Welcome third trimester!!!

Giraffealaff

So I'm going to chime in here for a second. Remember my post? It's the third from OP. 

Scromlette said:

Glad you are feeling great, hun! I am very happy for you. Glad you are accomplishing things, hopefully it gives you a good amount of time to relax and prepair for LO.

ziggy903 was rude to OP. Honestly, if you didn't mean to be genuinely happy, you should have just closed post and moved along.  I love you guys here, but stuff like this is just as unnecessary and noncontributing as you claim the OP to be. 

Perhaps OP should have put AW in her post, then maybe it be appropriate to post about her excitement. *eyeroll*

TyrannosaurusLexmegash113 or others, but doesn't that mean I bring less value if I posted something like this? 

I'm sorry, I just don't get it. We shouldn't be trying to consistently separate people into regular posters vs. everyone else who has nothing to contribute. You may not see it like that, but over the past few weeks I have seen it like that. It just makes me sad because really you girls are super supportive and lovely and some of the sweeties funniest girls I have gotten to know - but when it comes to new comers or people who do something/say something that is not 100% what you agree with, not so much

ziggy903

Tally06 said:

ziggy903 said:

Tally06 said:

And as we've been saying, it's not what she said- it's how she said it. How about think of other people when you write something? Think about how things might come off to other people and consider their feelings.

I am flabbergasted. Here is her OP:
"So exciting the last trimester is here! Nursery is done, shower is Dec 1st. Yippee feeling great!!! "
Exactly what part of that was insensitive?


1. Some of us are still far away from the third trimester.
2. Doesn't 3T start at 27 weeks? The majority of us are not there.
3. Many of us are still very sick. She would know this if she were an active member of the community.
4. Look- we all struggle with different things. I find it hard to see these things and know I'm still so far away. It's something that some of us have been dealing with for months. That doesn't make me weak or mean that I've got problems(thanks for implying that, you're clearly the nicest person ever who always thinks of others feelings) it means that I'm struggling with something. And by the looks of it, I'm not alone. Again, she would have known this if she were an active member of the community. Anyone with a heart would have known this, it's why we have a sticky about movements so that people who aren't feeling them can skip reading it and help make them feel not as bad about it.

Tally06

megash113 said:

Tally06 said:

Lol at her post making anyone feel crappy. If writing: hurray for third tri, I'm excited for my shower and I'm excited to have my baby's nursery makes someone feel crappy that is their issue not OP's or anyone else's. 

So maybe it's you who needs to "move the fuck on"

Really? "lol at her post making anyone feel crappy"? Wow, that's the most sensitive thing I've heard since cattlebride called premie moms statistics. 

No one said it was her issue that we felt crappy, we were just expressing our reactions to the post. One of the "obnoxious" people has been very open about her struggles in this pregnancy. The other two have been very open about their battles with HG, SPD, and anxiety. So yes, we all have our own issues. 

And we get to comment on things. You get to comment back, and cause drama. That's what makes TB go 'round, apparently. 

I just can't get on board with being unable to post feeling excited about something pregnancy related because others might not be in your same boat or might be struggling with something difficult. One thing is not connected to the other. My comment was mostly in reference to Tlex saying she was insecure about not being in third tri yet.

RondackHiker

megash113 said:

LaurLaurLaur said:

RondackHiker said:

Guys. I still don't have any Halloween candy. The not stuff left is the crappy stuff like whoppers and smarties.

Woppers are awesome. They melt in your mouth. All I have are crappy Three Musketeers.

I'll trade you Whoppers for Three Musketeers. 

I just want a Milky Way.

I also have snickers but I HATE snickers.

ziggy903

@scromlette I did close post and move along. About 4 times. At some point, I had to say something. I struggle with feeling inadequate(so not helped by the fact that I can't grow a normal baby, but that's beside the point) and seeing someone just brag about how their life is awesome and they're so much further along than me and everything is perfect in their world... It hurts.

Giraffealaff

LaurLaurLaur said:

Guys. I still don't have any Halloween candy. The not stuff left is the crappy stuff like whoppers and smarties.

Woppers are awesome. They melt in your mouth. All I have are crappy Three Musketeers.

I'll trade you Whoppers for Three Musketeers. 

I just want a Milky Way. I also have snickers but I HATE snickers.

NOT FAIR. three musketeers are by far, my fav. I'll give you all peanut butter cups for your musks.

Tally06

ziggy903 said:

ziggy903 said:

And as we've been saying, it's not what she said- it's how she said it. How about think of other people when you write something? Think about how things might come off to other people and consider their feelings.

I am flabbergasted. Here is her OP:
"So exciting the last trimester is here! Nursery is done, shower is Dec 1st. Yippee feeling great!!! "
Exactly what part of that was insensitive?

