learning about myself

AugustandAmber

I must confess, while it knew I would miss my baby, I was excited to go back to work. One thing I learned during my 3 months off was that I am not a stay at home mom. I feel like I am a better mom because I can get away for 30 hrs a week and talk with adults, work hard and fill myself with the enjoyment I have for my work. I was struggling with the fact that so many days seemed a repeat of the day before and while my LO was growing and developing, I really didn't see much reciprocated until shortly before I went back to work and feeling like you are talking to yourself day in and day made me feel a little nutty! Any other moms feel the same way?

youtubebeauties

Can't say as I do....yes, its a bit arduous being with an infant all day, but for me, its worth it in the long run.  I get adult interaction by going to the gym, visiting with friends & family, and the like. At the end of the day, I get to watch this little person grow and discover the world around her; I consider myself lucky to share that with her.

Just my .02

BlondieBia21

Michelle N

I am LOVING mat leave. Luckily I have until Aug. 9/14 to think about going to work. also..um, hi?

MommyBolty

Um...no, I love my LO and I wasn't talking to myself, I was talking to my LO. And i hate every single morning that i have to leave her behind.

Go away now.

Leosmom13

No I am quite happy where I am at home with my LO. Nothing brings me more happiness and fulfilment.

lkobriant

Oh Oh I've been waiting to use this one...

PrettyAccountant

MommyBolty said:

Um...no, I love my LO and I wasn't talking to myself, I was talking to my LO. And i hate every single morning that i have to leave her behind.

Go away now.

Seriously - this! I still cry every morning on the bus ride in to work. I want to be a big part of her life and I know I am missing stuff when I go to work.
It sucks.

BellaOso

Meh. I like going to work but I also like staying at home. Luckily I make up my own hours so I get the perfect balance of each. Also my office is about a football field from my house on my property so I can mosey back and forth whenever I darn well please.

It's good to be the queen.

TexasGirl81

(.)(.)

TexasGirl81

lkobriant said:

Oh Oh I've been waiting to use this one...

Lmao! I could look at that all day.

RoosterMemphis

This is not even good MUD.

Buh bye.

Revez

I love that I spend all day everyday with my LO. The day will come too soon when hanging out with mommy becomes embarrassing. I'm taking FULL advantage of every single second I can spend with her.

AugustandAmber

I agree, I get the best of both worlds with only working 3 days a week and spending the rest with LO.

janneann1127

I used to feel this way, when my first was a baby. It's hard staying at home with a baby all day. Once he grew up a little bit, it was a lot more fun… We started having play dates and being able to hang out with other kids. Now that I have two, I think I'd rather go to work sometimes...

AugustandAmber

I used to feel this way, when my first was a baby. It's hard staying at home with a baby all day. Once he grew up a little bit, it was a lot more fun… We started having play dates and being able to hang out with other kids. Now that I have two, I think I'd rather go to work sometimes...

Thank you for understanding! What you responded with is so true for me.

MommyAmes2

Who are you?

MommyAmes2

MommyKristin88

petey1106 said:

I think I have fallen in love with you.

MinnesotaMomma91

@AugustandAmber flag =/= dislike. Flagging for no reason is againat tos and will get you banned. No one you flagged was being abusive.

MinnesotaMomma91

Oh wait i forgot, i feel as though the inappropriate flagging calls for red forman

MommyKristin88

suchgreatheights324 said:

MommyKristin88 said:

petey1106 said:

I think I have fallen in love with you.

Ah hell naw.

Oh sorry!! I'm not a home wrecker. I'm gone...

OntheWater

I'm a serious lurker here,(so hello!) but had to comment on this one! With DD1, I dreaded going back to work. I was afraid of missing something, not being there if she needed me, etc. But I worked hard for my career and while I see benefits to being a SAHM, I also see benefits of being a strong professional working mom. Early in my career, a woman said to me that she had worked too damn hard for her degree and she was going to use it and show her kids they can do the same. As much as I hated to leave her, I remember getting into my office, sitting down and having a moment of complete peace/excitement with being back at work. I don't always 100% enjoy my job, but I like knowing that I have a solid career, that I am (occasionally) good at it, that I am with a group of people that I can interact with on an adult level to giver a challenge I seem to need, and that my daughter will see her mother as a hardworking, yet balanced, woman as her example in life. I liked being back! I definitely had my moments for a couple of months until I got into a groove, but I survived. If i was full time (which, as an attorney, means 60-70 plus hrs a week), i probably wouldn't have survived, but I reduced my hours so I could have a better balance ad e home 2 days during the week, and my office is flexible, so I am there if she needs me. Now with DD 2, I have a lot more confidence to go back at 6 months. And some days, I slightly look forward to getting back into a groove.

