FFFC

LaurelBee

@mbenit4 what changed between sex now and sex then?

CurlyQ284

I guess I have one. I don't know how to interact with guys. My brother and I aren't twins but were in the same grade so all the boys growing up were his friends. No dating in high school, small school and big brother and they were all his friends again. I met my first boyfriend online then I met DH online when I was 19. I still don't have guy friends. And I'm 29 now.

If we split up, I don't know how to flirt. I don't know...like anything. I would be in a constant state of panic and probably just be alone forever. I should probably be nicer to DH then lol.

shadypines

@aforst sounds like it!! lol Little rascals!!

 

LaurelBee

I need my switch flipped bc Os are hard to come by for me. I have to really want one. And lately I just don't care. Maybe it's BFing related? Maybe I'm just broken. @mbenit4

LoveActually4

Wrong thread!

ncgirlgoingtori

LaurelBee said:

I need my switch flipped bc Os are hard to come by for me. I have to really want one. And lately I just don't care. Maybe it's BFing related? Maybe I'm just broken. @mbenit4

I feel the same way.  I hope that things will change when I stop BFing. 

Libby1978

mbenit4 said:

Libby1978 said:

Some days I feel like I'm totally ignored on TB.  I also think this matters to me way too much.

This is me too. I would like a happy medium. I am either ignored or under attack.

I always "see" you @Libby1978 we're homegirls and all.

Thanks!  Louisiana gurls unite! @mbenit4

acaudill75

mbenit4 said:

I don't fake orgasms, like ever. I never learned this.

mbenit4 said:

LaurelBee said:

@mbenit4 what changed between sex now and sex then?

I have no idea. I think hormones or something. For me, sex has gotten way better as I have gotten older. I can orgasm much easier, quicker. I discovered vaginal orgasms. I only had clitoral ones when I was younger. Now, I am hooked. They are much better and stronger orgasms.

My coworker told me this would happen and I didn't believe her. It was literally like someone flipped a switch or connected a wire. @LaurelBee

 

QFT.

Libby1978

LaurelBee said:

Libby1978 said:

Some days I feel like I'm totally ignored on TB.  I also think this matters to me way too much.

No, everyone loves you @libby1978. Don't feel like that for 1 second

Thanks! @LaurelBee

I don't feel unloved, everyone is usually very nice.  I just feel like a lot that I have to say goes unnoticed.

:x

acaudill75

CurlyQ284 said:

I guess I have one. I don't know how to interact with guys. My brother and I aren't twins but were in the same grade so all the boys growing up were his friends. No dating in high school, small school and big brother and they were all his friends again. I met my first boyfriend online then I met DH online when I was 19. I still don't have guy friends. And I'm 29 now. If we split up, I don't know how to flirt. I don't know...like anything. I would be in a constant state of panic and probably just be alone forever. I should probably be nicer to DH then lol.

This is the problem with doing too much online. You never learn the social cues and mannerisms essential for interpersonal relationships if every interaction is through a keyboard. Totally not a dig at @CurlyQ284 FTR.

It leaves us a huge group of people who are essentially children when it comes to socializing.

Libby1978

HilarityEnsued said:

Libby1978 said:

Some days I feel like I'm totally ignored on TB.  I also think this matters to me way too much.

I always see people say this.  I never even consider this in my own case but I usually just assume I'm making some really awesome contributions to all the threads and people are so bowled over that they are nodding to themselves behind their screens but can't formulate a response.

But seriously... I read your posts!

You are probably 100% right.  @HilarityEnsued

shadypines

Libby1978 said:

LaurelBee said:

Libby1978 said:

Some days I feel like I'm totally ignored on TB.  I also think this matters to me way too much.

No, everyone loves you @libby1978. Don't feel like that for 1 second

Thanks! @LaurelBee

I don't feel unloved, everyone is usually very nice.  I just feel like a lot that I have to say goes unnoticed.

:x

@Libby1978 xoxoxoxo

:P ">

Libby1978

LuckyDad said:

Libby1978 said:

Some days I feel like I'm totally ignored on TB.  I also think this matters to me way too much.