1. Some of us are still far away from the third trimester. 2. Doesn't 3T start at 27 weeks? The majority of us are not there. 3. Many of us are still very sick. She would know this if she were an active member of the community. 4. Look- we all struggle with different things. I find it hard to see these things and know I'm still so far away. It's something that some of us have been dealing with for months. That doesn't make me weak or mean that I've got problems(thanks for implying that, you're clearly the nicest person ever who always thinks of others feelings) it means that I'm struggling with something. And by the looks of it, I'm not alone. Again, she would have known this if she were an active member of the community. Anyone with a heart would have known this, it's why we have a sticky about movements so that people who aren't feeling them can skip reading it and help make them feel not as bad about it.

She has posted close to 100 times on this board. It may not be as much as many people here but that doesn't mean she should be excluded from posting feeling good about third tri.

Lots of posters will be having babies in January and early February while many people here will still have a long way to go. Does this mean no one should post about their baby's arrival? We are all going to get to different stages at different times. I don't understand why that means that the early February people shouldn't post about their experiences because others still have weeks to go.

I also think that we can be sensitive to each other's hardships and struggles and still celebrate things that are positive and exciting to us. Just because OP is excited to enter third tri and writes, "So exciting the last trimester is here! Nursery is done, shower is Dec 1st. Yippee feeling great!!!" doesn't mean that she or anyone who shares this sentiment is insensitive to those having a hard time.

I don't think the OP has to be in any way connected to anyone's struggles

tiggernorton04

That's great! I have 2 weeks til 3rd tri (I think) and tomorrow we start emptying out what will be the nursery!

JordyInIndy

Jesus. Trim your quote trees.

KatM84

LaurLaurLaur said:

RondackHiker said:

Guys. I still don't have any Halloween candy. The not stuff left is the crappy stuff like whoppers and smarties.

Woppers are awesome. They melt in your mouth. All I have are crappy Three Musketeers.

Crappy Three Musketeers?? They're fantastic.

Tally06

TyrannosaurusLex said:

For the THIRD time, I didn't say I was insecure about not being in 3rd tri, I said I was concerned about being alienated from the rest of this board I'm so close with if everyone but me is suddenly in a different tri and throwing themselves a party.

This is so laughably absurd I don't even know what to make of it.

OutOfStep81

RondackHiker said:

Guys. I still don't have any Halloween candy. The not stuff left is the crappy stuff like whoppers and smarties.

Whoa, whoa, WHOA. Smarties are my fav at the moment. Don't you be calling them crappy now... [-X

And yay for those in third tri.

RondackHiker

TyrannosaurusLex said:

JordyInIndy said:

Jesus. Trim your quote trees.

I'll get to it next time I trim my bush.

Don't you mean trim your shrubbery?

Tally06

TyrannosaurusLex said:

TyrannosaurusLex said:

For the THIRD time, I didn't say I was insecure about not being in 3rd tri, I said I was concerned about being alienated from the rest of this board I'm so close with if everyone but me is suddenly in a different tri and throwing themselves a party.

This is so laughably absurd I don't even know what to make of it.

Ok? Then move on? You must be dizzy from all your circles by now. Other people have said the same thing but it's just me you have a vendetta for - did I hurt your butt somewhere in the past? Not sorry.

No vendetta - just calling it as I see it. Also, If I am running in circles, you are right behind me.

ziggy903

RondackHiker said:

TyrannosaurusLex said:

JordyInIndy said:

Jesus. Trim your quote trees.

I'll get to it next time I trim my bush.

Don't you mean trim your shrubbery?

I have never loved you more.

Don't tell DH.

becausemom

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TyrannosaurusLex said:

Jesus. Trim your quote trees.

I'll get to it next time I trim my bush.

Wait-- No shave November doesn't cover the bush? Shit.... ">

orchid8301

@TyrannosaurusLex - "did I hurt your butt somewhere in the past? Not sorry" )

Seriously laughing out loud.

ziggy903

@tyrannosauruslex you hurt my butt in the past. I'm okay with it though.
....wait. Were we not supposed to talk about that?

Tally06

TyrannosaurusLex said:

Well when you keep personally dragging my name into it, yeah, I think you've noticed I'm going to speak up for myself. That said - ready for this one tally?- DH just brought home donuts. I kid you not. I'm gonna go enjoy them.

THIS IS SO INSENSITIVE!!!!! I am feeling alienated from everyone who gets to enjoy donuts!

Heiditylerg

I did farm animals from land of nod.

keags5496

car seat said:

RondackHiker said:

megash113 said:

 

I just want a Milky Way.

I also have snickers but I HATE snickers.

This was my thought exactly. How could you possibly favor milky ways over snickers?!? I'm baffled!

Giraffealaff

@ziggy903 I definitely get that, I know that you are going through a lot, and I know that it must be hard for you to be on the forums and watch others go through what seems like piece of cake pregnancies. I do understand that for you it would have been nice to see the AW and then maybe you would have stayed away from the thread. At the same time, I was a little put off by your initial post, only because normally you're very genuine in your happiness for others, and I don't know there was just something about the way it was posted that really bothered me. 

