My cousins loss

aabems

I came to your board for a quick question. so sorry for intruding but my cousin recently had a loss. I'm not sure of the appropriate term but this was during her birth. I am 4 months it's been 2 months since her loss. She told me to tell her when I was in her area so she can give me her baby girls things. I am too hurt that she lost sweet baby ayva Yasmine. I wouldn't feel right accepting her things this soon after. I'm looking for advice on how to be sensitive I'm not sure what to tell her ?

shandorfml2

hmm, that's a hard one. You have time, so I'd wait. 2 months she still is on "autopilot" and might not be thinking clearly. You want to make sure she really wants to give you the clothes. I'd wait another month or two before bringing it up. Continue to check in on her and see how she is doing. A lot of friends/family seem to drop off the face of the earth after 2 months.

Noethola

Some people feel closure by giving things to a living baby. I gave away some of our things a week later, because I just wanted a baby to use them. 

However, I would really check in with her and ask how she was doing, if she wanted you to have them or if she just felt like she needed to. I would take the lead from her. Also, let her know she can have them back at anytime.