Worrywart

rrrowe15

Can I just say I don't have a lot if time to go on these boards. With an 18 mos old and 22 third graders alway on my mind plus pure exhaustion by the time LO goes to bed! These boards are crazy! You ladies crack my shit up.

Now on topic. I had no symptoms with my first and no problems until the third trimester. (I know poor me, right?). Now I am 6 weeks along and a college friend who was PG at the same time just miscarried. I am freaking out about miscarriage this time. We told people early both times but now I am panicked that the u/s will not show a heartbeat. Any other Mommas freaking out? I didn't think this way the first time at all. Just looking for support and stories from other Mommas!

talkthewholetime

I'm a first timer  and I'm super worried about miscarriage. I also just had a friend who miscarried around 8 weeks. I feel like being on the boards sometimes makes it worse for me- I tend to over analyze everything. I'm just taking everything day by day, looking forward to going to the doctor Tuesday and then hopefully an ultrasound in 3 weeks.

starskristen79

I am freaking out, too. I have been so lucky with both TTC and easy pregnancies (so far).

Unfortunately, my best friend has had 3 miscarriages (last one this spring), and I carry that with me after being so involved and crying with her. I know it seems silly, but I just wonder if I could have lightening strike twice. I guess I just wonder if I could be so lucky to have my second pregnancy be as easy as my first. She is 16 weeks pregnant now, and I am 9 weeks behind her!

rrrowe15

The first time I don't remember miscarriage stories. Now it is all I hear. From people, on TV, on boards, they are everywhere. Poor women, I don't know how they do it.

MunchkinMoon

I've been trying not to worry, but it's so difficult! I brought a laundry list of questions to my doctor to ask, including risks of miscarriages and so forth. He then asked me very nicely to stop going on the internet, as most of his patients worried themselves sick by overanalyzing and applying every symptom and none-symptom to themselves.

And yet, here I am.

CopperPoppy

I think reading the boards can sometimes make it seem like there is a higher risk of m/c. I've also been cautious to get excited or invest a lot of emotional energy just yet. This website sorta has helped me keep things in perspective. https://spacefem.com/pregnant/mc.php?m=08&d=10&y=12 Someone else posted it a couple days ago. It really helps me focus on the one day at a time. Hang in there!

jpbling

Same here - my first we told EVERYONE as soon as I got a positive test. The past year, my 2 best friends both had a miscarriage (6 weeks & 8 weeks). They both got pregnant again about 5 months later and are into their second trimesters now with no issue. But basically, ever since I got my BFP this time around I am just terrified of a miscarriage, seeing what they went through. I know there is nothing you can do about it, and worrying doesn't help, but my mind doesn't stop. I just can't wait to be out of the first trimester, I think it will give me a bit more peace of mind.

Arinias

I can definitely relate. My best friend recently had a miscarriage, and I have been terrified I will have one since. She is actually pregnant again now, right after her m/c and we are due a day apart which is pretty amazing! But I have had some spotting and am on progesterone supplements because my levels were low, and I am sure everything is fine. But I am terrified of getting to my first ultrasound and having no HB and I am also terrified of my BFF going through another m/c. I try to take it one day at a time and I have found it comforting to look at the above mentioned chart, I have kept it open on my compy since someone posted it just to peek at it everyday.

rrrowe15

I love that chart!

JoelleOK

I think 2 things.
1) women are starting to be more honest about miscarriage issues. That used to be a dark secret. Even in real life people are less likely to talk about it than they are on the Internet where they can't see the pitying looks.
2) pregnancy tests are so accurate now that we get to know about the very early stages of life. Our moms would have just had a late Aunt Flow. They didn't have automatic alarms and apps to chart things. This makes it seem more common than it used to be. We know earlier but that opens our hearts to sadness.

3) Knowing somebody who has had tragedy makes the "chance" of it happening to us feel more real. Perhaps looking into the stages of grief may be helpful.

Hope everybody has a healthy 9 months!

LMH1977

Thank you for that chart!! I too am freaking out here and it was really helpful!