MissyCee

Staying at home with a LO is not for everyone....but it's definitely for me. I understand the need for adult conversation and such, but I want to be there to watch my daughter grow and learn and to bond with her. Not all women are able to stay home so I feel so blessed that I can right now and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.

AugustandAmber

Staying at home with a LO is not for everyone....but it's definitely for me. I understand the need for adult conversation and such, but I want to be there to watch my daughter grow and learn and to bond with her. Not all women are able to stay home so I feel so blessed that I can right now and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.

Thank you for voicing your opinion in a respectful way. You are right, staying home is not for everyone nor is it an option for everyone. I love being a mom, watching my son grow and develop and appreciate bonding time. I think my original post was very misunderstood.

RoosterMemphis

AugustandAmber said:

I must confess, while it knew I would miss my baby, I was excited to go back to work. One thing I learned during my 3 months off was that I am not a stay at home mom. I feel like I am a better mom because I can get away for 30 hrs a week and talk with adults, work hard and fill myself with the enjoyment I have for my work. I was struggling with the fact that so many days seemed a repeat of the day before and while my LO was growing and developing, I really didn't see much reciprocated until shortly before I went back to work and feeling like you are talking to yourself day in and day made me feel a little nutty! Any other moms feel the same way?

Listen OP- please don't flag people for no reason. We have no idea who you are, and most of us have been together since we were a bunch of pregnants. So let us know who you are before you slap us with a weird post about how you don't like being home with your kid. Since I don't know you, it's hard for me to give a flying flack.

FWIW- I stay home. I never feel like I'm talking to myself. It helps with their mental development when you talk to them. If it's not for you, then ok.

Edited because grammar can suck it.

kanned0121

I haaaate leaving my baby to work my part time hours. I can get adult interaction with my baby if I need it. And I love days it's just he and I, and I don't have to share him. I wish so badly I could be a sahm!!

RoosterMemphis

BellaOso said:

Meh. I like going to work but I also like staying at home. Luckily I make up my own hours so I get the perfect balance of each. Also my office is about a football field from my house on my property so I can mosey back and forth whenever I darn well please.

It's good to be the queen.

You have a horse ranch right? I soooo want to come visit.

CaliforniaDream87

OntheWater said:

I'm a serious lurker here,(so hello!) but had to comment on this one! With DD1, I dreaded going back to work. I was afraid of missing something, not being there if she needed me, etc. But I worked hard for my career and while I see benefits to being a SAHM, I also see benefits of being a strong professional working mom. Early in my career, a woman said to me that she had worked too damn hard for her degree and she was going to use it and show her kids they can do the same. As much as I hated to leave her, I remember getting into my office, sitting down and having a moment of complete peace/excitement with being back at work. I don't always 100% enjoy my job, but I like knowing that I have a solid career, that I am (occasionally) good at it, that I am with a group of people that I can interact with on an adult level to giver a challenge I seem to need, and that my daughter will see her mother as a hardworking, yet balanced, woman as her example in life. I liked being back! I definitely had my moments for a couple of months until I got into a groove, but I survived. If i was full time (which, as an attorney, means 60-70 plus hrs a week), i probably wouldn't have survived, but I reduced my hours so I could have a better balance ad e home 2 days during the week, and my office is flexible, so I am there if she needs me. Now with DD 2, I have a lot more confidence to go back at 6 months. And some days, I slightly look forward to getting back into a groove.

This is me. I couldn't have said it better myself

@onthewater jump in more. I like you!

AugustandAmber

Nevermind, didn't realize I would be so judged and demonized. You don't know me and I get that talking to your baby helps with their development, which I do all the time. I was just trying to express myself but clearly I was misunderstood. peace out.

RoosterMemphis

AugustandAmber said:

Nevermind, didn't realize I would be so judged and demonized. You don't know me and I get that talking to your baby helps with their development, which I do all the time. I was just trying to express myself but clearly I was misunderstood. peace out.

