Mine would probably say I keep asking him unproductive, repetitive and hypothetical questions about having two kids and my impending hospital stay. I imagine he is completely annoyed by this.
Oh, there was a mini vent this morning about not having sex for over a week. I've been sick since Saturday... I feel SO TERRIBLE for HIM. :::stab, stab, stab:::
Oh, there was a mini vent this morning about not having sex for over a week. I've been sick since Saturday... I feel SO TERRIBLE for HIM. :::stab, stab, stab:::
Over a week??? He should consider himself lucky!! We haven't had sex since October.
Ha, I was thinking about this last night. We got home around 10pm, and I was in bed pretty instantly, reading and catching up on TB, while he decided it was time to polish the living room furniture and clean the toilet. Then this morning he asked me if I might pack the hospital bags today. Seriously: Who is the one supposed to be nesting around here?!
So, I think he'd complain that I put things off, even when I know they need to be done. (I wonder if he knows it's because I know the longer I wait, he'll do them?)
Ashley, FTM, Age 31, Southern California
Jude Meyer was born January 12, 2014, at 21 inches, 7lb, 8oz.
He says that I "nag" him but asking for him to do something is not the same thing IMO! Also, I watch too much law and order SVU. I'm on my iPad too much. I shop too much.
Missing Our July Sparkler BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13 BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
That I have a temper and I need to chill the eff out and stop worrying, rushing, and trying to do everything myself.
I lost my temper this morning trying to hurry in the shower to get to a crying DS (his room shares a wall with our master bathroom, so I could hear him crying over the shower), and as a result, I slipped on the wet floor, and luckily didn't fall, but slammed my foot into the wall when I slipped and broke 2 toes this morning.
So, that promptly put my Irish temper in check at 5:15 AM.
partial molar pregnancy : bfp 6.28.10, d/c 8.17.10, 7 rounds methotrexate, cleared 7.1.11 alexander patrick : bfp 1.16.12, born 9.20.12 @ 39w1d, 7 lbs./11 oz./22 in. scarlett irene elizabeth : bfp 5.24.13, born 2.3.14 @ 41w2d, 7 lbs./13 oz./19 in.
That I worry excessively about things I have no control over/shouldn't be worried about.
And probably that I'm on his case too much. I want more help around the house, I want him to take better care of himself, I want all things done immediately. To be fair, I have been nagging alot but if he would take care of things when I first mention them, that wouldn't happen! I'm trying to tone it down but it gets so frustrating.
Mine would complain about how I get really worked up over the little things, that I am constantly giving him a list of chores then getting really mad at him for not having them done 5 minutes later, and that I repetitively recite my to do lists out loud and fret over getting them done. (Yes basically he would complain about my nesting)
"Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil." -Gandalf
He and I actually talked about this last night- he says I'm too shy and will not willingly talk to people I don't know, overly neurotic and OCD (It's NOT OCD when you've said for the last week you'd clean the top of the fridge because I can't get it and you STILL haven't done it *STAB*STAB*STABBITY*STAB*).
The dishes. They are currently piled up in the sink. And I have yet to empty the dishwasher from Sunday's dinner. And not doing anything with the Christmas decorations he took down from the attic. We set the tree up and I'm just not feeling like decorating this year.
DH would probably say that I cry too much lately. And have panic attacks about the smallest things. Latest ugly crying session: we had no light bulbs for the nursery lamps and no matter how hard I try the dog hair won't come out of the car floor boards. (It felt like a big deal then).
1. I suck at saving money 2. I put things off too much (even baby stuff...I feel like I'm the Mr. @MarBee1214 in our situation) 3. I never empty the dish strainer before I start doing new dishes (this is an OCD thing for him. Putting wet dishes on top of already dry ones breaks his heart) 4. I keep the DVR too full
He would probably say I am lazy about housework and don't pull my weight, while at the same time complaining when the house is gross. These two things are sadly fairly true--at least I recognize it? I am terrible.
He'd probably also say I don't appreciate him enough, but I think I do. Our life would NOT work without him, he's my rock and he does SO MUCH for me it's ridiculous. I feel like I do appreciate him both privately and publicly for these things, but he still feels under-appreciated.
TWO Babies in 2014! DS #1 Born 01/07/2014, DS #2 Born 12/17/2014
That I don't do enough around the house & I tend to leave things lay around instead of taking care of them right away. (Which is true. I am very easily distracted & tend to be in my own head A LOT)
Not that I have ever been a great housekeeper, but since having DS1 I've had a real hard time balancing wife - mom - housekeeper - career. Still working on getting a flow down & DS will be 2 next week. Sometimes I wonder if it will ever come to me!
Not having enough sex, its a least once a week or twice sometimes...so really. But these men.
Nightime whining and pushing him away, I literally suffocate when he tries to touch me.
That I wait for him to do most things around the house and do mostly nothing. On the other hand, I'm super money conscious and like us to be on the same page.
