Advice please.

wychets

DD will be 2yo next month. She is the only child and grandchild so you can imagine she's a little spoiled. For the past few months she just wants me to hold her or wants to sit on my lap. Now don't get me wrong I love the cuddles here and there but its getting out of hand. She doesn't want to sit next to me she wants to sit directly on my lap. I can't even walk into the kitchen without her running crying after me and grabbing on my legs to be held. I have tried ignoring her and talking to her. I have explained "Mommy isn't leaving" but still there is no change. Sometimes she gets so upset she cannot catch her breath from crying. There have been 2 occassions where she has held her breath to the point of falling backwards:(

I called the Pedi and she explained that it is normal to do this at her age and she will grow out of it. Any advice or hope for me is appreciated. TIA

wychets

Nicb13 said:

DS is a little younger than yours by a few months but he does the same thing. He is very attached to me right now for some reason and needs to be ON me at all times. I figure it's normal for his age and although it can be exhausting, I just try to be there for him. I hold him when he asks or try to distract when I need to get something done but I just end up holding him a lot and letting him be there next to me most of the time.

Might not be the "right" way to handle this but I just try to do what feels right to me.

Thank you. That's basically what I have been doing. But it doesn't seem to be getting "better" its to the point that I am trying to sneak away and that what I don't want to do.

wychets

Nicb13 said:

Maybe someone else will have some words of wisdom for you. This comes and goes with DS and sometimes he flat out refuses to let anyone else near him (including DH for days at a time) so I'm at a loss as well. Fingers crossed that it passes sometime soon.

Yeah I am hoping she will grow out of this sooner than later lol. She refuses to go to her Dad as we:(

meglette417

We are in the same boat and it has affected sleeping as well.  He used to get up every once in a while and whine for 5-10 min then go back to bed.  Now he screams my name for 20 min, depending on the time i will just sleep with him the rest of the night.  My concern is baby #2 is coming in May and this won't work.  Hope he grows out of it I love him but it is exhausting.

smileybabyboy

Uh oh. DS is 14 months and isn't allowing DH to hold him or play with him, even when DH has been at work all day and all he wants to do is play with his son. I feel so awful. I was hoping it will pass but it looks like it's going to continue for another several months.  *sigh*

Jecca07

As with all things, this will pass. DD will be 2 next month. She has never been one to be cuddly, but she has started to be shy around people she knows (not me or DH, but grandparents she sees all the time). She'll usually be shy for about 30 minutes, then totally normal. She really likes to show them something she can do that a baby couldn't do, like color or point out pictures of animals. Sometimes she does become needy, not to the extreme you're describing, but when she does, we are very firm with her. We are the boss, not her. If I need to get up to go to the bathroom or cook dinner, I'm going to do it and she isn't allowed to make a fuss about it. Now, when I do actually leave her, I make sure to tell her "bye bye. I love you!" and then leave. She used to freak out when I left, but since she has realized that Mommy does in fact return every time, she has gotten so much better. Maybe you could only have your DH do her favorite things with her (DD's current favorite things are going outside, bubbles, and baths and DH does most of that with her) for a while so she sees that "hey, mommy is totally cool, but Daddy does all these things with me that I LOVE!" If you're consistent (kind of like sleep training, I guess), she'll get it.

skibunny59

Nicb13 said:

DS is a little younger than yours by a few months but he does the same thing. He is very attached to me right now for some reason and needs to be ON me at all times. I figure it's normal for his age and although it can be exhausting, I just try to be there for him. I hold him when he asks or try to distract when I need to get something done but I just end up holding him a lot and letting him be there next to me most of the time.

Might not be the "right" way to handle this but I just try to do what feels right to me.

I do the exact same thing as you.  I hold her whenever I can and if I can't then I try to distract her with something or have DH distract her.  She wants nothing to do with DH right now and it makes him a little sad.  Honestly, it's seems pretty normal for this age and I just try to enjoy the snuggles.  I know one day I will want to snuggle with her and she won't want to.  

When I need to get chores done, I try to involve her in them when I can.  It takes longer but it keeps her happy.