Says the woman whose post about her daughter got a zillion love tits yesterday

Well, that's true.  Thanks for the love tits y'all.  I'm a proud mommy. (I'm sure you've all noticed that)

SpaceGirlSpiff

I never get in early on threads like this, or the UO because West coast... but I'll post it anyway because I actually have one!

Yesterday my H was going to go meet with his band members to do some recording of their songs, and wanted to go straight there after work ... he enlisted his Mom to pick DS from daycare, because  I was supposed to go to school right after work.

I did drive to school... but was already like 10 minutes late before even turning into the parking garage to attempt to find parking, because I was stuck on the phone at work and didnt leave at a good time.

So..then I decided at the last minute, eff this noise, turned the car around and played hooky from school, even though I really shouldn't have since it's not really the easiest subject and it's probably good for me to attend lectures.... but OH WELL.

Further... I left DS with his grandparents rather than going to get him right away, went to Target and then had dinner by myself in peace and basically just hung out until the time I would have gone to get him had I attended class.

No one but me is aware of this...as far as H and them are concerned I went to class.

shadypines

This is a UO

But I can't wait till next Thurs..

I love pulp in my OJ!!

Libby1978

@Manneek1977

:x

xoxoxoxoxoxo

CurlyQ284

acaudill75 said:

CurlyQ284 said:

I guess I have one. I dont know how to interact with guys. My brother and I aren't twins but were in the same grade so all the boys growing up were his friends. No dating in high school, small school and big brother and they were all his friends again. I met my first boyfriend online then I met DH online when I was 19. I still don't have guy friends. And I'm 29 now. If we split up, I don't know how to flirt. I don't know...like anything. I would be in a constant state of panic and probably just be alone forever. I should probably be nicer to DH then lol.

This is the problem with doing too much online. You never learn the social cues and mannerisms essential for interpersonal relationships if every interaction is through a keyboard. Totally not a dig at @CurlyQ284 FTR.

It leaves us a huge group of people who are essentially children when it comes to socializing.

I think its a side effect of having a brother who is a big dude, very friendly and in my grade but...I guess you can read whatever you want into it.

The ex boyfriend I met online was a friend of a guy IRL that I had class with. Apparently class guy was trying to get into my pants for a semester but I was playing hard to get. Huh? I must have missed that.

I have female friends and I can socialize with women but guys are a mystery to me.

nixieknox3

one of the kids i babysit for was just picked up and 20 mins after she left, i realized that her mom didn't pay me.  DH is going to be pissed!

i hate talking about money.

Libby1978

nixieknox3 said:

one of the kids i babysit for was just picked up and 20 mins after she left, i realized that her mom didn't pay me.  DH is going to be pissed!

i hate talking about money.

I hate talking about money too.  Can you text the mom as a reminder to pay-up on Monday?

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theimpossibleastronaut

DH and I have a day off from our main jobs today. I had a doctors appointment and came home to DD napping. DH is teaching a class this afternoon. I should really be doing something productive, but I just want to lie here and post. Wrong of me?

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I'm so sorry @Jack19.

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My FFFC is I was the one who posted on TBPS about PPD/PPA and being suicidal. There. I said it.

And @kiraliz2 is the bees knees and I love her.

missyishere

I hope you are okay @bettyandco.  I'm really sorry.  Please don't be afraid to talk any time.  Please reach out any time.  ILY

LuckyDad

CurlyQ284 said:

I guess I have one. I don't know how to interact with guys. My brother and I aren't twins but were in the same grade so all the boys growing up were his friends. No dating in high school, small school and big brother and they were all his friends again. I met my first boyfriend online then I met DH online when I was 19. I still don't have guy friends. And I'm 29 now. If we split up, I don't know how to flirt. I don't know...like anything. I would be in a constant state of panic and probably just be alone forever. I should probably be nicer to DH then lol.

Men are not *that* complicated.