Bye!

magdalina.h

I was the same way with Lucas. I was so glad to get back to work. Now I struggle on a daily basis leaving them. We're hoping I can quit this coming spring.

magdalina.h

AugustandAmber said:

Staying at home with a LO is not for everyone....but it's definitely for me. I understand the need for adult conversation and such, but I want to be there to watch my daughter grow and learn and to bond with her. Not all women are able to stay home so I feel so blessed that I can right now and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.

Thank you for voicing your opinion in a respectful way. You are right, staying home is not for everyone nor is it an option for everyone. I love being a mom, watching my son grow and develop and appreciate bonding time. I think my original post was very misunderstood.

I didn't misunderstand because I knew EXACTLY what you were talking about. Never in a million years did I think I'd ever want to stay home. My relationship with Lucas is AMAZING because I didn't stay home with him. I didn't have the patience.

MagPie 1986

I get what you're saying and feel the same way to an extent.  I like the adult interaction and it's nice to get away and regroup.  However, a couple hours into my shift I'm dying to get back home.  And being at home talking to a baby and talking to an adult at work are two completely different things.  OP, you would probably like the working moms board.  It's full of moms like you who like their jobs and are unapologetic for doing so   FWIW, I could never be a SAHM.

CaliforniaDream87

I don't think OP needs to go to another board, although everyone has the right to venture out. I think the issue here was a random post from someone who hasn't even intro'd. OP, there are some ladies on this board that love being working moms (myself included-I can't wait to go back next week) and that has ABSOLUTELY no bearing on how I will parent my son. I will be an awesome employee AND an awesome mom. In my world, I can do both.

GL OP.

PB102012

CaliforniaDream87 said:

I don't think OP needs to go to another board, although everyone has the right to venture out. I think the issue here was a random post from someone who hasn't even intro'd. OP, there are some ladies on this board that love being working moms (myself included-I can't wait to go back next week) and that has ABSOLUTELY no bearing on how I will parent my son. I will be an awesome employee AND an awesome mom. In my world, I can do both. GL OP.

I agree with this completely. I am looking forward to going back to work in a little less than 2 weeks. I will miss my LO, but will spend every second that I am not working, with her. 

girlmama83

No. I would do anything to be able to be a stay at home mom.

BellaOso

RoosterMemphis said:

Meh. I like going to work but I also like staying at home. Luckily I make up my own hours so I get the perfect balance of each. Also my office is about a football field from my house on my property so I can mosey back and forth whenever I darn well please.

It's good to be the queen.

You have a horse ranch right? I soooo want to come visit.

I do! We have 70 horses on our property. 21 we own, and the rest are boarded with us. We back up to a CA state park so you can ride for miles around us. It's pretty amazeballs. Sometimes I have a major case of the "tee-hees" when I remind myself that this is what I do for a living and where I live.

If you find yourself in CA for some reason, hit me up! My DD1 has a little, old pony that is great for photo ops and I have super safe, fun, responsive, sweet horses for everyone. (We also have 2 mini horses, 2 clydesdales and 2 pygmy goats.)

I'm a lucky beezy. I get to spend as much time as I want with my girls, my horses, and I get to participate in horse rescues a couple of times a year.

edited to add: @RoosterMemphis

RoosterMemphis

OP absolutely doesn't need to find another board. I got a little too aggressive earlier.

But we want to know who you are OP. You can jump in any time

AugustandAmber

I get what you're saying and feel the same way to an extent.  I like the adult interaction and it's nice to get away and regroup.  However, a couple hours into my shift I'm dying to get back home.  And being at home talking to a baby and talking to an adult at work are two completely different things.  OP, you would probably like the working moms board.  It's full of moms like you who like their jobs and are unapologetic for doing so   FWIW, I could never be a SAHM.

I went to the working moms board and yes....I really like it! thanks!

AugustandAmber

I don't think OP needs to go to another board, although everyone has the right to venture out. I think the issue here was a random post from someone who hasn't even intro'd. OP, there are some ladies on this board that love being working moms (myself included-I can't wait to go back next week) and that has ABSOLUTELY no bearing on how I will parent my son. I will be an awesome employee AND an awesome mom. In my world, I can do both. GL OP.

Thank you! Yes....we can do both and be awesome!