Mother in law ...over load!

Samcallx09

I love my mother in law dearly! We had her help us the first 3 days of our newborns life. Which was great... Well he's 12 days old now and she has been over every day!!! Cleaning everything which don't get me wrong it's nice... But all the time. She won't sit. Goes thru all my baby stuff and ask do you need this? Get rid of it! Then I have our baby's hospital pictures hidden in our baby's room.. We were gonna give out tonight at dinner.., which she will be at... Come into baby's room and boom folders out! What the hell!!! enough is enough! Then we have a box we got in the mail opened package we looked thru .. Just sitting on the table for us to return she opens our darn box! Seriously!? Any privacy at all!!!!! Ugh not to mention she babies my husband like
My baby! And always walks in while I'm pumping! Privacy please! Phew I think I'm done !

VVT3111

dangggggggg! that's def no privacy and i see where what you're talking about and my mother in law is the same way but i dont really have a problem with it, because i've never really had a good mom material around and i'm pretty close to my mother in law..shoot she was in the delivery room with me lmao. but i def see it. you're dh should have a talk with her.

michaelaelaine01

You are kidding, right?! That is crazy annoying. Can you talk to your husband about all of this? Coming over every single day is no bueno. You need your own time to bond, even if that means a messier than normal house! Perhaps he can talk to her. Or if you're comfortable with it, have a chat with her yourself. Personally, I always prefer my husband to do the confronting of his mom when she gets out of control. Only a few times have I done the confronting myself, and later I learn that "I threatened her" or "treated her badly." Whatever. 

And now because misery loves company: my MIL is "so excited" about her first grandbaby that our first night home, she stayed with us and I awoke up to her standing in our bedroom staring down at the baby in her PnP while she slept. Creepy. Two weeks later, we were visiting my MIL and slept in a spare bedroom. Again, I awoke to her standing in our room staring down at my daughter. WHY? This time, I pretended to stay asleep and watched her. She proceeded to WAKE UP the baby by touching her. When my baby started to fuss, I "woke up" and my MIL quickly scoops up my LO and says "oh she must want her diaper changed. I'll do it!." This was weird and annoying. More annoying because not more than 40 minutes later, I had just laid her back down after an early AM nursing session. She needed to sleep! And I betcha that diaper was clean. GRR.

Why are MILs nuts? Are we destined to be this way too? Hope not!

MoofyKitten

I feel you with the no privacy for pumping or BFing or w/e. Seriously, when I was in the hospital and still trying to get the hang of BFing, my fiance's ENTIRE family came to visit all at once (as in like mom, dad, sister, niece, aunt, uncle, cousin, second cousin, etc) and they didn't leave when I announced aloud that the baby was hungry. So I ended up having to find a way to cover myself while they continued conversing amongst themselves. By the end of their visit, I stopped caring and was like "hey, baby's hungry, i'm getting my boob out, too bad if it's awkward." apparently they didn't think it was because they still stayed.

Samcallx09

Thank you everyone! glad to hear I'm not alone and not sounding mean. The hubby thinks I'm to hard on her. He is a ma'am's boy!