Ugh! Apologizing to MIL...

mrs.sewell

You know what really sucks? Having to put on your big girl panties and apologize for cussing your MIL out.
I uninvited her to Hayden's first birthday party because she keeps going behind my husbands back to his ex wife to have visitation with his kids when it's supposed to be my husbands visitation time. He was all on board for cutting her off.
I haven't spoken to her since July. But now my husband is like "Hayden needs family. I sure wish my mom was around..."
So I volunteered to apologize to her but its probably the hardest thing I have ever had to do.
Hayden's brothers missed his birthday party because she took them on the weekend we were supposed to swap so they could attend. Technically this is his ex-wife's doing, but his mother knows that it's happening and she does it anyway.
She says "well, I hate it for you, but I take what I can get..."

Apologizing to this woman may kill me.

StokedWifey

It's probably going to be hard, but I'm glad you're willing to do it for YH and Hayden.  I hope it goes smoothly from here on out.

lewispm

Way to take the high road! Good luck and I understand how hard that must be, so props to you for doing that for YH!

JAck5209

Ugh, that sounds painful. At least you know you're being the bigger person and doing the right thing for your H and child. I hope it gets better from here on out!

mrs.sewell

Manda+Chase said:

I don't see why it's your responsibility to apologize to her when you and your husband were in agreement in the first place, but I admire your willingness to apologize even when I don't think it's warranted.

I think that's why it's so hard. He was like "do it! Tell her off!" And now he's changed his tune. And I don't feel like I was wrong. I may have handled it incorrectly by flipping out and telling her to eff off, but the fact remains the same: she knowingly did things that caused my husband to lose visitation.

I love my husband and never want to speak ill of him so I won't dwell on his role in this too much.

I want things to be good for Hayden. And I don't want drama. But OMG this is a hard pill to swallow.

I texted her that I wanted to call to apologize to her.

She hasn't responded.

That was 6 hours ago.