To touch on the point that @megash113 brought up, maybe it was rude of me to post it the way I did, but I did it lik that because I too felt like I had to say something, but I honestly didn't want to just call anyone out and start a bunch of UD (Unnecessary Drama).

I don't know, I just felt that it should be okay for someone to make a post celebrating a little win, regardless of who they are. I know that for me making it to third tri is huge, especially after a loss. I don't know. I'm sorry if the way I posted seemed rude or insensitive, but really it was the only way to say what I wanted without causing more pain.

Winnieella

When I posted, there were like no posts. Then I come back to this....

Heiditylerg

Wow I am shocked reading the replys to my post from earlier. People are reading into what I posted way to much. Thank you to all the positive women out there. I know were all excited to be moving forward in our pregnancys. Lets keep smiling and enjoy our babes bouncing around in our bellys xoxo

JordyInIndy

Heiditylerg said:

I did farm animals from land of nod.

Wait what??

And @tyrannosauruslex I'm impressed you still trim the bush! I haven't seen my bush in weeks. Idk if I'll get around to trimming it anytime soon!

Giraffealaff

ChiaWombat said:

I did farm animals from land of nod.

Wait what?? And @tyrannosauruslex I'm impressed you still trim the bush! I haven't seen my bush in weeks. Idk if I'll get around to trimming it anytime soon!

Milk through nose. Also, ditto.

Once this is all over with, I'll have so much I could do one of those fancy heart shaped landscapes. 

Codypup

I have 4 things to say here.

1. The OP's post confused me. My internal response was "....okay? That's great? Who are you?"

2. @ziggy903's response made me snort.

3. It seems that people are ignoring Rule #2: No White Knighting. Secret Service needs to step up, pronto.

4. I love the random candy-swapping posts interspersed throughout this thread. Brilliant. 

Carry on. 

Winnieella

I still stand by what I said, when we all are in 3rd tri we do a GIF thread. 

Giraffealaff

Codypup said:

I have 4 things to say here.

1. The OP's post confused me. My internal response was "....okay? That's great? Who are you?"

2. @ziggy903's response made me snort.

3. It seems that people are ignoring Rule #2: No White Knighting. Secret Service needs to step up, pronto.

4. I love the random candy-swapping posts interspersed throughout this thread. Brilliant. 

Carry on. 

Unrelated, but I love when you post because your pup is one of my favorite avatars on TB.

ShePersisted

Winnieella said:

I still stand by what I said, when we all are in 3rd tri we do a GIF thread. 

I like that idea a lot!

jenniejuniper1

@heiditylerg LOL you must have returned to your original post only to find four pages of shenannigans and just sat there with question marks over your head for a minute! It's obvious that you were just having an awesome day and wanted to share. Your post made me smile! 

Ohiomama81

The only thing i got out of this was a reminder of the fact that i dont have my damn hot krispy kremes doughnuts that ive been craving...sigh...i envy you @TyrranosaurusLex

Heiditylerg

Thank you. Wow I meant no harm by my post. Yikes.

littlepig2

I'm just upset that I didn't get any individual packs of sour patch kids to hand out on Halloween. I normally don't like chocolate but LO wanted it for about a week. now I have lots of chocolate and all I want are Gushers and Sour Patch Kids/Cherries

wheathergirl

It's funny, eating Halloween candy and having a difficult time trimming or even seeing my bush to do so, were two major parts of my day. No joke.

In fact I am currently eating mini Milky Ways, snickers and kit kats in bed as we speak. It's lovely.

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VAMomma31

Winnieella said:

When I posted, there were like no posts. Then I come back to this....

Yep. Same. I was like

1ofme4ofthem

Part of me is wondering if this is a real thread or if I am being punked.

Another part of me is saying "I can't believe you read it ALL"

And the part of me I am going to listen to is headed to the kitchen for candy!!

ziggy903

mamajop said:

megash113 said:

mamajop said:

megash113 said:

WildFlower26 said:

I am still confused about when the 3rd trimester starts! I know we have has a bunch of threads about this, but it just got so mathy my eyes glazed over. Point being, I don't even know what trimester I am in!

Ask your OB/MW. It varies from practice to practice. My MW doesn't count it as third tri until the 28th week is over. Others say beginning of 27th week, or end of 27th week. I'm going to say beginning of 27th, just to make myself happier. 

OMG, seriously? So according to your MW I have over a month left. UGH. Someone please calm my PgAL brain!

Yep. 5.5 weeks for me. Which is why I'm saying 3.5 weeks for beginning of week 27. 


((hugs))

Math says its 27w6d. I'll go with that, it seems to be the middle!

rebecca4980

this was the most juvenile discussion ever.  I feel sad that random strangers diss people's excitement just because it doesn't apply to them.  Who cares if you're a regular.  Be kind and move on.  Its not about you.