How long to wait after D&C ?

Frenchteachermama

It's been a long journey since I found out my pregnancy was not a viable one. I took misoprostol on 8/19 and after 4 weeks the doctor discovered that I have been holding onto some remaining tissue. Have my d&c later today. How long did your doctor tell you to wait before trying to conceive again? We moved right before I found out I was pregnant and am not thrilled with this doctor so far. He said to wait a couple of cycles but I have friends who were told they could try after their first period....I'm very anxious to start trying again!! Advice?

mdarmetko

We got pregnant again after my first period.  I did not ovulate between my D&C and my first period, but I've hear of women getting pregnant again then too.

SMH79

Our doctor, who we adore, said to wait one full cycle before trying again. Unfortunately, we experienced a second blighted ovum but that had nothing to do with not waiting longer. I've heard anywhere from one to three cycles being recommended.

MaybeBabyMama

::DD Mentioned::

We were told 2 months. Honestly, I will probably need it to heal emotionally so we do plan to wait it out, I also want to be referred to an RE in the meantime. And I don't want to stress about AF coming. So the longer wait feels comfortable to us.

I will share that I became pregnant with my DD after my third consecutive miscarriage and had a healthy, happy, full-term pregnancy with her. 

SamanthaLaura16

My Dr (who we love) told us 3 months. She wants to make sure everything is back to normal and all levels are good to go before we start trying again. She wants me to go through a normal cycle. I have my post op on the 10th and I am hoping to talk to her more about it then.

Skor1nic

I know what your going through, I was holding tissue also and had to have the D&C also. My doctor said not to have sex for two weeks after the procedure or use tampons. And I could try again after my first cycle. 

JsRib

Just had my D&C last night. Doc said no sex for 2-4 weeks and said we can try whenever.

mer313131

My doctor said there is absolutely no evidence that proves it is better to wait a certain amount of time after a D&C. However, I was instructed to have no sex for the next two weeks until my follow up.

Kristy774

My doctor told me 2 months and I plan on not listening. I'm going to follow instructions and not have sex for 2 weeks after the D&C but after that, if it happens it happens. I'm sure as hell not preventing it from happening. Everything I read and research says there is no medical reason to wait so I'm not waiting.

mdarmetko

My midwife said there is really not a reason to wait and that some doctors will recommend 2-3 cycles not only for dating purposes, but also because that is just an arbitrary standard  from med school that doesn't have a safety reasoning behind it.

mdarmetko

I had a D&C when she told me this.

MrsCodeMonkey

I was told to wait for one normal period.

LizBlue

I advocate listening to your doctor, and questioning your doctor so that you make sure you understand his/her reasoning.  That being said, my doctor said it's simply not true that your lining builds up any differently after a d&c vs. a natural miscarriage.  He also said that the wait 2-3 cycle is dogma that is followed without any medical back up and that the common view on that is now changing.  For me, my doctor told me there was no reason to wait to start TTC, but that was after the two week abstaining period obviously (for infection reasons).

I don't recommend googling medical opinions, I don't recommend listening to what an internet forum says, I don't recommend repeating what an internet forum says a fact, I recommend asking your doctor and questioning why if you are suspect of his/her answers.

(sorry if this is a double post, for some reason my posts have been doing that)

mdarmetko

I also advocate listening to your Dr.  I'm just telling you my story.  I had a D&C and was intimate with my husband either the next day or the day after that.  Even though we weren't actively TTC, we weren't trying not to.  I did not ovulate between my D&C and AF (which came 5 weeks later), but got pregnant when I ovulated after that AF.  It implanted just fine, my uterus was fine, just not fetus grew.  I just went to my midwife today and asked when we could start having sex again and she said as soon as I feel ready.  I'll be listening to her instructions .

Jkerr924

I was also told to wait 3 cycles by my regular obgyn... but 2 by my fertility specialist after MC and having to deliver my boy... then d&c for the debris. I have follow ups with both of them next week and will ask why the difference in opinions and why the waiting time and let you know what they say too. Everyone is different of course. I too have been reading what everyone has said about their own situations and feel like it just depends on the doctor... and of course your situation. 

Kristy774

@Jkerr942 let me know! I'm very curious. I get my D&C tomorrow and I'm going to ask again.

Jkerr924

@Kristy774 I hope that you are feeling okay!! 

Kristy774

@Jkerr924 I'm feeling ok, I'm up at 4:30 because I slept so much yesterday. It ended up being a D&E with guided sono because I was 9 weeks 6 days. I keep wanting to investigate exactly what I did that day, but I'm trying not to....was I unnessciarily stressing over something dumb that day or over extending myself? I know that will not make a difference so I'm trying not too.

I just want to say to you again, I am so very sorry for your loss. That must have been so very difficult for you and your husband.

And to those of you who jumped on my case and had a flippant comment for me when I had found out the day before that my baby had just died, and I had posted on here that I was going to try again immediately, first off, it had been day one, so your comments did nothing but cause more anger and hurt, so thanks for THAT. And for those of you that genuinely cared, I did get more clarification yesterday and I was told by my doctor I can start trying after one AF as long as my HCG levels are back down to normal. Two AF's seem so long, it took us 9 to conceive so I'm ready to get this started.