That we don't really NEED all the baby things I want to buy or have already purchased. He's also too nice to say it but I'm sure he's tired of hearing my complaints about how I am feeling physically all the time. And I know he's super bummed about the lack of sex but I can't, I just can't........
Married October 2009. Me 29 H 28. After 1 year of infertility, our little miracle was conceived via our 3rd IUI on May 5, 2013. Holland Sophia was born Jan 24, 2014.
That I nag him too much about finishing the nursery. Oh and that I'm being unfair because I told him I'd be really unhappy if he bought an xbox one. I can think of a million other ways to spend almost $600 (I don't know how much they are in the states, but that's how much it would be here with tax and a game) that would benefit not just one person. Haha. Although I know that he knows I'm right
We are pretty open about what irks us in one another - he has mentioned my severe personality changes in pregnancy have caused him great angst! He lists the many me's as follows:
DS#1 - Happiest most horny person in the whole world!
DD#1 - Most melancholy and girly person in the whole world (she was planned and I was thrilled, I was just incredibly down the entire pregnancy, snapped right out of it after she was born)
DS#2 - (current) - Meanest and most tired person in the whole world.
Fortunately, most of the time he finds the "mean" hilarious because it is so far removed from my regular personality but he can't wait for this one to be finished! I have always kept a little of the new me from each pregnancy so I am interested to find out if the new mean bone will help my hockey game next fall!
I complain too much. He told me last night he is tired of hearing about back pain, stomach pain, contractions, the fluids coming out of my body, etc.
He's sick of my complaining is all I got out of his rant.
Exactly this. I told him to get fucked. I'm pregnant and it's not "complaining" it's a true fact, I feel like shit, and he is damn lucky I hold most of it in.
Not nearly as much sex as he would like. It's been about 3 weeks. I was trying to not let it get past 2 weeks but the bigger I get the more all set I am. TMI but I feel wicked tight when we get to the intercourse part which scares me even more that a baby is supposed to come out of there.
1. My crazy crying sessions. He doesn't understand why I'm so hormonal.. 2. Weird crazy cravings- um. who doesn't like taco bell at 11 pm.. 3. Stealing his basketball shorts - well too bad, you helped contribute to making this baby so I'm taking yo pants.
That I worry too much and should trust him more. That I'm forgetful and repetitive. BUT he would say I've been a very nice pregnant lady with a strong sexual appetite, so he's a happy boy!!
That I whine too much about how in feeling. If it's not one thing, it's another. Haha.
Also, that I nag him FOR sex. We still have a 6-week opportunity to have uninterrupted ST before that never happens again. I want to get that in! Sure, it may be awkward but it bothers me wholeheartedly that we aren't having sex. It makes me worry that he's not attracted to me.
DH would definitely complain that I am awful at doing laundry. I hate it sooooooo much. Putting it in the washer/dryer is no problem. It's the folding/hanging/putting away that I loathe. Oh and he would also say that he is absolutely disgusted by my car. It needs to be cleaned out something serious but I rarely go anywhere in it alone and it's not something I think about doing until we get in the car.
I worry too much. I get annoyed too easily anymore. I question him when things don't seem right and put words in his mouth. I complain about his job and his hours ("you knew what you were getting into!).
There are more, but I'm realizing I'm an asshole lately. But he knows I love him and spoil him.
He'd complain about money, too. And that I stress out too much about things [he's a very laid back guy, which is fine...but I feel like he's being a little TOO laid back at this point, and it's driving me nuts].
That I need to relax and stop being a clean freak, and that I nag at him to do things for days that 'aren't important'.
He would also say that I have a bad attitude and complain too much (I don't, he just says things to get under my skin when we argue and I stand my ground).
1) That I have a Target dollar spot addiction and spend too much money. 2) That I tend to over-analyze things. 3) I'm too hard on his family (this is a relatively new thing, likely related to a lot of issues due to us living with them last year for 6 months when we first moved and where trying to find a house). 4) That I bring up topics and other people's issues to discuss that he doesn't find relevant or pertinent to our life (i.e. I like to discuss "what if" situations, even ridiculously highly unlikely ones and he doesn't...)
Re: If your husband / partner was going to vent about you...
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So, I think he'd complain that I put things off, even when I know they need to be done. (I wonder if he knows it's because I know the longer I wait, he'll do them?)
Jude Meyer was born January 12, 2014, at 21 inches, 7lb, 8oz.
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP#1-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
BFP#2-4/23/13 EDD-01/02/14 baby BOY born 12/31/13 Michael Cameron
I lost my temper this morning trying to hurry in the shower to get to a crying DS (his room shares a wall with our master bathroom, so I could hear him crying over the shower), and as a result, I slipped on the wet floor, and luckily didn't fall, but slammed my foot into the wall when I slipped and broke 2 toes this morning.
So, that promptly put my Irish temper in check at 5:15 AM.
partial molar pregnancy : bfp 6.28.10, d/c 8.17.10, 7 rounds methotrexate, cleared 7.1.11
alexander patrick : bfp 1.16.12, born 9.20.12 @ 39w1d, 7 lbs./11 oz./22 in.
scarlett irene elizabeth : bfp 5.24.13, born 2.3.14 @ 41w2d, 7 lbs./13 oz./19 in.
