Push Gift

Vcurrado

I hate the term push present!
As most people have said, I don't believe that because you birthed a child means your entitled to a gift, a healthy baby really is the best gift you can recieve.
However, with that being said, my daughters and I made a small gift to give to my DH on delivery day. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and now pregnant with twins with my husband after years of infertility. They are my DH first children and our first together and will be our last. He has no idea about the gift and I am certainly not expecting anything in return and thought the gift was a great reminder of how we are joining and expanding our family.
Gifts that are unexpected are the best kind!
They mean so much more IMO

thenorris3

I'm a lurker but couldn't resist this post.  I've had friends who are very demanding when it comes to a push present.  DH asked me if I wanted one when we had DS1, I said no.  For baby number 3 my push present is staying in the hospital.  I"m so excited to stay two whole nights where people check on me and bring me food and I don't have to clean up. DH will be staying with DS1and DS2 at home so it will be like a big vaca for me and baby girl!  CAN NOT WAIT!!  

gwenneh

brea311 said:

Enjoy feeling high and mighty that you dont secretly desire anything - not even a massage - and let me know how you feel after that baby comes when you are sleep deprived and even more emotional and breastfeeding hurts and your husband is in no pain and doesnt have 4-6 more weeks recovery time.

I *have* had a baby before, so I do have a pretty good idea I'll feel after this one is born.

It doesn't make the idea of expecting a "push present" any less abhorrent and grabby to me.

ranaverde

brea311 said:

For my first baby I was not expecting a gift and said the baby is gift enough.  She was/is, but I still think it would be nice if I had some sort of momento/gift from my husband.  Yes, without him we wouldnt have this child - but I did go through some excrutiating pain and emotion for 9 months and he did not.  If my push gift was a massage immediately after delivery - that would have been awesome!  Let me tell you I am not looking forward to that pain either.  

This time around I do expect to get something - I dont know what it would be, and it doesnt have to be expensive, but like  @keljackson an acknowledgement would be nice whatever it is.  My husband is wonderful and I do not anticipate a fight or hurt feelings if he isnt thinking along the same lines (we have not even talked about a push gift) but we also are done after this....

Enjoy feeling high and mighty that you dont secretly desire anything - not even a massage - and let me know how you feel after that baby comes when you are sleep deprived and even more emotional and breastfeeding hurts and your husband is in no pain and doesnt have 4-6 more weeks recovery time.

Oh, for feck's sake.  My husband supports me because he loves me, and this baby, not because some Hallmark ad told him that he needs to buy me some trinket.

I could care less about jewelry, or meals, or whatever.  He provides a roof over my head, emotional support, a sense of humor, a companion for good times and bad, physical affection, and a ton of other things just by being a decent human who loves me and takes responsibility for being a grown-up!  And if he ever gets sick, or needs surgery - as has already happened - then it's on me to step up and do the same for him.

It's called being married, honey, and if you require a physical object to feel that your husband properly appreciates your contributions, I feel incredibly sorry for you.

amberrrjade

ranaverde said:

brea311 said:

For my first baby I was not expecting a gift and said the baby is gift enough.  She was/is, but I still think it would be nice if I had some sort of momento/gift from my husband.  Yes, without him we wouldnt have this child - but I did go through some excrutiating pain and emotion for 9 months and he did not.  If my push gift was a massage immediately after delivery - that would have been awesome!  Let me tell you I am not looking forward to that pain either.  

This time around I do expect to get something - I dont know what it would be, and it doesnt have to be expensive, but like  @keljackson an acknowledgement would be nice whatever it is.  My husband is wonderful and I do not anticipate a fight or hurt feelings if he isnt thinking along the same lines (we have not even talked about a push gift) but we also are done after this....

Enjoy feeling high and mighty that you dont secretly desire anything - not even a massage - and let me know how you feel after that baby comes when you are sleep deprived and even more emotional and breastfeeding hurts and your husband is in no pain and doesnt have 4-6 more weeks recovery time.

Oh, for feck's sake.  My husband supports me because he loves me, and this baby, not because some Hallmark ad told him that he needs to buy me some trinket.

I could care less about jewelry, or meals, or whatever.  He provides a roof over my head, emotional support, a sense of humor, a companion for good times and bad, physical affection, and a ton of other things just by being a decent human who loves me and takes responsibility for being a grown-up!  And if he ever gets sick, or needs surgery - as has already happened - then it's on me to step up and do the same for him.

It's called being married, honey, and if you require a physical object to feel that your husband properly appreciates your contributions, I feel incredibly sorry for you.

A-fucking-men! *Most Logical* right there!

And seriously can this thread die already? Obviously the BLADs are better than you because we don't expect our husbands to buy cheesy gifts. We just want good gifs, raw fish, and alcohol. THE END!