting out there suffering! I hate you, literally.

You'll be ok I'm sure of it.

mrscrcalli

klscas said:

mrscrcalli said:

It's not about them it's about the mother fucking kid that's sitting out there suffering! I hate you, literally.

You'll be ok I'm sure of it.

I will be just fine.. It's your children I'm worried about.

Mrs.Kohalic17

Wow to you OP, what a damn shame. I feel bad for your son.

TallaB

Pretty sure you are just as lazy as your cousin.  Also, a horribly uncompassionate human. Just because its not YOUR child, doesn't mean you cant help the kid out.  I'll agree with the others - you're an asshole. And if you show so little consideration and compassion for others children - I am almost positive you will be an equally lazy parent with your own child.

Bluebird2318

klscas said:

Granted... if he were still sitting in it out there i would have flew off the hinges by now. The kid can't even talk. It makes me mad when people RELY on the goodness of others to do things for them because they're too lazy to do it their selfs. There's TWO of them out there to take care of the kid.

The point is that an innocent baby should always be able to rely on the goodness of others. If you wanna drop trou and take a dump on their XBox or whatever after the fact to prove your point, that's your own prerogative.

mrscrcalli

Colleen what's that thing you like to punt? Id like to do that to this asshat of a human

klscas

Yep. While i was bathing my own child. Yes i did. No ones opinion is really going to bother me because until you deal with it on a daily basis your not going to understand. Buying food for the child everytime i buy food for my own, bathing the child, not to mention the countless diapers i HAVE changed already... I'm done and I've had it. I'm not enabling someone to sit around and do nothing anymore. If CPS steps in when i leave here, so be it. Ill gladly take the child but not while its parents are just sitting there. And again, i DID tell her to change it while i was heading to the bathroom to bathe my son.

misskristina21

I took care of my niece and nephew for years because my SIL was a crap parent. Never did I let them sit in a shitty diaper or not feed them just because "they weren't my kid". I practically helped MIL raise my niece since birth, and now my niece prefers me over her own mom. (SIL).

Mrs.Kohalic17

So this isn't the first time you've let this baby sit around in a dirty diaper? Letting it stink up the whole house and letting the poor child suffer?! Why can't you just be mature and go say something or take care of it. AGAIN - he shouldn't suffer bc you're all ignorant.

Manda+panda

You are six months pregnant and worn out? ME TOO! And pretty much everyone on this board.

I work all day in a nursing home changing 15 residents breifs (diapers) every two hours, and I STILL would have gotten up and changed the damn diaper. The baby doesn't deserve it, and you are older (wiser? Maybe not) than your twenty year old cousin. Yes, she should have addressed it, but all of you are just as guilty of neglecting that baby!

Why don't you show your young cousin the way to be, rather than prove you are just as bad as she is?

Edit: If you live with them and CPS is called, and that baby is neglected, dirty diapers, no food, whatever...ALL the children in the home (Including yours!) are likely to be taken...all the adults will be charged with child abuse and neglect. Please, for all of the kids sake, remove your head from your ass.

Bluebird2318

dani+california said:

Every man for himself! That'll show 'em! You literally took the time to create a post and say 'my poor second cousin!' to a bunch of internet strangers, but couldn't take 3 minutes to actually help? Bwahaha! You're quite the paradox.

This, exactly.

mrscrcalli

You have made my whole night bad, thinking about that poor kid under those terrible conditions and you just held up in your room on the internet doing nothing but being a selfish fucktard! Lazy asshole! X(

TallaB

mrscrcalli said:

You have made my whole night bad, thinking about that poor kid under those terrible conditions and you just held up in your room on the internet doing nothing but being a selfish fucktard! Lazy asshole! X(

Unfortunately, there are just some crappy people in this world

abbeylanecb

Seriously, how do people like this function? I can not fathom how so many adults can be so useles. So many questions...

Krispix78

Poor little thing. I feel sick to my stomach.

patunia7321

There's a group of all-star human beings living in that house... Dear lord

misskristina21

It doesn't even take that long to change a damn diaper.

Sisimama10

Hmm I think I would feel like a pretty shitty parent if I realized someone else had to change my kids diaper because I was too busy playing a game... Lesson could've been learned/point proven right there without having the baby suffer.

MamaFantastic

ok ok ok...  i'm just seeing this for the first time and i'll play nice here.

OP, can you give some background?  i'm busy tonight and too lazy to do a deep post history search on you, so maybe the info is lingering out there, but...

whose house is it?  20 year old cousin's?  her SO's?  yours??  who is crashing on whose house ETA couch?  do you have a husband or SO at home too?  none of this makes a difference in the logical solution to the situation, but i would like to understand the underlying dynamics at play here.

what does your cousin do all day while you're caring for her kid?  how old are her older two children?  do you watch them too?

have you ever threatened to call CPS on her before?  granted, they most likely wouldn't take a kid for a festering dirty diaper (unless there was a clearly established pattern of gross neglect and/or medical consequences like bleeding yeast infection that the doctor has documented) but still...  the act of telling her she's dangerously close to being reported might weigh more heavily than "oh, hey cousin, junior's diaper smells like poop".

i think context makes a big difference here.  should you have changed the diaper or pushed her hard enough (read: unplug the gamecube from the wall) until she got up to do it herself?  yup.  but i'm very curious to hear more about this, and i'm not going to call you an asshole because i think you've been treated a little harshly here.  you sound worn out for sure...  i'm sure i would be too.  but i do sincerely want to hear more about the household dynamic because of the voracity with which you were instantly attacked tonight.

Bluebird2318

@MamaFantastic From what I gather, her cousin is a grade-A tool and this is not uncommon behavior for the cousin. That being said, OP is getting this kind of response because she sat around for OVER AN HOUR, knowing that this kid had a dirty diaper and doing nothing about it except complaining about her cousin to an Internet forum because helping the baby is "not her job". Eventually she did tell the cousin to get up and change the diaper, but this is after the kid had been sitting in his own shit for an hour plus. 

ETA: I imagine the home/apartment is either a shared place of living or it belongs to the cousin and her SO, given that OP said "if CPS wants to step in when I leave here."