Frenchteachermama

I was told the same thing two days ago by my doctor. He called to see how I was feeling and that my HGC levels were down to 7 (on Monday). I too was so shocked by some of those comments I thought it might have been some hackers to the site...I've seen on other posts that there have been some outsiders 'trolling' on our message boards. I am 100% in the same boat...I found out on 8/9 that this wasn't a viable pregnancy and I am so anxious to try again and have a healthy pregnancy. My doc originally said to wait 3 cycles and I almost had a heart attack....I am sorry for all of our losses and I'm sorry that some people reacted that way to you.

Kristy774

I didn't have the energy to respond at first, I mean, hindsight, should I listen to my dr? Of course, and I will listen because I don't want this to happen again but I was just losing my head that day. I know alot of boards and be snakry but this board just isn't the place for that. If someone has a concern, over someone posting something they don't agree with being snarky is equal to being a jerk on this board, its not the place for that crap. You can give someone advice without coming off like a bitch. Now I'm SMH. I'm over it now but felt the need to address it once I got my self partially back together.

2 or 3 periods seems like an eternity especially if it took you a while to conceive. My husband travels a lot for work so its difficult for us. I'm glad your levels are down to 7! You can start trying again soon! I can't wait to get tested 28 days can't come fast enough! Hoping to see all of you lovely ladies on the PGAL board soon.

Frenchteachermama

I hear you!! My husband is a doctor and his schedule is impossible!! I'm still a ways out from trying again, I originally took misoprostol on 8/19 but it didnt work entirely so I had d&c last week. Still going to be a while until I get my period since the d&c took me back to square 1 in the waiting game...baby dust to you and everyone here!!!

mdarmetko

Glad you are back on track to TTC soon.  For a timeline to keep in mind, I had a D&C on 6/7 and a BFP on 8/12 (obviously have m/c since then). So for me, it was 9 1/2 weeks until I knew I was pregnant again.  I hope its that quick this time too!  Best of luck to you and your DH on getting pregnant again SOON!

Kristy774

I think saying "that's smart" SMH and "GL with that" were comments that could have been worded differently if they were truly meant out of concern. There were lots of women that commented that told me to listen to me doctor without being nasty. I am not by far coming out with "guns blazing" considering I waited until I felt better to even respond, however, being in this situation, if people are truly trying to help and not make someone feel bad, maybe a softer approach would be more appropriate to a woman that just found out her baby died at 10 weeks when she thought she was 12. I have said it before, I'll say it again, I was writing out of pure emotional distress and of course I'm going to listen to my doctor, I was ready to lose my mind when I wrote I was planning on not listening.

Telling someone "that's smart SMH" and "GL with that" are not kind things to say and nothing anyone says is going to change my mind, it was rude and uncalled for on this type of board, nor did it help me at all. @ ninthgirl if you reread this thread you will see the 2 comments I am referring to and it wasn't the women that were kind and helpful but thanks for your comments.

Kristy774

@ ktlovess thank you for your apology. I do plan on listening to my doctor, I was a complete mess that day and am still in the process of putting myself back together.

LizBlue

I agree with you Kristy774.  I don't think some of the posts on this thread were kind and I'm scratching my head as to how they were looking out for you.  I'm also a bit miffed at those who preach listening to your doctor but still somehow imply they know best about repeat losses or repeat things as scientific fact (like how long it takes your lining to build up).   

My point was and is to talk to your doctor more because how long you should wait to try and conceive is actually a matter of debate right now in the the infertility medical world (according to my doctors).  I'm learning how to ask more questions of my docs and advocating my positions a little better through my miscarriage/infertility journey.  I question more, but I wouldn't reject their advice out of hand either.  There is no dogma in this world of loss and infertility--new things are being discovered all the time.

But I did forget to say to you that I'm sorry that you find yourself here and I'm sorry for your loss.  And that I hope you're feeling a little bit better.  

LizBlue

@ktlovess- I totally don't think you are a troll.  I've seen you support many many women here and in TTCAL.  I felt bad for OP with the snarkiness from others, but also realized I hadn't offered any kind words of my own, hence my post.  We've got no beef.

LizBlue

Also, I should be less passive aggressive with my point that you quoted--I'm becoming irked by the many knee jerk "you should always wait XX amount of cycles" that gets thrown about these boards as fact.  I don't believe this is a fact but I don't believe one should ignore their doctors.  And now I've gone on for entirely too long in a post that is not even my own.  As usual.  Stopping now- promise.

MrsRusty14

One of the reasons my Dr recommend waiting longer is to heal emotionaly. Now that we have experienced a loss, we will react differently and my Dr wants to make sure I am ready. Yes, it feels like it is going to be forever and I want my baby now, but I still have bad mental days. Mental health is important too! Ask your Dr, maybe your body is ready but maybe they want to allow you time to grieve and process everything.