And probably that I'm on his case too much. I want more help around the house, I want him to take better care of himself, I want all things done immediately. To be fair, I have been nagging alot but if he would take care of things when I first mention them, that wouldn't happen! I'm trying to tone it down but it gets so frustrating.
BFP#5 Praying for another rainbow in February!
2. I put things off too much (even baby stuff...I feel like I'm the Mr. @MarBee1214 in our situation)
3. I never empty the dish strainer before I start doing new dishes (this is an OCD thing for him. Putting wet dishes on top of already dry ones breaks his heart)
4. I keep the DVR too full
Married: 9.22.12 - DD: 1.7.14 - EDD 2: 10.30.17 - J14 OG
He'd probably also say I don't appreciate him enough, but I think I do. Our life would NOT work without him, he's my rock and he does SO MUCH for me it's ridiculous. I feel like I do appreciate him both privately and publicly for these things, but he still feels under-appreciated.
DS #1 Born 01/07/2014, DS #2 Born 12/17/2014
Baby Chugging born 12.28.13
induction due to HELLP
That I don't do enough around the house & I tend to leave things lay around instead of taking care of them right away. (Which is true. I am very easily distracted & tend to be in my own head A LOT)
Not that I have ever been a great housekeeper, but since having DS1 I've had a real hard time balancing wife - mom - housekeeper - career. Still working on getting a flow down & DS will be 2 next week. Sometimes I wonder if it will ever come to me!
My 2 December boys
Not having enough sex, its a least once a week or twice sometimes...so really. But these men.
Nightime whining and pushing him away, I literally suffocate when he tries to touch me.
That I wait for him to do most things around the house and do mostly nothing. On the other hand, I'm super money conscious and like us to be on the same page.
Married October 2009. Me 29 H 28.
After 1 year of infertility, our little miracle was conceived via our 3rd IUI on May 5, 2013.
Holland Sophia was born Jan 24, 2014.
Oh and that I'm being unfair because I told him I'd be really unhappy if he bought an xbox one. I can think of a million other ways to spend almost $600 (I don't know how much they are in the states, but that's how much it would be here with tax and a game) that would benefit not just one person. Haha. Although I know that he knows I'm right
Fortunately, most of the time he finds the "mean" hilarious because it is so far removed from my regular personality but he can't wait for this one to be finished! I have always kept a little of the new me from each pregnancy so I am interested to find out if the new mean bone will help my hockey game next fall!
That we haven't had sex in about 3 months (maybe more, I've lost track).
That I never want to do anything except sit on my butt.
That I could go to bed at 8 every night and not feel bad about it
The possibilities are endless, really!
Jan '14 Siggy Challenge: Things I've had to deprive myself of while pregnant:
Rum & Coke...mmm!! Laying on my stomach! Can't wait!
2. Weird crazy cravings- um. who doesn't like taco bell at 11 pm..
3. Stealing his basketball shorts - well too bad, you helped contribute to making this baby so I'm taking yo pants.
"Hey, CW, the fedex man came by again today..." I have no idea what you're talking about DH.
:-\"
Baby Chugging born 12.28.13
induction due to HELLP
PCOS diagnosed secondary infertility
BFP #1 (letrozole 2.5mg + ovidrel) February 2016, MMC April 2016 @ 7 weeks
BFP #2 (letrozole 5mg + ovidrel) July 2016, Beta #1 359, Beta #2 745, Beta #3 11484
EDD April 9th, 2017
1. I take too much on at one time and don't take enough time for myself
2. I let my family get me involved in their strife way more than I should
3. I don't give him long enough to complete a task once I've asked him to do it (i.e. I get annoyed and then just do it myself)
4. I don't let him shop as much as he would like
Also, that I nag him FOR sex. We still have a 6-week opportunity to have uninterrupted ST before that never happens again. I want to get that in! Sure, it may be awkward but it bothers me wholeheartedly that we aren't having sex. It makes me worry that he's not attracted to me.
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I get annoyed too easily anymore.
I question him when things don't seem right and put words in his mouth.
I complain about his job and his hours ("you knew what you were getting into!).
There are more, but I'm realizing I'm an asshole lately. But he knows I love him and spoil him.
He would also say that I have a bad attitude and complain too much (I don't, he just says things to get under my skin when we argue and I stand my ground).
2) That I tend to over-analyze things.
3) I'm too hard on his family (this is a relatively new thing, likely related to a lot of issues due to us living with them last year for 6 months when we first moved and where trying to find a house).
4) That I bring up topics and other people's issues to discuss that he doesn't find relevant or pertinent to our life (i.e. I like to discuss "what if" situations, even ridiculously highly unlikely ones and he doesn't...)
1.) No sex
2.) No BJ's
3.) Extreme emotion roller coaster. He wants off the ride as much as I do.
4.) Me freaking out over the small things.