New job, when to tell?

kristi041

So I just got a new job last week and don't start for a couple of weeks. I did not say anything during the interviews because I didn't want to be discriminated against (I know it is illegal, but let's face it, it happens). Plus it is with the same company (different department and building) so I will have the same maternity benefits. Now I'm sitting here wondering when I should tell... I'm so nervous about it. I just hit 12 weeks so besides family and close friends, nobody knows. A friend of mine thinks I should tell the week that I start, but I was thinking about waiting until live been on the job a few weeks. At the same time I don't want to come off as decitful. What would you do? Sorry so long.

Ladiebug710

I'd wait at least a month.  Give them time to get to know you and your job performance before they know you are pregnant.  Like you said - it shouldn't influence what they think, but let's face it, it happens.

Soupy84

I started a new job when I was in my 8th week. I told my new boss the day I started. Mainly because she asked me point blank if I had any health concerns that may prevent me from fulfilling my duties. I explained that while my pregnancy would not prevent me from doing my job, it would limit the time that I would be in her employ. She was very happy for me and pleased that I was honest and open with her from the start.

I notified HR yesterday as I had a concern for my health in the workplace... needless to say they were not as pleased to hear I was expecting. In fact, they told me that my Dr and I will need to decide if I can continue working in my current environment. Not exactly the response I was expecting to hear.

Ultimately, it is your call. I would recommend speaking to your direct supervisor, but hold off on notifying HR. I am now concerned that they will try to find a reason to not pass me on my 3 month probation, because I raised a concern about the workplace.

meli1025

I don't think it will come across as deceitful if you wait a few weeks before telling.  If you're covered by the same maternity and protected by FMLA, take your time.  Don't feel that you need to rush into telling the.  I'm sure you'll feel more comfortable once you start and everyone gets to know you and your work ethic.  Congrats on the new job!

pjsparkle03

If you just started with the company you will not be protected by FMLA and will likely be excluded from your company's maternity benefits.

Do your research before spilling the beans.

kb2bkk

pjsparkle03 said:

If you just started with the company you will not be protected by FMLA and will likely be excluded from your company's maternity benefits.

Do your research before spilling the beans.

She said her new position is with her current company, therefore she should be covered.  

Also I probably would have told them once the job was offered, and prior to accepting, just so they knew, and everyone had the same expectations.  

pandadair

pjsparkle03 said:

If you just started with the company you will not be protected by FMLA and will likely be excluded from your company's maternity benefits.

Do your research before spilling the beans.

She said in her OP that it's with the same company in a different department, and so will have the same benefits.

kristi041

Yes, same company that I have been with for 10 years, so I'm not worried about FMLA. Thanks for your input ladies!

Princess71989

I don't know your financial situation but I would personally wait til I'm noticeable because I don't want to be at risk of not being able to support my baby because the job found some random excuse to fire me because I'm pregnant

Meaganchisholm

I am in the same situation! I was hired 4 weeks ago but don't start until december 2. I too will be with the same company that I have worked for for years. But now my new boss is 1000 miles away and I have only met him once. When I interviewed I was 5 weeks, but when I start I will be 17. I have so much anxiety about this! I am thinking of calling him at the end of the week just to be honest. This is tough because I want to impress them but I am already showing so I have to come clean now before I fly out there for my first day. Ugh.. So much anxiety!

Elena7725

Same situation here and lots of anxiety about it. I accepted the job in June, got pregnant in August, but job didn't start until last week (when I was 12 wks). It's an upscale school district, much of the staff knows me and my work ethic, but I feel like my pregnancy will be looked down on.

I have decided to work 4 weeks or so before sharing my news. The other psychologist knows and he's very happy for me. I thought it was best to show my skills, form some relationships, etc., before telling them that I'll need time off in may!

Keep in mind: it's YOUR news. Great news. You don't owe anyone anything. This is life.

bumpuser260585

I'm in the same situation, new position at the same company.  I started my job this week and I'm going to tell my boss by the end of next week.  I interviewed for the position the week I found out I was pregnant, but I didn't want to jeopardize my chances for this promotion.