Most of us like sports and/or video games. Reach a certain age and a lot of us really like food and booze too. Music, movies... y'know, usual things people make small talk over.

CurlyQ284

LuckyDad said:

CurlyQ284 said:

I guess I have one. I don't know how to interact with guys. My brother and I aren't twins but were in the same grade so all the boys growing up were his friends. No dating in high school, small school and big brother and they were all his friends again. I met my first boyfriend online then I met DH online when I was 19. I still don't have guy friends. And I'm 29 now.

If we split up, I don't know how to flirt. I don't know...like anything. I would be in a constant state of panic and probably just be alone forever. I should probably be nicer to DH then lol.

Men are not *that* complicated.

Most of us like sports and/or video games. Reach a certain age and a lot of us really like food and booze too. Music, movies... y'know, usual things people make small talk over.

Maybe you guys just scare me then. Lol

LuckyDad

BettyandCo said:

My FFFC is I was the one who posted on TBPS about PPD/PPA and being suicidal. There. I said it. And @kiraliz2 is the bees knees and I love her.

I'm sorry you are struggling with PPD/PPA. There is no shame to having difficulty and the occasional dark thought. I know you have friends here and I am glad you felt comfortable opening up. And you're right that @kiraliz2 is pretty rad.

nixieknox3

@libby1978  i think i will have DH help me write a text.  i am pretty inarticulate at the best of times, and when i am nervous i sound like an even bigger idiot.

theimpossibleastronaut

@bettyandco

I don't have pdd/ppa but have been dealing with anxiety since I was a teen. It's a very isolating thing at times, but I wanted to encourage you to seek out help. Find whatever works for you, be it meds or therapy or whatever.

I've been seeing a cognitive behavioral therapist for a while now, and it has really helped. I just wanted you to know you're not alone and wish you the best.

LuckyDad

CurlyQ284 said:

Maybe you guys just scare me then. Lol

Men in general, or the men around here?

Trust me, the guys around here are not very scary.

nixieknox3

i am starting to experience vertigo and numbness and tingling in my extremities again.  this happens around this time of year every year.  i have gone for numerous neurological tests and it all comes up negative.  i really don't want to have another EMG so i will probably hide the fact that this is going on.

CurlyQ284

jack19 said:

I guess I have one. I don't know how to interact with guys. My brother and I aren't twins but were in the same grade so all the boys growing up were his friends. No dating in high school, small school and big brother and they were all his friends again. I met my first boyfriend online then I met DH online when I was 19. I still don't have guy friends. And I'm 29 now.

If we split up, I don't know how to flirt. I don't know...like anything. I would be in a constant state of panic and probably just be alone forever. I should probably be nicer to DH then lol.

Men are not *that* complicated.

Most of us like sports and/or video games. Reach a certain age and a lot of us really like food and booze too. Music, movies... y'know, usual things people make small talk over.

BJs are a great icebreaker

I kid, I kid

OK so if I'm ever single again BJs for everyone!

Please don't let me get divorced.

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Libby1978

@BettyandCo

(((Hugs)))  Sorry you are dealing with that shit!  Vent any time.  Hope you feel better very soon!

LuckyDad

kiraliz2 said:

@LuckyDad you are terrifying.

You is 'fraid of me?

CurlyQ284

LuckyDad said:

CurlyQ284 said:

Maybe you guys just scare me then. Lol

Men in general, or the men around here?

Trust me, the guys around here are not very scary.

No you are online people. Not scary. Guys in real life in my age group, I am soooo awkward.

theimpossibleastronaut

Mom2Oli said:

some of you are nuts. I drink so my house looks cleaner to me, not so I can clean.

This made me lol.

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Thanks everyone. I saw pms but can't respond right now (on mobile and it's the suck). I will respond tonight.

I think I will call 911. Thanks again.

acaudill75

Mom2Oli said:

some of you are nuts. I drink so my house looks cleaner to me, not so I can clean.

This is me!

theimpossibleastronaut

@bettyandco I hope you get the help you need. Thinking of you.